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Note 69: You've Already Survived Everything That Was Supposed to Break You · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  girl.
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  Hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  notes
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  to
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  her
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  yaya.
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  Your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset,
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  coach.
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  And
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  today's
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  note
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  is
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  less
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  of
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  a
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  push
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  and
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  more
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  of
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  a
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  mirror.
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  Before
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  we
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  get
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  into
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  that,
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  I
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  do
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  want
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  to
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  remind
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  you
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  that
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  we
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  are
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  in
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  the
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  final
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  stretch
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  of
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  season
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  one.
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  This
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  is
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  note
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  69,
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  which
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  means
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  there's
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  only
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  one
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  note
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  left
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  before
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  I
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  wrap
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  up
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  the
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  season
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  and
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  take
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  a
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  much
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  needed
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  break.
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  So
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  listening
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  from
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  the
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  beginning,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  thank
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  you
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  genuinely.
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  This
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  season
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  has
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  meant
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  everything.
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  And
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  note
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  70
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  on
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  Wednesday
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  send
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  up
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  that
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  you
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  do
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  not
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  want
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  to
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  miss.
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  So
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  before
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  we
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  talk
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  about
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  what's
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  next,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  pause
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  and
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  you've
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  been
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  through.
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  And
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  I
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  really
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  want
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  this
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  to
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  land.
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  You're
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  still
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  here.
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  Everything
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  that
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  was
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  supposed
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  to
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  break
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  you,
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  the
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  loss,
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  the
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  heartbreak,
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  the
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  failure,
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  the
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  doubt
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  didn't.
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  And
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  that's
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  not
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  luck.
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  That's
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  not
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  coincidence.
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  That's
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  you.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  start
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  here
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  because
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  I
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  think
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  we
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  move
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  through
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  hard
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  seasons
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  so
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  fast
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  we
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  survive
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  something.
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  We
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  exhale
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  for
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  about
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  five
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  seconds
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  and.
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  And
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  there
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  we're
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  already
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  asking
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  ourselves,
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  what's
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  next?
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  What
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  do
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  I
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  need
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  to
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  fix
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  now?
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  What
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  am
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  I
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  still
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  not
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  doing?
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  And
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  we
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  skip
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  right
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  over
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  the
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  part
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  where
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  we
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  say,
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  wait,
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  I
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  made
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  it
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  through
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  that.
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  So
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  slow
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  down
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  today
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  and
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  actually
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  name
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  some
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  of
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  what
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  we
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  walk
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  through
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  because
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  some
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  of
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  you
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  listen.
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  Have
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  been
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  carrying
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  things
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  quietly
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  for
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  some
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  time
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  and
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  no
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  one
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  has
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  stopped
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  to
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  acknowledge
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  that
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  job
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  loss.
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  The
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  kind
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  where
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  you
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  didn't
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  just
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  lose
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  a
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  paycheck.
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  You
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  lost
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  your
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  identity,
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  your
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  routine,
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  the
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  thing
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  that
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  you
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  told
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  people
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  when
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  they
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  asked
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  what
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  you
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  did.
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  And
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  then
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  came
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  the
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  fear.
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  How
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  am
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  I
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  going
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  to
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  pay
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  my
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  bills?
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  How
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  am
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  I
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  going
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  to
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  keep
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  my
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  lights
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  on?
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  How
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  do
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  I
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  tell
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  people
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  the
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  relationship
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  that
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  ended?
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  Maybe
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  it
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  was
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  someone
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  you
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  genuinely
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  thought
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  was
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  person.
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  You
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  built
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  a
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  future
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  in
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  your
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  head.
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  You
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  saw
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  it
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  and
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  then
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  it
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  was
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  gone.
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  And
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  the
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  grief
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  of
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  that,
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  the
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  grief
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  of
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  the
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  life
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  you
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  imagine
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  that
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  hits
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  different
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  than
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  people
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  realize.
