Latest / New Teacher Talk / Ep 189: Taking Care of You So You Can Take Care of Them
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- Welcome to another episode of New Teacher Talk.
- We're so glad you are here,
- because this is the space where we talk honestly about the
- real challenges early career educators face.
- No matter what kind of district you teach in, rural,
- suburban, or urban, our goal is to help you feel supported,
- connected,
- and equipped with practical ideas you can use right away.
- You can also find our community on Instagram and Blue Sky
- at New Teacher Talk and on YouTube at NewTeacherTalk1.
- I'm Dr.
- Anna,
- an early childhood generalist who mentors educators on
- their journey toward national board certification.
- And I'm Dr.
- Beth.
- My background includes serving as a high school band
- director, mentor and teacher educator.
- Today we are so excited to welcome back Jolee Jones.
- Jolee is the Director of Organizational Development and E
- xperiential Learning with the Douglas County School
- District in Colorado.
- One of the things we appreciate most about her work is the
- focus on teacher stress.
- This is something every early career teacher feels at some
- point and honestly something all teachers navigate
- throughout their careers.
- Jolee will be talking with us today about small shifts that
- make teaching less stressful.
- We're so glad to have you with us again.
- The episode you recorded with us last March, episode 126,
- Teachers, Check Your Stress Before You Wreck Yourself,
- became the most downloaded episode in the history of this
- channel.
- So let's dive right in.
- Jolee,
- how can new teachers distinguish between normal stress and
- signs that they may need additional support?
- Well, that's a big question.
- I think first I'd like to start with the idea that when
- we're talking about stress,
- what we need to keep in mind is that it's a mindset shift.
- Stress is gonna happen no matter what.
- But how we think about stress,
- how we interact with our stress and think about it is key.
- Our brains, we need to remember, are negatively biased.
- They want to find the threat in the world.
- And oftentimes it's the little things that are coming at us
- within a day.
- But how we interact with that is important.
- And if we think that everything,
- if we agree with our brain that everything is a threat,
- then we're gonna go down that stress hole, right?
- And so what we need to do first and foremost for new
- teachers,
- for veteran teachers is to start small and don't get
- overwhelmed by your own thinking about stress and your own
- fears about stress.
- I think it's important to remember that stress,
- that we need stress to grow.
- But where is that tipping point, right?
- Where do we tip over from, this is that good,
- but I think I talked about in the last episode,
- the just right stress that keeps us growing and thriving,
- I mean, becoming a better teacher until it tips over.
- And some of the things to think about and teachers should
- notice are what are your physical signs?
- What are the physical indicators and red flags that are
- coming up?
- I also talked about last time,
- the MEPS framework of the different modalities of stress
- and how it hits our body, mental, emotional, physical,
- and spiritually.
- Now, we're gonna have those mental thoughts,
- but we may not always recognize mental thoughts.
- We may not notice the emotions, but physicality.
- We notice our skin breaking out.
- We notice that we're not sleeping well,
- that we're waking up at 3 a.m.
- with those thoughts.
- We notice the back pain and things like that.
- So when those physical symptoms are starting to show up,
- that's a sign.
- It's a sign that something needs to shift.
- I would also say from the spiritual aspect,
- which is when do we start giving ourselves away?
- What are your boundaries look like?
- Teachers,
- one of the things that I love about the education world is
- that it is a giving community.
- Teachers want to give of themselves.
- They want to take care of their students.
- They want to support their families and then support their
- colleagues.
- But at what point does it tip over into giving your
- boundaries away?
- And you end up in a vicious cycle that you start
- sacrificing your personal needs for everybody else's.
- That there's that, you know, we think about the airplane,
- you got to put your mask on first.
- This is what it is in teaching as well.
- How do we take care of our own personal needs before we
- give everything else in the tank to everybody else?
- Because it ends up in a vicious cycle, right?
- It's unfortunate that as you start to sacrifice your own
- personal needs, what it does is it tells those around us,
- it's okay to ask so and so for a little bit more.
- It's okay to lean into that person.
