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113. What Do You Believe? · Your Enriched Self

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  We all know fallst football season, and my goodness, has this football season
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  started off with a bang. When we talk about college sports. Right now,
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  everybody's watching, everybody's got their eye on some of the greatest in the
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  history of college football being played on and off the field. It's an amazing
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  story of coaching and talent and athleticism at play and it's getting almost better each
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  week. Looking at a team that was once disregarded get to a place of
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  rebuild and creating a new legacy. That's what everybody's watching. But what I'm
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  watching is a belief system on display for the world to see. Don't miss
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  the lesson. Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  to the Your enrid Cell Podcast. I'm your host, Miley Noir. I
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  if you know you know before I get started, each and every week
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  I make a deposit into the bank of you. It is something I do
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  on purpose, and the purpose is it's important for you to affirm yourself.
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  It's important for you to start your day and command your morning, and I
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  do so by way of affirmations. And so this week's affirmation is, despite
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  what others think, I believe in myself. Despite what others think, I
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  believe in myself. Despite what others think, I believe in myself. Now,
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  let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast.
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  So I'm starting to believe watching this belief system on display that the true underdog
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  of every story is the person that did not believe in themselves. So,
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  if you are out here right now suffering in silence, meaning you don't believe
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  in yourself, this episode is for you. And I have to say that
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  I've been there and I still have moments where I doubt myself. But I'm
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  telling you it is a slippery slope, and it puts you in a place
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  of underdog, not because others have placed you there, but simply because you
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  have put yourself in those shoes. And so what I was talking about the
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  onset of the podcast is this amazing story that's playing itself out. And what
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  makes this story amazing, the story of Dion Sanders and the Colorado the Buffalo
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  Team is a story of belief. I don't know if you have heard some
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  of his in locker room or his speeches to his team on and off the
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  field, but it is amazing that he has poured so much of what he
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  believes into those individuals that they now have enough belief to run the engine of
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  their lives. And that's what I want you to walk away from this episode.
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  I encourage you to go listen to some of his speeches and his conversations
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  with his team, But the most important conversation you're gonna have, the one
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  that's going to matter the most, is the one that you're having with yourself.
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  You're gonna have to be your inner coach in this season if you are
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  going through a season where you are struggling to believe in yourself. And that's
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  what I want to talk about today. So first of all, I'll just
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  say that beliefs, belief systems, they serve as the driving force behind whatever
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  it is you are doing or you're gonna do. So if right now you're
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  in a stagnant space, it is because your belief system, good battering different
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  is the driving force behind it. And so if you want what's on the
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  front end to look differently, we need to do some work on the back
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  end, and that's what this podcast is all about. We gotta walk it
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  out, we gotta work it out, and we gotta figure out what we
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  need to do Individu Julie so we can be more enriched. And it starts
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  with this question. Just answering this question straight away, did you know that
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  you have limiting beliefs? And you should be raising your hand right now,
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  because I'm raising my hand. I do have limiting beliefs. And here's the
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  thing about that statement. Whether you're answering yes or you're hesitating, it's important
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  to note that everyone has limiting beliefs. And that's a reminder to me and
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  should be to you, that we're not perfect. The people that you see
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  going after the thing that you don't want to go after or you're afraid to
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  go after, it's not that they're better than you. It's not that they're
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  more perfect. They're going with the imperfections. The thing is you can't see
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  that because you're not close enough to their story to see the imperfections, just
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  like they're not close enough to your story to understand your challenges. But all
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  you do is you watch as people go out and achieve, and you start
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  to believe what's possible for them, and forget that you're just like everybody else,
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  figuring it out as you go. So let's talk about limiting beliefs,
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  because I've mentioned it here a time or two on this podcast, and I'm
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  sure you've heard of limiting beliefs. So limiting beliefs, just think about limiting
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  beliefs are as negative thoughts, Limiting beliefs as beliefs that don't help you build.
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  Remember we said that a belief system is what's a driving force behind for
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  some people, that limiting belief is not going to take you anywhere. It's
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  like putting the wrong fuel in your vehicle. You have a diesel and you
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  put unletted fuel, or if you have unletted and you put diesel fuel,
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  you're going to destroy the system that fuels you ahead. You're going to destroy
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  the driving force. So you got to understand the fuel that you need.
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  Negativity is not the fuel that you need, because it's going to limit how
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  you get to where you get to, and it's sometimes going to hold you
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  back from achieving the goals that you intend to achieve. And these limiting beliefs
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  come from your past experiences, whether it's with a person, a place,
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  or a thing. It comes with the negative self talk that you have started
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  having conversations with yourself. That's why I said, you gotta work on that
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  inner coach. And it also comes from the opinion of others, the opinion
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  of others, which can be very detrimental to your future, to your dreams.
