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What a Date Night Taught Me · The Sharon Francisco Show

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Sharon Francisco show.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever agreed to something purely because someone you love was excited about it while secretly thinking, I really don't want to do that.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Well, that was me.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: Pierre suggested um with great enthusiasm, and Pierre sells things really well to me.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: Let's go to a bike film night on the Gold Coast at the Art Center.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: I went, okay.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then I kind of hoped that he would just forget about it because I just didn't want to go.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: Pierre actually wooed me with this uh art center place because it's a um it's uh like a picture theater place that has all uh arts, art sort of films from Europe and and it's really cool.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: There's amazing films, and certainly some of the films that Pierre's taken me to there has just been phenomenal and life-changing and just incredible.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: So I was kind of intrigued that this was being filmed at the Art Center, and apparently I didn't really know too much about it as some guy from New Zealand that is traveling all around New Zealand and Australia showing this film on people riding bikes, and he's been doing it for over 11 years.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: I did not know that until I went down there.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I kind of expected that Pierre might he invited his friends as well, and I thought, you know what, I might just try and wiggle out of this.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to support his passion for bikes, though.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll for the, I mean, he's he's an adventure man.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: When I was looking for a man before I was online dating, I had my list, and at the top of the list was adventure man.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: So you've got to be careful what you wish for, right?
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_00: Because Pierre is definitely an adventure man, and you get invited to all these things like bike film nights and things like that.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: So, but honestly, I just wasn't particularly excited about this this um film night with the bikes.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: I I ended up saying, look, I'll I'll go because I wanted to, you know, I wanted to enjoy something that he enjoyed, and I wanted to, and I kind of secret, I can sleep anywhere, so I kind of secretly thought that I'll just put my head on the side and I'll just have a little sleep.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: I really did think that.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so we met uh he and his um the group of people for for dinner.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: We had some beautiful ramen and a few beers, and then we entered the theater.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: There was probably about 80 to 100 people there.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Most were like you would expect, right?
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: Some pretty skinny, fit-looking older men that were mostly bike riders.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: There were a few women there, but but not many.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_00: So I thought in my head as we were walking it up, here we go.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be an interesting evening, and I'm gonna have a good little kip here.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: Gosh, was I wrong?
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: I was so wrong.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: I walked out of that theater completely elated.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: So, what it was was a cluster of like short films, and people filmed them themselves, and they weren't just simply films about bikes, I can tell you.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: These stories were about quirky and courageous people finding connection, finding community, and creative ways to feel alive and engaged in life and obviously keeping fit and just incredible.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we decide whether something is right for us or not before we've actually even experienced it.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why we need to sometimes just take a bit of a plunge and trust that other things are going to teach us things that are outside our normal little world.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: We can almost become fixed in where we believe inspiration can come from.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're sort of trying to source your inspiration at the moment from podcasts or books or whatever, sometimes they come from places you wouldn't expect.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I did not expect it would come from this film evening.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: I honestly thought that I would just sleep.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: Saying yes to something for it from another person's world can actually open up your world.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: So doing things differently to what you would normally do can totally open up your thinking and your world.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to tell you a couple of stories.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: There's a there's ones that really, really touched my heart from that evening.
• 4:22
  SPEAKER_00: And one was of a woman who absolutely loved riding trails, like out in forests and things like that.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: She, I think she was an American or a Canadian lady, and she would go out riding with her husband and her children and her dog.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: And while she was riding, I believe she had an accident, and that accident actually um she became a quadriplegic, quadriplegic.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: She could not move her body from her neck down, which I mean would have been completely, completely devastating.
• 4:58
  SPEAKER_00: She could no longer ride and like she could before, but her, like honestly, her enthusiasm for life completely moved me and made me.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_00: I I think about her so often since the movie, it was last week.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: She was so determined to get back on the bike and return to the forest where she she absolutely loved, she loved getting out there and riding with her family and enjoying the forest and the feeling of being out there.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_00: So she tried to get like an adaptive bike.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_00: And to begin with, this adaptive bike, she could steer it with I think it was like a thing that was in her mouth, and she could steer it, and it didn't quite work for her.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: She couldn't steer the bike properly, so she was actually kind of half laying down on this bike to and trying to steer it to go on the paths, and it just didn't work.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: And though she found a person that was selling a secondhand bike that she thought might have worked.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_00: She's looked around for a way that she could make it work for her, and she found this person that had a second-hand bike that actually she could put her head back on a rest and she could move her head from side to side.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: And that triggered the bike moving from left to right.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_00: And basically, she she was able to go out riding with her family on this bike where she'd divvied it up to work for her.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: It was a secondhand bike, that she could actually still go out with moving her head.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: She could go out on these trails.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, she was flying through these forests.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: It was incredible to watch her her smile and her face and her enthusiasm for life and getting it.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: She said, I figured it out.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: I figured out a way I can get back out in the forest and ride with my husband and ride with my kids and take my dog out.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, like absolutely inspirational, this woman was incredible.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: So, what's the business connection here?