- And so the boundaries get smaller and smaller and smaller.
- And it just continues to spiral in that way.
- And suddenly you've given it to everybody else before we've
- taken care of ourselves.
- That's such great advice, Jolee.
- When you talk about those physical giveaways,
- those physical tells,
- I always think about what is the state of my cuticles?
- When I'm really nervous and worried about something,
- I just start to pick.
- Yeah, right.
- It manifests.
- It comes out.
- We each have our own way of dealing with it physically,
- but I love that one.
- I think I struggle with that one too.
- I want to pull a little bit on this thread that you've been
- talking about and really dig deep into what are some small
- realistic routines that teachers can build into their day
- that do not require extra time or money.
- One of the things I really like to talk about and I use
- with all my groups as well is a team breath.
- So a team breath is simply,
- and if you guys want to do it with me, just real quick.
- One, two, three team breath.
- Simple, right?
- The power of the breath.
- We hear that all the time, but it's so easy to dismiss.
- But if we do that a few times,
- I do that at the beginning of any facilitation group that
- I'm doing,
- where I'm doing team development or I'm pushing in for
- cultural resilience work.
- And that's what I do at the beginning.
- I'll sometimes do it in the middle,
- maybe as we come back from a break and even at the end,
- because it centers and it grounds a group.
- And for a teacher, sometimes you are a team of one.
- And so it's okay to do that team breath with yourself,
- but it's also okay to invite your students into that,
- right?
- Our students are experiencing that same stress throughout
- the day, whether or not they can articulate that,
- but we see their behaviors,
- that those dysregulated behavior throughout a day,
- they feed off each other, right?
- And so a team breath can bring them right back together,
- right?
- So that's a simple thing.
- Movement breaks.
- We have a system in our body called the ultradian rhythm,
- and it works in concert with the circadian rhythm.
- But what that rhythm is doing, ultradian,
- it's saying that about every 90 minutes of productivity
- should be followed by 20 minutes of recovery.
- Now, I don't want the teachers listening to say,
- there's no way that I could possibly do that.
- I find it hard myself to even do that.
- But how do you find your flow with that?
- That after you've done some productivity,
- after you've engaged in a lesson with your students,
- just take a couple of minutes to do a movement break,
- or engage in that team breath.
- How do you do something where you're just getting up and
- maybe everyone's wiggling a little bit,
- or you do a group dance, whatever that might be,
- whatever is age appropriate for your students.
- But our bodies need that.
- So often, as teachers, we wake up in the morning, we go,
- go, go, go, go, and then we fall off a cliff.
- And we think if I can just push through,
- I'm going to be more productive, more creative.
- And by the time we get home,
- we have nothing left in the tank, right?
- But if we were to follow it like a wave, go up,
- you had a peak of productivity, and then you come down.
- And so that's what it's asking us to do throughout the
- day.
- But how do you engage in that with your students?
- Also, I use a tool called the Energy Menu.
- And it's just like it sounds, it's a menu.
- And so it's comprised of entrees, appetizers,
- sides and desserts.
- I found it on TikTok.
- I love Tik Tok for that reason,
- like people are coming up with amazing things,
- and I get to pull it into my world.
- But entrees are when you have a big chunk of time, right?
- So that's your weekends or vacations.
- Sides are things that you can do at the same time.
- And then appetizers are things that maybe take 10 minutes,
- you've only got a few minutes in between maybe periods or
- that kind of thing.
- And then desserts.
- Desserts are lovely, chocolate chip cookies are my vice.
- But if I eat too many, what happens?
- I have a sugar crash and I feel horrible after.
- Same way with some of the things that we do for ourselves.
- Desserts is sometimes maybe we're scrolling on social
- media.
- It feels good for a few minutes,
- but then it tips over into being detrimental.
- So I want to focus on the idea of appetizers.
- What are the things that you can do within 10 minutes or
- maybe five minutes?
- Maybe you only have a couple minutes between your classes.
- So is it straightening up your desk?
