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Hypnosis to Release the Need for Compulsive Cleaning and Checking · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you can be listening to a hypnosis session created
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  for a client that had a feeling of compulsive checking or
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  cleaning when it comes to hygiene and cleanliness in their
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  homes. And it came from a good place.
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  They grew up in a home that was not the most hygienic, not the
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  most clean, quite messy, and they made some kind of
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  resolution that they wouldn't live like that.
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  So it came from a really good place.
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  But unfortunately, if they made the observation that something
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  wasn't quite right, they would feel this nickling anxiety right
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  in their gut and that would only go away when they did the
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  cleaning. So therefore they were being
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  coerced into doing the cleaning rather than just simply choosing
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  to have a clean home. Now the end result is that they
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  had a really clean home. And in addition to that, they
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  would have cleaners come in twice a week to clean an already
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  clean home. But then that would create the
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  same anxiety that would cause the cleaning would cause the
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  checking just to make sure it was done till high enough in
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  standard. But this was already a very high
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  standard. So what it lent it LED it to was
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  this kind of feeling of a lot of anxiety loops, open loops that
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  cause the very thing that create undesirable emotions like
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  frustration, anger, resentment and and more anxiety.
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  So what you're going to hear is a way of breaking that pattern.
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  And most people have had the time or the experience where
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  they were more than happy to do something, but because someone
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  asked them in a particular way, or they expected it, or they
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  pressured them into doing it, then they didn't want to do it.
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  We can call that defiance or a polarity response.
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  Now, if there's this niggling anxiety that for 20 years has
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  coerced you into cleaning, and then you refuse to do that until
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  the feeling goes away, then that's you getting control back.
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  And that's why it was framed almost like a challenge, like a
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  game to activate that defiant polarity response when the
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  anxiety came because they're willing to clean and they're
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  willing to check things, but only from a state of calmness
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  and relaxation rather than rather than agitation and
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  anxiety. So I think if you have this kind
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  of obsessive compulsive desire to clean and anxiety is the.
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  Trigger. For that you will get some
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  benefit from this session. Obviously it was created for a
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  specific individual and therefore some of the
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  suggestions might not perfectly map across to your situation,
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  but it might be helpful if you like the idea of a bespoke
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  customized session to you and your situation.
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  There will be a link in the show notes that you can Click to book
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  a free 30 minute consultation call with me or you can visit my
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  website adamcox.co.uk and book that session there.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath. And as you exhale, feel a sense
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  of release, releasing tension, releasing worries.
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  That's it. And when you breathe in, breathe
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  in a deeper feeling of acceptance.
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  And as you exhale, feel a release.
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  A release. Of perfectionism.
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  Acknowledging that there is a big difference between high
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  standards and impossible standards.
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  So as you breathe in that feeling of acceptance, you are
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  accepting that you are doing the best you can with the resources
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  you have and that is enough. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out, just notice any tension around your forehead, jaw, just
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  starting to ease, loosen and relax.
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  That's it. Maybe scan your body for any
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  clues of tension. Sometimes it's there in the neck
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  and the shoulders, sometimes the back of the head, sometimes
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  they'd bite me. A muscle tense in the arm or the
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  leg that doesn't need to be. So as you breathe in that
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  wonderful feeling of relaxation, just allow yourself to exhale
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  tension. Feel it melting away, feel it
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  easing. Stress and tension isn't the
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  only thing that exists in the body.
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  Sometimes anxiety also has a location.
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  If the neck and the shoulders are where stress and tension are
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  stored. Sometimes the gut is where
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  anxiety is stored. I.
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  Don't. Want you to feel that now is the
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  perfect time to allow that anxiety, even an echo of it, to
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  just melt away as your body relaxes, your imagination
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  awakens. I want you to think of a time
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  from your childhood, a time when you observed something that you
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  considered messy, unhygienic, unclean.
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  But I want you to go back to that house at your current age,
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  like you're going back in time, seeing you as a child.
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  And I want you to see the environment.
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  I want you to imagine you're going back there almost like
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  you're invisible, able to see and hear and notice everything,
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  but nobody knows you're there. I want you to see how priorities
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  are different, standards are different.
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  I want you to see if there is any cleaning routines.
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  Maybe there were cleaning routines to clean dishes, clean
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  a car perhaps, but maybe less routines to clean surfaces and
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  floors. Just explore that old home,
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  notice what you notice, and allow yourself to get a sense of
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  what that younger version of you would have made of that.
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  Maybe a feeling of frustration, resentment, feeling of disgust
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  or uncleanliness. And I want you to think of a
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  cleaner that currently does work for you.