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  And
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  then
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  sometimes
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  you're
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  just
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  trying
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  to
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  heal.
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  And
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  then
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  life
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  will
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  send
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  you
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  something
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  new
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  to
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  figure
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  out.
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  Maybe
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  someone
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  who
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  felt
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  like
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  a
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  real
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  connection,
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  someone
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  you
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  actually
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  vibed
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  with.
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  And
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  then
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  they
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  disappear,
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  too.
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  No
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  explanation,
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  just
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  gone.
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  And
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  you're
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  left
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  wondering
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  what's
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  wrong
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  with
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  you
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  when
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  nothing
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  was
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  wrong
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  at
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  all.
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  The
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  financial
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  hardship,
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  trying
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  to
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  make
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  something
• 2:41
  stretch
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  when
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  there
• 2:42
  wasn't
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  enough
• 2:42
  to
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  begin
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  with.
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  Doing
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  the
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  math
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  every
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  month,
• 2:45
  knowing
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  that
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  it
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  wasn't
• 2:46
  going
• 2:46
  to
• 2:46
  add
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  up.
• 2:47
  Choosing
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  between
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  things
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  that
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  should
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  never
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  have
• 2:49
  to
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  Be
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  choices.
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  The
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  failure.
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  The
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  thing
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  that
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  you
• 2:53
  tried
• 2:53
  that
• 2:54
  didn't
• 2:54
  work.
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  That
• 2:55
  bet
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  you
• 2:55
  made
• 2:55
  on
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  yourself
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  that
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  felt
• 2:56
  embarrassing
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  in
• 2:57
  hindsight.
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  The
• 2:59
  doubt.
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  The
• 3:00
  quiet,
• 3:00
  relentless
• 3:01
  voice
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  asking,
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  are
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  you
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  sure?
• 3:03
  Are
• 3:03
  you
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  really
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  qualified?
• 3:05
  Are
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  you
• 3:05
  really
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  ready?
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  Do
• 3:07
  you
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  really
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  think
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  this
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  is
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  going
• 3:08
  to
• 3:08
  work?
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  And
• 3:10
  yet
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  here
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  you
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  are.
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  Now,
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  listen,
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  I'm
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  not
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  talking
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  about
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  any
• 3:15
  of
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  this
• 3:15
  from
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  outside.
• 3:16
  I
• 3:17
  have
• 3:17
  sat
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  in
• 3:17
  the
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  season
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  where
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  lost
• 3:18
  my
• 3:19
  job
• 3:19
  and
• 3:19
  had
• 3:19
  to
• 3:20
  figure
• 3:20
  out
• 3:20
  how
• 3:21
  to
• 3:21
  pay
• 3:21
  bills
• 3:21
  with
• 3:22
  nothing
• 3:22
  lined
• 3:23
  up.
• 3:23
  And
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  know
• 3:24
  what
• 3:24
  it
• 3:24
  feels
• 3:25
  like
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  watch
• 3:25
  your
• 3:25
  bank
• 3:25
  account
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  feel
• 3:26
  that
• 3:27
  specific
• 3:27
  kind
• 3:27
  of
• 3:27
  dread
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  sits
• 3:29
  in
• 3:29
  your
• 3:29
  chest.
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  I
• 3:31
  have
• 3:31
  been
• 3:31
  in
• 3:31
  a
• 3:32
  relationship
• 3:32
  with
• 3:32
  somebody
• 3:33
  where
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  thought
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  was
• 3:34
  going
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  build
• 3:34
  my
• 3:34
  life
• 3:34
  with
• 3:35
  them.
• 3:36
  Thought
• 3:36
  he
• 3:36
  was
• 3:36
  dead.
• 3:37
  And
• 3:37
  when
• 3:37
  that
• 3:37
  ended,
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  had
• 3:38
  to
• 3:38
  grieve.
