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- Jo Fiddy: Hello and welcome back. Season two. This is amazing. And here we are. I'm Jo Fiddy, the host of the Pressing Play podcast. I'm your perimenopausal coach guiding you through this chapter. I'm also going through perimenopause myself as well. And I've been through menopause not just once, but twice. The Pressing Play podcast was created to empower you. Season two is all about taking that to another level. We will be pressing play together. I have some extraordinary guests that will be coming on and helping us all as a collective move into the most powerful chapter of our life and bringing their press play energy to the table. I can't wait to share this with you. If you are new here, welcome. If you are returning, welcome back. How was your summer, my loves? Mine was good. Last time I spoke to you, I was about to go into Latitude and Latitude Festival was amazing. I was talking, I was tapping, the energy was off the scale. Unbelievable. So excited. It was amazing. And then up next for me is... pause live and this is a real, this is a real pinch me moment. I will be bringing the healing power of tapping to the stage. was live combining my nine years of experience working with the female nervous system as an accredited EFT practitioner. It's an area I am so passionate about and then I will be demonstrating this through rapid tapping so we will all be tapping together. Now let's talk about Pause Live. Pause Live is returning for its fourth year in London on the 10th of October. It's the UK's largest women's health event run by the absolutely brilliant powerhouse Charlotte Body You've got the live stages, you've got exhibitors and phenomenal speakers and experts It's for everyone, all generations. You can find out more and grab your tickets at pauselive.com. And I'm so excited my loves to say that I'm running a competition right now on Instagram to win a pair of tickets to join me at Pause Live. For you and your bestie, there's two pairs of tickets. So head over to my Instagram at jofiddy_ to enter. You just need to follow Pause Live and me and tag your bestie. The competition is open now, so go and find it before it closes. so there's something I've been thinking about all summer. Do you feel like in summer, those ideas and thoughts just start coming in? And I just thought, wow, I really want to be speaking to you about this. It's called The Invisible Pause. And it's actually a big part of my real why for doing this podcast in the first place. I know I talk a lot about the play. But really, it's finding you in the pause to help you press play. I know I was in the pause. And it's invisible. It's called the invisible pause. And I want to get into that today. Okay, I need you to hear this one. Do you feel like you're snapping at your kids over something so small that sometimes you don't recognize your own voice or don't know who that person is? Or at that moment where you were just crying in the car in the supermarket and you can't really pinpoint why, but you're just feeling really emotional and then you put your big sunglasses on and go in to buy, which can feel like your millionth, like, jar of cottage cheese and act like, you know, pushing through and act like nothing's happened. And you're standing in that room that you've walked in and then you've just forgotten where and why you're there. And that little flicker of fear and you think, you know what, I'm going to Google that tonight. I'm a worried. and my goodness, the rage that can come out of nowhere. And you think, who was that person? Because in perimenopause, we can lose the buffer, the buffer that helped us tolerate the stress, the mental load and all the things we've been carrying. And suddenly everything we've been holding, Like holding inside can feel a lot harder to hold. I know I feel that sometimes. I work with women all the time who feel that too. And I'm saying this so you don't feel like you're alone. Cause there's so much of this is the work I do with women in my coaching. I don't look at the symptom or the thing that happened. I slow it down and explore what is actually going on underneath it. because that's where things can really begin to change. It's that you, and I need you to know this, and I'm sure you've read it a million times on Instagram, you you're not broken, but you're not broken. And you are certainly not losing your mind. And if you feel you need to hear that, please hear that. Because perimenopause can really bring that to the surface, but it didn't put it there. There's a whole history of beliefs running underneath every single one of us, like beliefs we didn't even choose. We didn't even know that we were carrying or listening to. And it can be everything from what's our self worth, what we're allowed to want, what happens to a woman once she starts aging. Now, perimenopause didn't invent that story. It just turns the volume all the way up. And suddenly... It's not quiet anymore. It's loud. It's in the mirror in the mornings when we look at ourselves. It's in the moment you go quiet in that meeting. It's in the, should I even bother? That quiet resignation, but you start to slowly not go for it anymore. And that is the invisible pause. And it's officially September, which means it's perimenopause awareness month. And it got me thinking, why didn't we know about perimenopause? I mean, I've been through menopause twice and the first time over 10 years ago, I didn't know anything about perimenopause. And I'll tell you why we didn't know about it. Because men didn't experience perimenopause. Yeah, I'm saying it out loud. We are experiencing parimenopause within a patriarchal society with all those old beliefs and stories about women and aging still running underneath it. And I think that's a really important part of this conversation. and getting free from it. means getting free from a patriarchal narrative that has infiltrated your nervous system without you ever agreeing to it. I want you to feel free and empowered You can slather on the HRT, which I know for many, myself included, can feel life changing. You can wear the weighted vest. You can have the LED mask. You can up the protein. But if you do not work on your mind, your beliefs, and what's underneath, it will only take you so far. Your happiness. your joy, your capacity for life will only go so far. You will never feel like it's enough. Not until you work on that. Not until you get free from your own thoughts. And the first step in doing that is to become consciously aware of the invisible pause. Notice how you feel about being a midlife woman. Notice the patterns. Notice how you're feeling in yourself. That's the first step. If this landed, if you felt that in your body, that's your sign. That's the invisible pause asking to be seen. I am now opening sessions to work with me. This is one session, 90 minutes of perimenopausal coaching. You come with one thing that's keeping you awake, the decision you keep circling or the anger, overwhelm or loss of confidence that you can't seem to shift. Together we'll calm the noise. explore what's really running underneath and get you moving from the invisible pause into pressing play. Go to jofiddy.com for more information and the link is in the show notes. Book yourself in, let's get started. So hear me on this, my love. You are not declining. You are just getting started. Aging is such a privilege. I wish more and more women got to feel that instead of dreading it. We need more evidence of that out in the world. And I want you to be some of that evidence. Together we can do it. Sending you so much love and keep pressing play.