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223. Begin Again: Your reset starts today · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Urine Yourself Podcast. I'm your host, my Lee Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and what
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  Speaker 1: that means is I am here to ensure that you
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  Speaker 1: are spending time with you managing your thoughts. See the
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  Speaker 1: thing about it is your thoughts become things, and those
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  Speaker 1: things start with the words that you speak. Those words
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  Speaker 1: then become the action and the activity that you take
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  Speaker 1: in your life. And if you're listening to this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: I know that you want to be the best version
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  Speaker 1: of yourself. Well, it's gonna start with your thoughts and
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  Speaker 1: everything else will follow. So that's what we do here
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  Speaker 1: on this podcast. If you are a new listener and
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  Speaker 1: this is your first time, I want to welcome you
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  Speaker 1: and thank you for being here. I know that you
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  Speaker 1: were brought here on purpose for a purpose. And if
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  Speaker 1: and showing up for yourself and also sharing the podcast
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  Speaker 1: of you, we have been podcasting for now over four
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  Speaker 1: years and over two hundred and twenty episodes. I am
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  Speaker 1: absolutely grateful and from the bottom of my heart. I
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  Speaker 1: want to thank you now if you know. You know
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  Speaker 1: one of the things that I do each and every
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  Speaker 1: week is I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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  Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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  Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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  Speaker 1: your morning. And this week's affirmation is I release the
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  Speaker 1: pressure of perfection. I pick up one piece at a time,
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  Speaker 1: and that is enough. I release the pressure of perfection.
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  Speaker 1: I pick up one piece at a time, and that
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  Speaker 1: is enough. I release the pressure of perfection. I pick
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  Speaker 1: up one piece at a time, and that is enough. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episodeisode of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. You know, oftentimes when I make or
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  Speaker 1: create an episode, I have a person in mind, somebody
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  Speaker 1: i've talked to, a conversation i've had, and sometimes the
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  Speaker 1: conversations are conversations that I've had with myself. And this
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  Speaker 1: episode is that episode for me. It's my opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: be transparent and vulnerable about just some things I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to get done this year. You know, I've had very
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  Speaker 1: successful years, and I've had very successful months, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to downplay what I have been able to
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  Speaker 1: accomplish this year, but there's certainly some things that haven't
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  Speaker 1: done that home run and gotten me from point A
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  Speaker 1: to point Z or whatever point I want to get to.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what this episode is all about. And so
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  Speaker 1: if you're like me, this episode is our opportunity, your
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  Speaker 1: opportunity as well to do some reflective journaling. So this
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  Speaker 1: is gonna be kind of a reflective journaling session. It's
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  Speaker 1: a guided reset, so to speak. And the goal is
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  Speaker 1: to help you and myself because again this is inspired
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  Speaker 1: by me, to stop beating yourself up, stop beating yourself
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  Speaker 1: up for what didn't happen, and begin again begin to
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  Speaker 1: shift your focus on what still can happen, going away
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  Speaker 1: from what didn't and what couldn't and what all of
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  Speaker 1: those things should would have could have to what still
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  Speaker 1: can and what will happen if we just add a
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  Speaker 1: little bit of focus. I know the year is about
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  Speaker 1: to end, and I think that's why this episode came
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  Speaker 1: up in my spirit, like any time before this. Although
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  Speaker 1: we're having these conversations and we're going into the second
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  Speaker 1: week of the month of December and we are finishing
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  Speaker 1: the week first week of the month, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: you to think about this as a new week activity.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to know that this is the perfect time,
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  Speaker 1: and the time is now. I don't want you to
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  Speaker 1: get caught up and waiting for a perfect first day
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  Speaker 1: or a perfect opportunity. Even if you write down one
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  Speaker 1: journal entry today, you would have done your work because
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  Speaker 1: I want you to start thinking about this, but then
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  Speaker 1: put it on paper. You know, there's a scripture on
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  Speaker 1: a Bible that says write it down and make it plain,
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  Speaker 1: and that's what I want you to do. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to write it down and make it plain. As
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned, I want this podcast to be a journaling session,
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  Speaker 1: a reflective journaling session, and these are your reset questions.
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  Speaker 1: So if you need to stop what you're doing, I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna talk really really slow, and I'm gonna ask you
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  Speaker 1: to go get a pen and paper or your journal,
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  Speaker 1: or perhaps you like to write it in your phone
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  Speaker 1: under notes, so maybe you're gonna do this digitally some
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  Speaker 1: kind of way. I like to write this type of
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  Speaker 1: stuff down. There's something about your energy that you're pouring
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  Speaker 1: into it when you're using your your own your own
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  Speaker 1: handwriting and reading it back. So journaling does have a
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  Speaker 1: lot of great power, and I would like for you
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  Speaker 1: to unleash that. But if you can do this from
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  Speaker 1: your computer or your phone, hopefully I'm talking flow enough
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  Speaker 1: for you. I think it's important to get this done
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  Speaker 1: and capture these journaling prompts, and I will add these
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  Speaker 1: to the show notes. For those of you who are
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  Speaker 1: on the move and on the go. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to have these questions ready to go, get journaled, and
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  Speaker 1: get your journaling session in. The first question I have
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  Speaker 1: for you is, and this is a really good question,
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  Speaker 1: what have I been hard on myself about this year?
