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what's a dapiller? · Top Five

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  Speaker 1: Episode forty two, I think possibly of the top five podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I am Kaylin sitting across once again from my co
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  Speaker 1: host Jason Browny. If you're new here or you forgot
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  Speaker 1: because we may have slacked a little bit. We pick
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  Speaker 1: five things each week that we love, one thing that
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  Speaker 1: we either hate made us crash out or cry, and
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  Speaker 1: we talked shit in between. How are you my friend?
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  Speaker 2: Pretty good? Just I'm sorry if random computer noises start
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  Speaker 2: going after in this episode, but my Microsoft teams is
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  Speaker 2: trying to connect and I can't exit out of it.
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  Speaker 1: Why would it be different than any other episode? That's
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  Speaker 1: completely fine.
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  Speaker 2: sorry if there was a noise right there.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, something has gone very wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Are you still in therapy?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: You are? Do you go every week?
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  Speaker 2: Every week? Every Wednesday?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? Well, I guarantee this has never happened to you,
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  Speaker 1: because like you're you. But I have started recently with
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  Speaker 1: a new therapist and had kind of like an awkward
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  Speaker 1: situation happened, And I never thought that that would like
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  Speaker 1: happen in therapy.
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  Speaker 2: Really trying to fuck.
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  Speaker 1: She's a woman. Oh I don't think so. No, the
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  Speaker 1: opposite of trying to fuck No. We had like a weird,
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  Speaker 1: like tense moment and I don't it was very odd.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't. I didn't think this was supposed
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  Speaker 1: to happen, and I don't really know like what the
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  Speaker 1: protocol is. But it got into like a very weird place,
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  Speaker 1: like things got really weird.
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  Speaker 2: Like like aggressive not a girl.
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  Speaker 1: Well honestly, well, listen, everybody like receives information differently, right,
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  Speaker 1: like like my mom always that you put it through
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  Speaker 1: your own filter whatever, So you know, could have been
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  Speaker 1: on me, could have not. But I was like very
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  Speaker 1: not excited, but like I like when I have something
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  Speaker 1: to talk about, because sometimes when they just sit and
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  Speaker 1: stair it me, I'm like I don't, you know whatever, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And so I had something to talk about, and like
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  Speaker 1: I very much was feeling like proud of myself in
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  Speaker 1: this situation, like it's just and we don't have to
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  Speaker 1: get into the weeds about it, but it's just like I,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I set boundaries with someone that I never
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  Speaker 1: really have before, and it kind of went in a
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  Speaker 1: positive way, or so I thought. And so when I
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  Speaker 1: was like telling her about it, her like first reaction
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  Speaker 1: was like you thought you didn't want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: that person anymore, and I was like, well I don't,
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  Speaker 1: but like I didn't really feel like I had option
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  Speaker 1: in this situation, and like then it was like, well
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  Speaker 1: why not. And I understand, like therapists are there to
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  Speaker 1: challenge you and like make you think about things differently,
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  Speaker 1: but like she's a very new therapist for me, So
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  Speaker 1: I think part of the story was trying to give
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  Speaker 1: her an example about like what my communication has been
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  Speaker 1: like over the years with this person. And then part
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  Speaker 1: of it was, like I said, like I felt really proud,
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  Speaker 1: and so it felt like a hard stop. And then
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  Speaker 1: I instantly like and I'm going through a time right
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  Speaker 1: now where I'm like trying to like trans to be transparent,
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  Speaker 1: like regain my confidence and my trust in myself, and
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  Speaker 1: so it kind of was like a hard stop, like
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  Speaker 1: what I heard is like you did the wrong thing,
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  Speaker 1: and not that I thought she was overtly saying that,
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  Speaker 1: but in my like in my mind, I guess I
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  Speaker 1: thought there wasn't like any other option, and then I
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  Speaker 1: kind of felt like a little bit shamed, and so
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  Speaker 1: then you know, I was like, well, like I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I kind of said, well, okay, maybe now I thought,
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  Speaker 1: now I think that I had handled this situation wrong.
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  Speaker 1: But then it like if that's what she was saying,
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  Speaker 1: she wouldn't like stand on it. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: I'm explaining this right. But then I'm like, okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: how like how should I have handled it? And then
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  Speaker 1: it would be like, well, that's up to you, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I handled it the way that I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to. Yeah, yeah, And I was just like yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So it just and it got really weird and I
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  Speaker 1: didn't mean for her to get defensive at all, but
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  Speaker 1: I think she could tell I kind of like got
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  Speaker 1: the win, like I got a little deflated. And then
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  Speaker 1: you know, she kept bringing up like she apologized later
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  Speaker 1: on and was like maybe if I like misread the
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  Speaker 1: situation or miss like She's like, I'm here to advocate
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  Speaker 1: for you, so maybe if I I did that in
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  Speaker 1: the wrong way, like I apologize, which is great, but
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  Speaker 1: then like I don't know, I feel like at the end,
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  Speaker 1: she was like, how can I better, you know, support
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  Speaker 1: you this week or next time, or how could I
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  Speaker 1: have handled the situation better? And I, for once in
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  Speaker 1: my life, was like kind of speechless, like I didn't
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  Speaker 1: know what to say. And I didn't mean to like
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  Speaker 1: shut down because you're literally in therapy and like you're
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  Speaker 1: not supposed to do that. But I was just like
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  Speaker 1: I'm at a lot like I was at a loss.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know, I didn't know what to say, and
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  Speaker 1: so now we have this like awkward week until next
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  Speaker 1: week and it's like I'm like in a fight with
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  Speaker 1: my therapist and I didn't I don't know. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if they're like and I know everyone has their
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  Speaker 1: own style, but it was like I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to say as for how to better support me. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want her to like, you know, blow smoke up
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  Speaker 1: my ass, yeah and tell me like you did everything right.
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  Speaker 1: But I also was like I don't know. I thought
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  Speaker 1: it was like a baby step and I was proud.
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  Speaker 1: I guess, I don't know. It was a weird.
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  Speaker 2: That's interesting because like my dynamic in therapy is very
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  Speaker 2: I guess opposite, Like I want him to be tough
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  Speaker 2: on me same and like call me out on my
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  Speaker 2: shit like like that, yeah, I really like because I
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  Speaker 2: feel like there's just I don't get that a lot
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  Speaker 2: for people in my life. So and it took a
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  Speaker 2: minute to like get to that place because I feel like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, I felt like it took a while
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  Speaker 2: for him to sort of like feel me out like
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  Speaker 2: how I react to stuff or preferred reaction. But we
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  Speaker 2: got to that point because he was always like, well,
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  Speaker 2: you're always trying to tell me what I'm gonna say
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  Speaker 2: before I say it, right, like so you know, because
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  Speaker 2: I'll be like I'll explain something that I did, and
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  Speaker 2: then I follow it up by explaining how I think
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  Speaker 2: he's viewing it and like why it's right or wrong.
