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[EP14] Stressed & exhausted with life changes. How to manage? · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  During this last week, I've had so much uncertainty and busyness because I've moved house.
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  At times I wanted to give up.
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  So I kept reminding myself, small consistent steps, rest and begin again.
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  But feel like my head was saying bullshit in response because I was so tired and cranky.
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  How do you stick to the teachings and apply them even when the ego is trying to undermine them?
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  Thank you for the question.
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  So my answer to that would be the ego will always undermine whatever is present or the present moment.
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  So he's always trying to keep us in the comfort zone even though this is not comfortable being tired and cranky.
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  In other words, it'll try and keep you away from change basically.
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  In this instance, the answer I would give is, you know, if you're exhausted, if you're tired, you just need rest.
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  Like the body just needs sleep.
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  Sometimes I just find that that's what you've just got to do.
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  Like you've just got to respond to that and, you know, use up that time that you've got.
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  Because maybe the thing that you're doing, you know, is a certain stint of time, a short stint of time.
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  And you know it's going to be a few days or a week or a few weeks, right?
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  So whatever the thing is that we're doing.
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  And you know that like, okay, I'm just exhausted.
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  I can't do anything else but rest and take care of this thing, this project, this task.
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  And so in that case, then you just have to give yourself what you need, right?
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  So it goes back to the basic needs of like food and sleep, hydration.
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  And I find personally for me, it's difficult to function when I've not had enough sleep.
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  And I'm sure there's enough studies now that give us the proof, right?
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  The scientific proof that not having slept enough, it's like trying to operate with a
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  brain that is drunk, right?
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  it's like difficult to focus it's difficult to make any decisions live alone live alone empowering
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  decisions so it's hard to function and you kind of just have to take care of that first
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  also the other part of it is sometimes you know you can go through a stint of
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  personally I'll speak for myself I can go through a stint of like less sleep for a little while
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  and just you know push through the project or the task and then I know on the other end of it
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  more rest like I'll make up for it and actually catch up and give my body what it needs so I think
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  there is no shortcut to sleep if you need sleep then you need sleep the body needs sleep then you
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  just have to give it that there is no kind of like techniques around that meditation certainly helps
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  I've had the experience I think I've shared with you guys that was a period when I was meditating
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  you know two hours and then I went up to like four hours and because of our meditations we go
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  into theta brainwave what I found was four hours of sleep and four hours of meditation
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  seemed to work for a period of time I wasn't trying to sleep less I wasn't trying to prove
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  anything it literally was like 2 30 to like 4 30 in the morning I would be up and I'm like okay
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  what should i do now so i would just sit and meditate and my body you know would drop into
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  deep rest but again i wouldn't recommend that as a replacement for sleep like i don't think you know
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  you should replace sleep with meditation because sleep is sleep like you need it the body just goes
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  goes through its rest and digest functions you know it's healing functions the brain needs it
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  like the body just needs it so you just have to give it that but I think as far as like you know
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  if you're asking about teachings and how do you keep the ego in check the ego is always going to
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  do its job and I want to say it's going to keep us in our comfort zone but actually the the comfort
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  zone is what's uncomfortable you know sometimes short term a lot of times long term it's
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  uncomfortable because it keeps us away from the change that we want to make the goals that we're
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  It keeps us in not just comfort zone, but away from the change.
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  Like it keeps us away from making a change in our lives.
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  So in this instance, you know, you're talking about moving homes.
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  Obviously, it's a big change.
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  It's going to try and fight everything and put things in the way, like obstacles in the way.
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  So it's just kind of how it functions.
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  We know it well.
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  so you know i think after you've got given yourself enough sleep then the next part of it is
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  then i'd look to the practices you know it's like even if you can afford a few minutes of meditation
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  a few minutes of practice that's going to make a difference right so clarity of mind just being in
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  a much more kind of calmer peaceful state probably you know you're going to have to make lots of
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  little decisions as you're doing your moving and also the body's going to be probably exhausted
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  and stiff and tired so it's going to feel good to stretch and sometimes the thing that seems
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  counterproductive like a bit of rest you know or going for a walk or having the meal having the
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  extra you know whatever minutes or hour of sleep we don't give ourselves that and then we actually
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  pay the price we suffer you know we're less productive it's difficult to be productive because
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  like i said before like you know the brain is kind of drunk because it hasn't had enough sleep
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  so we're trying to function with like half a brain you know and make things happen which is even
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  harder so that would be my answer to that i don't know if there's any kind of detail there that i'm
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  missing it seemed like a pretty straightforward question so that would be my answer to that
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  I think it's okay to you know fall off the wagon to sometimes you know you're doing a stint that
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  you're just going to have to you know shift things around a little bit during that stint
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  until you get through it get past it then you can go back to your routines and as far as like
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  falling off routines you know we all fall off our routines we all fall off the routines are there
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  just as a foundation you know a solid foundation underneath us so that for me it feels like you
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  know when the days get crazy it's like the ground underneath me is moving like quicksand you know
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  and the practices the yoga meditation in our case gives me that foundation underneath so that
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  i it feels like i'm standing on solid ground not quicksand as i move through the day metaphorically
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  speaking of course so you know it's not a thing it's not another beating stick you know that we
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  use to punish ourselves like i didn't do the thing it's like it's okay like we all fall off the thing
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  the practice just get back on just start again and you know if it's been a while then you're
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  gonna have to start back maybe with smaller increments right like smaller amounts and then
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  increase it little by little which i find is a good way to create a habit you know we're coming
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  up into new year soon in a couple of weeks most of us are busy with christmas so we haven't even
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  thought about new year yet but new year is coming and around about this time we get into you know
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  our goals and intentions for the year and we start again and we want to get into certain habits
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  and i found an effective way to create habits or get back into good habits is to start small
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  you know rather than get up off your couch and run a marathon in one day and then give up
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  because it didn't work it's better actually just to go for a walk around the block a little jog
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  and then slowly increase it you know so just like that with the meditation and the practice
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  if you're restarting if you're starting again then start with small increments and then increase it
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  little by little because that way rather than punishing yourself you can actually just reward
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  yourself like wow i did five minutes and today i did seven minutes and today i did nine minutes
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  or ten minutes you know and little by little you can start to increase it as you hit kind of little
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  plateaus you can stay you know let it shift and then keep increasing that limit the ceiling
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  and therefore the growth right like the expansion that we experience in in our routines and the
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  routines are only there as much as to create this foundation to allow us to be in a centered
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  calm powerful present place within ourselves so that we can actually move through the day
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  and whatever the day brings us you know and the challenges that it throws us
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  we're able to handle it from a much more centered power powerful place within so there you go