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Hypnosis to Cope with Loud Noises and Attention Seeking Children · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you'll be listening to a hypnosis session for a
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  client that was feeling stressed and irritated and frustrated
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  from things like noises or mess that their young children were
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  making. And they didn't really want to
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  feel this way. They wanted to feel very
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  patient, calm and loving. So you can hear certain
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  techniques, metaphors, suggestions in this hypnosis
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  session to feel that they are more empowered and to work with
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  their children to reward them with attention rather than
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  rewarding them with attention when they throw a tantrum with
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  something more beneficial for everyone, like being creative or
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  kind or sharing or other things. There's a few things going on
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  here, but really it deals with perspective, focus, and this
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  feeling of empowerment. Because when most people get
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  frustrated, it comes from a place of not really knowing what
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  to do and feeling there's an element of choice can actually
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  dial down that frustration a lot.
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  It was created for a client that was a mother of two young
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  children, and therefore some of the phrasing links to that.
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  So if you're not a parent, if you don't have young children,
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  maybe this isn't the right hypnosis for you to listen to,
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  but equally, if you are triggered by loud noises, again,
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  you might get some value from this particular session.
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  Obviously it was created for an individual client, so if you
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  would feel that maybe a bespoke session could be more beneficial
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  for you, click the link in the show notes where you can
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  schedule that free consultation call to explore working with me
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  directly. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, just imagine breathing in a wonderful feeling
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  of calm, patience and wonderful relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, allow yourself to release any feelings
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  of pent up frustration or tension.
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  Feel it. Leave your body in that outward
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  breath. So as you breathe in, breathe in
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  more of that relaxation and exhale more of any tension, any
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  stress, anything that's been triggering or bothering you.
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  Just feel it leaving your body, so much so that breath by
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  breath, feel yourself drifting deeper into a wonderful feeling
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  of relaxation. On the next deep breath in.
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  Hold it for a moment, feel your lungs full of that relaxation,
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  and then release it, exhaling slowly, allowing any tension to
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  feel like it's melting away, just leaving your body in that
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  outward breath. With each breath, you feel
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  yourself becoming more and more relaxed, like you're sinking
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  into a wonderful place that some people call hypnosis and other
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  people call empowered relaxation.
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  Feel. You're right, it's getting
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  heavier and heavier that any muscle tension around your
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  shoulders and your neck just starts to unwind and relax, fill
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  your mind, becoming calm and still.
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  Perhaps you can imagine a pond that originally was filled with
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  movement and ripples, but now see the pond still and
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  completely calm. And as you focus on my voice,
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  just allow any outside sounds or distractions feel like they're
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  fading into the background. I want you to get a sense that
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  where focus goes, energy flows. It's impossible to focus on
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  every sensation, every sound. There's too much information.
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  What is an annoying sound to one person is invisible to someone
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  else. And I want you to get a sense
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  that at an important time in your life, you had to dial your
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  attention into a particular frequency, like a radio station.
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  You could feel that that time has passed now and therefore
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  feel that your mind is dialing back into a different frequency.
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  Perhaps before parenthood, you had the balance just right.
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  You could hear a loud noise and it wouldn't bother you at all.
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  Feel like you're tuning back in to that frequency?
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  I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine that
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  pond in a beautiful garden. The sun is warm, breeze gentle,
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  and everything around you feels peaceful and calm.
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  And every step you take into this garden brings you deeper
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  into relaxation. Maybe you can imagine soft grass
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  beneath your feet, maybe the sounds of nature like birds
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  singing, leaves rustling. But these sounds soothe you.
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  Let yourself settle into this tranquil place, a place where
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  your mind and body can reason, reset and rest completely.
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  Perhaps you can imagine some kind of garden furniture, like a
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  hammock, one of those benches with soft cushions, or even a
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  lounger, and just imagine yourself relaxing in that garden
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  under the sunshine. And as you relax even deeper, I
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  want you to bring to mind the image of your children.
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  Picture their smiles, their laughter.
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  Create an image of them where you feel that love and that
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  connection. Feel that you're amplifying that
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  sense of love and gratitude. Even a single moment is enough
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  to remind you at your very core how you really feel.
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  I want you to get a sense then this is the true feeling, and
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  how you feel as a result of mass or tantrums isn't truly how you
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  feel about your children. That's how you feel about a
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  situation, and sometimes that situation may just be a game
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  they're playing as they deeply crave your attention.