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  Speaker 1: I want you to write that out. That's a very
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  Speaker 1: important question, and we'll talk a little bit more about
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  Speaker 1: how we reset from there. I'm not going to give
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  Speaker 1: you that answer because that is your experience of things
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  Speaker 1: you've been hard on. Okay, here's another great journaling prompt.
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  Speaker 1: What part of my story am I ignoring because I'm disappointed? Man?
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  Speaker 1: That's a good one. I'll repeat it. What part of
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  Speaker 1: my story am I ignoring because I'm disappointed? And it
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  Speaker 1: kind of goes back to the previous episode. There are
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  Speaker 1: things in your story, yes, your storied life that may
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  Speaker 1: not have played itself out as beautifully as you have
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  Speaker 1: wanted in this year, but there are moments on your
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  Speaker 1: timeline that you've neglected because the whole story hasn't played out.
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  Speaker 1: You've ignored those moments because you're disappointed in the big picture.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to refocus back on those moments in
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  Speaker 1: your story. I like this one because I'll be honest
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  Speaker 1: with you when, especially when you are a multi faceted
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  Speaker 1: individual and you have all these different areas in your
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  Speaker 1: life that you play in, there comes a point that
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  Speaker 1: when it's time to reset, you just don't know where
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  Speaker 1: to reset. You don't know what to pick up first.
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  Speaker 1: And so this question I like it because it helps
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  Speaker 1: you create a prompt to get drilled into that. The
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  Speaker 1: question is, what is the one piece of my life
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  Speaker 1: I want to pick back up first? What is the
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  Speaker 1: one piece of my life I want to pick up?
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  Speaker 1: Let me repeat, what is the one piece of my
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  Speaker 1: life I want to pick back up first? I'll repeat,
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  Speaker 1: what is the one piece of my life I want
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  Speaker 1: to pick back up first. It's a really good one
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  Speaker 1: because it gets you right to it. I like this
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  Speaker 1: next prompt because you are a full being. Nothing about
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  Speaker 1: you is partial and there are many sides to who
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  Speaker 1: you are. And so that's why I like this question.
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  Speaker 1: What do I need emotionally, mentally, or spiritually to begin again?
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes it's all of them. You need this in
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  Speaker 1: the emotional space, you need this in your mental space,
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  Speaker 1: and you need this in your spiritual space. Maybe you
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  Speaker 1: don't have a spiritual connection to God. Maybe you're not
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  Speaker 1: praying as you should be because that's how you keep
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  Speaker 1: your connection to God. Or maybe you aren't managing your emotions.
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  Speaker 1: For me, managing my emotions mean getting active, moving. Am
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  Speaker 1: I moving as I should be as I need to
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  Speaker 1: be to help regulate my emotions. I mean, you hear
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  Speaker 1: it all the time when people say, after this great
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  Speaker 1: run I've had, I feel amazing. Right, your endorphins have
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  Speaker 1: been increased, it's been raised, and so you're able to
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  Speaker 1: manage those emotions. So there are things that you may
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  Speaker 1: need to do to help you begin again, because it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't make sense to try to start something when they're
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  Speaker 1: parts of you that aren't really operating at full capacity.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what this journaling prompt question is intended to
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  Speaker 1: help you do. And this is the last one. Think
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  Speaker 1: this might be six of them. This one I like
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  Speaker 1: it because I think we've all been caught up in
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  Speaker 1: this web. It's the web of distractions. This question reads
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  Speaker 1: what distractions pulled me off course? And how can I
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  Speaker 1: navigate them better? What distractions pulled me off course? And
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  Speaker 1: how can I navigate them better? Again, I really like
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  Speaker 1: that question because there's always something. It might be the
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  Speaker 1: people you're around, it might be the things that you're
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  Speaker 1: exposed to. It might be the time you're spending at
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  Speaker 1: one certain thing that's not allowing you to regulate and
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  Speaker 1: manage your time towards the thing that matters most. And
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  Speaker 1: so understanding what those distractions are and how you navigate them,
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  Speaker 1: because we don't want to navigate them the way we
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  Speaker 1: did this last season. We want to navigate them better.
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  Speaker 1: So I really really like that question a whole lot.
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  Speaker 1: So again, I really want you to go forward from
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  Speaker 1: this episode with a now attitude, not a perfect timing
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  Speaker 1: attitude or let's wait till next week attitude. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to start telling the truth about where you are now.
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  Speaker 1: These journal prompts are gonna help you tell the truth
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  Speaker 1: about you and your story. The truth is pun intended.
