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244. Shift to Silence · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I have a friend of mine that works in a
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  Speaker 1: call center, and I remember calling her one day and
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  Speaker 1: I was really shocked because I couldn't hear her very well.
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  Speaker 1: And it turns out there was noise or music being
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  Speaker 1: pumped through that call center, and it was so loud
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  Speaker 1: and obnoxious, and I'm like, how do you all work
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  Speaker 1: in an environment that is this loud? But when you
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  Speaker 1: think about it, pretty much everywhere you go there's no voice,
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  Speaker 1: there's music, there's something that is drowning out just the quiet,
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  Speaker 1: the blank or white noise that could be in the background.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, think about when you go to a grocery store,
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  Speaker 1: a clothing store, any store, bookstore, even there's some type
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  Speaker 1: of music being pumped through that environment. I was really
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  Speaker 1: shocked that my friend was at work dealing with this.
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  Speaker 1: But I remember working in retail and we worked with
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  Speaker 1: having at the time musac as part of the background
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  Speaker 1: for people, and part of the buying experience was to
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  Speaker 1: have the musac. It was so interesting because there were
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  Speaker 1: times where because we had to actually turn it on
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  Speaker 1: or turn it off at the end of the day,
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  Speaker 1: and there were times when it was so odd when
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  Speaker 1: it was quiet. I mean, sometimes you come home, and
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  Speaker 1: I know the first thing I do is I might
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  Speaker 1: turn the TV on. So I think we just have
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  Speaker 1: gotten used to being in environments where there's all this
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  Speaker 1: background noise, or there's background noise, or there's something that's
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  Speaker 1: just preventing us from being quiet. And that's my challenge
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  Speaker 1: this week. And I've had this challenge of being intentional
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  Speaker 1: about finding your quiet time, and we're here again because
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  Speaker 1: quiet time starts with the fact that there's a noise
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  Speaker 1: problem that we all have. I mean, think about when
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  Speaker 1: you get in your car, the first thing people want
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  Speaker 1: to do is turn on the radio, turn on music
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  Speaker 1: or their favorite artists or something. It's time to shift
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  Speaker 1: into silence. Silence is such a beautiful place to shift
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  Speaker 1: into and to be intentional about that shift because think
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  Speaker 1: about it. Where else are you finding areas in your
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  Speaker 1: life to be quiet? I mean, even think about it.
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  Speaker 1: If you go to church, there's a music ministry, there's
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  Speaker 1: a choir, there's a band, or you know, a group
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  Speaker 1: that plays instruments. There's always something in any of those spaces,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's church or work. I mean even at work,
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  Speaker 1: people are sitting at their desk with their air pods
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  Speaker 1: or music plugged in because they got to keep that
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  Speaker 1: noise going. They got to keep those sounds pumping through.
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  Speaker 1: Not to mention the zoom calls and the conference calls
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  Speaker 1: and the one off calls and the many calls. We're
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  Speaker 1: constantly in a space of noise every day. And for
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  Speaker 1: those of you who come home and you have kids,
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  Speaker 1: you have pets, you have life going on, there's more
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  Speaker 1: noise around you. So it doesn't end. And that's why
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  Speaker 1: you must be intentional about creating and curating intentionally spaces
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  Speaker 1: where you can be quiet, where you can be in quiet.
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  Speaker 1: Silence matters. It matters because you need clarity, and it's
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  Speaker 1: hard to do that. There's an example, and it's so
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  Speaker 1: interesting if you think about this, and I've been there,
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  Speaker 1: and I think you've been there too. You're driving in
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  Speaker 1: your car, right and maybe you were listening to your
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  Speaker 1: music and you get carried away, or you were on
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  Speaker 1: the phone talking to a friend and you to realize,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, I just missed my exit. What's the
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  Speaker 1: first thing you do? You turn, you shut the call off, right,
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  Speaker 1: You're like, you know, hold on, let me call you back,
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  Speaker 1: let me figure out what I'm doing. Because you need
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  Speaker 1: to be quiet. You need to have clarity, You need
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  Speaker 1: to clear your mind so you can realize what you
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  Speaker 1: just did and how do you course correct. It's hard
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  Speaker 1: to do that when the music is up or the other.
