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76: Feeling Defensive? The Four-Step Shift That Rebuilds Trust and Connection
Ever notice how defensiveness shows up even when your intentions are good?
In this episode, Luke Gordon reveals why defensiveness is a biological protection strategy — not a moral failure — and how to shift it into connection.
You’ll learn:
Why your nervous system reacts before you do
How empathy changes the way truth lands
The four-step shift: Pause, Name, Acknowledge, Respond
How to rebuild emotional safety after conflict
💡 “Truth lands differently when empathy comes first.”
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Chapters
00:00 – “You’re being defensive!”…
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