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E 290: Tammy's Take #8: You’re Not Stuck… You’re Replaying the Same Story · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:00
  hello
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  everybody
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  and
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Tammy's
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  Takes
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  number
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  eight,
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  where
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  we
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  turn
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  powerful
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  conversations
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  into
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  practical
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  strategies
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  today
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  we
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  are
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  talking
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  about
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  my
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  last
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  episode
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  with
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  Dr.
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  Karen
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  Parker,
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  and
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  we
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  talked
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  about
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  something
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  that
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  hit
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  so.
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  Deep,
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  and
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  she
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  did
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  such
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  an
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  amazing
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  job
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  of
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  explaining
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  that
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  if
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  you
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  did
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  not
• 0:19
  hear
• 0:19
  yesterday's
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  episode,
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  I
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  highly
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  recommend
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  that
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  you
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  go
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  back
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  and
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  listen
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  to
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  it.
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  So
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  it's
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  about
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  the
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  stories
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  we
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  tell
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  ourselves,
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  and
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  not
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  just
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  the
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  stories,
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  but
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  how
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  those
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  stories
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  are
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  actually
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  shaping
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  our
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  reality.
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  Because
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  she
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  said
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  something
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  that
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  really
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  stuck
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  with
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  me.
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  Is
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  that
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  we
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  don't
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  just
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  have
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  a
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  story.
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  We
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  are
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  actually
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  living
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  inside
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  of
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  it.
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  And
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  if
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  you
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  still
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  feel
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  stuck,
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  this
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  might
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  be
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  why.
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  So
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  she
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  talked
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  about
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  something
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  called
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  a
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  tape
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  loop.
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  And
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  I
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  love
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  this
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  because
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  I
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  see
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  this
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  all
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  the
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  time.
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  It's
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  the
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  story
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  you've
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  told
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  yourself
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  so
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  many
• 0:50
  times,
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  you
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  don't
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  even
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  realize
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  you're
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  still
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  living
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  it.
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  It
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  sounds
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  things
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  like
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  I've
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  always
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  been
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  do.
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  This
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  always
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  happens
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  to
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  me.
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  I
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  just
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  can't
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  seem
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  to
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  blank.
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  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  told
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  yourself
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  those
• 1:05
  stories?
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  Probably.
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  But
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  here's
• 1:07
  the
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  truth.
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  Every
• 1:08
  time
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  you
• 1:09
  retell
• 1:09
  that
• 1:09
  story,
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  you're
• 1:11
  reinforcing
• 1:12
  it
• 1:12
  not
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  just
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  in
• 1:13
  your
• 1:13
  mind,
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  but
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  in
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  your
• 1:14
  body
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  and
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  in
• 1:16
  your
• 1:16
  energy,
• 1:16
  and
• 1:17
  you
• 1:17
  know
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  how
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  much
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  I
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  think
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  and
• 1:19
  care
• 1:19
  about
• 1:19
  energy.
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  How
• 1:21
  we
• 1:21
  have
• 1:21
  to
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  keep
• 1:21
  our
• 1:21
  frequencies
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  high
• 1:23
  and
• 1:23
  everything
• 1:23
  else.
• 1:23
  So
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  every
• 1:24
  time
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  you
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  tell
• 1:25
  the
• 1:25
  story,
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  you
• 1:26
  are
• 1:26
  reinforcing
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  that
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  negative
• 1:28
  energy.
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  And
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  the
• 1:30
  reason
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  is
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  because
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  your
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  brain
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  is
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  literally
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  wire
• 1:32
  wired
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  to
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  look
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  for
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  proof.
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  Not
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  good
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  or
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  bad,
• 1:36
  but
• 1:36
  to
• 1:36
  look
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  for
• 1:37
  proof.
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  So
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  if
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  your
• 1:38
  story
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  is
• 1:39
  saying,
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  I'm
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  not
• 1:40
  enough,
• 1:40
  I
• 1:40
  have
• 1:40
  to
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  survive,
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  or
• 1:41
  I
• 1:41
  have
• 1:41
  to
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  prove
• 1:42
  myself,
• 1:43
  your
• 1:43
  brain
• 1:43
  ener
• 1:44
  and
• 1:45
  your
• 1:45
  energy
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  will
• 1:45
  go
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  out
• 1:46
  and
• 1:46
  find
• 1:46
  evidence
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  to
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  support
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  this.