• 3:39
  Not
• 3:39
  just
• 3:39
  the
• 3:39
  person,
• 3:40
  but
• 3:40
  the
• 3:40
  whole
• 3:40
  future
• 3:41
  that
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  had
• 3:41
  planned
• 3:41
  with
• 3:42
  him.
• 3:42
  That
• 3:42
  kind
• 3:43
  of
• 3:43
  loss
• 3:43
  is
• 3:43
  quiet,
• 3:44
  but
• 3:44
  it's
• 3:45
  heavy.
• 3:46
  And
• 3:46
  then
• 3:46
  I
• 3:46
  met
• 3:46
  someone
• 3:47
  who
• 3:47
  was
• 3:47
  like
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  light
• 3:47
  after
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  really
• 3:48
  dark
• 3:49
  stretch.
• 3:49
  Someone
• 3:49
  I
• 3:50
  actually
• 3:50
  connected
• 3:50
  with.
• 3:51
  And
• 3:51
  then
• 3:51
  he
• 3:52
  ghosted
• 3:52
  me.
• 3:53
  Just
• 3:53
  gone.
• 3:54
  And
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  remember
• 3:54
  sitting
• 3:55
  with
• 3:55
  that
• 3:55
  and
• 3:55
  thinking,
• 3:56
  seriously,
• 3:57
  after
• 3:57
  everything
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  I
• 3:58
  just
• 3:58
  walked
• 3:58
  through.
• 3:59
  Now
• 3:59
  this,
• 3:59
  too.
• 4:01
  But
• 4:01
  here's
• 4:01
  what
• 4:02
  I
• 4:02
  learned.
• 4:03
  Each
• 4:03
  one
• 4:03
  of
• 4:03
  these
• 4:04
  things.
• 4:04
  The
• 4:05
  job,
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  relationship,
• 4:06
  the
• 4:06
  heartbreak,
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  financial
• 4:08
  fear.
• 4:09
  Each
• 4:09
  one
• 4:09
  of
• 4:09
  them
• 4:10
  was
• 4:10
  trying
• 4:10
  to
• 4:10
  take
• 4:11
  something
• 4:11
  from
• 4:11
  me.
• 4:12
  And
• 4:13
  each
• 4:13
  one
• 4:14
  failed.
• 4:14
  Because
• 4:14
  I
• 4:15
  am
• 4:15
  still
• 4:15
  here
• 4:16
  building
• 4:16
  this,
• 4:17
  talking
• 4:18
  to
• 4:18
  you.
• 4:19
  And
• 4:19
  so
• 4:20
  are
• 4:20
  you.
• 4:22
  I
• 4:22
  want
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  challenge
• 4:23
  something
• 4:23
  a
• 4:24
  lot
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  women
• 4:24
  I
• 4:24
  talk
• 4:25
  to,
• 4:25
  minimize
• 4:25
  what
• 4:26
  they
• 4:26
  survive.
• 4:27
  They
• 4:27
  say
• 4:27
  things
• 4:28
  like,
• 4:28
  I
• 4:29
  mean,
• 4:29
  it
• 4:29
  wasn't
• 4:29
  that
• 4:30
  bad,
• 4:30
  or
• 4:31
  other
• 4:31
  people
• 4:32
  have
• 4:32
  had
• 4:32
  it
• 4:32
  worse,
• 4:33
  or
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  don't
• 4:34
  know
• 4:34
  how
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  got
• 4:35
  through
• 4:35
  it.
• 4:35
  I
• 4:35
  just
• 4:35
  did.
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  just
• 4:37
  did.
• 4:37
  Like
• 4:38
  it
• 4:38
  was
• 4:38
  nothing.
• 4:38
  Like
• 4:39
  it
• 4:39
  was
• 4:39
  automatic.
• 4:40
  It
• 4:40
  was
• 4:41
  not
• 4:41
  nothing.