- For me, when my desk is disheveled and chaotic,
- I lose productivity.
- What is that for you as a teacher?
- What can you do in five minutes or 10 minutes to bring
- yourself back in?
- Do you go for a quick walk?
- If it's a longer break,
- maybe you go and make yourself some tea.
- Maybe it's your own dance break.
- Just shaking it out.
- Again, movement and breath.
- How do we incorporate those?
- Maybe a little bit of stretching is also something that we
- can do.
- So appetizers, again,
- things that you can do within those 10 minute breaks before
- chaos returns to your classroom.
- This is what always makes your podcast episodes so
- practical and why people love them as you've just given
- three great ideas that don't cost any money and not a lot
- of extra time.
- I'm totally vibing on what you're saying.
- Love it.
- And I'm ready to go and look for that TikTok on the energy
- menu.
- I worked it up and I'll just send you the PDF so we can
- push it out for everybody.
- We'll share that as a resource after your podcast.
- Love it.
- And I know that so often the teacher, him or herself,
- feels compelled that they need to manufacture all of this
- stress reduction for themselves.
- But how can mentors, colleagues,
- and administrators play a role in reducing teacher stress?
- We can't expect our teachers,
- especially early career teachers,
- to keep everything on their plates all the time.
- So how can others step into support?
- They are paramount in reducing stress and mitigating
- stress, managing stress.
- A community of support is something that we all need.
- You know,
- how do we build strong relationships with those around us
- with those colleagues,
- administrators and mentors that when they may know us well
- enough to know that I'm off my game, something is wrong,
- right?
- And then they can that allows because I have that strong
- relationship, first and foremost,
- it allows them the safety and the trust,
- I have the right to allow them in when it can say something
- doesn't seem right.
- So I think that's that's the first almost most obvious
- way.
- But I think when I look at administrators,
- I think those are those that can model for us.
- Right?
- How do administrators model boundaries around time,
- taking care of ourselves, taking your email off your phone,
- that's a hard one.
- But even if there's boundaries around when I'm emailing,
- doing the schedule send, so even if I want to,
- if I need to get some work done at night,
- sometimes that happens.
- That's okay.
- But if I'm pushing out emails at 11 o'clock 12 o'clock in
- the evening,
- and then someone else happens to be up and because we the
- other people have email on their phone, they get it.
- That that signals to me as a teacher that if my
- administrator is doing that, maybe I should be doing that.
- And not only does it do that,
- but there is this idea of the stress ripple.
- If something big has happened,
- and that's what the administrator happens to be emailing
- about, well, that stress doesn't wait till the morning.
- Now your stress and immediacy stress pushes down to me,
- and then maybe I have to email three more people and then
- more people.
- And now we have a stress ripple.
- If you think about like the way you know,
- coming out from the ways that when you drop like a stone or
- a pebble in the water, you see those ripples.
- That's what stress does.
- There's a stress ripple.
- And so it's really important for administrators to be
- mindful of what they are modeling for the teachers,
- their kids and their families in the building, right?
- I think a lot of this starts with upper leadership.
- And they're just to stress too.
- And how do they set their own boundaries and be mindful of
- their stress ripple?
- When administrators are mindful of their own impact on
- those that they serve,
- they're also then able to recognize a teacher stress
- ripple.
- Hey, you know,
- the way that you maybe spoke to that kid wasn't the
- greatest in that moment.
- Like, what can we do?
- What do you need right now?
- Seems like you might have some high stress or frustration.
- What do we need to do?
- They become that mirror, if they are attuned to that.
- And so that can help us manage our own stress.
- I think it's also there is the listening between the lines,
- which is again,
- those observational points of if I say I'm fine,
- one day if I say I'm fine,
- it might sound a little bit different.
- I might actually add a few more things.
- I'm fine.
- Like weekend was great, had a lovely time.
- But when you asked me two days from now,
- and I say I'm fine, the tone is different.
- And how am I listening as as a mentor,
- as a fellow colleague between the lines, right?
- What am I listening for?
