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Who I Am Is Who I'm Not Anymore · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing that everyone is
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  always learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C.
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  Welcome back to another Winning Wednesday. Today, I'm going to talk about something
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  that hit me like a ton of bricks.
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  Who I am is who I'm not anymore.
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  Let me say that again. Who I am is who I'm not anymore.
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  At first, it sounds confusing, but if you're growing, healing,
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  evolving, learning, stretching, and becoming, then you understand exactly what I mean.
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  The person I am today isn't the same person I was five years ago.
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  It's not even the same person I was one year ago.
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  Every level of life requires a different version of you.
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  And the beautiful thing about growth is that eventually you look back and realize
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  that the person who got you here isn't the person who will take you there.
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  That's not an insult to your former self. It's evidence that your former self did their job.
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  The old version of you survived. The old version of you learned.
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  The old version of you sacrificed.
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  The old version of you carried you through seasons that the current version
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  of you may never fully understand.
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  Honor that version, but don't become imprisoned by it.
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  Too many of us spend our lives introducing ourselves through outdated versions of who we used to be.
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  We say things like, I've always been shy.
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  I've always struggled with money I've always been insecure I've always quit
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  when things got hard I've always chosen the wrong people Maybe, but is that still true?
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  Because sometimes we continue wearing labels that no longer fit We keep introducing,
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  ourselves using expired identities We keep carrying baggage from airports we landed in years ago,
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  Growth happens when you stop asking who have I always been and start asking who am I becoming?
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  The winning ticket isn't money. The winning ticket isn't fame.
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  The winning ticket isn't status. The winning ticket is self-awareness.
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  The moment you recognize that you've changed, the moment you realize your standards
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  are different, your habits are different, Your mindset is different.
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  Your conversations are different. Your boundaries are different.
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  Your goals are different.
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  That's when you know you're winning. No need to undo anything.
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  No need to disown your past.
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  No need to apologize for where you've been.
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  Just acknowledge what no longer belongs.
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  Because growth isn't always about adding. Sometimes it's about recognizing what's no longer true.
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  You are not your mistakes. You are not your worst season.
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  You are not your greatest disappointment. You are not the person who didn't
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  know what you know now. You are becoming.
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  And every time you choose growth over comfort, healing over hiding,
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  and purpose over fear, you move one step closer to the person you're meant to become.
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  So today, I challenge you, stop introducing yourself through your history and
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  start living from your future, because who you are is who you're not anymore,
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  and that's a beautiful thing.
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  Here's your fairness homework. This week's assignment, the not anymore list.
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  Grab a notebook and create two columns. Column one, write, I used to.
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  Something like, I used to doubt myself. I used to stay quiet. I used to settle.
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  I used to procrastinate. I used to believe I couldn't anymore.
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  Column two, not anymore.
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  Write things like, I trust myself. I use my voice.
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  I choose what I deserve. I take action.
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  I believe I can learn anything.
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  Then answer these three questions. What mindset have I outgrown?
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  What habit no longer serves me? What version of myself am I actively becoming.
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  Finally, stand in front of a mirror and say, I honor who I was.
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  I embrace who I am.
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  I am excited about who I'm becoming.
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  Winning isn't becoming someone else. Winning is finally realizing you've outgrown
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  the version of yourself that thought you couldn't.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.