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#HURDLEMOMENT: How to Handle Holiday Guilt & Get Back On Track · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily about a year with a new episode
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  Speaker 1: of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talks to
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  Speaker 1: everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about how
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  Speaker 1: they got through tough times hurdles of sorts by leaning
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  Speaker 1: in to wellness. Today, I am talking about what you
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  Speaker 1: can do, actionable steps to help you get back on
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  Speaker 1: the bandwagon. Listen. It is the holidays, and I am
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  Speaker 1: the first person that will tell you that you do
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  Speaker 1: not need to go running, or go to a zoomba class,
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  Speaker 1: or take yoga or god whatever activity that you love
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  Speaker 1: to do. You don't need to do those things to
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  Speaker 1: earn these festivities. To earn the meal around the table
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  Speaker 1: with your family, or your holiday cocktail party or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: None of that is something that you need to earn.
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  Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean that come the holiday season and
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  Speaker 1: after all of the joy comes and goes and ebbs
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  Speaker 1: and flows, that you might not feel a little bit frustrated.
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  Speaker 1: I've definitely been there both Yes, in the holiday season
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  Speaker 1: for sure, at the beginning of this week after a
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  Speaker 1: long weekend home indulging with my friends and family, but
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  Speaker 1: also earlier this year, in a big way, I remember
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  Speaker 1: coming back from a work trip to a Bisa and
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  Speaker 1: we were eating the best foods and consuming lots of
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  Speaker 1: alcohol and yes, like doing a bit of running around,
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  Speaker 1: but I was just feeling really frustrated with myself, frustrated
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  Speaker 1: with my body, my self talk. The way I was
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  Speaker 1: speaking to myself wasn't really wonderful. And I actually talked
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  Speaker 1: about that in a previous Hurdle moment, which I'll link
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  Speaker 1: in the description of this episode. But basically, what I
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  Speaker 1: realized is it wasn't that I wanted to make a
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  Speaker 1: pivot to get back on the bandwagon, if you will,
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  Speaker 1: because I stepped on a scale and saw a number.
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  Speaker 1: I wanted to get back on the bandwagon because I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to feel better. And so that's what I'm hoping
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  Speaker 1: to help you do. If you're listening to this episode today.
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  Speaker 1: As always, if you have a Hurdle moment of your
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  Speaker 1: own to share you just want to say hi, feel
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  Speaker 1: free to reach out to me. It's Emily at Hurdle
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  Speaker 1: Do me a favor. If you have a friend that
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  Speaker 1: you know might be struggling just a little bit, feel
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  Speaker 1: free to send them this episode, and of course make
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  Speaker 1: sure to head on into the iTunes store and rate
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  Speaker 1: and review Hurdle. It helps the podcast get some rankings
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  Speaker 1: on the chart and of course it just brightens my
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  Speaker 1: day to know that what we're doing here, it's making
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  Speaker 1: an impact. And that's all for now. With that, let's
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  Speaker 1: get to hurdling. So you're not feeling so hot. Like
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  Speaker 1: I said, I've been there, I get it. Today, I'm
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  Speaker 1: talking all about strategies that you can use to get
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  Speaker 1: back on the bandwagon. The first strategy, do not compare
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  Speaker 1: yourself to someone else. Let me be clear, if you
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  Speaker 1: want to make a change, this change has to be
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  Speaker 1: all about you. If you go in too wanting to
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  Speaker 1: get back on the bandwagon, so to speak, because you're
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  Speaker 1: seeing that someone else is doing it, if you're flooded
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  Speaker 1: with Instagram stories of people running or doing insane lifts
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  Speaker 1: at the gym or whatever you're watching on there and
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  Speaker 1: you just feel like because they're doing it that you
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  Speaker 1: have to do it, well, that's not going to do
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  Speaker 1: you any good. So, just like with any goal, with
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  Speaker 1: anything that you set your mind to, it's really important
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  Speaker 1: first off upfront to identify your why. Why do you
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  Speaker 1: want to make this change? Is it because again that
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  Speaker 1: you want to feel better? Do you want to have
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  Speaker 1: more energy? Do you, like me live in a fourth
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  Speaker 1: floor walk up and you're tired of feeling completely gassed
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  Speaker 1: once you get up the stairs. Whatever the case may be,
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  Speaker 1: whatever your why is, take some time to write it down.
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  Speaker 1: And exercise that I love when I'm working on my
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  Speaker 1: goals is I sit down with a notebook and I
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  Speaker 1: set a timer for twenty minutes. I'll admit my handcramps
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  Speaker 1: up after about like five to six, But I sit
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  Speaker 1: there with my thoughts and I write down whatever comes
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  Speaker 1: to me. And this exercise is great because then I
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  Speaker 1: can look back at my real thought process. You know,
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  Speaker 1: until you have the opportunity sometimes to say things out
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  Speaker 1: loud or to write them down, you might have a
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  Speaker 1: hard time articulating exactly what's going through your mind. So
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  Speaker 1: take a pen, set a timer, write some things down,
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  Speaker 1: identify your why, and that will help you not compare
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  Speaker 1: yourself to someone else on this journey. The second strategy
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  Speaker 1: commit to something. Now, this can literally be anything. You
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  Speaker 1: guys know that I'm a runner, so maybe it's signing
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  Speaker 1: up for a race in a few months, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: your goal isn't tied to an event but instead an activity,
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  Speaker 1: so perhaps you want to walk the long way to
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  Speaker 1: your office every day, or I know, for example, Runner's
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  Speaker 1: World is doing their Runners World Run Streak right now,
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  Speaker 1: which is simply getting out and running one mile a day.