- Which when we start saying I'm fine,
- that is that harkens back to the emotional modality of
- stress from maps, right?
- We start avoiding the things that we are stressed about or
- that are worrying us and we start using language like it's
- fine, it's okay, don't worry about it.
- I'm okay.
- How do we start to actually listen?
- Also,
- how do we start to share our struggles so that there's
- accountability?
- Everyone has issues with stress.
- It's okay.
- Even myself, right,
- I still have my moments where I go into higher stress than
- others.
- And my friends and my colleagues know when I'm off,
- because they're used to seeing me pretty regulated.
- And so when something's off,
- they'll start seeing me email at late at night.
- And they because I talk to them all the time and try to
- model that, they'll be like,
- why were you emailing at 11 o'clock last night, right?
- And they become my accountability, which is fantastic.
- I love that my friends and colleagues call me out when I am
- doing that.
- And usually, it's for a reason.
- It's not the norm.
- But I appreciate that because it means that I've gotten
- through to them, and that they are doing the same thing.
- To follow up on that, Jolee,
- one of the things that I've noticed is that there are some
- schools where the adults are struggling to be emotionally
- regulated.
- So that's just a model for the students.
- How can leaders in a school work hard to develop that
- emotional regulation in themselves and in their staffs so
- that there's not that trickle down to the students?
- I think it starts with awareness.
- Now, all of this work starts with awareness.
- Until you become aware of your own patterns,
- of your own thoughts and, I would say,
- habits when it comes to how we operate,
- how we are looking at productivity, whatever that might be,
- until we become aware of that, we keep doing it.
- And we don't really understand the impact.
- We might kind of loosely see that there is an offshoot and
- a trickle-down effect, but it does.
- It takes quiet work and it is slow work to be able to get
- to that sense of awareness, to go, oh, me doing this,
- me sending out emails is not helping the teachers on my
- team.
- Late night emails or the tone of my emails sometimes might
- feel more emergency level when it's really not.
- But what is the urgency of that?
- And how do I place that in there?
- And this is one of those hard parts of what I do that
- people hear, oh,
- it starts with awareness and it almost turns them off,
- right?
- Because awareness is not about anything outward.
- It's not about the system changing or anything like that.
- It is about me changing and me becoming aware of the self.
- And until people do that though,
- and even just on a small level, right?
- I always like to say, like, start with one thing, right?
- I have a calendar invite or a reminder that pops up on my
- phone every day.
- And this started five years ago as I started my work around
- this,
- as I was coming out of burnout and all of that myself.
- And it just says, what's happening in your body, right?
- And so when it comes up, I will look at it and go, okay,
- I'm activated right now.
- What do I need to do?
- And I might do my own team breath or I might go for a walk,
- do one of those things that is helpful for me.
- And now like five years on,
- that calendar reminder is a good friend still.
- You have to keep cultivating that sense of awareness,
- but it is, it's a look inward into what I can do.
- Jolee,
- I have a friend of mine that sets on his phone every two
- hours,
- a reminder that does something very similar to what you're
- talking about this awareness, if you will,
- and his awareness is set to gratitude.
- You know,
- what is going on right now in his life where he can be
- thankful for what he has.
- And it's just a nice little reminder and it stops him
- during his very busy day to do that.
- I really feel connected to this idea that you're talking
- about creating this awareness, which for me,
- as the question that Ann opposed about how do you work with
- leaders in a building that are sort of working on their own
- self regulation and how that impacts school culture.
- So this awareness leads to school culture,
- which I know is so critically important for all teachers,
- especially early career teachers,
- and their willingness to persist in a position or stay in
- the profession.
- You have some newer that you shared with us about
- resilience.
- I know it's not been part of this podcast,
- but it really is I think something that our audience would
- get some strong value from.
- And as you think about resilience,
- might you share with us what does that look like in the day
- to day life of a teacher?
- The work that I've been doing is through an organization
- called the Resilience Institute.
- They've been around for 20 plus years,
- and they've created a resilience diagnostic.