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  Speaker 2: And then he had to sort of be like stop
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  Speaker 2: like thinking how I'm thinking, how I'm going to think,
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  Speaker 2: and like let me react, you know. And then we
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  Speaker 2: sort of got to the point where it's like obviously,
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  Speaker 2: like anyone that knows me knows that I like to
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  Speaker 2: control situations, and so he had to be like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to give you reactions that you're not going to
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  Speaker 2: expect or that are different from like what it sounds
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  Speaker 2: like everyone else in your life, you know. And so
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  Speaker 2: that's sort of where I'm at now. But I never
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  Speaker 2: really had a time where I was like taken aback
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  Speaker 2: or like offend or anything, you know.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind really weird. I wasn't offended at all, but
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  Speaker 1: then I guess when I talked through like the other
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  Speaker 1: options of like what I could have done in this scenario,
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  Speaker 1: I felt like there wasn't a lot of options, and
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  Speaker 1: so in that case, it's like, I guess I don't
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  Speaker 1: know like what I'm to do, and here I am
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  Speaker 1: just excited that like I was able to like stay
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  Speaker 1: the boundary, and it ended up like you know, hard
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  Speaker 1: stapping the conversation. Yeah, I don't know. I guess maybe
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  Speaker 1: I would have rather her been like, hey, I know
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  Speaker 1: you mentioned you don't like want to do any like
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  Speaker 1: back and forth with this person anymore. Is there another
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  Speaker 1: option x, Y or Z, and I could have told
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  Speaker 1: her like not really, because there really isn't. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I definitely want tough love, and I agree, I don't
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  Speaker 1: like therapists where they're just like, you know, complimenting me
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  Speaker 1: the whole time or telling me how I'm amazing I am,
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  Speaker 1: but I don't know just and then it like just
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  Speaker 1: got very weird between both of us because then she
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  Speaker 1: was like maybe I did it wrong. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I just felt like it was very like we're just
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  Speaker 1: getting to know each other. It's only a couple of
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  Speaker 1: sessions in and it was very it was very like,
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  Speaker 1: why do you like, I don't know, I can't. I
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  Speaker 1: guess I can't really without getting specific talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: But it was just I don't know, and now things
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  Speaker 1: are weird, and I'm like, I don't know how to proceed.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Maybe just pretend like it didn't happen,
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  Speaker 2: even moving. Maybe it was just like an awkward time
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  Speaker 2: between both of you. You know, I don't know, those
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  Speaker 2: probably happened.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, something tells me that in therapy you
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  Speaker 1: can't just brush things under the rug. Something tells me
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  Speaker 1: she's not gonna allow that, and I just I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how to like articulate yes, I don't like, yes,
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  Speaker 1: that is the end goal. However, if there's not another option, Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: maybe she won't. I think she will, because she brought
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  Speaker 1: it up like multiple times throughout at the end and
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  Speaker 1: then she was like, well take this week to figure out.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't know. It was just it
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  Speaker 1: things got really I've never had like a weird It
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  Speaker 1: was just odd and I didn't know. I know, they're
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  Speaker 1: not like explicitly allowed to tell you to do something,
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  Speaker 1: but also if you know, such a better way than
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  Speaker 1: fucking tell me, right, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Right, because I did it like to the best of
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  Speaker 2: my ability, right, Yeah, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I was proud. And then I was like, oh shit,
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  Speaker 1: I handled it wrong. And then she's like, well, why
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  Speaker 1: do you think you handled it wrong? And I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: your reaction, Yeah, it's like we can't like stick to
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  Speaker 1: the therapy speak. If you're gonna like say like that
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  Speaker 1: was wrong and then like you should have done X,
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  Speaker 1: Y or Z, then like fucking stand on it because
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. So I'm like and then I left
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  Speaker 1: therapy and like, I know, like I'm still gonna see her,
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  Speaker 1: but I felt even shittier I would.
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  Speaker 2: That does happen sometimes too. I'll leave the session being
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  Speaker 2: like I'm a.
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  Speaker 1: Piece of sh oh okay, that makes me feel better, Okay, Okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean it's just like, wow, I'm like, I feel
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  Speaker 1: awful after this therapy session. Yeah, I don't know, kind
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  Speaker 1: of blew my mind.
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  Speaker 2: Why did you change therapists?
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'd be happy to tell you. So I
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  Speaker 1: got to a point in my life where I felt like, well,
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  Speaker 1: let's let's backtrack. I've never been fully happy with a
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  Speaker 1: therapist that I've had for like a myriad of different reasons.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times they tend to
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  Speaker 1: just want to and I probably contribute to this because
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  Speaker 1: I'm good at it, but I, as my teachers used
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  Speaker 1: to say, I get us off topic and then I've
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  Speaker 1: tried to charm them or make that whatever, and we
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  Speaker 1: end up just kiking, which is not what I'm there
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  Speaker 1: for and not what I need. And also, I have
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  Speaker 1: never found a therapist that as willing to like go
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  Speaker 1: very like as deep as I need to go because
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  Speaker 1: I feel very introspective, so I spent a lot of
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  Speaker 1: time thinking about like why I am the way I
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  Speaker 1: am and why I'm doing something. So I have a
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  Speaker 1: hard time getting like an AHA moment from therapy because
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm out like tooting my own horn.
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  Speaker 1: I just am so in my head. But I did
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  Speaker 1: reach a place where I was like, I'm good, like
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  Speaker 1: I've worked through a ton of stuff. I don't feel
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  Speaker 1: like I you know, A it was hard to afford
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  Speaker 1: and be I was like I can space this out,
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  Speaker 1: and then eventually just kind of close that chapter because
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  Speaker 1: I felt better, and because I don't know that it
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  Speaker 1: was worth like continuing the relationship with the last therapist.
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  Speaker 1: But I did think I was healed, And if you
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  Speaker 1: ever do think you're healed, then the universe will laugh
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  Speaker 1: and unhealed you. Right, So that is why I'm back
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  Speaker 1: in there, because I very much am not feeling like
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  Speaker 1: I'm healed anymore, and I'm trying someone new, and like
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  Speaker 1: I perused the whole this like website that my psychiatrist recommended,
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  Speaker 1: and I perused forever, like reading their bios and looking
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  Speaker 1: at their photos because you know me, I'm a weirdo.
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  Speaker 1: I have to like look at them, not for I'm
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  Speaker 1: not looking for anything specific. I just need to feel
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  Speaker 1: like your energy. And after doing that, then they were like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we only have these three available. So then I like
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  Speaker 1: went through and looked at what I thought best aligned
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  Speaker 1: for what I needed. I do know that she's like
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  Speaker 1: a new therapist. She explained that to me to where
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  Speaker 1: she doesn't have all of her whatever and so her
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  Speaker 1: like certifications or I don't know what it's called, and
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  Speaker 1: so she has a supervisor that she checks in with,
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  Speaker 1: and so all I could think because she's like I
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  Speaker 1: have someone like who I will talk about your stuff
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  Speaker 1: with to help me better be a therapist you and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, well she's getting off the phone and
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  Speaker 1: she's gonna be like to her coworker like bitch, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know what to do. She got weird and I
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  Speaker 1: got weird, and you know, now we're both weird. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. I just I just felt like a little
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  Speaker 1: like deflated. But I do want someone to tough love me.
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  Speaker 1: It just felt I guess she has never gone that
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  Speaker 1: hard on anything, so maybe it took me off guard.
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  Speaker 1: And I also thought like we did a positive thing.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, so I don't know. We'll see how it goes.
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  Speaker 1: I it just I don't know. It got really weird.
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  Speaker 1: And I know people like my mom is a therapist
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  Speaker 1: and doesn't tell me specifics, but she has had people
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  Speaker 1: who are like not ready to hear what she has
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  Speaker 1: to say and like they'll run away, which I understand.
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  Speaker 1: It's very interesting. She has stories for days. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so I don't know. And it's also weird like I've
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  Speaker 1: never met you in person, I've only met you over
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  Speaker 1: zoom and like now we're fighting, Like I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: It's very weird, but I just wondered if you had
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  Speaker 1: ever had ye never thought do you love him?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? I do. It took a minute because I was
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  Speaker 2: unsure at the beginning. Yeah okay, but yeah, no I
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  Speaker 2: look forward to it.