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  Here's what I'm gonna tell you. Limiting beliefs must be challenged. They
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  must be challenged. That is the only way you're going to overcome them.
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  You cannot allow them to keep placating in your life and expect a different outcome.
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  You at some point are going to have to stand up and challenge these
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  belief systems. Now, before you challenge them, you have to understand what
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  are you thinking? What are those limiting beliefs. One might be I'm not
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  good enough. You might be watching someone achieve something and because they're in the
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  driver's seat in your mind of achieving, you believe you're not enough to get
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  to that space. Another one is I'll never be successful. One thing I
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  dislike is these absolutes. And I don't know if you remember, from like
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  maybe second third grade, when you had your first true false exercise for like
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  a test to assess your knowledge to see if you got the information. And
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  one of the first rules of true or false is absolutes. So when you
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  start saying I am never going to be successful, that is already a false
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  those words like always and never when you put those words, especially when you
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  put those words with something negative, I will never be successful, I will
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  never have enough. When you start to put those absolutes, you can automatically
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  count those as false. I'm not smart enough, I'm not worthy enough of
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  love, of whatever it is that you feel you are lacking in your life,
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  and I am not capable of change. Notice, all of those things
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  tell you what you're not, and if you buy into that narrative, it's
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  gonna be hard to take that information and fuel it into a driving force to
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  move you ahead. When I talk about challenging those beliefs, you almost have
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  to set each one of those limitations aside and go find something that counteracts at
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  When you challenge the limiting beliefs and you replace them with more positive ones,
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  you got to start by first, as I mentioned, identifying the beliefs,
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  you also want to examine the evidence for or against that belief. For example,
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  I'll never be successful. What evidence do you have right now that says
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  you will never be successful. You may have evidence that says you aren't successful
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  when you tried it before, but you didn't try it this new way,
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  So you don't have evidence to say that this new way, this new approach
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  is going to be a failed You have a lesson from a previous experience,
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  and so you don't have any evidence that goes for this belief system, and
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  so it's a wash again. As I mentioned, you have to replace the
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  belief system that is negative with more positive beliefs. For example, I am
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  enough. One of the things I say to my clients that believe that they
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  can't get started because they don't have all the things is you have what you
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  need to get started right now. You are enough, just as you are
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  to do the thing that you are aspiring to do. You don't need to
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  create anything new, you don't need to build anything new. You just need
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  to show up as you and that is enough. And so that's what is
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  so critical in the season. If you don't believe in yourself, who's gonna
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  believe in you. I've watched this Colorado Buffalo story play out so many different
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  ways, and there are a lot of people. Let afford this coach Dion
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  Sanders, right, there's a lot of people that like the program he's building,
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  and they admire his ability to pour into these men and challenge their thinking
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  and challenge them on the field so they can be better and do better.
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  But then there's a lot of people who don't believe. There are people in
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  media that have come against this coach and his team. I remember a couple
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  of weeks ago Vegas where all the betting goes on Vegas betted against this team.
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  So there's a lot of people that are going to be naysayers in the
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  story called Your Life. Why should you then be another one of those naysayers.
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  I have watched this coach week after week say I believe he has challenged
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  some of the media by asking them point blank in his media, in his
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  press circuit do you believe? And the thing about it is he's not doing
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  that so that he can use that to fuel. He hasn't a fuel,
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  but he's getting people. I don't know people are getting it, but I
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  certainly am getting the lesson that you have to believe in yourself, in your
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  program, in your life, in whatever it is that you're aspiring to do.
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  The thing about belief is that it's not an overnight success. Belief isn't
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  a microwave moment. Belief requires time and energy. It requires positive self talk,
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  it requires affirmations, It requires a lot to get to that point of
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  belief. It's not an easy thing. I don't believe what this man is
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  doing and what he's showing the world comes with ease. As a matter of
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  fact, I've watched some of his career. I'm not gonna say sit here
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  and say that I've been a fan from day one, but I've watched this
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  man be consistent. I've watched him use the same language to communicate who he
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  is and what he believes. And now we're seeing that play itself out.
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  What language are you using? You want to achieve something, but you keep
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  falling back into the old language, which is the old belief system, which
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  has old evidence. It's a cold case that never got solved because there's no
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  evidence to prove that what you believe is right. It's sitting there as another
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  cold case of something you think is true, something you believe to be true,
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  but you have no evidence to prove that that is a truth. And
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  you have stacks and stacks of cold cases of belief systems, cold cases of
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  scenarios, cold cases of past relationships, cold cases that are drawing you away
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  from identifying your newfound truth. Something about belief systems that we also must know
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  is that there is a factor of patients. And I watched that play itself
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  out. Now I'm gonna say, I'm gonna be honest and transparent here.
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  I jumped on the bandwagon because again I was never following Colorado football. I'm
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  not gonna sit here and pretend with you, but I jumped on the bandwagon.