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  This
• 1:48
  is
• 1:49
  why
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  you
• 1:49
  can
• 1:49
  do
• 1:50
  all
• 1:50
  the
• 1:50
  work.
• 1:50
  Go
• 1:50
  to
• 1:50
  therapy,
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  read
• 1:51
  the
• 1:51
  books
• 1:52
  journal,
• 1:52
  use
• 1:53
  all
• 1:53
  the
• 1:53
  tools,
• 1:54
  and
• 1:54
  still
• 1:54
  feel
• 1:55
  stuck
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  because
• 1:56
  you're
• 1:56
  still
• 1:56
  running
• 1:56
  the
• 1:57
  same
• 1:57
  pattern.
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  So
• 1:59
  what
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  do
• 1:59
  you
• 1:59
  have
• 1:59
  to
• 1:59
  do?
• 2:01
  This
• 2:01
  is
• 2:01
  where
• 2:01
  it
• 2:01
  becomes
• 2:02
  powerful,
• 2:02
  and
• 2:02
  this
• 2:02
  is
• 2:02
  where
• 2:03
  the
• 2:03
  work
• 2:03
  comes
• 2:03
  in,
• 2:03
  but
• 2:04
  there
• 2:04
  are
• 2:04
  things
• 2:04
  that
• 2:04
  you
• 2:05
  can
• 2:05
  do
• 2:05
  to
• 2:05
  change
• 2:06
  this
• 2:06
  and
• 2:07
  really
• 2:07
  what
• 2:07
  it
• 2:07
  means,
• 2:07
  and
• 2:08
  Dr.
• 2:08
  Karen
• 2:09
  did
• 2:09
  such
• 2:09
  a
• 2:09
  great
• 2:10
  job
• 2:10
  of
• 2:10
  explaining
• 2:10
  this,
• 2:11
  is
• 2:11
  you
• 2:11
  just
• 2:11
  have
• 2:11
  to
• 2:11
  change
• 2:12
  the
• 2:12
  story.
• 2:13
  You
• 2:13
  don't
• 2:14
  heal
• 2:14
  by
• 2:14
  just
• 2:14
  understanding
• 2:15
  it.
• 2:15
  You
• 2:15
  have
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  to
• 2:16
  actually
• 2:16
  rewrite
• 2:17
  it
• 2:17
  and
• 2:17
  not
• 2:18
  in
• 2:18
  a
• 2:18
  logical
• 2:19
  way,
• 2:19
  not
• 2:19
  on
• 2:19
  paper
• 2:20
  or
• 2:20
  in
• 2:20
  a
• 2:20
  way
• 2:20
  that
• 2:21
  you
• 2:21
  convince
• 2:21
  yourself
• 2:22
  that
• 2:22
  you
• 2:22
  actually
• 2:22
  did
• 2:23
  this,
• 2:23
  but
• 2:23
  in
• 2:23
  a
• 2:24
  way
• 2:24
  your
• 2:24
  body
• 2:25
  can
• 2:25
  actually
• 2:26
  feel.
• 2:27
  I'm
• 2:27
  gonna
• 2:27
  give
• 2:27
  you
• 2:27
  an
• 2:27
  exercise
• 2:28
  to
• 2:28
  do
• 2:28
  today.
• 2:28
  I
• 2:28
  want
• 2:29
  you
• 2:29
  to
• 2:29
  try
• 2:29
  it,
• 2:29
  and
• 2:29
  I
• 2:29
  want
• 2:30
  you
• 2:30
  to
• 2:30
  let
• 2:30
  me
• 2:30
  know
• 2:31
  how
• 2:31
  it
• 2:31
  worked
• 2:31
  out.
• 2:32
  I
• 2:32
  don't
• 2:32
  want
• 2:32
  you
• 2:33
  to
• 2:33
  do
• 2:33
  it
• 2:33
  tomorrow.
• 2:33
  I
• 2:33
  don't
• 2:33
  want
• 2:34
  you
• 2:34
  to
• 2:34
  wait
• 2:34
  till
• 2:34
  you're
• 2:34
  ready.