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  Speaker 1: You know. Do you always have stuff to say? Or
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  Speaker 1: does he leave?
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  Speaker 2: I started leaving. I started like the first. When I
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  Speaker 2: first started, I didn't because I didn't know what to
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  Speaker 2: expect m But now I keep like a list, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: in my phone of like shit that I want to
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  Speaker 2: bring up that happened that week, because I don't like
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  Speaker 2: being stuck with nothing to talk about. I know, and
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  Speaker 2: so much happens, but I like forget it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. I also used to have a therapist
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  Speaker 1: who was very big into the like making you talk
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  Speaker 1: and like bring up what you want to talk about,
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  Speaker 1: and like we'd get in there and like I was
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  Speaker 1: already like going.
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  Speaker 2: I was.
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  Speaker 1: It was a big step for me to go to therapy,
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  Speaker 1: like as an adult for the first time I'd gone
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  Speaker 1: as a kid. And she would literally just sit there
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  Speaker 1: and stare at me until I said something and like
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  Speaker 1: she no, no length of time was too long for her,
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  Speaker 1: and I hated that. I'm like, bitch, asked me a question. Right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I'll answer literally anything. I will tell anything about myself
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  Speaker 1: that you want to know. But like I I can't
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  Speaker 1: just if I don't have anything, can you ask me something?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you want to feel that there's a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of give and take, and that's that's a crazy tactic.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just sound stared and then like I would
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  Speaker 1: try to like go longer, but you know, it was
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  Speaker 1: things got weird. What is your number? One?
• 14:18
  Speaker 2: Oh? Do music first? I think, Yeah, my girl is back,
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  Speaker 2: Oliver Rodrigo, She is back. What do you think of
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  Speaker 2: the song?
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  Speaker 1: So? I actually like from the first note I can
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  Speaker 1: I can tell sometimes and I actually love the beginning.
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  Speaker 1: I don't love where we go. I love the sounds
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  Speaker 1: of the beginning. Does that make sense to you?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, okay, I don't like that the second verses Rappie,
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  Speaker 2: I don't like that she like is doing the talk
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: singing thing. Do that? Yeah? Like I love the first verse.
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: My really only problem with drop Dad is the second verse.
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: I wish she didn't do the talkie thing.
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  Speaker 1: And I want to know what she's talking about because
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: I looked up like Gemini and her sign and it's
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: not the guy she was seen with from Geese.
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  Speaker 2: Oh really yeah, Okay, but I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: That she is. I think I think she's a pisces.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: Let me look. But the video how cool she had
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: the whole palace of her side of herself.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't like her outfit.
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: I think she's doing. I think she's doing a play
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: on like the old timey little It's literally yeah, but
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: it's like a sexier ninety version. Okay, do you know
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: who Marie Antoinetta is because I asked Bella who.
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: We work with, But I don't know what she did. Okay,
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: So the palace like big dresses, right.
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she she's the one who's often associated with let
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: Them Eat Cake, even though I guess that wasn't hold on,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: I thought that was like a disney she off with
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: their head.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, let me see you now. You
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: always got more questions than what I can give you
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: the answers for it. Okay, So that is associated with
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: the Queen of Hearts from Alice in Wonderland. So no, no,
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: But Marie Antoinette, like there's a quote that everyone says
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: let them eat Kid, and apparently it's it wasn't a
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: real quote, but she was. I wonder if she may
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: have been the last queen of France and the Palace
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: of Versailles is I think in Paris, and that was
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: her castle. And if you remember, that's where Kim and
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Kanye had people meet for their wedding. Oh. I don't
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: know if they did a rehearsal dinner or something there,
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: but remember the people met and then they bought them
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: somewhere else. Okay, but it's just iconic that Olivia had
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: the whole like palace herself and she could run around
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: in her little bloomersh But yeah, yes, Bella. I'm like,
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: do you know who that is? She's like, no idea.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: And again I learned about her in school and then
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: we asked slav our engineer and he was like, no idea.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, got it.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't learn about her. I did have to
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: take a European history class though one year. Of course
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: you did, but I don't really remember anything.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I thought maybe you would know also from like the
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Kirsten Dunce movie. I think she made a movie about
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: Marie Antoina, didn't she I saw.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: The Romeo and Juliette movie with Leonardo DiCaprio.
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: You have, that's one of my favorite movies of all time. Yeah,
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: that's a great movie. That scene when they're when they're
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: at the costumes. She's in the believe Versailles, France, the
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Palace of Versailles. Yes, yes, it's Paris. Yeah, okay, yeah,
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: she played Marie Antoinette in a romance drama in two
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: thousand and six. For some times, but yes, I think
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: Versia is France, and I think that was her residence.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: So I thought it was cool that she could just.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah that it's cool because I saw behind the scenes
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: that that was like the only things they have ever
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: been able to film there or.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: Whatever I would assume. So, I the French aren't giving
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: like inclusive, like let's have Americans run around right, let
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: them eat cake them. I know they've had like fashion
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: shows there.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: But that's cool.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: It's kind of crazy.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's doing double duty on SNL on Saturday, so
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: that's gonna be great.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: So you do, so you do like this?
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: I do like it. I don't necessarily like the second first,
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: but I like that sort of like from the sound
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: of the album, like this is like the start of
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: the relationship when you're like so into someone that you like,
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: you know, literally like kiss me and I might die.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: And then like the rest of the album goes through,
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: like the whole story arc. Yeah, like the So I
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: think it's gonna be really interesting.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: She did say she has a really hard time writing
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: a love song without a tinge of like sad and
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: yeah it's giving.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: All happy love songs.
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: No, ain't real. Yeah, I don't have any music actually,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: crazily enough. But my number one is, do you have
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: a and I don't know the technical term, but a
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: pillar like to depill things?
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: What like like medicine?
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: Do you know what it means with something? Pills? No,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: like if you have okay.
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: I take pills, okay.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: So you know it? Do you know?
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: So if you have a sweater, do you know how
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: it will get those like little bumps on it, like
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: little balls? Yeah? Yeah, okay, okay, not necessarily threads like
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: little ball.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: Pills.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: No, not pills, very dope.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Uns is not my first language.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I don't think it is, Okay, So here's yeah, I
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: guess kind of okay, So here's an example.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: Oh okay, oh yeah, like old, yeah, nasty, Yeah.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, So there's a device that I don't I don't
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: know if it's called a deep pillar.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: Pause deepill, I thought you were talking about the thing
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: you put your pills in every day like Monday Tuesday. Okay.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: They call it a fabric shaver or a deep pillar,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: but basically it's a little device and there's like a
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: vacuum in it, and I think it must have like
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: little tiny blades that go in a circle and you
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: like run it along whatever fabric, like a girl's leggings,
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: like sometimes you're you know, your chubb rub like creates
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: like a pilling sensation or whatever anything. I have a
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: couch that like obviously like did not buy when I
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: had dogs in my life, and then like you know,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: there's some situations going on there because it's cloth, and
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: so you run this thing over it and it takes
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: those pills off, like making it look brand new. But
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: the sound it makes it's like you know when you're
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: vacuuming and you get like spicy stuff coming up there.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: The deep pillar like you can hear it when it
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: gets each little thing, and I love like running it
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: along my couch and like really hmmm, and it's like
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: my new favorite pastime, and like I feel like I'm
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: gonna pill so much that there's gonna be no fabric left.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm confused, like how that works?
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it must just be like if you
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: can rub like like so like.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Does it's not putting it back?