• 4:42
  It
• 4:42
  was
• 4:42
  you
• 4:43
  making
• 4:43
  a
• 4:44
  choice
• 4:44
  over
• 4:45
  and
• 4:45
  over
• 4:45
  again
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  keep
• 4:46
  going,
• 4:47
  even
• 4:48
  when
• 4:48
  keeping
• 4:48
  going
• 4:49
  was
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  hardest
• 4:49
  thing
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  could
• 4:50
  have
• 4:50
  done.
• 4:51
  Resilience
• 4:52
  isn't
• 4:52
  this
• 4:52
  dramatic
• 4:53
  movie
• 4:53
  moment
• 4:54
  where.
• 4:54
  Where
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  rise
• 4:55
  from
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  ashes
• 4:55
  looking
• 4:55
  flawless.
• 4:56
  Resilience
• 4:57
  is
• 4:57
  getting
• 4:57
  out
• 4:58
  of
• 4:58
  bed
• 4:58
  when
• 4:58
  you
• 4:58
  really
• 4:58
  don't
• 4:59
  want
• 4:59
  to.
• 4:59
  It's
• 5:00
  making
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  phone
• 5:00
  call
• 5:01
  you
• 5:01
  were
• 5:01
  scared
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  make.
• 5:02
  It's
• 5:03
  asking
• 5:03
  for
• 5:03
  help
• 5:03
  when
• 5:04
  every
• 5:04
  part
• 5:04
  of
• 5:04
  you
• 5:05
  wanted
• 5:05
  to
• 5:05
  pretend
• 5:05
  you
• 5:06
  were
• 5:06
  fine.
• 5:07
  It's
• 5:07
  crying
• 5:07
  in
• 5:07
  the
• 5:08
  car
• 5:08
  and
• 5:08
  then
• 5:08
  walking
• 5:09
  in
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  building.
• 5:09
  Anyway,
• 5:10
  that's
• 5:11
  it.
• 5:12
  That's
• 5:12
  what
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  did.
• 5:13
  That's
• 5:13
  what
• 5:14
  got
• 5:14
  you
• 5:14
  here.
• 5:15
  And
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  fact
• 5:15
  that
• 5:15
  you
• 5:16
  can
• 5:16
  look
• 5:16
  back
• 5:16
  at
• 5:16
  a
• 5:17
  season
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  tried
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  break
• 5:18
  you,
• 5:18
  and
• 5:18
  you're
• 5:19
  still
• 5:19
  standing,
• 5:20
  still
• 5:20
  trying,
• 5:21
  still
• 5:21
  growing.
• 5:22
  That's
• 5:22
  not
• 5:23
  a
• 5:23
  small
• 5:23
  thing.
• 5:24
  That's
• 5:24
  the
• 5:25
  whole
• 5:25
  thing.
• 5:27
  Here's
• 5:27
  what
• 5:27
  I
• 5:28
  want
• 5:28
  you
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  understand.
• 5:29
  The
• 5:29
  seasons
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  were
• 5:30
  hard.
• 5:31
  They
• 5:31
  weren't
• 5:31
  random.
• 5:32
  They
• 5:32
  were
• 5:32
  building
• 5:33
  something
• 5:33
  in
• 5:34
  you.
• 5:34
  The
• 5:35
  job
• 5:35
  loss
• 5:35
  taught
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  that
• 5:36
  you're
• 5:36
  not
• 5:36
  your
• 5:37
  title.
• 5:38
  That
• 5:38
  your
• 5:38
  value
• 5:39
  was
• 5:39
  not
• 5:39
  attached
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  a
• 5:40
  company
• 5:40
  that
• 5:40
  can
• 5:40
  let
• 5:41
  you
• 5:41
  go
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  30
• 5:42
  minute
• 5:42
  meeting.
• 5:44
  That
• 5:44
  relationship
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  ended
• 5:45
  taught
• 5:45
  you
• 5:46
  what
• 5:46
  you
• 5:46
  actually
• 5:46
  want.