• 2:35
  I
• 2:35
  literally
• 2:35
  want
• 2:35
  you
• 2:36
  to
• 2:36
  try
• 2:36
  this
• 2:36
  today
• 2:38
  first
• 2:38
  pro
• 2:38
  well,
• 2:38
  or
• 2:39
  the
• 2:39
  first
• 2:39
  time
• 2:39
  you
• 2:40
  catch
• 2:40
  yourself
• 2:40
  in
• 2:40
  this
• 2:41
  tape
• 2:41
  loop.
• 2:42
  So
• 2:42
  I
• 2:42
  want
• 2:42
  you
• 2:42
  to
• 2:42
  notice
• 2:43
  step
• 2:43
  one
• 2:43
  is
• 2:43
  noticing
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  moment
• 2:44
  where
• 2:45
  you
• 2:45
  say
• 2:45
  something
• 2:46
  like,
• 2:46
  this
• 2:46
  always
• 2:46
  happens
• 2:47
  to
• 2:47
  me.
• 2:47
  I'm
• 2:47
  just
• 2:48
  not
• 2:48
  good
• 2:48
  at
• 2:48
  this.
• 2:48
  Or,
• 2:49
  of
• 2:49
  course
• 2:49
  they
• 2:49
  didn't
• 2:50
  choose
• 2:50
  me.
• 2:50
  That's
• 2:51
  your
• 2:51
  story.
• 2:52
  So
• 2:52
  write
• 2:52
  it
• 2:52
  down,
• 2:53
  take
• 2:53
  a
• 2:53
  couple
• 2:54
  minutes
• 2:54
  and
• 2:54
  write
• 2:54
  out
• 2:54
  what
• 2:54
  happened.
• 2:55
  A
• 2:55
  good
• 2:56
  example
• 2:56
  might
• 2:56
  be,
• 2:57
  I
• 2:57
  spoke
• 2:57
  up
• 2:58
  in
• 2:58
  a
• 2:58
  meeting
• 2:58
  and
• 2:58
  no
• 2:58
  one
• 2:58
  responded.
• 2:59
  So
• 2:59
  how
• 3:00
  did
• 3:00
  I
• 3:00
  feel?
• 3:00
  I
• 3:00
  felt
• 3:00
  ignored.
• 3:01
  This
• 3:01
  always
• 3:01
  happens.
• 3:02
  I'm
• 3:02
  not
• 3:02
  confident
• 3:03
  enough.
• 3:03
  I
• 3:03
  shouldn't
• 3:04
  have
• 3:04
  said
• 3:04
  anything.
• 3:05
  Just
• 3:05
  anything
• 3:06
  that
• 3:06
  is
• 3:06
  going
• 3:07
  through
• 3:07
  your
• 3:07
  brain
• 3:07
  as
• 3:08
  you're
• 3:08
  saying
• 3:08
  it,
• 3:08
  just
• 3:09
  write
• 3:09
  it
• 3:09
  down.
• 3:10
  Step
• 3:11
  three,
• 3:11
  rewrite
• 3:12
  it.
• 3:13
  Now
• 3:13
  we
• 3:13
  are
• 3:13
  going
• 3:14
  to
• 3:14
  take
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  exact
• 3:15
  same
• 3:15
  situation,
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  same
• 3:17
  moment,
• 3:17
  and
• 3:17
  we
• 3:17
  are
• 3:17
  going
• 3:18
  to
• 3:18
  give
• 3:18
  it
• 3:18
  new
• 3:19
  meaning.
• 3:20
  So
• 3:20
  instead
• 3:20
  of
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  was
• 3:21
  ignored,
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  shouldn't
• 3:22
  have
• 3:22
  spoken.
• 3:23
  You're
• 3:24
  gonna
• 3:24
  rewrite
• 3:24
  it
• 3:24
  as
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  spoke
• 3:25
  up,
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  that's
• 3:26
  something
• 3:26
  I've
• 3:26
  been
• 3:27
  working
• 3:27
  on.
• 3:27
  Even
• 3:28
  if
• 3:28
  no
• 3:28
  one
• 3:28
  responded,
• 3:28
  I
• 3:29
  showed
• 3:29
  up
• 3:29
  differently.
