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Hypnosis for Self Love and Strong Boundaries · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  based around the themes of self-care.
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  Self. Love and self trust and I was
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  working with a client where two key things had happened which
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  had really knocked their ability to trust themself. 1 was a
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  decision that they made, which in hindsight, to me looked like
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  establishing a boundary where other people were asking and
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  asking and asking with this element of expectation or
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  entitlement rather than genuine appreciation.
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  And their response was eventually to say no.
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  And that would have been if for many people just considered
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  assertive behavior. But the way in which they said
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  it, it felt that it caused chaos and it damaged certain
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  relationships. So they were dealing with the
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  aftermath of being punished for having a boundary for deciding
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  what they were and were not willing to do.
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  But also they experienced quite a damaging injury that affected
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  their ability to walk and run and those kind of things.
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  So in this particular hypnosis session, it starts off using a,
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  an induction in a place in Tasmania.
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  I think it's the the Bay of Fire.
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  And that was because this particular client had had a
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  recent experience being there with a real feeling of self
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  reflection and self connection. So it made sense to harness
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  that. Plus it was a fresh memory for
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  them. So it's a good ability to have
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  one level of disassociation from their current situation.
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  They wanted to have more confidence in their ability to
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  kind of not question their ability to walk, particularly on
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  uneven circumstances. So there is a metaphor of a
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  mountain goat, particularly on these rocks.
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  The sunset becomes the deepener. The sunrise becomes a way of
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  looking at new opportunities and and new possibilities for them.
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  There's a couple of metaphors here that link to this idea of
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  boundaries and self love and that in all honesty, if you're
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  always putting other people in front of your own needs, at some
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  level, that's going to lead to a feeling of depletion that you've
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  got nothing else to give. And that's why self love is not
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  selfish because the more that you have within yourself, the
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  more you're able to give other people.
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  So there's a few things going on in this session.
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  It does use a lot of metaphors and it does use a lot of very
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  kind of, let's say, broad themes rather than specific
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  suggestions. So I think anyone that is a bit
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  of a people pleaser, a bit of a giver, your nature is to be
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  empathetic and a giver. You might be on the receiving
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  end of people exploiting that and taking advantage of that, in
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  which case I think you'll get some value from this particular
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  session. At the same time, please be
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  aware that this session was created for an individual.
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  So some of the things that they did for self-care and
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  rejuvenation like swimming in the sea, ice baths and chanting
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  might not be your things. For you, it might be treating
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  yourself to a nice meal or going for a massage or something else
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  that you like to do. So as always, treat it like a
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  buffet. Like take the things that are
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  relevant for you, leave behind anything that are irrelevant
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  and, and just kind of utilize what's beneficial.
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  And this is how I tend to deal with a lot of, I read a lot of
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  personal development books, but I'm not reading every single
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  page thinking I have to apply that, apply that, apply that.
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  I'm being very selective and discerning.
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  And if there is one principle or insight that is helpful for me,
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  I'll take it. And if it isn't, I'll leave it
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  behind. And I encourage you to do the
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  same thing from a hypnotic perspective that you don't have
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  to accept every suggestion. Allow your unconscious to
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  utilize what's beneficial and disregard those which aren't
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  beneficial. And if you do like the idea of a
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  bespoke session created for you and your individual
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  circumstances, there will be a link in the show notes where you
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  can schedule that free consultation call to explore
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  working with me. Because then the entire session
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  is for you. In which case it could be 100%
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  relevant for you rather than maybe sixty 7080% relevant for
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  you. And if that appeals, then click
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  the link in the show notes. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, just breathe in that slow, long, relaxing
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  breath. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful sense of relaxation as tension leaves your body in that
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  outward breath, breathing in that relaxation through your
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  nose and exhaling tension through your nose, each breath
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  enabling you to feel deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the even deeper you can breathe
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  as you allow your lungs to do the breathing for you.
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  No need to force inward or outward.
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  Feel that the breathing is happening all by itself,
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  enabling you to feel deeper and more relaxed.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  I want to use the power of your imagination and imagine yourself
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  discovering the incredible scenery of the Bay of Fires in
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  Tasmania. Imagine seeing the rugged
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  landscape, the unique colours and shades of the rock
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  formations and maybe you can see the varieties of trees and
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  plants around the Bay. I want you to get a sense that
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  you feel peaceful here in the Bay.