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: No, but I think if you're running it along off
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: flat surface, it's such as though like the fabric that
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: needs to stay will remain flat. But then when you
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: spiral it, it's picking up. It's sucking up the extra
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: parts and like cutting them off really fast.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: Is it like electric?
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Ah, it needed batteries. Yeah, yeah, but I just I
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: love it and like you're gonna if you ever get one,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: you're just gonna pill.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: I have anything pilled.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: You don't have anything pilled. You don't have any old
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: clothing or like fabric or like.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: I think, so I can't think of anything that's pilled
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: in my life.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: You haven sweatpants, like the your inner thighser pilling.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: I usually just like throw it out, Okay, well new ones.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I can't just do that with a couch, you know.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Also our couch is like doesn't pill.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Well that's good for you. I should have gotten one
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: that doesn't pill. But Okay, this is really not giving
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: me the gratification that I needed.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: It's okay, I love that you love to pill.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Okay, maybe I'll show you a YouTube of someone like
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: doing it so you can under the pill pill there's
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: my face. Like, I could probably start a TikTok series
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: and people watch me.
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: There needs to be one because so I can know
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: what it is, right, people can watch me to pill
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: and panties untapped market. Yeah, ok doing your only fans
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: in your underwear, right.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Okay, and let me show nod
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: just let you this is the literal one. I have
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: nursery right now, I'm going to clean up. Watch simply
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: levels of the two levels? Wild?
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Do yours? Does yours have two levels? Yes?
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: I think I have the literally this one.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: How does happen.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Rubbing together? People sitting turn it listen? Do you hear that?
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: When it gets a pill, it.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: Like sucks it up like that.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: It's like really turning me on. Anyways, what's yours? I'll
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: try to support you.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: My You're not gonna be able to my next one.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: I think I've may have done it before, but I've
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: I'm back into it. I started watching w W E
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: agadin okay, and it's all thanks to our friend Brady
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Broski because he went to WrestleMania and he was there,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: and so I was drunk on WrestleMania night and I
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: was like, I want to see Like I was texting
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: Brady like he was at WrestleMania. So I turned it
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: on and I was watching. I was like, this is
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: so fun. Like I think, like looking at it now
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: is like a adult, You're like, this is so fake,
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: but like, I don't know, it's just so it's it's
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: like comical to me, like the overacting, the like, dude,
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: you're you're like not even close to the end. They're like, oh,
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: you know in Pat McAfee, guys, I saw jelly Roll
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: and Pat McAfee. I saw Jelly Roll jump off the
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: fucking table onto Pat McAfee. It's just I don't know,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: it's just mindless, dumb entertainment.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Did you ever have a rattail when you were growing up?
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: No, I don't know if I could grow one. I
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: don't know. I just feel like I'm not even bought
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: me a WrestleMania T shirt.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: She did, and she put it in your Adult Easter basket,
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: Easter basket. No one loves more than your parents. Just
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: want you to know. See, I'm someone who, like I
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: would absolutely go and get into it. I love to
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: like try anything. Yes, yeah, that's what I just said.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: I'm someone who wants to go to WrestleMania.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Yes, I wouldn't. I probably couldn't go to WrestleMania, but
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: I just because they're like, I don't think they're ever here.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, I'm not traveling.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah when they do it. They were in Vegas for
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: this one.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, gracious, Okay, so what comes here that
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: we can.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Like raw and there tell Brady that we're gonna go
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: with him to the next one.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would do that. I would totally get into
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: it there. But watching it on TV is another level.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: All those just to be in those people, like.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Those people. I did love Total Divas. Did you watch
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: that episodes?
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: I didn't watch like full seasons.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I was obsessed because they're all hot and like doing
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: each other the belt and one of them's a champion.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: Somehow one of them got like Nikki got like a
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: I thought she got like a career ending neck is one.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: Is just like not a wrestler she's just like there.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: And then bree I don't remember which one.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Breeze like the granola one who doesn't have fake titties,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: maybe her.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Then the other one teamed up with this other girl
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: now and now they're like champions.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Without winning anything they had.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I was lost. I literally turned it on.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I was like, is that Pet McAfee. And then I
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: was like is I literally turned it on the exact time.
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: And then I saw jelly roll and I was like,
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: is that jelly Roll? And then I saw him jump
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: onto Pet McAfee. I was like, this is crazy.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: I'm I think it's crazy that you know who Pet
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: McAfee is.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: I don't know who he is. Okay, what does he do?
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: So he has a sports podcast show. It's a show
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: out of like a really cool studio, and I think
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know if he can Pat McAfee swear. I
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: feel like he's really hold on his face. I just can't.
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's annoying. Yeah, and like all the fans hate him,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: so it's really crazy that he would like go on
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: the show and want to be hated.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, they do hate him. Okay, So he does swear
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: on television though, His language is often subject to tape
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: delays and censorship on ESPN to comply with their regulations. Yeah. Yeah,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: but I know people really love going out in his show,
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: and they love how he interviews people controversy and complaints.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: Now I'm just learning language, particularly during appearances on college
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: game Day. They don't like his naughty mouth keep it
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: they like his keep it real approach.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but he got booed and everything. So that's interesting that, Like,
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: if you're a media figure, you tend to want people
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: to like you. So the fact that you would kind
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: of go on WW and be a villain is an
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: interesting move. But maybe he just like enjoys the hate
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know, or the playing.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: The role hear me out, what if he knows it's
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: not real? Yeah, and so he's not bothered.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: By maybe yeah maybe.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: But that would even if you knew it wasn't really
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: you would it would be hard for you.
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, like I don't know, I think it'd be
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: because I'm not like all those people aren't as smart,
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Like do you know what I mean? So, like if
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: you're like Jelly Roll and you like want everyone and
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: their mother to buy your records, like you don't want
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: to go somewhere like kiss people off because maybe someone
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: like the dumb fans won't then turn around and buy
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: your ship.
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, they were booing jelly Roll, not Pat mack.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: They were booing Pat mcafe. Jelly Roll was very beloved,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: which that would.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: Those are his people. They kind of also seem like
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: they're pets people too, but yeah, those are they are
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: They are jelly Rolls for sure. I don't know, Okay,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: I'll do something to watch so and I really I
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: really don't do this often, but I did shoot my
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: shot in a new Real Housewives city, the Real Housewives
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: of Rhode Island, Rhode Island. I didn't know that was
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: basically like and this is gonna be stupid because maybe
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: everyone knows this. I've never been to Rhode Island. Seems
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: like somewhere that's like where rich people go, but it's
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: basically like Jersey two point oh there, like they all
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: have those it is but bougie but like they all
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: have those accents. Everybody's Italian. Everybody's like Nonah makes the
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: best sprinkled coolie, like it's it's very I had no
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: idea that's how they were living with that think of
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: an accent. But these people right out the gate, because
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: you really need to wow me. If you're going to
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: be a new house, I've season and pull me in
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: right and so I've been giving it a shot and
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: I've been loving it. Now let me tell you about
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: this cast characters. One woman's husband is actively having an
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: affair on this season of the show, and they keep
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: trying to confront him, and he keeps running away, which
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: isn't making it look like he's not having an affair,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: and his poor wife is out there supporting him, saying
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: this affair is over, this affair is over, and like
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: this girl's like, I'm friends with the girl he's so
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: he literally during the last episode I saw spoiler alert.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Turn it down you if you don't want to spoil it,
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: he told everyone that they had to leave an event
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: because his mom was sick. Okay, they go and then
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: they FaceTime the wife and say, hey, girl, like, are
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: you able to come back? How's his mom? And she's like, oh,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: I'm not with him anymore. He's still at the hospital.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: He was with the mistress. He's actively having an affair.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: Ailes they're filming allegedly allegedly allegedly allegedly as they're filming
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: this season, and they always say, like, don't go on
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: one of those shows with like skeletons in your closet.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: But this isn't like a past affair has been on cover.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: He's doing it and he agreed to go on a
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: show with his wife and he thought people weren't gonna.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's low hanging through, that's like and so.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: So that's one character. Another woman, her husband got really
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: into fly fishing and he would leave. I think it's
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: fly fishing. He would leave for like months and months
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: at a time.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: Okay, you didn't have to work.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I think they maybe retired.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: They're very wealthy.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: Okay, but hear me out while he was gone. Everyone
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: thinks the wife is having an affair because she's always
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: out with this guy named Dino. Now what she claims
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: and what the husband claims, he's fullyana. It is that
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: he would call Dino when he's out of town and say, hey,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: look after my wife. Take care of my wife. But
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: they'd be She's like, we'd be out six seven days
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: a week. And I'm like, I say, why people think
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: you're having an affair? Right, So everyone thinks she's sleeping
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: with Dino. I don't fucking know, but he's like standing
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: there like, yeah, no, I trust them, Like it's just
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: very weird and like for him to leave that long.