• 3:30
  And
• 3:30
  that
• 3:30
  is
• 3:30
  growth.
• 3:31
  That
• 3:31
  is
• 3:31
  progress
• 3:32
  or
• 3:32
  something
• 3:33
  else.
• 3:33
  You
• 3:33
  could
• 3:33
  write
• 3:34
  what
• 3:34
  is,
• 3:35
  I'm
• 3:35
  becoming
• 3:36
  someone
• 3:36
  who
• 3:36
  uses
• 3:36
  her
• 3:36
  voice
• 3:37
  even
• 3:37
  when
• 3:37
  it
• 3:37
  feels
• 3:38
  uncomfortable.
• 3:39
  We
• 3:39
  want
• 3:40
  to
• 3:40
  start
• 3:40
  writing
• 3:41
  things
• 3:41
  and
• 3:41
  rewriting
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  story
• 3:42
  in
• 3:42
  a
• 3:43
  positive
• 3:43
  way,
• 3:45
  in
• 3:45
  a
• 3:45
  way
• 3:45
  that
• 3:46
  you
• 3:46
  can
• 3:46
  imagine
• 3:47
  yourself.
• 3:48
  Step
• 3:48
  four
• 3:49
  is
• 3:49
  where
• 3:50
  it
• 3:50
  all
• 3:50
  call
• 3:51
  comes
• 3:51
  in.
• 3:53
  I
• 3:53
  want
• 3:54
  you
• 3:54
  not
• 3:54
  just
• 3:54
  to
• 3:55
  write
• 3:55
  it,
• 3:55
  but
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  want
• 3:56
  you
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  actually
• 3:57
  take
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  time
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  feel
• 3:59
  it.
• 4:01
  Pause
• 4:01
  for
• 4:01
  a
• 4:01
  second
• 4:02
  and
• 4:02
  feel
• 4:03
  that
• 4:03
  version
• 4:04
  of
• 4:04
  you.
• 4:05
  Feel
• 4:05
  the
• 4:05
  version
• 4:05
  of
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  that
• 4:06
  spoke
• 4:06
  up
• 4:06
  anyway
• 4:07
  when
• 4:07
  you
• 4:07
  didn't
• 4:07
  think
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  should.
• 4:08
  Feel
• 4:09
  the
• 4:09
  version
• 4:09
  of
• 4:09
  you
• 4:10
  that
• 4:10
  didn't
• 4:10
  shut
• 4:10
  down.
• 4:11
  Feel
• 4:11
  what
• 4:11
  it
• 4:12
  feels
• 4:12
  like
• 4:14
  when.
• 4:16
  You
• 4:16
  didn't
• 4:16
  make
• 4:16
  it
• 4:16
  mean
• 4:17
  something
• 4:17
  was
• 4:17
  wrong
• 4:18
  with
• 4:18
  you.
• 4:18
  Feel
• 4:18
  that
• 4:19
  how
• 4:19
  empowering
• 4:20
  in
• 4:20
  that
• 4:21
  it
• 4:21
  feels
• 4:21
  stronger,
• 4:22
  it
• 4:22
  feels
• 4:23
  more
• 4:23
  grounded,
• 4:24
  and
• 4:24
  it
• 4:24
  feels
• 4:25
  more
• 4:25
  self
• 4:25
  trusting.
• 4:26
  And
• 4:26
  my
• 4:26
  friends,
• 4:27
  this
• 4:27
  is
• 4:27
  where
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  shift
• 4:28
  happens
• 4:28
  because
• 4:29
  we
• 4:29
  are
• 4:29
  not
• 4:31
  trying
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  write
• 4:32
  a
• 4:32
  new
• 4:32
  you.
• 4:33
  We
• 4:33
  are
• 4:33
  not
• 4:33
  trying
• 4:34
  to
• 4:34
  do
• 4:34
  any
• 4:34
  of
• 4:34
  that.
• 4:34
  We're
• 4:35
  trying
• 4:35
  to
• 4:36
  bring
• 4:36
  you
• 4:36
  back
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  the
• 4:37
  most
• 4:37
  amazing,
• 4:38
  powerful,
• 4:39
  confident,
• 4:40
  authentic
• 4:41
  person
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  you
• 4:42
  were
• 4:42
  born
• 4:42
  to
• 4:42
  be
• 4:43
  before
• 4:43
  all
• 4:43
  this
• 4:43
  stuff
• 4:43
  happened.
