EP 698: When Being Chosen Becomes Your Whole Identity (Your Secure Relationship Era Pt. 1)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice · Oct 28, 2026 · 28m

The goal is not to stop wanting love. The goal is to stop losing yourself while you are trying to receive it.

Today we are kicking off a brand new series, your secure relationship era, and it’s all about decentering romantic love. (There’s a huge distinction between decentering and devaluing.) Somewhere along the way, you were taught that being chosen was the ultimate proof that your life mattered. So your mood depends on their attention, your confidence depends on their consistency, and your future begins to revolve around whether they choose you. This is not your fault, but you do get to…