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: And then there's there's someone who used to be in
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: a Bachelor Nation, but Ashley, the one who cried a lot.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you ever Ashley and Jared they
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: got together in Paradise, but she literally was like always
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: crying on the Bachelor. And then like there's another scandal.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to think, Oh, there's one girl who has
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: started a business with her fiance. They've been engaged nine
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: years that she started a business. She's raising his child.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: He will not she will not marry him because he
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: won't put her on the house, on the business that
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: she helped fund and think of everything for. She has
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: to ask him for an allowance so she won't marry him.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: And I think, I think, oh, oh, and this is
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: the last one. This girl, Kelsey. She lives in the
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: biggest house you've ever seen, like you could fit speaking
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: of the Bachelor mansion, they said you could fit two
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: of them in her home. And what she does is
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: her boyfriend six months out of the year lives with her.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: He already has kids. They're two years younger than her.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: He doesn't want any more kids. Then six months out
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: of the year he goes and lives with his other
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: girlfriend in Miami. And then when he's gone, she knows that. Yeah,
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: and he pays for a full staff mansion and she's
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: in that mansion alone. And then usually those kinds of guys,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: they don't want you to do other stuff. Now she's
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: got a boyfriend too. It's crazy, these but these women
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: have what it takes, so just shout out to them.
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: It's all of this has been brought in the first
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: like four episodes of the season, so it's been crazy.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: But wow, yeah, exactly what you got for me.
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: I want to challenge you to something first before I
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: go to my next one. So I'm traveling this week.
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: I'm going to Austin, Texas in two days fingers crossed, uh,
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: and so I need a Netflix recommendation from you. And
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: I'm actually going to commit and watch it on the plane.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: So you have to tell me now you can think
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: about it and report.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Back, Okay, and it has to be in Netflix.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's all I have on my iPad now.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, Like I said, if you need Disney or who
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: I've got you? Okay, what Okay, Now tell me what
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: you're looking for, because I do give my record that's
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: a show okay, not a movie okay, yeah.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: But really other than that, totally open reality preferred but not.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: Necessary reality preferred. Okay.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: I wonder sometimes I sorry for me to follow the script.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: I agree, but I agree. So did you never watch
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: The Hunting Wives? Did you? I wonder how you would
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: feel about that. I'll get back to you. But les, uh,
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: their their wives who are all married into like cops,
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: and one woman is married to the head of the
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: n RA in Texas. But they're all like banging each
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: other behind their husband's backs like they're yeah, then yes,
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: they're banging each other and then there's a murder. Like
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: it's pretty chaotic. But I don't know if that'll be
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: my recommendation, but interesting.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: Okay, So my last thing that I'm watching or I
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: guess a creator that I'm obsessed with on TikTok. Tyler
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: Wells is his name. He got famous for going to
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: Coachella and now I love him. So he was the
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: one that introduced me to Pizza Cella. Have you heard about.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: This no back in my day.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: Okay, So he stayed at the Safari like he went
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: with a brand and he stayed at like the Safari
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: camping for.
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: Trying to find him Tyler wells Tyler Well.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: And so he stayed the Safari thing whatever, which is
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: like the nice like hut things, you know. And so
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: I guess he on Friday nights, Yes, on Friday night,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: he went into the campgrounds got pizza from this pizza stand,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: and I guess they were having like problems making pizza
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: like fast enough to like give it to the people
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: that were ordering or whatever. Anyway, he got deathly ill
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: from this pizza like instantaneously to where like next set
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: the Saturday he woke up. He didn't even go at
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: him even think he went to the festival on Saturday,
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: like he was like deathly deathly ill. And then it
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: started coming out that all these other influencers and people
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: got pizza from the stand and got them all like
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: got them all sick, like they were all like like
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: something like must have been they didn't even cooking them
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: long enough or.
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: Hard to get people sick on pizza.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: So I don't know, Okay, So that was pizza Cella
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: so I was following his like story through there, and
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: then he decided that he was going to go to
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: weekend too, but he was going to car camp. So
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: then I followed his journey of like transitioning over to
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: car because he didn't get to see Bieber and he
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: really wanted to see Bieber. So then he did like now,
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: so then he did car camping and he did everything
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: from the packing to the hall, to the to the setup,
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: to the tours to the like every piece of content, right,
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: and now he now he's back home and now he's
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: doing just like day in the life stuff. And it
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: kind of like because I always think of like day
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: in the life, I'm like, oh my god, I don't
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: want to have to sit all like shoot all this
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: then edit it whatever. But his day in the life
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: like he actively narrates, like he'll be like all right,
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: I'm getting in the car and we're gonna go like here, right, yeah,
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: it's like okay, now we're here whatever. I was like, well,
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: maybe if it's just like cut cut cut cut, like,
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: I could probably do something like that. So I was
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: thinking about maybe trying it when I go to Austin
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: and seeing if I could do like a day in
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: the life.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Like working for yeah, a huge Eyeheart festival, that would
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: be awesome. But I think we overcomplicate things a lot.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's like the millennial in US
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: to where like our Instagram feeds used to have to
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: look like picture perfect and everything esthetically and like then
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: I would watch my sister and her friends and they
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: would literally just like find a ledge, put a camera
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: on it, click record, and just start going. Even like
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: the millennial, like in me, I have to start everything
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: with like okay, you know, like I have to like
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: be like we're starting, and like I don't feel.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: Not everything needs an intro.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: No, no, And I've learned that I overcomplicate stuff so
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: much and it's my personality. And I think, I know
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: you're gonna laugh. I think you also have a yellow aura.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: I'm like an all or nothing person. So if I'm
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: gonna do something, I want to like do it, and
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: then the thought of it becomes exhausting because I'm like
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: I want to fully do this, and then I'm like, no,
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to do it because they can't do.
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: It like perfect, right, Yeah I can't. Yeah, So that's definitely,
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: but he sort of inspired me to do that. But
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: he just has great energy and he's just this fabulous
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: game man that lives in LA and I love him.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah you should. I'll look out for him, but you
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: should definitely do. And I would love to see that,
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: and I think people would love to see that. Okay,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: let's see you did a creator, I'm gonna do. I'm
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: hungry right now, bitch. Have you had the charruffel egg
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: bite from Starbucks? They're so good? Truffle mushroom egg white
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: or no, not egg whites egg bites from Starbucks. I
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: know you're mushroom, tuffle mushroom, which is confusing to me
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: because I think truffle is mushroom, so I'm a little
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: bit confused as to But I know it's really expensive,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: so maybe they expensive. Yeah, it's a lagome. Actually, never mind,
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: there is another.