- This is what's happening for you right now,
- and you have the ability to retake it within a year after
- you've tried some of the strategies.
- What I love about the model, and again,
- I've been following for a number of years,
- but I just got certified in this,
- it's literally a spiral model.
- So it's beautifully engaging for the mind and the eye.
- The spiral is broken up into three sections, performance,
- mindset, well-being, and balance.
- But I'm going to start in the middle.
- When I think about building resilience in the day-to-day,
- I first think about well-being,
- and another confronting thing for some people,
- how is your health?
- How are you taking care of yourself?
- I was working with a group a couple of weeks ago around
- stress and some 911 dispatchers is who I was working with,
- and they have a lot of trainers come in and say, oh,
- just drink your water, get some sleep, do this,
- and they were like, thank you for not doing that,
- because we talked about this, but health is important.
- While I didn't say drink water, get your sleep,
- eat healthy, those things are still paramount.
- How we treat our body allows us to interact with the other
- parts of this spiral.
- Are you taking breaks?
- Are you following that old trading rhythm to the best of
- your ability?
- Are you finding ways to regulate yourself when frustration
- does arrive?
- How do you manage that frustration?
- We'll start with well-being,
- and then next I would say let's go to performance mindset.
- This is how you engage in the work that you love,
- the thing that lights you up,
- and how well are you able to engage with your work?
- One of the things I like to think about is how do you share
- your insights with other people?
- As you start to learn about your own stress or that
- awareness, create your own awareness,
- how do you share with others?
- There's research that shows when we share with other
- people, our own mastery of that skill grows.
- Start to have conversations,
- real conversations about what is happening for your stress,
- what is happening in your body,
- what you might be feeling within a day,
- and then learn from other people.
- It becomes this loop, which is wonderful of learning.
- Also in performance mindset,
- it's about finding joy or those gratitude moments in the
- small things.
- I'm here in this moment and I might be vacuuming my house,
- but how can I be present in that and find a little bit of
- joy?
- Less husky hair in my house.
- I get to flip that model.
- I can find negativity in it or I can find joy in it.
- Then also,
- where do you just find pure joy where you don't have to try
- to finagle it and wrestle it around?
- What did a student say to you in a moment that just lit you
- up?
- What did you observe in the hallway?
- Those are those moments of gratitude that we so often take
- for granted,
- but that helps us with that performance mindset.
- Again, that comes back to strong relationships.
- That's also part of performance mindset is having a support
- network that is there for you.
- So that's well-being performance mindset.
- The last piece of the spiral is bounce.
- Really,
- what bounce is about is getting clear on what your role is,
- on what your purpose is,
- and stop avoiding the things that you need to avoid.
- Focusing in on the things that are important that drive
- that purpose because we often get pulled away from our
- purpose because of frustration, because of worry,
- because of rumination.
- So how do we start to decrease rumination?
- How do we decrease multitasking?
- That's where I struggle.
- I like to do a lot at once.
- My resilience score shows that in that bounce area.
- That's where I struggle.
- Stop avoiding hard conversations.
- What happens when we try to avoid hard conversations?
- It still is taking, what do people say, rent-free.
- It's living rent-free in my head because I know that that
- conversation is still out there.
- It is taking up space.
- I worry about it.
- I need to have that conversation.
- But I'm worried to.
- We build it up bigger than it needs to be.
- Oftentimes, by the time we have that conversation,
- it's like, oh, that is nothing.
- But we keep doing it.
- So there's stop avoiding those conversations, but also,
- how do we stop procrastinating in general?
- Because again,
- those things just take up extra space that we don't really
- have the room for.
- And getting clear on what your job is.
- Is this actually a part of my job?
- Or am I taking it on for somebody else,
- which comes back to those boundaries?
- If it's not my job role,
- doesn't mean that you can't help from time to time.
- But if you were taking it on full force,
- then you are outside of your job role.
- And it decreases your ability to bounce back up into that
- performance mindset.
- Resilience has so many elements to it.
- The diagnostic has 50 factors.
- And so, I just talked about maybe like, I don't know,
- 10 of them.