• 5:47
  And
• 5:47
  more
• 5:47
  importantly,
• 5:48
  you're
• 5:48
  no
• 5:48
  longer
• 5:48
  willing
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  settle
• 5:49
  for
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  heartbreak
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  came
• 5:51
  after.
• 5:52
  The
• 5:52
  person
• 5:52
  that
• 5:53
  disappeared
• 5:54
  taught
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  that
• 5:54
  other
• 5:55
  people's
• 5:55
  choices
• 5:55
  are
• 5:55
  not
• 5:56
  a
• 5:56
  reflection
• 5:56
  of
• 5:57
  your
• 5:57
  worth.
• 5:58
  Someone
• 5:58
  leaving
• 5:59
  isn't
• 5:59
  evidence
• 5:59
  that
• 5:59
  you
• 6:00
  were
• 6:00
  too
• 6:00
  much
• 6:00
  or
• 6:00
  not
• 6:01
  enough
• 6:01
  or
• 6:01
  unlovable.
• 6:02
  It's
• 6:02
  just
• 6:02
  evidence
• 6:03
  that
• 6:03
  they
• 6:03
  weren't
• 6:04
  the
• 6:04
  right
• 6:04
  fit.
• 6:06
  The
• 6:06
  financial
• 6:07
  hardship
• 6:07
  taught
• 6:07
  you
• 6:08
  resourcefulness.
• 6:09
  It
• 6:09
  taught
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  that
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  can
• 6:10
  figure
• 6:10
  things
• 6:10
  out
• 6:10
  even
• 6:11
  when
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  can't
• 6:11
  see
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  whole
• 6:12
  path.
• 6:12
  That
• 6:13
  you're
• 6:13
  more
• 6:13
  capable
• 6:14
  than
• 6:14
  the
• 6:14
  circumstances
• 6:15
  suggest.
• 6:16
  And
• 6:16
  the
• 6:16
  doubt,
• 6:17
  the
• 6:17
  constant
• 6:17
  inner
• 6:18
  voice
• 6:18
  that
• 6:18
  questioned
• 6:19
  everything,
• 6:20
  you
• 6:20
  learn
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  keep
• 6:21
  moving
• 6:21
  in
• 6:21
  spite
• 6:21
  of
• 6:21
  it.
• 6:22
  That's
• 6:22
  not
• 6:22
  a
• 6:23
  small
• 6:23
  skill.
• 6:23
  That
• 6:23
  is
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  whole
• 6:24
  skill.
• 6:26
  Everything
• 6:26
  you
• 6:26
  walked
• 6:27
  through
• 6:27
  was
• 6:27
  preparation,
• 6:28
  not
• 6:28
  punishment.
• 6:29
  Preparation.
• 6:30
  The
• 6:30
  woman
• 6:31
  you
• 6:31
  are
• 6:31
  right
• 6:32
  now,
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  one
• 6:33
  with
• 6:33
  dreams,
• 6:33
  the
• 6:34
  plans,
• 6:34
  the
• 6:34
  desires,
• 6:35
  the
• 6:35
  vision
• 6:36
  for
• 6:36
  what
• 6:36
  her
• 6:36
  life
• 6:37
  could
• 6:37
  look
• 6:37
  like.
• 6:38
  She
• 6:38
  exists
• 6:38
  because
• 6:39
  of
• 6:39
  what
• 6:39
  she
• 6:39
  survived,
• 6:40
  not
• 6:40
  in
• 6:41
  spite
• 6:41
  of
• 6:41
  it.
• 6:43
  Now,
• 6:43
  I
• 6:43
  want
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  ask
• 6:43
  you
• 6:44
  something
• 6:44
  and
• 6:44
  I
• 6:45
  want
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  to
• 6:45
  actually
• 6:45
  sit
• 6:46
  with
• 6:46
  it.
• 6:47
  Think
• 6:47
  about
• 6:48
  a
• 6:48
  season
• 6:48
  that
• 6:48
  felt
• 6:48
  impossible.