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: That I would know.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you always have fucking follow up questions.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: I know it's a lagoon, l e gu emmy, and
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: I know that pigs and dogs find them. Actually, when
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: I'm in Alaly, I kind of want to like go
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: to a truffle farm and see, okay, beans lentils, oh, okay, yes,
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: but truffles are actually they're in the ground. I don't
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: know why I thought they were all s mushrooms. Yeah,
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: I guess they're technically a lagoome and they have that flavor.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: But I know it's really expensive. So sometimes you can
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: just get like truffle oil as opposed.
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: To are they like shred it on top of stuff.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: That's like when it would be expensive, like when they
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: shave it. Like it's always all like a sixty dollars
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: like up charge because it's Yeah, it's crazy.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: I wonder what makes it so like just because it's.
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: Rare, Probably because I'm assuming because it's labor intensive to
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: get them. Why is trouugh so expensive?
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: State? Those like grow under the ground.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so okay expend due to their extremely their extreme rarity,
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: labor intensive harvesting, and short, unpredictable seasons. Growing underground, they're
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: hard to find required like I said, dogs or pigs.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: And you never know how much you're gonna get and
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: when you're going to get them.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm assuming because and then like you literally need
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: animals to be trained to sniff them out. They grow
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: underground symbiotic relationships with tree roots. Oh, cultivation is difficult,
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: often taking four to eight years to produce, and many
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: varieties cannot be easily farmed because I know there's like
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: white truffle, high scarcity, short supply ground. Yeah, they must
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: be used quickly, the fresh ones high demand. Yeah, black
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: truffles can cost over one thousand dollars per pound, while
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: white can exceed three thousand a pound.
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: What does truffle? Some of this Reddit front? What does
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: truffles taste like for it to be so expensive? Mood mood.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: He's like, I don't want to try. I just want
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: to ask what it tastes like, so I don't have
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: to spend the money. I don't know. I know everyone right, Yeah,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: Reddit's not you don't have to be smart to me
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: and redda, what does truffles taste like to be so expensive?
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: It's like this podcast that I'm listening to and they're
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: going over this is not one of my top five,
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: but they're going over like this. It's of course it's
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: a murder case and I'm listening to it and it's
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: about they read the searches off of the murderer's phone,
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: like after she killed her husband, and it's it's literally
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: like American prison for rich women. Utah. Can you can
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: police find deleted messages on iPhone? How to remotely uh
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: clear iPhone? And the one way? What was it? I
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: was dead? It was Oh if person is poisoned, what
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: goes down on the death certificate that you poison your
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: I just.
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: I have such a hard time with people who just
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: like jump to murder. But you know what I mean,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like, listen, I'm nothing.
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: Else, you know, there's nothing.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: I'm in a situation where right now where I feel
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: like there's not a lot of options.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: But like there are more than murder.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: There's definitely more than murder. And I just know that
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: that would not I would not get away with it,
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: and that they would not go well for me. So
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: I don't murder, you know.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it rarely does for any but her act like
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: not even a you thing like that, Like oh.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: My god, no, I mean I would I you know, man,
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: I dropped something, I'd break so I'd hurt myself whatever.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: So but yes, no, like literally, no one gets away
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: with murder. And then you're searching.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: You think you're that you're the one, but then you're
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: searching for jail, so you know you're gonna get caught.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: Like like I don't understand like that. Yeah, and then
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: get this, So in between the times she poisoned her husband.
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: Wait, she searched for the jail she was going to
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: go to.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: Well, she was like, uh, American jails for rich people,
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: Like was one of the is.
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: She rich or she just wants to find a good
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: jail to go to.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: She she was like trying to see where she would
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: go to jail. So this is not has only to
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: do with my top five. But yeah, so she kills
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: her husband, poisons him with fentanyl, I think, and yeah.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: Just makes a small amount.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: And if you know, you know no. And then in
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: between the time that she killed her husband and the
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: time that she was arrested, which was a while, it
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: was like eight months or something, right, she writes a
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: children's book about how to deal if you're the parent left,
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: how to deal with the other parent dying, and how
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: to deal with that with your children, goes on a
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: book tour for this book and gets arrested while on
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: the book tour about the children's book about how to
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: deal with losing a mom or dad and how to
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: deal with your kids.
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: With Okay, I thought you were going to say a
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: children's book about how to murder your husband? Because this
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: she thought. I understand where she was going with this one.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: She thought it was the perfect crime. Like now she's
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: trying to like be like okay.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: She no, I'm an advocate, right, Like well, like.
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: She's like, you know, how to explain to your You know,
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: I could see what she was doing there, I really
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: can Like she was hiding in plain sight. But I thought,
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: you really how to murder your husband for children?
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: I would buy that book?
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: And do you know why she murdered him? Because honestly
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: have to hear both.
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: I haven't gotten there yet. I have not gotten there yet.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: But she hired the housekeeper, who was also on drugs
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: to get her the drugs. Then that's where I left off.
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Oh the wife's on drugs too.
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're all high. So like that's the.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: Problem that definitely say no, that lower lowers your inhibitions,
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: You're much.
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: More likely scenario we're all just killing her husband's Okay.
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: So my next one is is food held you? My
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: food one? And I woke up Sunday morning, I wanted
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: to skill it, and I went and I got South
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: of the Border skillet and it had hash browns, cheese,
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: taco meat and halapano's and tomatoes and drink copper and
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: I put a little sauce on that bitch and.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: Oh my mouth is watering.
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: I'm it was everything. I'm not a big I'm not
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: a big egg person. I'm not a big like breakfast,
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: but for some reason, when I crave it, like it's
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: like it's time, like I wake up. I was like,
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: we need to go to breakfast. When I had breakfast
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: at one pm, like it wasn't even like we weren't
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: even like breakfast time by the time we got out
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: of the runch.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, runch really so good. I'm a very weird person though,
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: And like when I if I'm eating something, I don't
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: ever like to eat like one thing. I like to
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: have like something and then something on the side, And
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: so I get weirded out, Like when my potatoes are
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: in things, like I'd rather have them on the side. Yeah,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I like to like mix and dip
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: and like feel like I have I'm eating two things
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: at once, even if it's like the same amount of that.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: I take some of the skillet and I put it
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: on toast and then I eat like a little sandwich.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, did you have tortilla's or did
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: you have well this breakfast place by us brings US
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: chips and salsa before breakfast. Yeah, it's everything hard because
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: then you don't have rooms. Yes, but that's really good.
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: That's really good. Okay, So you did a true crime
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: case and that made me switch mine up. So I
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: know we already talked about this on the show, but
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: you know obviously who Noah Back is, right, he's one
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: of those like literally he was. He literally plays like
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: a quarterback and everything they accent and he came from
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: one of those TikTok dance houses, which yeah, I think
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: he was. I believe he was a member of the
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: Sway House. Okay where there they were. They dance on
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: each other and grind on each other and they lived together.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know who like thought to do. That's like
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: a whole nother thing. But I need a documentary. And
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: who was like we can all pull our money together
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: and like live in this house together and like have
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: girls over and dance with each other.
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: Scared that there's like companies running these and it like
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: are like sponsors, right, Yeah, that I'm a little I'm
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: a little scared. There's a dark underbelly of these TikTok
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: houses that we just don't know about yet.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: There was there was a documentary on the one, but
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: that was about I think it was about like dancers
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: or something. But I think these houses came. I mean,
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: now there's probably like they try to do sponsored ones,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: but I think I didn't think at first they were.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: But yeah, maybe there are. And there's like some manager
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: named Rick and just like he's like, you know, oh,
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: he'd be perfect from my house. Let's got his Hannah's hand.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I hope not. But yeah, anyways,
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: I totally got lost in what I was talking about.
