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Stop Avoiding Problems - Hypnosis for Clarity, Control and Taking Action for Peace and Stability · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hello, it's Adam here and you're about to listen to a hypnosis
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  session. All.
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  About avoiding overwhelm and actually finding that clarity
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  and that ability to just do what needs to be done rather than
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  avoiding it. And I was working with a client
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  that was very, very capable, very resourceful.
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  They did have ADHD and that made them prone to finding that shiny
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  new thing rather than dealing with the things that were more
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  admin based or gave them less of a payoff.
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  That said, they were very, very capable and they were finding
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  themself in this ostrich with their head in the sand syndrome
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  where they were just putting off even thinking about things that
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  if they dealt with in the moment would mean it was very easy to
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  resolve, but by ignoring and delaying it was meaning the
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  problems. Got bigger and.
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  Bigger So for example, financially that might mean if
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  you ignore a bill, but the bill then has penalties and interest
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  and it affects your credit rating, not resolving it
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  actually makes things much worse.
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  Or if there's a leak and you just ignore the leak, well, the
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  nature of water is it can, it's got to find a way out.
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  It's going to cause more and more damage each and every day
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  that you ignore that. So these are the kind of things
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  that they didn't really want to resolve and it meant that they
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  were driving blind or flying blind.
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  And that metaphor is actually used in this hypnosis session.
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  And it's a powerful metaphor because if you were flying blind
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  or driving blind, you're not going to be able to go at the
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  same speed you could if you had absolute clarity.
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  And that clarity makes a big difference.
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  So not knowing where you are and feeling like you're trying to
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  keep your head above water is going to lead to a lot of panic,
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  a lot of stress. Whereas if you feel that you're
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  stable and you've got clarity, then actually you can start
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  making decisions from a position of strength rather than
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  frantically. So if you can relate to any of
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  these themes, any of these ideas, you might get some real
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  value from this session. Now, it was created for a very
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  specific client who had specific needs and areas to focus on.
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  They might not be your same needs and areas to focus on.
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  So if you get value from this session, great.
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  But if you want something a bit more bespoke to you, if you look
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  in the description or my website adamcox.co.uk, you better find
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  ways to work with me directly. For now though, I want you to
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  find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And right here, right now, as you breathe out, set the
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  intention to release any stress, any tension, any overwhelm.
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  Give yourself permission to release.
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  You've gone through a lot stress, uncertainty, so release
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  that as you breathe out. And when you breathe in, breathe
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  in that wonderful feeling of resourceful relaxation.
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  Breathe in that feeling of resourcefulness and continue to
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  release. And sometimes when people are
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  going through a stressful, anxious or overwhelming time,
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  the clues are in the body. And maybe it's a tight jaw,
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  maybe muscles are tensed, maybe there's a sensation in the chest
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  of the guard that feels tight or twisted.
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  And every time you exhale, exhale for longer and focus on
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  that part of your body and the idea of letting go.
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  And don't be surprised if your jaw loosens, your breathing
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  slows down, your body starts to escape that brace position like
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  you're about to crash. And instead I want you to feel a
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  floating sensation. Because if you were lost at sea,
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  being rigid and tense doesn't help.
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  Being relaxed and breathing deeply means you float to the
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  surface. And I want you to get a feeling
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  that if you can float naturally, you don't need to feel like
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  you're about to drown. But here, in this moment,
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  position your body in such a way where you can really relax.
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  And in that comfortable position, don't try to force
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  anything. Just allow yourself to pause
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  long enough to notice that your body already knows how to settle
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  and relax when nothing is demanded of it.
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  You can choose to breathe in deeper and exhale for longer,
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  but you don't have to because breathing happens automatically,
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  the heart moves blood automatically, and your nervous
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  system has kept you alive through hundreds if not
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  thousands of unpredictable moments.
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  And connect to that idea because you've already proven something
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  powerful, and that is that you already have the resources to
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  navigate life. And of course, there's been
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  times where it felt that you were just trying to keep your
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  head above water, frantically paddling, treading hard, working
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  to stay afloat, occasionally getting a breath before the very
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  next wave arrives. And when it feels like that your
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  mind doesn't like to be stressed.
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  It creates a simple strategy. Don't look at the waves, just
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  keep moving. But something fascinating
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  happens when a person stops for a moment and just looks around.
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  Sometimes they realize they were never actually in deep ocean.
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  They were in a shallow pool and at any point they could have
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  just stood up and all of that effort wasn't needed.
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  They were working so hard to stay afloat in water that they
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  could have just stood up in any way.
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  And once that idea becomes clear, everything can change if
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  you allow it. Because instead of fighting the
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  water and ignoring the waves, you can simply stand.
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  And when you stand, the body relaxes, breathing becomes
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  easier, and clarity returns. I want you to imagine.
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  Imagine floating to a different a different world, a different
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  situation. And imagine that you are
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  standing in front of a powerful vehicle, a big engine.
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  It can drive fast. This is a powerful vehicle.
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  The engine works well. The journey is important.
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  But I want you to imagine what it would be like to climb into
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  that powerful vehicle and refuse to ever look at the dashboard
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  and just imagine. Imagine someone has smeared mud
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  all over the windscreen. You have a powerful, capable
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  car, but you can't see the dashboard and you can't see the
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  road. How confident would you be
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  driving that vehicle? If you we're driving blind, you
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  may not drive at all. You might choose to avoid to
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  drive. But if you had to drive, you
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  would make very short journeys and you would drive very
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  cautiously. You would only drive if you
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  absolutely needed to. But there is another way.
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  Every experienced driver knows you don't even need to stop the
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  car. You can simply clear the
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  windshield. The push of a button spraying
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  that cleaner, the window wipers moving from left to right.