• 4:44
  So
• 4:45
  how
• 4:45
  does
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  feel?
• 4:45
  Can
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  feel
• 4:46
  it
• 4:46
  in
• 4:46
  your
• 4:46
  body?
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  want
• 4:47
  you
• 4:47
  to
• 4:47
  picture
• 4:47
  that
• 4:48
  picture,
• 4:49
  what
• 4:49
  it
• 4:49
  feels
• 4:49
  like
• 4:50
  to
• 4:50
  have
• 4:51
  written
• 4:51
  the
• 4:51
  story.
• 4:51
  Picture,
• 4:52
  what
• 4:52
  it
• 4:52
  feels
• 4:52
  like
• 4:53
  if
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  story
• 4:53
  had
• 4:54
  ended
• 4:54
  up
• 4:54
  the
• 4:54
  way
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  you
• 4:55
  wanted
• 4:55
  it
• 4:56
  to,
• 4:57
  and
• 4:57
  that's
• 4:57
  what
• 4:57
  it's
• 4:57
  gonna
• 4:58
  do.
• 4:58
  You're
• 4:58
  gonna
• 4:58
  rewrite
• 4:58
  that
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  it's
• 4:59
  gonna
• 4:59
  get
• 4:59
  wired
• 5:00
  into
• 5:00
  your
• 5:00
  brain.
• 5:01
  So
• 5:02
  you're
• 5:02
  really
• 5:02
  not
• 5:02
  changing
• 5:03
  the
• 5:03
  situation.
• 5:03
  You
• 5:03
  still
• 5:04
  walked
• 5:04
  into
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  room.
• 5:05
  You
• 5:05
  still,
• 5:06
  those
• 5:06
  things
• 5:06
  still
• 5:06
  happen,
• 5:07
  but
• 5:07
  you're
• 5:08
  changing
• 5:08
  what
• 5:08
  it
• 5:08
  means
• 5:09
  about
• 5:09
  you,
• 5:09
  and
• 5:10
  you're
• 5:10
  changing
• 5:10
  what
• 5:10
  it
• 5:11
  means
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  you.
• 5:12
  That's
• 5:12
  the
• 5:12
  best
• 5:12
  thing
• 5:12
  I
• 5:13
  can
• 5:13
  say.
• 5:13
  And
• 5:13
  that's,
• 5:13
  it's
• 5:14
  a
• 5:14
  very
• 5:14
  simple
• 5:15
  exercise.
• 5:15
  Like
• 5:15
  all
• 5:16
  of
• 5:16
  these
• 5:16
  exercises
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  we
• 5:17
  give
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  on
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  Tammy's
• 5:18
  takes
• 5:18
  are,
• 5:19
  but
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  have
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  put
• 5:20
  some
• 5:20
  thought
• 5:20
  into
• 5:20
  it.
• 5:20
  And
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  have
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  really,
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  have
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  do
• 5:22
  the
• 5:22
  work.
• 5:23
  You
• 5:23
  have
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  be
• 5:23
  able
• 5:24
  to
• 5:25
  feel
• 5:25
  it
• 5:25
  and
• 5:25
  sit
• 5:26
  in
• 5:26
  it.
• 5:26
  That's
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  big,
• 5:27
  every
• 5:27
  single
• 5:27
  exercise,
• 5:28
  there's
• 5:28
  one
• 5:28
  little
• 5:28
  clincher
• 5:29
  where
• 5:29
  people
• 5:29
  get
• 5:30
  stuck
• 5:30
  in
• 5:30
  that.
• 5:30
  And
• 5:31
  sometimes
• 5:31
  it's
• 5:31
  just
• 5:32
  writing
• 5:32
  it,
• 5:33
  but
• 5:33
  not
• 5:33
  actually
• 5:33
  taking
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  time
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  feel
• 5:35
  it.
• 5:35
  So
• 5:36
  you
• 5:36
  wanna
• 5:36
  feel
• 5:36
  it.