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  I wanted to see. This was my first time watching a Colorado football
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  game, or Colorado versus Colorado State. There was a rivalry. There was
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  a lot of chatter in the week. There was a lot of exchanges between
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  the coaches, and then it was game day and it was a Saturday night.
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  It was already ten thirty Eastern my time when this game would start.
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  There was a lot of infighting that started in the media that came on the
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  field. There was a lot of crowd energy, the twelfth man out there,
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  there was a lot happening, talk about being overstimulated, and the game
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  would go on and on and on in double overtime, and there was a
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  point when Dion's Buffaloes were not executing as I'm sure they had planned. They
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  were down in the third quarter bad, And I'll be honest with you,
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  that was a tough moment, right because you're you know, I'm going for
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  this team. I want to see them when, I want to see them
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  do their thing, and I'm watching them slowly deteriorate from second to third quarter,
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  and I bow out. I turned the game. I turned off the
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  game, and I go watch something else. I fall asleep. I wake
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  up. When I wake up, they are now in the second overtime.
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  They had already went through overtime, and the teams were tied, and they
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  were going into double overtime. They were into double overtime, and I watched
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  remarkable plays be executed by the Buffaloes, and the team would end up winning
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  that game. By no stretch of the imagination was that an easy win.
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  By no stretch of the imagination was it easy to watch. I remember in
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  the third quarter when I was watching the game and I was watching The Twelfth
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  Man. He she they were all just all the wind had left their sale
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  and they were just floating by the energy had subsided. Why am I saying
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  all this? I'm saying all this because there's a point in your journey of
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  creating belief systems, sustaining belief systems, maintaining belief systems when it doesn't feel
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  like it's gonna happen. There's no way it's gonna happen. I don't know.
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  I don't know how it's possible. I don't know if it's possib well,
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  I don't know when it is possible. I don't think it is possible
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  ever, Right, going back to the absolutes, and I'm here to tell
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  you you've got to stay in it. That's your moment of grit, that's
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  your moment of resilience. That's your moment going back to all the positive self
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  talk, that inner coach that reminds you of who you are, those affirmations
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  that give you the power, those affirmations that become the driving force behind your
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  motivation to stay in it, to do it, to be in it,
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  and not to abandon yourself when you're at a point where it's easy to do
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  that. And I walked away from the game. I came back, of
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  course, like I said, they won the game. And it was the
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  thing that Dion said at the end when they asked him, what did you
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  learn about this game? And he said patience, And right then and there,
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  I got another lesson about beliefs. It's going to require you to be
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  patient. It's not going to be written in the stars. It's not going
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  to be written with no errors and no mistakes. All the things happened,
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  there were penalties on both sides. Like I said, there was some fighting,
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  there was exchange of words, there was injuries. There were so many
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  things that were happening that we could look at as negative. But these are
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  just the facts of life. And what I don't want you to do is
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  to allow the facts of life to help you determine or help you define your
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  belief system because if you look at what you see more than what you believe,
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  when you align with what you see and not what you believe, you're
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  going to always be looking for evidence to prove that you are right. I
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  want you to delve a little bit deeper into your belief systems. Align them
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  with your goals and your vision, not with what you see, not with
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  what people say, not with opinions. If you just put beliefs on what
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  you see with the world around you. You're always going to be influenced by
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  the world. Whatever they create as the new image of truth, of success,
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  of where you need to be in life, that will be the only
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  thing you focus on. One of the things that coach Dione Sanders does that
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  I think is so remarkable is that his faith is on display as well.
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  His relationship with God is something he is very open about, and you can
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  tell that it is a relationship not a call upon and I think we all
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  know that if you have a relationship with God where you can be in relation
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  and just not call upon him when you are drowning in your worries and your
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  fears, but when you're in relationship, it gives you comfort and hope because
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  you know there is more, There is another way, There is another solution.
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  It is not just the way you see it. The thing is,
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  we live in an endless, boundless, limitless world. But instead of looking
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  at the endless boundlessness of what we are and who we are and how we
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  were created, we fall into the limitations because of situations and opinions and cultural
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  norms and expectations. Believing is more and seen from week to week. People
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  don't see the vision of the coach, but he does. People don't see
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  how they can pull a win when they were I think one and eleven last
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  year, How can they be a winning team? This is a brand new
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  team in all aspects of teaming. He started with a whole new group.
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  And you're telling me that this team, right that is brand new is going
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  to tackle some of the biggest top five, top ten teams in the sport
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  of college football. And he said, yeah, we will. I believe
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  that statement. I believe has to be your enough. It is a reminder
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  to me watching all of this on display, that the power of the mind,
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  the strength of your faith can lead you to remarkable achievements and those have
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  a more richer and meaningful direction for your life. I hope you enjoyed this
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