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Episode 636: What To Do If Your Ex Unblocks You · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I'm going to talk about what you should do if you
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  were blocked and your ex unblocks you, because I've seen
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  a lot of comments lately about people saying that they were
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  unblocked and they didn't know what to do.
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  Although I've mentioned this other times in other videos, I
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  figured I would make a dedicated video to this topic.
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  But first I want to welcome back my beautiful No contact army.
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  OK, so I have some comments here I'm going to read and then I'll
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  tell you what you need to do when you get unblocked or maybe
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  what you should not do. This guy said five months.
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  No contact got unblocked today. See.
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  So for those people losing hope, like, Oh my God, sixty days have
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  gone by, I'll never hear from my ex.
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  OK, this guy got unblocked after five months, he said after
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  dreaming about my ex last night. Weird coincidence.
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  Yes, that is very interesting. Then we have someone else who
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  said my ex sent an apology letter after unblocking me.
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  I gave him a year of no contact and he came back after exactly a
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  year again. So she got unblocked and he came
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  back After a well he came back. He wrote apology letter after a
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  year. Again, don't lose hope if you
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  want your ex back and it's been more than 60 days.
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  But she went on to say I haven't replied to his text message as
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  the apology didn't look sincere to me, More like ego driven.
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  So I'm going to ghost him and might as well block later if
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  he's persistent with his nagging so she's not.
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  In response to the apology she used the word ghost.
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  It's not really a ghosting if you're in no contact.
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  She's just going to stay in no contact and that's her choice.
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  And I'm just going to speak on this comment for a bit and then
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  I'll tell you what you need to do if you get unblocked because
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  I posted that in the community tab on YouTube, which if you're
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  not checking it out, you're missing out because I post on
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  there almost every single day. Things to do with getting an X
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  back, obviously. And this guy said I'm sick of
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  this nonsense. If you want him, you can just
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  let him know what the F is up with ghosting speak.
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  People make mistakes. And then everybody was
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  commenting on this. So that's why I'm reading these
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  responses here. You know, people were saying
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  things like he deserves it, He did it to her.
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  Plus, he isn't being sincere and depends what kind of breakup
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  they had. Some people deserve ghosting.
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  Yeah, that's true. I agree.
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  Do you agree? Someone said.
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  How do you know it was a mistake?
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  The ex blocked her. They didn't unblock her.
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  They sent her a crappy fake apology.
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  Where's the mistake that she has to waste a second to speak?
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  The burden is on her. That's some nonsense.
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  If ever there was, and then someone said you can tell them
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  that you don't want anything, they still come back and try not
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  respecting your boundaries. If he blocked and ghosted her
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  the first time, he doesn't deserve her interaction or
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  response. His mistake is his, not hers to
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  fix. And then finally, not speaking
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  is also an answer. Sounds like you're feeling that
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  one. We don't owe anyone to anything.
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  So speaking is also a choice or not speaking.
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  And she's right. By not responding you are.
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  You're already responding, You're saying I'm not going to
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  respond. And another person in the
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  comments, they had it correct. They said it's not her mistake
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  to fix, it's his. So when you get unblocked, what
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  should you do? Well, what I've been telling you
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  to do all along and that is nothing.
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  It's not up to you to do anything.
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  It's not up to you to fix something that someone else
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  broke. They broke it.
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  They fix it. Just because they unblocked you,
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  it doesn't mean that they want you back.
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  And if they do, they're going to have to speak up.
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  But you might say, oh, but maybe they're scared.
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  And maybe that's a sign that they unblock me.
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  They want me to contact them. Well, you know what?
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  Too bad. Too bad.
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  If they had the balls, whether they were male or female, to
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  break up with you, then guess what?
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  They can use those same balls to now contact you and say they
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  made a mistake. So don't try to fix something
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  like I said that you didn't break because otherwise you're
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  going to get the pet cemetery version of that X.
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  And I talked about the pet cemetery version in another
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  video and I will put the link in the upper right hand corner.
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  And that's what you have to do, actually, not do.
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  But people get excited and they start running around like I
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  check in with their head cut off, like, Oh my God, they
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  unblock me, They unblock me. What should I do?
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  What should I do? And people, they refer to
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  themselves, obvious often as kings or Queens, like I'm a
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  king, I'm a queen. Really.
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  Well then why are you actually like a peasant, A peasant and a
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  pheasant? If you're running around like a
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  chicken with your head cut off just because someone unblocked
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  you? If you're a king or you're a
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  queen, then act like 1 kings and Queens.
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  They don't go seeking out people.
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  People seek out them. They don't have to do anything.
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  They just sit back and wait. And so if you really are a king
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  or a queen or you want to be, then you do nothing.
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  OK, So I hope I've drilled that through your head enough so I
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  don't have to see this question again in the comments.
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  Maybe they want you back, maybe they don't.
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  It's still on them. All right, so in the meantime,
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  if you would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me
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  at theartoflove.net and we will send you the rates.
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