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  And within seconds, driving has gone from something to be
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  avoided to something that becomes empowered, useful and
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  even fun. Just a decision.
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  And suddenly the road appears. And that would be much more
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  beneficial to drive. But if you also looked at the
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  dashboard, you would know when you're running low on fuel, if
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  the engine is overheating, how fast you're going.
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  These don't control you. They're just information for you
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  to make empowered decisions. And when you make empowered
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  decisions, driving can go from scary to stable.
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  I wonder if your life is like that by not knowing how much
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  fuel you have in the tank, if you're going to be left stranded
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  and high and dry, or any dangers on the road ahead.
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  Avoidance makes sense. But when you see things for what
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  they actually are, driving is not dangerous, not reckless, and
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  not stressful. In fact, you can accomplish more
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  by driving than you ever can by walking.
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  Clarity amplifies capability. And I wonder in your life, what
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  are the potholes, the turns ahead, the destination, the
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  direction? And with visibility and clarity,
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  a difficult or impossible journey becomes easier.
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  Not slower, not harder, just smarter.
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  They say ignorance is bliss, and you've seen an image of an
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  ostrich with its head in the sand.
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  But the head in the sand does not make the predator disappear.
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  It makes the ostrich more vulnerable to the predator
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  because it doesn't know where it is.
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  And maybe you've thought if I look at something difficult, it
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  will overwhelm me. I don't have the time to deal
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  with this right now. But your mind has looked at
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  difficult things many times in life.
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  You face challenges, solved problems, built things, learned
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  skills. And this means something
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  important about you, that you are already someone who can
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  experience discomfort and still take effective action.
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  It's one of the most powerful abilities a human can have, the
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  ability to move forward, to take responsibility even when things
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  are imperfect or difficult. If you have to wait for
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  everything to feel easy, that day may never come.
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  But know that progress often begins in small, practical
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  steps, and each step makes the next step easier than the step
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  before. What if you created a dashboard
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  within your life, similar to the cockpit in a private jet?
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  What if you create life that begins to resemble that
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  dashboard, that control panel of a very powerful system?
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  And sometimes it might be the dashboard on accounting
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  software. It might be a graph, it might be
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  numbers in red or green. Nothing dramatic, just signals.
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  What if cash flow is like fuel in the tank?
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  What if there are prompts to remind you about bills to pay
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  and things to respond? What if you set things up to not
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  have to think appointments that take place once every six months
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  or 12 months, and you just do them because they're in your
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  diary? Each signal is simply
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  information. Not a crisis, not a judgement,
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  just information that helps you steer effectively.
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  Because the very best pilots don't panic when they see an
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  alert on their indicator. They glance, they adjust and
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  refine, and they continue flying.
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  And when you begin to recognize that your life works very much
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  the same way, that visibility and clarity brings control, and
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  that empowerment leads to decisiveness, decisions brings
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  stability, and stability brings peace.
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  And I want you to imagine. Imagine seeing yourself one year
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  from now in a different chapter called Stability.
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  I want you to see yourself one year from now looking the most
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  empowered that you ever have. That version of you knows what's
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  going on. Unfinished business or open
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  loops, all resolved. If there's problems, you know
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  about them. You are the captain of your
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  ship, and I want you to see that this new version of you moves
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  towards the things you used to avoid.
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  That's what makes that version of you so empowered.
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  They make the decisions, they don't avoid them, they take the
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  actions. They don't procrastinate or
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  delay them. And in doing so, they have
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  stability. And with that stability, it
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  forges a foundation for bigger decisions that can lead to more
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  freedom. There's no point having money
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  with chaos. Isn't it better to grow and
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  succeed while feeling accomplished and peaceful?
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  See that version of you one year from now and look for clues
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  about how you've structured your life so that it isn't a blip,
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  it's a standard. Maybe you have reports, rituals,
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  things you do the same time each week or month, things you check,
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  alerts. I want you to see that that
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  version of you is not firefighting and constantly
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  dealing with emergencies. That version of you is focusing
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  on what is the best use of your time and delegating everything
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  else to people that are more naturally suited to doing that
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  thing. You don't have to repair your
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  own teeth. A dentist is better at doing
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  that. You don't have to fix a leak.
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  A plumber or a tradesperson can do it better.
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  And you don't have to go through every receipt.
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  A bookkeeper loves doing what for you may be mundane, boring,
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  or overwhelming. You are the captain of the ship.
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  You are not every single crew member at exactly the same time.
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  And when you get a sense that that future version of you has
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  figured out the boundaries, the rituals, the patterns, and the
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  habits to create that stability, then imagine stepping into that
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  future version of you and feel how you would feel.
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  Notice it doesn't feel like you're driving blind.
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  It doesn't feel like you're constantly drowning.
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  It doesn't feel that there is a sword of Damocles dangling over
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  your head. You feel peace because you know
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  you know what to do and how best to do it, even if it's not you
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  that actually does those things. And as you hold that thought,
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  knowing that a more stable, peaceful future is waiting for
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  you, unlock all of the resources to create a chain reaction.
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  Small steps, little decisions that take you towards that and
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  start with tomorrow. What are one or two things you
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  can do tomorrow that move you in that direction?
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  What are the things that could be scary and you just don't know
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  because you've been avoiding? And remember, the child doesn't
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  look for the monster under the bed because the monster is
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  scary. But when they do look, rather
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  than avoid, the monster disappears.
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  And I think many of your scary worries will disappear the
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  moment you look in the very place where you've been
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  avoiding. It's time to return to the
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  present, taking these changes with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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  your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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