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  You know the face, the name, the age.
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  And just imagine taking that cleaner that you now have, going
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  back to that old, dirty, messy, unhygienic home and giving them
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  two hours to make the biggest difference they could.
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  Would they focus on 1st? What would they do to make it so
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  obvious that that home had been cleaned in some way?
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  Would they clean toilets or a kitchen sink or a floor or
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  windows? Just be the observer and see
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  what a huge difference your cleaner would make in that
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  environment. And if you come to the
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  conclusion that a dramatic improvement would be made, let
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  me know by nodding your head. And then imagine being an
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  invisible observer with the same cleaner in your home.
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  It's difficult to see the level of impact because the
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  cleanliness is so much higher already.
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  But the work ethic would be the same, the intention would be the
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  same, the competency would be the same.
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  This is an evidence that they're not doing a good job.
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  It's evidence that your home is already very clean.
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  I want you to get a sense then. You've learnt all the lessons
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  from your past and the evidence of that is in the environment
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  that you call home. I want you to get a sense then,
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  like when you were a child, a thought, even a fleeting
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  thought, popped into your head maybe once or twice or more.
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  When I have a home, it will never be like this.
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  And if you think a thought like that may have been planted in
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  your mind all the way back then, let me know about nodding your
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  head. And a part of your intuition or
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  unconscious has been overreacting to that thought
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  that anything other than perfect could feel this feeling of
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  niggling anxiety. And maybe for 20 years that has
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  helped maintain high standards, but at a cost.
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  The cost is that you've been pressured, coerced, and forced
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  into cleanliness. But what if you did it just
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  because you wanted to? Just because you like living in
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  a clean environment? If you feel that that energy
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  would feel different, let me know by nodding your head.
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  I want you to think of a time where because someone tried to
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  force you into an action behaviour, even a compliment, it
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  made you not want to do it. When you can recall that memory,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to feel that that's because why you do The
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  thing is more important than the thing that you do.
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  And for 20 years, this niggling feeling of anxiety is coerced
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  you into high standards. But the true victory is
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  maintaining high standards because you want to, not because
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  you have to, Not because you're forced to just because you like
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  living in a nice place. I want you to make a commitment
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  to yourself. A commitment that if that
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  niggling feeling of anxiety tries to control you, force you
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  into either cleaning or checking out of defiance, you will refuse
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  to. And you may end up doing the
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  same thing. But you do it on your terms,
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  when you're feeling calm, not when you're feeling anxious or
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  unsettled. I want you to think of this as a
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  game. The more your unconscious tries
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  to force you, the more defiant you will be.
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  And the moment you feel calm, then maybe you do check.
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  And the moment you feel calm, maybe you do clean.
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  But you're doing it on your terms.
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  And when you've got the outcome that you desire, imagine feeling
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  a wonderful sense of satisfaction and pride, and that
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  pride is even more valuable because you did it out of choice
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  rather than coercion. That calmness will be your
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  trigger, and pride and satisfaction will be the reward.
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  I want you to get a sense that when you hire someone to do
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  something to help, it's because their time helps you to achieve
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  your outcomes, not theirs. I want you to imagine, perhaps
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  in the next week or so, see yourself like you're someone
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  else, confidently giving directions or feedback with no
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  insecurity, no hesitation. But see yourself smiling and
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  doing it in a warm, encouraging, supportive way.
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  Perhaps following some kind of acknowledgement of high
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  standards that you've noticed. And if you could imagine that
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  future version of you calmly and confidently giving directions or
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  feedback, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to go forward now, six months into the future.
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  Six months of refusing to give in to that niggling anxiety,
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  doing things on your terms, getting things that meet a good
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  standard but not an impossibly high standard.
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  And let's visit that home six months from now and see a home
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  that is clean, hygienic, a home that you're proud of.
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  But more importantly, the way you got that clean home is not
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  by succumbing to anxiety and insecurities, mistrust.
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  You did it in an empowered, calm, confident way.
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  You have the clean house and the absence of feeding anxiety by
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  rewarding it. And if this future feels like a
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  desirable future, the absence of anxiety while maintaining a
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  clean, hygienic home that you're proud of, let me know by nodding
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  your head. And now it's time to realise
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  that you've laid a framework. A framework for your unconscious
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  mind to follow. And that very first time, and
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  that niggling anxiety tries to coerce you.
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  You will see it for what it is, Your opportunity to get your
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  first victory in 20 years and never lose it again.
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  So hold on to that thought as we start to return to the here and
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  now. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and now as I now count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count. 123 Waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake.