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The Anatomy of a Myth: Why Freud Was Wrong About Your Sex Life · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for June 19, 2026 The Anatomy of a Myth Why Freud Was Wrong
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  About Your Sex Life How do you perceive your spouse sexually speaking?
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  It matters because how you see them affects how you act and what you expect sexually.
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  If your perception is inaccurate, that will limit or hurt your sex life.
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  Culture feeds us stereotypes and lies about how men and women are sexually.
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  Men are selfish. All they care about is sex. If you don't keep them satisfied, they will cheat.
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  Women use sex to get what they want Women who don't enjoy sex just haven't been
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  with a guy who knows how to do it right Women stop wanting sex after marriage.
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  Most of these are true of some individuals. Perhaps you had a relationship with
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  such a person before marrying your spouse.
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  And you no doubt have friends who have experienced these things.
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  But none of these is the norm, and paying them on your spouse because of their
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  plumbing is unfair and leads to problems.
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  But there are other false ways of seeing your spouse that are far more insidious
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  and do a lot of harm. Let's look at one.
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  Women should orgasm from intercourse. We can thank Freud for this one.
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  He proclaimed that clitoral orgasms were infantile and that mature women should
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  only climax through penetrative intercourse, the so-called vaginal orgasm.
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  What Freud didn't know is orgasms during intercourse are usually a result of
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  indirect stimulation of the clitoris.
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  Today we know one's ability to climax from intercourse is based on how far her
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  clitoris is from her vagina.
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  Less than an inch, she probably can. More than an inch, she can't.
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  It has nothing to do with her mind or his skill. It comes down to anatomy.
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  Sadly, there are those who still believe Freud's error. There are women who
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  could enjoy sex but don't because they are not built to orgasm from intercourse
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  alone, and they and or their husbands won't do anything else.
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  I've talked to men who would be happy to give her an orgasm if it's not their
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  way, but she won't hear it, and to men who think her orgasm has to be the result
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  of intercourse, or it's wrong.
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  Other couples do what it takes for her to climax, but she feels bad about it.
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  She thinks there's something wrong with her.
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  She thinks if she were a real woman, intercourse would be enough.
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  Or perhaps she secretly blames her husband How very sad for them as a couple.
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  God never said Thou shalt orgasmeth from thrusting If you can and want to,
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  great If you can't or don't want to, also great,
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  If you want a practical workaround, try this Get a small vibrator and place
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  it between your bodies During face-to-face intercourse There's a link in the
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  show notes to one such vibe This is Paul And misinformation doesn't help you do sex well.