- Wow.
- As teachers,
- how we become more resilient day to day in the work that we
- do is so critically important.
- I mean, stress is just part of what we do,
- but we can control a number of things in our lives.
- And the first thing that you said that really keeps coming
- back to me is know your job description and stay within
- your lane.
- Because otherwise we're teachers by trade or givers.
- We want to help people.
- We see people who need extra help here and there.
- And after a while,
- if we keep depleting the time that we have as we give to
- others, to our students, to others in the building,
- it can really empty and deplete who we are leaving less for
- us to have that we feel gratitude for or that we have space
- for to really make us the best teachers we can be and find
- that balance.
- Thank you.
- And what's interesting about that, right?
- Is that when we actually pay attention to the,
- the balance in the world, be like the job clarity, right.
- And we're not caught like consistently going out and
- helping others.
- It actually gives us more energy and capacity to
- occasionally do it when we really see a need.
- If something does arise and we're like,
- I have the capacity now I can look inside and understand
- that I have awareness to go, yeah, I've got energy.
- I'd love to be able to help out with that.
- Because I have these other strategies in place that even
- though that's going to take some more out of me,
- I can come back, reset, recharge,
- and then continue off my job as opposed to again,
- putting you in the hole.
- But until we figure out that balance for ourselves,
- we can't do more.
- Again,
- since I've been able to get my own stress under wraps,
- I think I said this last time, I can do more now.
- I'm doing more than I've ever done before.
- And I'm less stressed because I have strategies in place.
- Anna and I hear this actually quite often where teachers
- feel that they can't say no,
- that they have to be on these committees and do this extra
- and be a coach.
- What would you say to somebody like that,
- that hesitancy to say no?
- If you keep saying yes to everything,
- everything else falls apart.
- All right, there's only so much capacity that you have.
- I use a framework work-life triangle and it's just a
- regular triangle.
- Work on one end, self-care and relationships.
- And the idea is that you interact with each of those within
- a day.
- And work is not just your joby job.
- It's also running the kids around in sports, chores,
- grocery shopping, all of that.
- And what often happens is that, unfortunately,
- the way that this thing that it tends to be balanced is
- maybe we're out engaging in relationship.
- And again,
- our phone goes off or our watch buzzes because our phone is
- attached to our watch.
- And now we see the alert that there is an email or a quote
- unquote emergency.
- And when we were in a relationship and starting to fill
- that bucket,
- we were pulled into work or we're getting self-care and
- we're pulled into work.
- And it can happen the other way too,
- where you're at work and maybe your kid gets sick and so
- now you're pulled into a relationship.
- That happens.
- But if we are not taking care of our self-care and our
- relationships and those tanks are empty,
- work isn't far behind.
- Work will also be empty.
- You have to be able to, I think,
- especially for new teachers and those that are coming in,
- set those boundaries early.
- Know what you're going to be willing to say no to.
- Don't start off with the bad habits,
- responding to parents or your colleagues at all hours of
- the night because that sets the precedent and it sets your
- habit.
- So really understand where your boundaries are.
- I think that that also gets into the power dynamic that a
- first-year teacher feels.
- They feel that these people are all asking things of me,
- so because I'm in this position where I want to be
- successful, I want to please you,
- I want to perform well in my work,
- that they keep saying yes when sometimes I think even in
- their heart they know this is overwhelming for me,
- but they've said yes and then they have this sense I'm
- overwhelmed.
- I see this in so many first-year teachers.
- We talk about boundaries,
- what we don't realize is that it's a two-way conversation.
- There's like this pendulum swing that happens of like,
- I have zero boundaries to my boundaries,
- eliminate everything else.
- And I get really firm with people.
- My tone changes with people.
- I almost get defensive about my own boundaries without any
- kind of judgment coming at them,
- but really what a boundary is, is a two-way conversation.
- Like, Hey, I'm, I'm willing to help you with this,
- but these are the hours that I can give,
- or this is the time that I can, can give to that project.
- And I don't have much more to give beyond that.