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: What do you do when your original business plan no longer works, when things are no longer working?
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: What how do you adjust?
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: What do you change in your business to go?
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: You know what, this is no longer working.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: What do I need to change?
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: And we don't need the business to be absolutely broken for this to happen.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: If you're feeling like your business is not working the way that you want it to work, tweak it, figure out some different ways, find out different ways that you can do your business and run your business so it starts working for you better.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: Do you decide it cannot be done or do you search for another way?
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: Are you attached to doing the same things the same way like you've always done them and thought, geez, I'll just keep hammering on this way until it works.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: And if you've been doing it for a few years now and it's not working in your favor, and you're not making the money that you want, you're not getting the holidays, and you're not working with the sort of clients that you want, there's other ways.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: You just have to find it.
• 7:47
  SPEAKER_00: Looking and deciding that you're no longer going to do business the way that you're doing it and trying to tweak it in a way that you go, yes, I like it this way, or I'm going to try this and see if this works for me.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_00: So think about things like where could technology system support or a different approach create a new possibility for your business.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: A setback may close one path, but it does not mean every path is closed for your business.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: There's other ways that you can do things to figure it out.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not that you've done it wrong.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: You've just at a stage where you go, you know what?
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I could start doing things a little bit different, tweaking it and massaging it in a way that could be a little bit different.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: There was another guy.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: He was so inspirational.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: Seriously, this guy was incredible.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: His name was Eros from Italy.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: Eros Polly.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: He was an Olympic, uh, Olympic gold medalist and a professional cyclist.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: His normal role was helping other riders win.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: They're called domestics.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: And basically, what they do is support the gun rider out the front, and they sort of take take the flak for them, and they they tend to try and work with the gun rider who's going to win to break the wind and things like that.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: So he was like a helper.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: But this guy, seriously, he was 1.94 meters tall.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: He's a massive man.
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: He weighed about 87 kilos, which is really heavy.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_00: I know enough about bicycle riding to know that that's really heavy for a bicycle rider, and was considered far too big to be a mountain climber.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: So the thing that I didn't know, and Pierre didn't know before we went to the film night was that Eros was going to share a story about a ride at the Mont Vantu.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_00: Now, the Mont Vantu is a famous mountain in France that they sometimes ride in the Tour de France, which if you're married to a French man, the Tour de France is on every year, and you uh you hear with a lot of enthusiasm what's happening in the Tour de France.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: I do watch it sometimes, but not all the time.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: But basically, this one mountain is right near Pierre and Pierre's village in France.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: And I've been lucky enough to go up the Mont Vantu several times, not on a bike, but with Pierre, and he absolutely loves that mountain.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: To tell you how much he loves that mountain is an understatement.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_00: He he wants his part of his ashes to be spread on the Mon Vantu.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like ever since I've known Pierre, he said, My ashes, if I die, are going on the Mon Vantu.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: And he even knows exactly where he's he wants them um spread.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: So incredible.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: Now, Pierre's passion about the Mon Vantu, because he is a cyclist, he's ridden up the Mon Vantu 21 times.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: I hope I had that number right.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: Or I'll be I'll be reminded about exactly it's over 20, but I think it's 21 times.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: And it's a it's a killer mountain, it's a big, big mountain, and it takes a lot of fitness and effort to go up that mountain on a pushbike.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: So when we heard that Eros was going to be that they did a bit of a preview at the beginning, and this Eros poly was riding up the Mon Vantu in a tour de France back in 1994.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: Our ears were pricked straight away.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_00: And I said to Pierre, Did you know that they're going to be talking about the Mon Vantu?
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: And he's like, No, I didn't.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, this is amazing.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: And so again, my eyes were wide open and I was so excited.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: So neither of us knew that this guy would be talking about the Mon Vantu.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: So it made the story incredibly personal for Pierre, as you know, he's obviously written it quite a few times.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: So Eros during the 1994 Tour de France created a huge lead before reaching the mountain.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: So what he did was he made a decision to break away from the pack and go out into the lead.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: And most of the other riders who were the gun riders, because he was a domestic, just a supporter, they all thought, yeah, he's broken away from the group, but we'll catch up to him.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone expected the smaller specialist climbers to catch him.
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_00: Eros understood that climbing was his weakness because he was such a big guy.