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  Speaker 1: You can't pick up the pieces if you don't know
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  Speaker 1: which peace to pick up and you can't start managing
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  Speaker 1: your truth if you're not honest with yourself. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: encouraging you to manage this exercise in journaling. Ultimately, keep
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  Speaker 1: this simple. If you look at these journaling questions or
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  Speaker 1: if you listen to them and it feels overwhelming in
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  Speaker 1: that space, because again, you've been in the cycle of overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 1: If I know who this episode is for, even thinking
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  Speaker 1: about it brings overwhelm to you. So what I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to encourage you to do, and this is something I
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  Speaker 1: did on my health and fitness journey. I started with
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  Speaker 1: one thing. And I've mentioned this a thousand times probably
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  Speaker 1: in the four years of podcasting, but I recall starting
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  Speaker 1: with five jumping jacks when I started my health journey
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  Speaker 1: again for the thousandth time. I'm sure we've all been
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  Speaker 1: on and off the bandwagon. I haven't gotten off since,
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  Speaker 1: and that's because that time I started with one thing,
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  Speaker 1: I mastered it. I got really good at jumping jacks.
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  Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, I like doing jumping jacks.
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  Speaker 1: It's one of my favorite things to do, and it's
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  Speaker 1: a full body workout. Anyway, all of that to say,
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  Speaker 1: identify one thing you can pick up. I decided to
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  Speaker 1: jump into jumping jacks and keep it simple and do five.
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  Speaker 1: And when that was my goal, and I was able
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  Speaker 1: to obviously do more than five. By day three, I
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  Speaker 1: was doing maybe fifty or one hundred. But starting off
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  Speaker 1: with the five, it just gave my brain and my
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  Speaker 1: physical an opportunity to align. Because what we do a
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  Speaker 1: lot of times to think, oh, jumping jacks, been doing
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  Speaker 1: them since I was a kid. I can knock out fifty.
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  Speaker 1: You've not been doing anything for a long time. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you could probably knock out fifty, but you're gonna be winded,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna be tired, and when you think about doing
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  Speaker 1: it the next day, you're not gonna want to do it.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I chose to do five. I literally did
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  Speaker 1: five jacks and I left. I went back about my day,
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  Speaker 1: and in your brain, there's this thing that shows that
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  Speaker 1: you made a commitment to yourself, you kept the commitment,
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  Speaker 1: and you successfully completed it and it's all done. That
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  Speaker 1: gives room for you to go back the next day
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  Speaker 1: and do it. And so that's what I want you
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  Speaker 1: to do in this space is to pick up the
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  Speaker 1: one thing, the one journaling prompt that you can target
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  Speaker 1: write it down, highlight it, get excited about it, be
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  Speaker 1: real about it, tell the truth about it before you
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  Speaker 1: move on to the next one. It may be overwhelming
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  Speaker 1: to try to do all of these in one day.
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  Speaker 1: And the last thing I will say to you about
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  Speaker 1: this exercise is to rebuild with compassion, not criticism. Shame
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  Speaker 1: is a terrible, terrible, terrible feeling, and it adds no
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  Speaker 1: value to your life. As a matter of fact, shame
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  Speaker 1: will slow down your progress. Think about the many things
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  Speaker 1: that you've been ashamed of. Maybe you again made a
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  Speaker 1: commitment with yourself that you would start going to the gym,
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  Speaker 1: and you stopped for whatever reason. You weren't getting up
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  Speaker 1: the time you said you were, you didn't go after work.
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  Speaker 1: That said, when you said you would, all of those
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  Speaker 1: commitments to self you did not commit to and as
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  Speaker 1: a result, you now are walking around with shame. You're
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  Speaker 1: a shamed because maybe you shared with your community, your friends,
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  Speaker 1: your social media followers that you would start this journey
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  Speaker 1: and oh my gosh, you didn't. Whoa whoa whoa Not
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  Speaker 1: a big deal. Not a big deal. Your shame in
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  Speaker 1: that is only going to prevent you from starting your
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  Speaker 1: journey again. So shame has no value, and I want
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  Speaker 1: you to put it completely to the side, because it's
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  Speaker 1: going to derail your progress. It's actually gonna in some
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  Speaker 1: cases not just pause it, but it's going to slow
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  Speaker 1: it down and eventually just stop it all together. So
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  Speaker 1: what I want you to do is lead with compassion,
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  Speaker 1: have self compassion. Self compassion accelerates it. You know what,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't go yesterday. I'll be honest, I didn't go
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  Speaker 1: to the gym today. I don't feel ashamed about it.
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  Speaker 1: I apparently needed the rest. That's what I gave myself
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  Speaker 1: a self compassion. I said, well, your body probably needed
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  Speaker 1: the rest. You were going to bed a lot later
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  Speaker 1: than you had you know, planned on the day's previous,
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  Speaker 1: and it caught up to you. Now tomorrow, I'm excited
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  Speaker 1: to go to the gym. There's no shame here and
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  Speaker 1: and so that's what I want you to do. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to lead with compassion and not criticism or shame. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: the pieces of your life, the things that you're aspiring for,
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  Speaker 1: they're not going to fit together with pressure. They're going
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  Speaker 1: to fit together with patience. So I encourage you to
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  Speaker 1: do this exercise to spend time with you to find
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  Speaker 1: out what you need. And again, you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: wait for the perfect moment the next week or even
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  Speaker 1: the next year. You can pick up the pieces today.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited for you and I look forward to everything
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  Speaker 1: you're going to do to live out your dream, and
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  Speaker 1: it starts with doing one thing. I hope you enjoyed
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