• 6:50
  A
• 6:50
  moment
• 6:50
  where
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  genuinely
• 6:51
  did
• 6:52
  not
• 6:52
  know
• 6:52
  how
• 6:52
  you
• 6:52
  were
• 6:53
  going
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  get
• 6:53
  through
• 6:53
  it.
• 6:54
  Now
• 6:55
  look
• 6:55
  where
• 6:55
  you
• 6:55
  are
• 6:55
  now.
• 6:56
  You
• 6:57
  got
• 6:57
  through
• 6:57
  it.
• 6:58
  So
• 6:58
  why.
• 6:59
  Why
• 7:00
  are
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  still
• 7:00
  treating
• 7:01
  the
• 7:02
  next
• 7:02
  hard
• 7:02
  thing
• 7:02
  like
• 7:03
  it's
• 7:03
  going
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  be
• 7:03
  the
• 7:03
  one
• 7:03
  that
• 7:04
  finally
• 7:04
  takes
• 7:05
  you
• 7:05
  down?
• 7:06
  You
• 7:06
  have
• 7:06
  real
• 7:07
  evidence.
• 7:08
  Real
• 7:09
  lived
• 7:09
  in
• 7:10
  your
• 7:10
  body.
• 7:10
  Evidence
• 7:11
  that
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  are
• 7:11
  the
• 7:12
  kind
• 7:12
  of
• 7:12
  woman
• 7:12
  who
• 7:13
  figures
• 7:13
  it
• 7:13
  out,
• 7:14
  who
• 7:14
  gets
• 7:14
  back
• 7:14
  up,
• 7:15
  who
• 7:15
  shows
• 7:16
  up
• 7:16
  even
• 7:16
  when
• 7:17
  it's
• 7:17
  hard.
• 7:18
  And
• 7:18
  yet
• 7:19
  so
• 7:19
  many
• 7:19
  of
• 7:20
  us
• 7:20
  are
• 7:20
  walking
• 7:20
  around
• 7:21
  like
• 7:21
  we
• 7:21
  are
• 7:21
  fragile.
• 7:22
  Like
• 7:22
  the
• 7:23
  next
• 7:23
  setback
• 7:23
  is
• 7:24
  going
• 7:24
  to
• 7:24
  be
• 7:24
  the
• 7:24
  one
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  we
• 7:25
  can't
• 7:25
  come
• 7:25
  back
• 7:25
  from.
• 7:26
  Girl,
• 7:27
  you
• 7:28
  already
• 7:28
  survived
• 7:29
  everything
• 7:29
  that
• 7:30
  was
• 7:30
  supposed
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  break
• 7:30
  you.
• 7:31
  You
• 7:31
  are
• 7:31
  not
• 7:32
  fragile.
• 7:32
  You
• 7:32
  are
• 7:33
  formed.
• 7:35
  I
• 7:35
  don't
• 7:35
  want
• 7:35
  this
• 7:36
  note
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  just
• 7:36
  be
• 7:36
  a
• 7:36
  look
• 7:37
  back.
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  want
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  to
• 7:38
  be
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  launch
• 7:38
  pad.
• 7:39
  Because
• 7:39
  here's
• 7:39
  the
• 7:39
  thing
• 7:40
  about
• 7:40
  understanding
• 7:41
  your
• 7:41
  own
• 7:41
  resilience.
• 7:42
  It
• 7:42
  changes
• 7:43
  how
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  approach
• 7:43
  what's
• 7:44
  in
• 7:44
  front
• 7:44
  of
• 7:44
  you.
• 7:45
  When
• 7:45
  you
• 7:45
  suffer
• 7:46
  loss,
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  stop
• 7:46
  treating
• 7:47
  every
• 7:47
  risk
• 7:47
  like
• 7:48
  it's
• 7:48
  going
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  destroy
• 7:49
  you.