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: But anyways, his sister is allegedly a fucking weirdo. She's
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: going super viral on TikTok because she's she's g So
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: she's a teacher in Arizona and she allegedly groomed this
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: student at her school. But the interesting thing about this
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: story is it's not like the normal power dynamic situation
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: because this student treats her and talks to her like
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: shit and will be like, bitch, send me money or
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: like whatever, and she just venmos or like would send money.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: But yeah, and she like he makes fun of her
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: in front of the other students, so it's almost like
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: she's like looking for his approval. Like it's it's like
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: sad and fucked up. I think he's seventeen and just
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: reading all she was like we were talking about this
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: off there, like she was the cool teacher everyone hung
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: out in her room, you know she's and then the
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: line was blurred and then she started like grooming and
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: hooking up with this child, and it seemed like the
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: his family knew as well. And then I all you
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: find out that allegedly another teacher was grooming the same child,
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: and it's just disgusting. And it's like very interesting to
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: me because Noah's obviously like ignoring it online, but they're
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: uncovering things about his family and like weird stuff that
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: he's posted in the past, and so I'm just it's
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: it's this rabbit hole I've been in on TikTok of
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: just like reading all these things and watching all these
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: things that they were doing. It's all alleged right now,
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: I don't think there have been fire charges filed, but
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: it's like a rabbit hole I've been in because like
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: we're the odds like two teachers. And then I also
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: hate how like guys will comment like where was where
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: was this that when I was in school? Because then
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: I feel like it does take the seriousness away from
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: like when it is a female versus Yeah, however, it
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: happens a lot like there's an It certainly feels like
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: there's an uptick of female teachers doing that, and I
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: don't know why.
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, either it's coming to the light more or it's
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: just more happening.
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, in like any other space, you typically think that
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: like a woman would be the safer option. I mean,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: even on the show we've written for what what I
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: guess with her is that like she never had like
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: the high school experience that she wanted. And this is
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: not me defending her, but it's really almost sad to
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: see how much weight she puts in on him and
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: like the things he says and does to her, and
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: like he has a he has hurt his girl friend.
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: The student's girlfriend has come out. All the students are
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: posting tiktoks about their experiences with her, and the girlfriend
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: came out and was like talking about when she found
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: out that it was having she had no idea but
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: there's video of this teacher like creepily staring at her
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: at like a football. It's just it's very it's very weird. Yeah,
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's a it's a change, but
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: it's like we did a babysitting topic on the show,
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: and it's like almost everyone was like, I would rather
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: leave my children with a woman, and you hear about
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: that so much less, but then when it becomes the
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: teacher situation, it seems like it's like exponentially more. Yeah.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: I mean we had creepy Maale teachers, but yeah, so
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: I don't know, it's but that's a rabbit hole I've
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: been going in because I just don't know.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: How you.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: Think you're not going to get caught put all this
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: stuff in writing feel okay about doing that to a child.
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: Like it's just but it's a rabbit hole I've been in.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: We even had I remember there were like male teachers
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: that would like have like I don't want to say
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: like relationship because that makes it sound so serious, but
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: like different dynamics with like female students. And I'm like, huh,
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: but now look at you thought like at the at
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: the time, it was like, oh, just because that's the
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: cool girl or whatever. Right, But now I look back
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: and I'm like that was kind of weird. Yeah.
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: No, I had guys in like certain classes be like, oh,
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: like the way mister so and so, I almost just
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: said that man's name is like looking at you or
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: like your underwear was like coming out of your pants,
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: and he was like staring at it and just like oh,
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: like I don't know.
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I'm doing that my last one. It is
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: something to help you when you go.
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: I got off the TikTok shop. It's a new fragrance
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: and I think it's supposed to be a body sprey. However,
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: I bought it because it was with a coupon. I
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: literally paid like fifteen sounds to get a chip to me.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: But it's this big bottle and we leave it in
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: the bathroom to cover up unwanted smells from the bathroom
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: and it works so good. Doesn't smell like poopy poopery.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: It smells like it like takes over the whole room.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: But it's from a brand called Ellis Brooklyn and it's
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: the peaches smell smells like peach it. But I got
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: the TikTok shop, but it's so fragrant that it like
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: kills any other smell. And they have a bunch of
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: different like, bitch.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: This is a bottle of This is one hundred and
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: fifteen dollars on Revolve.
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: Well no way, Well they're on the TikTok shop for
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: Way Way Way. Gosh.
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: Well this brand at least like a big size bottle
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: can go for.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Yeah, why is it so much?
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: Here? You got it for fifteen cents. I had all
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: these coupons who told you to buy it?
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: I was watching that. I watch like lives all the
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: time mm hmm, and I somehow nded up in this
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: like girl that was like she does like selling lives
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: of fragrances, beauty products whatever. So I had that on
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: and she was like, check your coupons and when the
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: coupons did it was literally like fifteen times it maybe
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: like two dollars, so right, And I was like, yeah,
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: let me try it. Maybe they're just trying to get
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: rid of the center or whatever.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: Wow. But yeah, so that's a legit brand and you're
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: using it for your shit.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, just make our bathroom spell.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: Thereay, Hell yeah, you've reached in this house.
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but the one I have is that nord Strim
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: for twenty one dollars.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: So, oh okay, is it like a smaller one or
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: is it just no.
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: I think it's just like the rooms like that. Like
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: it's on Amazon for seventeen fifteen.
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, so they have all price mines. Yeah, Alice
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: book on shout out. Oh, I think I know the brand. Okay,
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: there's just really no way for me to transition shit spray,
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: but I and I'm not getting paid for this, and
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: I hate that about me. But I love Chase Bank
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: like I love Chase with all my heart. I have
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: been banking with Chase since Pamela, my mother set me
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: up with my little college first. Actually I think my
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: I think by not savings. What's the other one checking?
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: I think it literally still says college on it. But
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: I've always banked with them, and I've had repeated amazing experiences.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever told you. Like at
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: one point, targets like computer system got compromised and I
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: just opened the mail one day and like Chase was like, hey,
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: we know you shop at this target, Like here's a
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: new card, Like they're just like on it. They always
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: work with you, but more specifically I and I didn't
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: ever know, like I know how you can get credit
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: cards that give you just like general points, but I
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: ended up semi recently going, okay, I should probably get
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: a credit card with the airline I usually fly, and
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: so I got one through Chase. But what I have
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: since discovered is not only do you earn like for example,
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: like miles when you use it or whatever on certain things,
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: and not only can you oh, I thought someone was
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: peaking in here, not only can you like you know,
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: let's say minds with United. So if I spend you know,
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: obviously when I book everything, I book it through that
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: card and there's benefits or like if I spend money
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: on the plane, you get like fifteen percent back or whatever.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: So those deals are great. However, I have never before
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: until now used it to book and maybe this is
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: because I like don't ever really go anywhere like where
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: I want to go, but it's always for other people.
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: I've never used it to book flights, but more specifically hotels,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: and they have their own rates for people with that card,
• 56:27
  Speaker 1: and they're heavily discounted. So like, for example, of course,
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: like with your flight, if you go through you know,
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: if you if I go in the Chase app and
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: then I go to that specific credit card and I
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: click on benefits and then I click book travel. Like
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: going through there, I even have different rates than I
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: would from like booking on my United app or if
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: when I when I was booking hotels, it'll say like
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: this property is discounted like fifteen percent or twenty five
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: percent just for cardholders. So like simply having that car,
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: it gets you better prices, and then obviously if you
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: book through that, then you get the points through that.