• 5:37
  Now
• 5:37
  I'm
• 5:38
  gonna
• 5:38
  bring
• 5:38
  this
• 5:38
  back
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  little
• 5:39
  bit
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  something
• 5:40
  that
• 5:40
  we
• 5:40
  talk
• 5:40
  all
• 5:40
  about
• 5:41
  the
• 5:41
  all
• 5:41
  the
• 5:42
  time,
• 5:42
  and
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  is
• 5:43
  energy.
• 5:44
  Because
• 5:44
  your
• 5:44
  stories
• 5:45
  aren't
• 5:45
  just
• 5:46
  words.
• 5:47
  Your
• 5:47
  stories
• 5:47
  are
• 5:48
  energy
• 5:48
  stored
• 5:49
  in
• 5:49
  your
• 5:49
  body.
• 5:51
  The
• 5:51
  tightness,
• 5:51
  the
• 5:51
  anxiety,
• 5:52
  the
• 5:52
  reactions,
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  stress,
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  anger.
• 5:55
  That
• 5:56
  is
• 5:56
  your
• 5:56
  system
• 5:56
  literally
• 5:57
  holding
• 5:58
  onto
• 5:58
  the
• 5:58
  old
• 5:58
  story.
• 5:59
  And
• 5:59
  every
• 5:59
  time
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  replay
• 6:00
  it,
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  reinforce
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  same
• 6:02
  energetic
• 6:03
  pattern.
• 6:05
  Sometimes
• 6:05
  the
• 6:05
  energy
• 6:06
  part
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  it
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  what
• 6:07
  we're
• 6:07
  missing.
• 6:08
  We're
• 6:08
  missing
• 6:08
  the
• 6:09
  fact
• 6:09
  that
• 6:10
  when
• 6:11
  you're
• 6:11
  trying
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  rewrite
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  story,
• 6:12
  you're
• 6:12
  not
• 6:13
  rewriting
• 6:13
  it
• 6:13
  the
• 6:14
  right
• 6:14
  way
• 6:15
  because
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  don't
• 6:16
  know
• 6:16
  what
• 6:16
  your
• 6:16
  body
• 6:17
  is
• 6:17
  actually
• 6:17
  holding
• 6:17
  onto.
• 6:18
  You
• 6:18
  don't
• 6:18
  see
• 6:19
  where
• 6:19
  the
• 6:19
  stress
• 6:19
  is
• 6:20
  sitting.
• 6:20
  You
• 6:20
  don't
• 6:20
  see
• 6:20
  where
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  patterns
• 6:21
  are
• 6:21
  repeating
• 6:22
  themselves.
• 6:23
  You
• 6:23
  don't
• 6:23
  see,
• 6:23
  honestly
• 6:24
  what
• 6:24
  your
• 6:24
  system
• 6:24
  is
• 6:24
  even
• 6:25
  responding
• 6:25
  to
• 6:26
  'cause
• 6:26
  it's
• 6:26
  so
• 6:26
  deep
• 6:27
  in
• 6:27
  your
• 6:27
  tissues
• 6:27
  for
• 6:28
  so
• 6:28
  many
• 6:28
  decades.
• 6:29
  So
• 6:30
  that
• 6:30
  is
• 6:30
  where
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  frequency
• 6:32
  scans
• 6:32
  that
• 6:33
  I
• 6:33
  do
• 6:33
  come
• 6:33
  in
• 6:33
  and
• 6:34
  they're
• 6:34
  very
• 6:34
  fun,
• 6:35
  very
• 6:35
  interesting,
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  a
• 6:37
  great
• 6:37
  way
• 6:37
  of
• 6:37
  seeing
• 6:38
  what's
• 6:38
  being
• 6:38
  held
• 6:39
  in
• 6:39
  your
• 6:39
  tissues.
• 6:40
  Because
• 6:40
  instead
• 6:40
  of
• 6:40
  guessing,
• 6:41
  instead
• 6:41
  of
• 6:42
  overthinking,
• 6:43
  we
• 6:43
  can
• 6:43
  actually
• 6:43
  see
• 6:44
  what
• 6:44
  your
• 6:44
  body
• 6:45
  is
• 6:45
  holding.