• 7:50
  When
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  suffer
• 7:50
  heartbreak,
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  stop
• 7:51
  letting
• 7:52
  fear
• 7:52
  of
• 7:52
  it
• 7:52
  keep
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  from
• 7:53
  going
• 7:53
  all
• 7:54
  in
• 7:54
  on
• 7:54
  what
• 7:54
  you
• 7:54
  want.
• 7:55
  When
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  survive
• 7:56
  financial
• 7:57
  fear,
• 7:57
  you
• 7:58
  stop
• 7:58
  letting
• 7:58
  money
• 7:58
  be
• 7:59
  the
• 7:59
  reason
• 7:59
  you
• 7:59
  don't
• 7:59
  benefit
• 8:00
  on
• 8:00
  yourself.
• 8:01
  And
• 8:01
  when
• 8:01
  you
• 8:02
  have
• 8:02
  survived
• 8:02
  doubt,
• 8:03
  you
• 8:03
  stop
• 8:03
  waiting
• 8:04
  for
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  doubt
• 8:04
  to
• 8:04
  go
• 8:04
  away
• 8:05
  before
• 8:05
  you
• 8:06
  Start
• 8:06
  moving.
• 8:08
  Your
• 8:08
  track
• 8:08
  record
• 8:09
  is
• 8:09
  perfect.
• 8:10
  You
• 8:10
  have
• 8:10
  survived
• 8:11
  everything
• 8:11
  you've
• 8:12
  ever
• 8:12
  faced,
• 8:13
  every
• 8:13
  single
• 8:14
  one.
• 8:15
  So
• 8:15
  whatever
• 8:16
  is
• 8:16
  in
• 8:16
  front
• 8:16
  of
• 8:16
  you
• 8:16
  right
• 8:17
  now,
• 8:17
  the
• 8:18
  thing
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  you
• 8:18
  were
• 8:18
  scared
• 8:18
  to
• 8:19
  start,
• 8:19
  the
• 8:20
  leap
• 8:20
  that
• 8:20
  you've
• 8:20
  been
• 8:20
  putting
• 8:21
  off,
• 8:21
  the
• 8:21
  version
• 8:22
  of
• 8:22
  yourself
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  you
• 8:23
  have
• 8:23
  been
• 8:23
  waiting
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  become,
• 8:25
  take
• 8:25
  what
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  know
• 8:26
  about
• 8:26
  yourself
• 8:26
  and
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  move.
• 8:28
  Not
• 8:28
  because
• 8:29
  it's
• 8:29
  scary,
• 8:30
  because
• 8:30
  it
• 8:30
  might
• 8:30
  be,
• 8:31
  but
• 8:31
  because
• 8:31
  you
• 8:32
  already
• 8:32
  know
• 8:32
  how
• 8:32
  this
• 8:32
  goes.
• 8:33
  You
• 8:33
  can
• 8:34
  figure
• 8:34
  it
• 8:34
  out,
• 8:35
  you
• 8:35
  get
• 8:35
  through
• 8:35
  it
• 8:36
  and
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  will
• 8:37
  come
• 8:37
  out
• 8:37
  more
• 8:38
  than
• 8:38
  you
• 8:38
  were
• 8:39
  before.
• 8:41
  Now,
• 8:42
  this
• 8:42
  note
• 8:42
  was
• 8:42
  a
• 8:43
  softer
• 8:43
  one,
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  gentler
• 8:44
  one,
• 8:44
  I
• 8:44
  hope.
• 8:45
  And
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  think
• 8:45
  you
• 8:46
  needed
• 8:46
  it.
• 8:46
  I
• 8:46
  know
• 8:46
  I
• 8:47
  did.