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  You feel a deep feeling of connection with yourself, and
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  maybe you can hear gentle waves lapping against the rocks, or
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  maybe a breeze through the plants or the grass.
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  But each sound, each breath helps you to feel even more
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  grounded than the last, more present and more at ease.
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  As you imagine exploring the Bay, imagine seeing the unique
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  colour of the rocks by the shore.
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  Maybe there's a vibrant orange connected to the rocks that
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  comes from the unique plants and animals that attach to the
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  rocks. I want you to imagine as you
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  place 1 foot on one of those rocks, that your foot is
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  adapting to the shape of the rock.
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  If the rock is flat, you put more weight on your heel.
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  If it's slanted, notice how your centre of gravity changes to
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  either move forwards or backwards as necessary, as you
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  start to feel that you can trust your body's ability to adapt to
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  the environment. I want you to get a sense that
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  here in the Bay, it's afternoon, and I want you to get a sense
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  that you can see a rock elevated above all the other rocks.
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  It's calling you. It represents a challenge, but
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  it also represents new perspectives.
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  What if you get to see your life from a different vantage point
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  When you're high up? I want you to get a sense.
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  A combination of rocks and sand and other surfaces give you a
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  pathway up to that high rock and as you begin to move across the
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  rocks carefully but with full self assurance, just imagine you
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  feel a certain as a wild mountain goat, each step upwards
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  sure and purposeful, with your feet instinctively adjusting to
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  the surfaces and slopes beneath you.
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  Every step gives more information for your brain and
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  your body to make the next step even more certain.
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  Doubt is replaced with certainty as your body learns that it can
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  trust your body's strength, mobility.
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  Before long, you feel that you can effortlessly rise up, rock
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  after rock, higher and higher, and notice how confident you
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  feel in your movements when you trust your body to adapt.
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  Step by step you climb higher, with the bays stretching out
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  beneath you. Sound of the waves grows softer
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  as you ascend, replaced by whispers of the wind because you
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  are climbing towards a vantage point.
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  And with every step, you feel lighter, freer, and stronger, as
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  though you're leaving behind any feelings of being stuck,
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  trapped, or blocked because that version of you wouldn't even be
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  in this location. The version of you that is
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  making this progress is not the old you, but an evolved you, A
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  combination of you at your best but also you at your wisest.
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  This perfect balance of wisdom, but also trust, energy and
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  strength. I want you to imagine how good
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  it feels to reach the top of the highest rock overlooking the
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  Bay. Maybe feel like a lion in the
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  wilderness, feeling that everything you see belongs to
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  you. From this vantage point, you can
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  see the sun beginning its descent towards the horizon.
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  Did you start to imagine the colours of the sky have shifted
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  from blue to breathtaking golden yellows, fiery oranges and soft
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  purples blending together like a living painting?
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  And this fantastic light and colours reflect off the water,
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  creating shimmering patterns that dance and sparkle like a
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  gift just for you. And as the sunsets feel yourself
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  sinking even deeper into this peaceful, relaxed state, you
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  still feel warm even as the sunsets.
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  And with every moment the sun dips lower, you feel a growing
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  sense of clarity and calm. I'll countdown from 5:00 to 1:00
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  with each descending number as the sunsets feel that you are
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  going deeper and deeper to that place where powerful change
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  happens naturally. 5:00 The sun is getting closer to the
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  horizon, and you feel deeply connected to the earth beneath
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  you. 4 The light softens, and you feel your breath becoming
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  even steadier. 3 The colours deepen, and you feel any
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  lingering tension dissolving. 2 Feel that the Bay is bathed in
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  twilight and you feel a deep stillness within you.
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  And then one the sunsets completely, leaving behind a
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  soft glow that fills your heart with warmth and peace.
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  You feel safe on this high rock. Maybe start to see stars and the
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  moon in the sky. Perhaps even imagine chanting a
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  phrase or a rhythm that takes you even deeper into a unique
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  connection with yourself. As you breathe in and out under
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  the night sky in the Bay of Fires, a new image begins to
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  form in your mind. A beautiful rose, vibrant and
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  full of life. It's petals are soft and rich
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  with colour. And maybe the petals represent a
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  kind hearted nature, a sense of generosity.