• 6:45
  We
• 6:45
  can
• 6:45
  see
• 6:46
  stress
• 6:46
  patterns,
• 6:46
  we
• 6:47
  can
• 6:47
  see
• 6:47
  imbalances,
• 6:48
  we
• 6:48
  can
• 6:48
  see
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  areas
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  are
• 6:50
  out
• 6:50
  of
• 6:50
  alignment.
• 6:50
  And
• 6:50
  once
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  see
• 6:51
  it,
• 6:52
  everything
• 6:53
  will
• 6:53
  start
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  make
• 6:53
  sense.
• 6:54
  So
• 6:54
  if
• 6:54
  this
• 6:55
  episode
• 6:55
  hits
• 6:55
  and
• 6:56
  you're
• 6:56
  realizing,
• 6:56
  wow,
• 6:57
  I've
• 6:57
  been
• 6:57
  replaying
• 6:58
  the
• 6:58
  same
• 6:58
  story,
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  want
• 6:59
  you
• 6:59
  to
• 7:00
  invite,
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  wanna
• 7:01
  invite
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  try
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  bio
• 7:03
  frequency
• 7:03
  scan.
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  think
• 7:04
  you'll
• 7:04
  absolutely
• 7:05
  love
• 7:05
  it.
• 7:06
  You
• 7:06
  can
• 7:06
  book
• 7:06
  your
• 7:06
  free
• 7:07
  complimentary
• 7:07
  scan
• 7:08
  in
• 7:08
  the
• 7:08
  notes,
• 7:09
  in
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  show
• 7:09
  notes
• 7:10
  below,
• 7:10
  or
• 7:10
  you
• 7:11
  can
• 7:11
  come
• 7:11
  watch
• 7:11
  one
• 7:11
  live.
• 7:14
  It's
• 7:14
  an
• 7:14
  amazing
• 7:15
  way
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  really
• 7:16
  seeing
• 7:16
  what
• 7:16
  patterns
• 7:17
  and
• 7:17
  what
• 7:17
  beliefs
• 7:18
  that
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  body
• 7:19
  is
• 7:19
  holding
• 7:19
  onto
• 7:20
  that
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  are
• 7:20
  not
• 7:20
  letting
• 7:21
  go.
• 7:21
  So
• 7:21
  at
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  end
• 7:22
  of
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  day,
• 7:22
  guys,
• 7:23
  you're
• 7:23
  not
• 7:23
  stuck.
• 7:24
  You're
• 7:24
  literally
• 7:24
  just
• 7:25
  replaying
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  story
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  your
• 7:26
  body
• 7:26
  learned
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  very
• 7:27
  long
• 7:27
  time
• 7:27
  ago.
• 7:28
  The
• 7:28
  moment
• 7:29
  you
• 7:29
  change
• 7:29
  the
• 7:29
  story
• 7:30
  and
• 7:30
  shift
• 7:30
  the
• 7:31
  energy
• 7:31
  behind
• 7:31
  it,
• 7:32
  that
• 7:32
  is
• 7:32
  very
• 7:32
  important.
• 7:33
  You
• 7:33
  have
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  shift
• 7:34
  the
• 7:34
  energy
• 7:34
  behind
• 7:35
  it.
• 7:35
  Everything
• 7:36
  will
• 7:36
  begin
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  change.
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  promise
• 7:38
  you.
• 7:39
  So
• 7:39
  give
• 7:39
  it
• 7:39
  a
• 7:39
  shot.
• 7:40
  Write
• 7:40
  that
• 7:41
  story,
• 7:41
  rewrite
• 7:42
  that
• 7:42
  story.
• 7:43
  Sit
• 7:43
  in
• 7:43
  that
• 7:43
  for
• 7:44
  a
• 7:44
  moment.
• 7:44
  Feel
• 7:45
  how
• 7:45
  that
• 7:45
  outcome
• 7:46
  would've
• 7:46
  felt
• 7:47
  and
• 7:47
  let
• 7:48
  me
• 7:48
  know
• 7:48
  how
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  feel.
• 7:49
  Guys,
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  will
• 7:49
  see
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  back
• 7:50
  next
• 7:50
  time.
• 7:51
  Love
• 7:51
  you
• 7:51
  all
• 7:51
  have
• 7:51
  a
• 7:51
  blessed
• 7:52
  day.
• 7:52
  I.