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Episode 609: Dumper Regret Triggers · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about Dumper regret triggers.
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  What is going to trigger your ex to regret dumping you?
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  As I've mentioned several times before, when someone breaks up
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  with you, they're not 100% certain.
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  They're at least 51% and certain that they want to break up with
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  you, otherwise they wouldn't have done it.
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  And this is what allows a dumper to feel regret, because they're
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  not 100% into the breakup most of the time.
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  So they'll get triggered along the way and they'll feel regret,
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  which is the first step to getting them back.
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  Missing you isn't the first step because they could miss you
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  today. And then tomorrow, feel fine.
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  That's why when they send you an I miss you text that should be
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  taken with a grain of salt. But regret is something that
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  stays with you for a long time and maybe forever.
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  And that's what will make your ex reach out.
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  So before I tell you what those triggers are, I want to welcome,
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  of course, my beautiful no contact army.
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  And if you are having trouble staying in no contact, be sure
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  to download my app Solencio, available for both iPhone and
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  Android. And the link is underneath every
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  join our no contact army, all you have to do is set the bell
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  notification and the subscribe button and you're in.
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  And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
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  can read two free chapters before purchasing the book.
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  OK, so the first trigger will happen if.
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  You accept the breakup right away with no resistance, which
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  most people don't, so you're going to miss this trigger.
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  But just keep this in mind for future breakups if you have any.
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  And this is because it hurts their ego and hurting your ego
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  is necessary to get them back, as much as you may not want to
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  believe that, especially if you were needy or beta in the
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  relationship, if you accept the breakup right away or shortly
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  thereafter, your value immediately goes up and this is
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  a trigger because. It will cause them to second
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  guess whether they made the right decision or not.
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  Remember, as I said, people aren't 100% certain about the
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  breakup. Even if they act like they are.
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  They're just putting on a brave front.
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  Next, you're living your best life now you might be living
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  your worst life, but fake it till you make it as I've said.
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  Before, if you are weak, you must appear strong.
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  If you are strong, you must appear weak.
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  So in this case, you're probably weak.
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  So you got to appear strong. So now is the time to appear
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  strong and to appear to be living your best life again.
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  And Eagle Blow, They thought that you were going to be upset,
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  curled up in a corner, crying. But Nope, you joined the No
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  Contact army and you are out there doing your thing.
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  And you know, one of the free coaching sessions that I gave
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  away when I hit 100,000 subscribers was with this lovely
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  69 year old woman. And she said that she was not
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  going to let any Moss grow under her feet and she had all kinds
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  of plans for the upcoming weekend.
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  I thought, well, you sound so cool, I want to hang out with
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  you. So she was 69 and she didn't
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  care. She was just getting on with
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  life and living her best life. So if she can do it, you can do
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  it. Don't just sit around moping and
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  crying. And you may say, okay, but how
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  is my ex going to know that I'm living my best life?
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  Well, the possibility of your ex finding out is greater than the
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  possibility of them not finding out.
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  Most exes do keep tabs on the person.
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  They don't, and one of the reasons is actually to see how
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  they're doing after they're getting dumped.
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  They want to see if you fall apart or actually if you're
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  living a good life. It's like a morbid curiosity.
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  So. Don't worry, there's social
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  media, there's friends and family.
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  You could run into them. You never know, Okay, they're
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  going to find a way to find out without you finding out that
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  they're finding out. If that makes sense, Okay.
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  And they're going to compare their situation to yours, and if
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  they see that you're doing better than them, then they're
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  going to feel like they're missing out and they're going to
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  regret the decision. And voila, we have a trigger.
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  That way it'll show it to more people and more people will be
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  able to have an easier time getting their ex back.
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  Okay. The next one is to become a
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  better person, and that is to level up and improve in every
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  way. You don't want to be the same
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  person that you were when they met you.
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  Or when they broke up with you, you want to show that you are
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  the new and improved version of you and they're missing out on
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  that new and improved version. So this can be working on your
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  looks to look better, having a better job, more money
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  traveling, lots of friends, etcetera, etcetera, whatever.
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  And especially if you improve the things that they were
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  nagging you about in the relationship and you never
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  worked on them, now you finally make that improvement and they
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  see that they're not there. To reap the benefits.
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  It's like, oh, now you quit drinking, now you quit smoking.
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  So they'll wonder if they made a mistake, they'll have regrets,
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  and that is yet another trigger. Then we have if their life isn't
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  as going as great as they thought it would, either their
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  rebound, dump them, or they had to dump their rebound, or
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  they're dating, but they're not finding anyone to replace you.
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  Or maybe they lost their job, or they had some type of accident.
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  Anyways, at some point they'll start to reflect and wonder if
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  they made the wrong decision. They thought their life would be
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  better without you, and now it's actually worse.
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  They're not as happy as they thought it would be.
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  They ended a relationship with someone who loved them and did
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  not want to lose them. That would be you.
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  And now they're on their own. Life is not better.
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  They don't have someone who loves them.
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  And that is yet another trigger. And then finally, if it looks
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  like you've moved on or if you have actually moved on, again,
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  they weren't 100% sure about the decision and the thought is
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  always in the back of their mind that if they wanted to come back
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  that they could still get you back or have you in their life
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  in some capacity. But now, if you're with someone
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  else, they wonder if they will ever get access to you again,
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  and if they can ever get you back again if they change their
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  mind. That's why the jealousy card
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  works so well if you do it at the right time in the right way.
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  So if they see that you're happily dating someone else, or
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  appear to be or happily moved on, they're definitely going to
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  have second thoughts. About the break up, because we
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  all want what we can't have, right?
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  And obviously if you're with someone else now, they can't
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  have you, so they will get triggered and there's a very
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  good chance they'll reach out. Okay.
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  So now I want to hear from you, which trigger or triggers do you
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  think will work on your ex? And if you would like my help to
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  get your ex back, you can contact me at theartoflove.net
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  enlightens.