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  I want you to get a sense that 20 years from now there will be
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  adults, probably no longer living in a family home.
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  Moments of even squabbles will feel like echoes of a bygone
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  time. So give yourself permission to
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  feel grateful for all of it. The smiles and the tears, the
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  magical moments and the tantrums.
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  It's all baked into this cake called motherhood.
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  And the moment you accept the highs and the lows, you're able
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  to realize you can play this game differently to how you have
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  been playing the game. That you can be proactive rather
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  than reactive. You can teach them how to find
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  wonderful ways of getting attention, rather than reward
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  them for doing the very things that in the past you found
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  frustrating. From this moment forward, you
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  will find it easier and easier and more natural to value the
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  time you spend with your children, unlocking a strong
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  desire to give them your positive attention.
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  Not as a reaction to tantrums or nagging or mass, but because you
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  want to. And maybe ideas will come to you
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  immediately or in a moment of epiphany, but you'll discover
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  creative ways to reward their kindness, their imagination, and
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  their playfulness. And when they figure out the
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  kindness and creativity, smiles, laughter, and play give them a
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  better quality of attention than the mess and the nagging.
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  Don't be surprised if they do those other things more and the
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  more frustrating things less. And maybe you could imagine
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  yourself, in the days that follow, responding to their
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  positive behaviour with warmth and joy.
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  And maybe that's through storytelling, playful games, or
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  simply holding them close and sharing a laugh.
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  And maybe you'll notice how rewarding this is for them and
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  how it strengthens your bond. Don't expect it to be easy when
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  challenges arise. What if it's an opportunity for
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  you to be like a tall tree in a storm, being strong even when
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  there is chaos around? Imagine feeling calm and
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  composed no matter to the situation.
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  Imagine yourself grounded and patient, as though there is a
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  peaceful, infinite well of energy within you.
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  And what if loud noises, tantrums, or chaos no longer
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  irritate or trigger you? Instead, you'll frame these
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  moments as temporary and insignificant.
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  And whether these sounds come from your children or from a
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  neighbour, just imagine that from now on, loud or disruptive
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  noises will feel just like background sounds on a radio
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  station you've tuned out of. And maybe you can acknowledge
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  they exist, but fear the sense of release as you find that they
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  no longer bother you. You are in control of what you
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  focus on, and you choose peace and calmness.
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  Treat it like a game. Noises, sounds, mess.
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  The harder they try and trigger you, the less triggered you
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  become. As any noises fade into the
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  background. You'll notice your patience
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  growing as you respond calmly, thoughtfully, and with the love.
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  Or perhaps just perspective. And sometimes the ideal
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  perspective is that all of this is temporary.
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  Tantrums are temporary. Noises are temporary.
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  Your children will only be the exact age they are now.
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  Tomorrow they will be older, and in five years time they will be
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  five years older. All of these are just fleeting
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  moments. I want you to get a sense that
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  given that it's all temporary, what if you can find that place
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  where you enjoy the good times and feel resilient in the
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  frustrating times, but nothing will steal that love, that
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  connection and that bond from this point onwards.
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  Previously triggering noises and now just harmless waves flowing
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  around you without touching you. It feels like there's a force
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  field around you. These previously triggering
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  sound just bounce off, they pass quickly and you remain calm and
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  steady as you are now free to focus on what truly matters.
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  Those moments that bring joy, connection and love.
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  And you'll find yourself filled with new ideas for awarding your
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  children's positive behaviours, giving them attention for their
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  kindness, for sharing, for their creativity and play.
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  Each time you do this, you're teaching them valuable lessons
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  that there are better ways to get your attention and they'll
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  learn that quickly. It's a win for them and it's a
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  win for you. I want you to imagine going
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  forward in time and celebrating your youngest child's 18th
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  birthday party. Your child has become an adult
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  and think back to two different versions of you.
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  A version of you that was frustrated, triggered,
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  flustered, or a version of you that was calm, patient and
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  loving. And when you know how you would
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  have wanted. Your role in that childhood to
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  be, you know, by nodding your head.
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  And sometimes parents find their children becoming adults wishing
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  they did things different. I want you to feel like you're
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  intentional with how you want things to be and then go back to
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  the present and realize you are unlocking all of the resources
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  to make that intention real. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and now, and shortly I count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken feeling
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  resourceful, patient, with a feeling of creativity and
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  perspective, feeling a desire to make this game winnable for you.
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  Starting to count 123. Waking up 456.
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  More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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