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When Your Gut Knows Before You Do: Self-Trust, Intuition, and Choosing Yourself · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: You are bent, not broken.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to this bent, not broken bonus coaching session.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: If you just listened to my conversation with Chris Cushing, there's a moment that likely stayed with you.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: The moment she shared that she cried when she was proposed to.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Not tears of joy, but tears of knowing.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to pause right there with you.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because so many people don't cry when something bad happens.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: They cry when their intuition is trying to speak.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about that gut moment.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: You know, that quiet voice that says, this doesn't feel right, something is off, or I'm not aligned with this choice.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: Most of us don't ignore our intuition because we're weak.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: We ignore it because we're conditioned, conditioned to follow the timeline, conditioned to meet expectations, conditioned to avoid disappointing others, and conditioned to believe that discomfort means failure.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_00: And especially for those in structured systems, like the military, corporate environments, or traditional family roles, we're taught to push through, not pause.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: The pause is the power.
• 1:57
  SPEAKER_00: One of the biggest lessons from Chris's story is this you are allowed to pause even when everyone else expects a yes.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: A pause doesn't mean you're backing out.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: A pause means you're checking in.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: And here's a coaching question I want you to sit with.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: If no one else's feelings were involved, what would my body choose?
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: Not your fear, not your guilt, your body.
• 2:31
  SPEAKER_00: When honesty feels dangerous.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_00: Another important layer Chris shared was safety, emotional and physical.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: If you're someone who is considering leaving a relationship, questioning your identity, or even reclaiming your truth, please hear this clearly.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: Your safety matters more than your timing.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: You don't owe anyone immediate clarity.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: You don't owe anyone your process.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: You owe yourself care.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: You are not broken.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: You are waking up.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_00: Many people look back and say, I should have known.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: I ignored the red flags.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: Or why didn't I listen to myself?
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: But awareness doesn't arrive all at once.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: It arrives in layers.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: And every layer brings you closer to yourself.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: So if this episode stirred something in you, confusion, grief, relief, recognition, that's not weakness.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's awakening.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: And before we end, I want to leave you with this one simple practice.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: Today, take one intentional pause before responding, before agreeing, before explaining.
• 3:56
  SPEAKER_00: Put your hand on your chest and ask, what's true for me right now?
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: That's where healing begins.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: That's where alignment begins.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: And that's how we move from bent to bold.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you in the next episode.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.