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: But I never realized, like I knew you could always
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: get cash back in points. I never realized that they
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: had their own prices and deals with certain properties, and
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: then within that you can actually look up they have
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: like their own ratings and reviews systems, So you can
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: look up what all the people with your same card,
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: how they felt about this hotel, what they felt about
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: that hotel, and you can even specify what kind of travel,
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: so like you can literally write like solo traveler, business traveler.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: You can search by how close to this, how close
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: to that, like you can compare different properties. But I
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: just like was today years old realizing that even if
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: you have these like loyalty numbers with certain companies, or
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: if you have like a Hampton or whatever, you may
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: have a credit card that gives you like its own
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: special rates for things. And it's been kind of amazing.
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: Am I explaining it? Well, yeah, because then I have
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: like general always features and I travel, you know, I
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: got to make a little go a long way. But
• 58:03
  Speaker 1: you know other ones that are more general, like with
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: the points, I always just would do like cash back
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: cash back because it's like I never have like zero
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: credit card debt, so I just like put it back
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: into the credit card, which is nice. But with that card,
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: I can't get cash back because it only converts into
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: points for like miles. But then using like even if
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: you don't have enough miles to book a hotel, you
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: still get your own special discounted rate from the card,
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: so you don't even need to have enough miles. You
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: still are saving, if that makes sense. So I've discovered
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: that recently and it's been super helpful. I don't know
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: if it's a lot of ones are like that. I
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: know my mom has like the Delta one and she
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: doesn't have her own rates, so I don't know if
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: it's just like a shout out Chase situation. But I
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: didn't know, and it's been helpful. So I don't know.
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: Get a you have one with points.
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: Right, I have Capital one and it's the one I
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: use for my main credit card. Then what's awesome When
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: I go and buy something from Amazon, I have points,
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: Like I haven't paid for anything from Amazon in so
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: use your points. Yeah yeah, because I just redeemed the
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: points and it's great.
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: The other one I recently got was an Amazon credit card.
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: I get five percent back every time I buy something
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: on Amazon. And then when you sign up, you got
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: a two hundred and fifty dollars Amazon gift card. Oh
• 59:19
  Speaker 1: and like I'm always buying shit on Amazon, so like
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: five percent and then if you click on Amazon, if
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: you click also through Chase wait and save in terms
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: of like the shipping, like if you have more time
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: to get your item, they'll give you six percent cash back.
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: So it's kind of crazy, but yeah, like you can
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: use your.
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: Points everything of Amazon all the time.
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: It literally like pays for itself. It's crazy. But yeah, okay,
• 59:44
  Speaker 1: so you got free shit on Amazon with your little points. Okay,
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: I think we're at a crash out right when you
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: brought up like trying to control this outcome of a situation.
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: And it's something that we both have learned. I think
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: through therapy that we we try to like soften the
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: blow or like we want things to be expected, because
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: like we are scared of the unexpected. But you reminded
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: me of how like a couple times recently people have
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: done that to me, but they've tried to like silence
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: my response. So like multiple times recently, like someone has
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: sent something and then at the end they've put like,
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: don't need a whole big response back or anything, and
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: it just pissed me off because I'm like, I got
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: a lot to say and I want to respond. I
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: want to respond to what you said to me, and
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: it was this big, heavy thing, and I feel like
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: they're going I want to say what I want to say,
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: and I want you to not be able to respond,
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, you're gonna get this all big,
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 1: all long response. You're gonna get whatever length response I
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: have for you. And I will say, and everyone gives
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: me shit for this. I'm a little too wordy, I'm
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: a little too detailed. So sometimes I'll you know, it'll
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: be it'll be hard to land the plane with me
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: and in conflict. However, you're not gonna send me something
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: that like, I have things to say back to and
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: tell me. I don't need a whole, big, long response
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: from you, like bitch hello. So you reminded me that,
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: and I don't like that.
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna go with two, but when my
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: second one, I think sort of coincides with that, so
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: I just get off my chest. I think that I
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: don't know what it is, and maybe I need to
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: bring this up in therapy as well. But I feel
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: like there's something about me as a person that people
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 2: tend to not come forward first with their true intentions
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: when they're approaching me about something. I don't know if
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: it's because you don't want to piss me off, or
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: you're scared of me, or you think I'm too nice
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: and you don't want to tell me something that might
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: be mean or listed a different response. But I can't
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: stand when people if I can beat around the bush
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: about something like please just be direct, like and that's
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: something that I try to do, like in my everyday
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: life because just like you just said, like you always
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: try to or I always try to like control the
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: narrative or you know, good bad, bad, right, like trying
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: to like lead whatever. But it's just to me, it's
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: so much more efficient and just tell me what what
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 2: the fuck you want or tell me what you need
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: or ask the fucking question. Like we all have borrowed
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: time on this earth. I don't have time to hear
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: all the wishy washy and have you run around the
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 2: bush to get to the point, right, And so I
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: just feel like I maybe that's always happened to me,
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: but recently I've just been very more, very much more
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 2: like conscious conscience.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 1: Conscious conscious. I think that one, I think that.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: One would happened of it, and it's just annoying.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: So you know, that's my biggest trigger. I just I
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: don't and like even if it's like I don't know,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: I can't seend people who will even do skits about
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: like hey, yeah, I want to calm I want to
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: come include me on the reservation. But it's just because
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: you're scared to tell me no, like it is. It
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: is hurting me in the long run, like just shoot
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: me straight. I do not care. But in those situations,
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: if someone's like listen, here's the deal, here's what I
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: gotta work with, you know, unfortunately X y Z and
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: just fucking tell me, but trying to get into it
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: in a weird way because you and I are both
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: like we don't miss a.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: Lot through it, Like I see through it, so like,
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 2: let's just cut the bullshit.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: It's always insulting, like you think I'm gonna buy this
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: skit you're doing for me, like and I'm just the
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: whole time putting pieces together and I'm like, I don't know.
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: I yeah, I agree with that. And I cannot stand
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: when someone calls me and I can tell it's a
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: call where they want something, and then they go, how
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: are you right?
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: You do care?
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: Like it's not even it's like fine, good, Like let's
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 1: just skip it, like what do you need, Like let's
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: just chop chop. Yeah, yeah, I agree. What was your
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: second one?
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 2: Oh? Oh my god, No, I forgot it? Holy shit?
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: What was that?
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: Okay, you can remember?
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll say that for once I think of it,
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: I'll say for next time. I don't remember.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: I also, but I don't think it's you as a
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: person necessarily.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: I think it's just a pandemic.
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: I everybody I would, I would honestly say the percentage
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: of people that are actually willing to like, have a
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: conversation about conflictologize. I feel like over eighty percent of
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: people want to do skits. Cannot say the thing, and
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: it's so frustrating. I don't I don't understand, but it does.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: It's something I've noticed a lot, which is why I
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: started saying the whole everybody's doing skits thing, because I
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: feel like people are just doing skits and I don't
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 1: want to play long like I want to live in reality,
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: but I do notice that a lot of people do it,
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: and it kind of drives me nuts. If you guys
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 1: want to follow Jason by the way, j R. Brown
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 1: and then I know you think it's jarr Brown on TikTok,
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: but there's some numbers after it, but you'll find him.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: And then Caylin for real, for real, and the I
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: almost almost said the Morning Show, the top five pod
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: on is it Podcast? The top five podcast on Instagram? Yes,
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: and holler at your girl bye bye,