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  Speaker 1: The other one that freaks me out, which is always
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  Speaker 1: interesting to see and experience, is when you do something
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  Speaker 1: like that. You're by yourself, but you're listening to your music,
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  Speaker 1: and the first thing you do is you turn your
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  Speaker 1: music down. That's not a coincidence. You in that moment
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  Speaker 1: need quiet so you can get clarity, so you can
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  Speaker 1: course correct, so you can find a new way, so
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  Speaker 1: you can choose differently, you can make new decision points
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  Speaker 1: to get you to where you need to go. And
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  Speaker 1: so subconsciously, I think we realize that this is an
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  Speaker 1: important thing to have to experience, but we're so used
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  Speaker 1: to We have gotten used to a society that is loud,
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  Speaker 1: that is busy, that's singing, that's dancing, that's entertaining. That
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  Speaker 1: there is something being spoken, being sung, being heard, whether
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  Speaker 1: it's an instrument, a drum beat, whatever, that has to
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  Speaker 1: capture our attention. And what I'm saying to you is
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  Speaker 1: there doesn't always have to be that. It doesn't always
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  Speaker 1: have to be that way if you're seeking clarity or creativity,
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  Speaker 1: or for God's sakes, your mental health is so important,
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  Speaker 1: and for some of us, that mental health break may
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  Speaker 1: simply mean getting away from it all and just taking
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  Speaker 1: a walk by yourself with no music on, with no
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  Speaker 1: phone calls, not doing a zoom call on the walk,
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  Speaker 1: but just being quiet. I don't know what's going to
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  Speaker 1: resonate with you, but I know that you need to
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  Speaker 1: have an outlet that allows you to unplug from every day,
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  Speaker 1: every moment filled with noise. Practical ways to do this.
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  Speaker 1: You're at work, it's a beautiful day, Take a ten
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  Speaker 1: minute walk by yourself, go outside, enjoy what nature has
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  Speaker 1: to offer. Be by yourself, be with your thoughts by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Because I know it's easy to invite a friend. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going for a walk, you want to come with,
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  Speaker 1: Try doing that by yourself a couple of times. I
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  Speaker 1: think you'll fall in love with the idea of just
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  Speaker 1: being in your own thoughts, in your own space, by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Life brings chaos, life does bring a lot of noise
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  Speaker 1: with it. You get to be intentional about those moments,
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  Speaker 1: quiet moments. I've even gone so far as to call
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  Speaker 1: them holy moments, because for me, my moments with God
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  Speaker 1: have often been me praying to God, so that means
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  Speaker 1: I'm speaking, I'm talking, or even sometimes my mind is
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  Speaker 1: filled with many thoughts. My challenge my holy moment is
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  Speaker 1: you know what He's heard, everything you had to say,
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you just listen this time? For those of
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  Speaker 1: us who believe in God higher power, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: times we're looking for an answer. We're like, Okay, I
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  Speaker 1: need an answer, God, tell me, tell me, tell me.
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  Speaker 1: But we're talking, we're speaking. It's hard to hear someone
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  Speaker 1: when you are speaking. So it's going to require you
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  Speaker 1: to be quiet, to give room and give space to
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  Speaker 1: hear the whispers, to hear the message, to get the
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  Speaker 1: direct just pipe it down a little bit, shut off
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  Speaker 1: the noise. I realize when you go into a grocery store,
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  Speaker 1: you can't shut off the music. Or my friend that
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  Speaker 1: worked in a call center and she doesn't work in
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  Speaker 1: that center anymore, she couldn't control not just the sound,
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  Speaker 1: but the volume was obnoxiously loud. But there are moments
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  Speaker 1: you can control that you can be thoughtful about, intentional about.
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  Speaker 1: Those are the ones I want you to focus on,
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  Speaker 1: not the ones you can't control the ones you can't manipulate,
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  Speaker 1: but you can find time in your day every day,
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  Speaker 1: even if it's five minutes, to be intentional about being quiet,
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  Speaker 1: to reclaim your time back. So that's your challenge this week.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to have a week of intentional quiet.
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  Speaker 1: It can be five minutes a day, ten minutes a day,
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  Speaker 1: it can be walking in nature. Just be quiet. It's
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  Speaker 1: going to change how you show up. You're going to
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  Speaker 1: appreciate those moments more and more, and you are going
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  Speaker 1: to tap into that clarity, that creativity, the things that
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  Speaker 1: you're searching and you're seeking to gain that we often
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  Speaker 1: can't when the world around us is noisy. I hope
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