• 8:47
  Because
• 8:48
  sometimes
• 8:48
  we
• 8:48
  need
• 8:48
  someone
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  stop
• 8:50
  and
• 8:50
  say
• 8:51
  look
• 8:51
  at
• 8:51
  what
• 8:51
  you've
• 8:52
  been
• 8:52
  through,
• 8:52
  look
• 8:52
  at
• 8:53
  what
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  have
• 8:53
  carried,
• 8:54
  look
• 8:54
  at
• 8:54
  what
• 8:54
  you
• 8:54
  have
• 8:54
  built
• 8:55
  from
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  wreckage
• 8:55
  of
• 8:55
  things
• 8:56
  that
• 8:56
  did
• 8:56
  and
• 8:56
  work
• 8:57
  out.
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  see
• 8:58
  you,
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  really
• 8:59
  do.
• 9:00
  And
• 9:00
  if
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  are
• 9:01
  ready
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  take
• 9:01
  all
• 9:02
  of
• 9:02
  that,
• 9:02
  all
• 9:02
  of
• 9:02
  that
• 9:03
  resilience,
• 9:03
  all
• 9:03
  of
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  hard
• 9:04
  won
• 9:05
  wisdom,
• 9:05
  all
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  proof
• 9:06
  that
• 9:06
  you
• 9:07
  can
• 9:07
  do
• 9:07
  hard
• 9:07
  things
• 9:07
  and
• 9:08
  build
• 9:08
  something
• 9:08
  intentional
• 9:09
  with
• 9:09
  it,
• 9:09
  I
• 9:10
  want
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  support
• 9:10
  that.
• 9:12
  Now
• 9:13
  before
• 9:13
  we
• 9:13
  end,
• 9:14
  don't
• 9:14
  forget
• 9:14
  to
• 9:15
  check
• 9:15
  out
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  confidently
• 9:16
  heard
• 9:16
  collective
• 9:17
  new
• 9:17
  website.
• 9:19
  Everything
• 9:19
  has
• 9:19
  a
• 9:20
  brand
• 9:20
  new
• 9:21
  home
• 9:21
  and
• 9:21
  I
• 9:21
  really
• 9:22
  proud
• 9:22
  of
• 9:22
  how
• 9:22
  it
• 9:22
  came
• 9:23
  together.
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  also
• 9:24
  created
• 9:24
  something
• 9:25
  especially
• 9:25
  with
• 9:25
  you
• 9:26
  in
• 9:26
  mind
• 9:26
  and
• 9:26
  it's
• 9:26
  called
• 9:27
  the
• 9:27
  Confidence
• 9:27
  Starter
• 9:28
  Kit.
• 9:28
  It's
• 9:29
  linked
• 9:29
  in
• 9:29
  the
• 9:29
  show
• 9:29
  notes,
• 9:30
  it's
• 9:30
  a
• 9:30
  free
• 9:30
  resource
• 9:31
  and
• 9:31
  it's
• 9:32
  a
• 9:32
  great
• 9:32
  starting
• 9:32
  point
• 9:33
  for
• 9:33
  the
• 9:33
  woman
• 9:33
  who
• 9:33
  knows
• 9:34
  that
• 9:34
  she
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  capable
• 9:34
  of
• 9:35
  more
• 9:35
  and
• 9:36
  ready
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  take
• 9:36
  that
• 9:37
  first
• 9:37
  step.
• 9:38
  Grab
• 9:38
  it,
• 9:38
  use
• 9:39
  it
• 9:39
  and
• 9:39
  come
• 9:40
  back
• 9:40
  on
• 9:40
  Wednesday
• 9:41
  because
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  last
• 9:41
  song
• 9:42
  of
• 9:42
  the
• 9:42
  season
• 9:42
  is
• 9:43
  something
• 9:43
  special.
• 9:44
  And
• 9:45
  remember,
• 9:45
  you
• 9:46
  didn't
• 9:46
  just
• 9:46
  survive,
• 9:47
  you
• 9:47
  became
• 9:48
  with
• 9:48
  love.
• 9:49
  Yaya.
• 9:54
  Sa.