• 12:07
  SPEAKER_00: He knew that climbing was his weakness.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: He didn't try to pretend he was somebody else.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: He used his strengths and created an advantage before reaching the most difficult part.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: So he really pushed before it was the summit of the Mont Ventu.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: And against all expectations, this is like I still get goosebumps talk talking about it now.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: He won the stage.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_00: He made the break, he climbed that mountain through, like, if you saw this man, he's massive, he was so tall, nearly two meters tall, and he made that stage, he won that stage.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: And there's a saying in Italy, and the saying is Grinter, and he made this saying famous.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: And everyone on this tour for this film guy that we went to see for the bicycles, everyone's now like grinto, grinta, because grinta is an Italian word, and it means simply keep going.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: It describes determination, grit, courage, and a fierce fighting spirit.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ever out in a sporting event, you see an Italian, you go, Grinto, Grinto, you're imagining that you're helping them along with enthusiasm and supporting them with that word.
• 13:21
  SPEAKER_00: I just love it.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: And it's so emotional.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_00: I was fighting back tears when I saw this, when this man actually won.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: It was incredible.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: So, what does this mean for business?
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: How often do you assume somebody else is naturally better suited to success?
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_00: You go, oh, that's just them.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: They're better at it than me.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I know I'm guilty of this.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: I look at other people for many, many years.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: I look at other people and go, oh no, well, you know, you know, I don't know.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you've been around longer.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_00: Have you done that, or you've got those skills?
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: At some point, we've got to shake hands with the fact that we do know, or if we don't, we can work the skills to be able to get that.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: So, other business connections with this, you may believe that they're more confident or better at marketing or naturally good at sales or more qualified to provide advisory services.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: You look at other bookkeepers and think, oh no, they they would know more than me with advisory service.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: I'll just stick with my knitting and stay with the compliance.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's not true.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: You know more than what you think you do about advisory.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: Your perceived disadvantage does not qualify you because it's perceived, it's not real.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: You do not need somebody else's strengths to succeed.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: Understand what you do brilliantly and build your strategy around it.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not doing it brilliantly yet, you can start working on that and building that skill.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: Develop the skills that you're missing to get the outcome.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: Put the right systems in place, the people in place, and the support around you to be able to do that, and then create your own advantage before you reach out, before you reach your own momfon two.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: So these questions I'm going to ask you.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: Where have you counted yourself out because you do not look like the obvious person to succeed?
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Where have you thought, no, that's just not me?
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's somebody else can do that.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe not.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it is you.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: What challenge are you treating as a final answer?
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: What challenge are you treating as a final answer?
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: What strengths are you overlooking because you're focused on what you lack?
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: So there's a whole bunch of strengths that you've got that you can actually utilize to go to that next step.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes it's just one little step, then another step to start building the confidence and courage to be able to do the things that you might be avoiding, like advisory in your business.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: If the original way is no longer available, what could be another way that you look at?
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: So if you can't come up with your own advisory strategies and learn those, maybe you'll need to pull in some strategies where you purchase a system to be able to help you, like profit first.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: What could you do from here with what you already have now?
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_00: What could you implement right now in your business that you already have?
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: So as we wrap this up, the woman on the adaptive bike, the one that was a quadriplegic, did not get her old life back.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: She found a new way to feel alive.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_00: And gosh, that woman was so inspirational.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: She was living her life.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_00: If you saw her eyes and her enthusiasm and the way she spoke, she couldn't speak properly because she had to take a big breath in between each of her sentences because obviously she's on some sort of um it would, it's tricky for her to breathe.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: So she found a new way to be alive with all those difficulties.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: Eros, the Italian guy who climbed the Mon Vantu and won that stage, did not become a perfect mountain climber because he wasn't.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_00: He was a domestic, he was a supporter of the other gun ones that were the ones that would win.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: He understood his strengths, created a different strategy, and he won the stage.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody expected him to win.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: You should have seen everyone at the end.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: They were like, yay, Grandpa, Grandda, Grandda, it was so cool.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: And I nearly missed so many amazing stories.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: There were about 15 stories on the night.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: And because I'd already decided the evening wasn't for me, I might have missed all those incredible.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I've only given you two.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: There were so many.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: This guy's traveling around Australia, I hope, and New Zealand, I hope this uh episode gets released and you get a chance in your city or town.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: He's going to smaller towns as well.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: I know he's going up to Cairns.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he's going all around Australia.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: So if you hear this and you get the chance to go and see it, it is truly incredible.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: The first few aren't as inspiring.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: So if you do go, the first couple you think, I thought I was, I was fighting sleep the first couple because I thought, I don't know about this.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then I got into the good one.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: So don't think that if you go, the first few might not be as inspirational.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: The lesson for this is remain open.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: Stop counting yourself out and stop believing there is only one way forward.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to be perfect, you don't need perfect circumstances or somebody else's strength to create an extraordinary life or business.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: Ask what is still possible.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: Create your own way forward and bring the grinter and keep going.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: The unlikely hero does not win by becoming the favorite, they win by refusing to count themselves out.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, oh, I'm emotional.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, this has been helpful.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, talk to you soon.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.