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  Speaker 1: It's literally on my to do list for after I'm
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  Speaker 1: finished recording this podcast. And it's nothing crazy, right one mile.
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  Speaker 1: Molly Ridderbeck, their health and fitness director. She said to
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  Speaker 1: me today that I think of it as a five
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  Speaker 1: minute thing. It's five minutes out and five minutes back
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  Speaker 1: and that's it. And setting these smart which is specific, measurable, attainable,
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  Speaker 1: realistic and time bound goals, they can help us move
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  Speaker 1: forward and make progress. Next strategy, do not be afraid
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  Speaker 1: to ask for help when you're going through something like this.
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  Speaker 1: It's totally normal to feel a little bit alone, but
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  Speaker 1: you don't have to, especially this time of year. I
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  Speaker 1: promise you, this is something that a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: can relate to. So maybe reach out to a friend,
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  Speaker 1: confide in them, open up to them and tell them, hey, listen,
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing this thing. I have this new goal let
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  Speaker 1: them in on what your strategy is and be open
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  Speaker 1: with them. Say hey, it would mean a lot to
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  Speaker 1: me if maybe once a week you can just give
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  Speaker 1: me a pulse check or ask them is it okay
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  Speaker 1: if I reach out to you on Thursdays with a
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  Speaker 1: check in. I promise you if this is a good
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  Speaker 1: friend or a family member or someone that really cares
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  Speaker 1: about you, they will be more than happy to help.
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  Speaker 1: Next up, celebrate those small wins right. So again, if
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  Speaker 1: your goal is to run one mile every single day,
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  Speaker 1: when you start doing it day after day after day,
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  Speaker 1: that is something to be acknowledged. You don't only need
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  Speaker 1: to give yourself credit because you see something like a
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  Speaker 1: number on a scale or you're waiting for someone to
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  Speaker 1: give you some sort of praise. No, all progress is
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  Speaker 1: positive progress, which leads me to my next point, which
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  Speaker 1: is that it's important to understand that these things take time.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like you're going to wake up one day
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  Speaker 1: and drink some magical potion and feel as though the
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  Speaker 1: holidays or whatever you're trying to get through never happened.
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  Speaker 1: That's not how it works. But what I will say
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  Speaker 1: can be really helpful is to keep track of where
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  Speaker 1: your mindset is during this journey. So wake up in
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  Speaker 1: the morning and do two things. One write down one
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  Speaker 1: thing that you're grateful for that happened within the last
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  Speaker 1: twenty four hours. And then two, write down how you're feeling.
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  Speaker 1: Check in with yourself. This is super critical for you
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  Speaker 1: to make that positive progress, to come back to a
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  Speaker 1: place where you're happy with how you feel. And last,
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  Speaker 1: but not least, figure out three easy things that you
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  Speaker 1: can add into your routine that'll make you, without a doubt,
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  Speaker 1: feel better every single day. So, for example, I know
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  Speaker 1: I feel better when I write in my gratitude journal,
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  Speaker 1: when I drink athletic greens in the morning, and when
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  Speaker 1: I move my body in some way. I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: that that some way needs to be a dedicated two
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  Speaker 1: hour workout every single day, but the things that I'm
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  Speaker 1: listening here, they're relatively easy to make sure that I
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  Speaker 1: can check off before my head hits the pillow at night.
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  Speaker 1: So I challenge you and please DM me let me
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  Speaker 1: know what your three things are. Identify three simple things
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  Speaker 1: that you can do every single day to feel better.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's connecting with a friend that lifts you up.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's getting to bed before a certain time. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's being more mindful about using your cell phone in
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  Speaker 1: your bed and leaving it in your living room. Whatever
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  Speaker 1: the case may be, you can easily find three different
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  Speaker 1: things to add to your routine or maybe that you
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  Speaker 1: used to do that you want to bring back into
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  Speaker 1: the mix. Three easy things to include in your routine
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  Speaker 1: that will make you feel just that one percent better.
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  Speaker 1: And like I said, let me in, clue me in
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  Speaker 1: on what you've got going on. And that's all for
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  Speaker 1: now again getting on the bandwagon again. It doesn't need
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  Speaker 1: to feel super overwhelming. I am here, I feel you
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  Speaker 1: and trust me, I am also trying to put in
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  Speaker 1: that work. So tag me at Emily Body at Hurdle Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Let me know how it's going for you and look
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  Speaker 1: forward to following along another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys
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  Speaker 1: next time.