- Does that work for you?
- Does my input within those parameters work for you?
- And if it doesn't, then that person,
- that person can say no.
- But I also get to say, no, if they say, no,
- I need more time.
- I'm sorry, this is it.
- This is all I can do.
- When we switch the model, you know,
- flip that model of boundaries in that way and make it a
- conversation.
- Well, it's collaboration, right?
- Then we build a support network around it.
- And so that,
- that network of strong relationships starts to come back in
- because people say, Oh, you're willing to do this for me.
- Let me know when you actually need something.
- And then it models for them, right?
- What they can do in that same conversation because you
- don't want to suddenly turn into, well,
- you helped me that one time.
- So now you've got to help me with everything.
- Right.
- That brings such a sense of clarity to how a beginning
- teacher can start to feel that sense of awareness.
- It all gets back and listening to this entire conversation.
- It really brings everything back to am I being self-aware?
- Am I taking the time to really think about how this is
- going to play out for me, for my colleagues,
- for my students?
- It's having that sense to pay attention, slow down a bit,
- think sometimes before we say things,
- sometimes before we do things,
- and know ourselves really well.
- So much of what you've talked about today, Jolie,
- really resonates in ways that I can continue to support new
- teachers.
- But I'm going to ask you today,
- if you could speak directly to one of those first year
- teachers who feel like they are barely keeping up,
- that they are hanging on, what would you want them to hear?
- Oh, I'm going to leave them with an equation.
- Happiness equals reality minus expectations.
- So oftentimes,
- our expectations are bigger than what reality can provide.
- Those high, rigid expectations lead to burnout.
- And so it's not about lowering your expectations to the
- bottom bar, but how do they become a realistic expectation?
- Because reality is going to be what it is.
- We can't escape what reality is.
- Whatever life throws at us, it just is.
- It is without judgment.
- It is without negativity or positivity.
- It just is.
- But our expectations either are too much for that or way
- too little.
- So we don't want to be too far.
- Again, we don't want to be too far down,
- but right sizing our expectations.
- And so again, when those match, we have happiness.
- Happiness equals reality minus expectations.
- And there's also some acceptance.
- This world will throw, again, will throw things at us.
- A kid is going to throw a curve ball at you, a parent,
- colleague, something.
- You never know what's going to happen in the world of
- education, which makes it really fun in a lot of ways.
- But again, it's how do you just notice it and say, well,
- that just happened.
- And again,
- that's the mindset shift that we talked about at the
- beginning.
- How do you just start to shift your mindset around
- something and go, that happened?
- What am I going to do now?
- As opposed to saying, that was horrible.
- I didn't like that.
- And that becomes a ruminating thought, right?
- Which leads us back to bounce.
- And so we could say,
- I accept this and I'm going to either find like some
- enjoyment in it or I don't have to, but here it is.
- And then I move forward.
- And I think new teachers,
- you were already coming in with so much resilience that you
- don't know yet.
- And so how do you harness that to set up these strategies
- to keep it going in the long-term?
- Use that enthusiasm,
- use that purpose that is driving you right now.
- That is key to getting yourself out of stress too,
- is having a goal,
- as long as the goal doesn't become the goal,
- but like it's the pursuit, right?
- Actually engaging in the day-to-day of that purpose and
- that will help drive you forward.
- Maybe is it about recognizing your ability to be resilient?
- Yeah, absolutely.
- It's awareness again of your own resilience, right?
- Yeah, another great episode.
- Jolee,
- we just really value having you on our podcast channel.
- You bring so much great stuff that all teachers need to
- hear, especially early career teachers.
- We want to also thank our audience for being here.
- You make this channel what it is.
- Each week we share a helpful resource that you can download
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- ky @newteachertalk. For example, look for our Tuesday Teacher Resource, some good stuff there, and check out our Thursday Thought to keep you motivated as the week comes to a close. We also hope you'll become a regular follower of this podcast channel. And remember, keep going! Every day in the classroom is shaping the teacher you are becoming. We are in this together!