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  But this? Rose is not vulnerable.
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  It has strong, sharp thorns, thorns that protect it from a
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  harm. Imagine being the Rose and feel
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  that these thorns represent your boundaries, your ability to say
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  no when you need to, and the strength to stand firm when
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  others might take advantage of your kindness.
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  And you understand that the thorns are not there to keep
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  people out, but to protect the Rose so it can continue to
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  bloom. You realise that by saying no
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  when needed, by having those boundaries, you are allowing
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  yourself to thrive, to be the unique version of you you desire
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  to be. To grow, to give even more when
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  the time is right. A strong rose cannot pour its
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  beauty into the world if it's trembled upon, and in the same
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  way you cannot pour from an empty cup.
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  These thorns, these boundaries, enable you to replenish what is
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  good and pure and valuable within you, ensuring your rose
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  is in full bloom and your cup is overflowing with what makes you
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  uniquely you. So now imagine on that high rock
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  in the Bay, holding a beautiful but empty cup.
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  And maybe there was a time when your cup was empty, maybe
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  lacking self love or your ability to give to others to
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  pour into this. Cup you must first.
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  Pour into yourself and think of all the ways you can replenish
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  this cup. Travel experiences, swimming in
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  the sea, chanting mantras or maybe taking an ice bath, but
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  you feel invigorated and alive. Each act of self-care is a gift
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  you give to yourself, a way of recharging your batteries and
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  filling your cup to overflowing. And when your own cup is
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  overflowing, you don't mind saying yes when you know it's
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  appreciated because you have plenty to give.
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  Imagine yourself embracing these moments of self love.
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  Self love is not selfish, it's necessary.
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  It's not selfish to eat and to sleep, because if you don't eat
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  and sleep, you're in no position to do anything for anyone.
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  So imagine yourself doing those things that are just for you,
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  and they become the foundation that allows you to give your
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  best to the world without depleting yourself.
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  If a rose keeps giving a petal to everyone that asks, the Rose
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  is no longer a rose. If a full cup.
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  Keeps pouring for others without replenishing.
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  The cup is empty, so feel the love you have for yourself, the
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  love you have for nature flowing into your cup, filling it to the
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  brim. And as your cup overflows, you
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  feel a growing sense of momentum in your life and unstoppable
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  energy propelling you forward, helping you break free from the
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  past, free from feeling stark or trapped or empty.
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  As you look out into the night sky, imagine your future, a
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  future where you were living life on your terms.
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  See yourself thriving, moving through your days with purpose
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  and confidence, like a sure footed mountain goat.
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  You feel momentum building with every step you take, as though
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  the universe itself is supporting your journey, The
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  future where you embrace your kind hearted nature, your
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  generosity, but do so with clear boundaries because you have the
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  confidence to say no when it's necessary.
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  And you do so with kindness and respect, knowing that it's a way
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  of protecting your energy and your well-being.
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  Picture the joy in your life as you continue to grow, as you
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  find balance between giving to others and giving to yourself.
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  See yourself surrounded by love, by nature, by the things that
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  fill your cup and keep you whole.
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  Feel the pride in knowing that you are living as a beautiful,
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  strong rose with petals that share kindness and thorns that
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  protect your peace. You hold on to these images and
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  feelings of momentum and self love, know that it is now a part
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  of you, woven into your very fabric of your existence.
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  And whenever you swim in the sea, chant your mantras, take an
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  ice bath or just do something nice for yourself, you will feel
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  this, the gift of self-care and self love returning to you,
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  filling your cup once more as you stare into the night sky,
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  see the sunrise beginning. This sunrise represents a new
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  chapter in your life, new beginnings, new opportunities.
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  And I wonder what wonderful possibilities exist in this next
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  stage of your life, A time where you make hay because the sun
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  shines. Life is good, so you make it
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  even better. Imagine descending from the
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  rocks like that sure footed mountain goat, returning to the
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  Bay, seeing the beautiful sunrise, feeling that you are
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  entering a new stage of your life, perhaps the best one ever.
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  But it's time now to return to the present, taking these
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  thoughts, feelings and ideas with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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  your toes. Connect fully into the here and
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  now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456, more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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