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Hypnosis To Defy and Be Free of a Controlling Inner Voice · The Hypnotist

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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  created for a client that was a former bulimic, hadn't had a
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  recent occurrence of a binge or a purge, but had got a lot of
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  intrusive thoughts connected to the idea of binging or purging.
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  And this was a very controlling, tenacious, insistent voice kind
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  of bothering them. And, and just having this voice
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  that would just wouldn't let them be in peace.
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  I would almost take advantage of them being either bored or
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  overwhelmed and try and coerce them or coax them into binging.
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  And they didn't really want to feel this way anymore.
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  So what? You're going to hear in this
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  hypnosis session is quite powerful reframes.
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  There was a time that they were in quite a volatile environment
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  in terms of home life and work life.
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  And back then binging and purging kind of felt like it
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  helped. But they're in a very different
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  situation now than they were in the past.
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  And because of that, they felt that they were in a a safe
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  place. So therefore the binging didn't
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  really have a function anymore like it did perhaps in the past.
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  So there is a metaphor of a very dark, dangerous, Moody looking
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  lake that transitions into a very calm and peaceful lake.
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  Also there is the reframe that the inner dialogue that is quite
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  controlling. Or is almost.
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  Like a controlling ex partner or a false friend that it has an
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  agenda and that agenda is not in the interest of them.
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  And this idea that they would be fatter or uglier if they didn't
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  binge is obviously this unconscious part praying on
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  their fears. So there's quite a bit going on
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  in this hypnosis session and I think it.
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  Will be useful. For people that have had eating
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  disorders in the past or perhaps people that have got.
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  Either a very. Critical inner voice or a
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  controlling inner voice that encourages them to self sabotage
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  or. Do activities.
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  That would be linked to self loathing.
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  If you can relate. To anything like that, then I
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  think this hypnosis session will be beneficial for you.
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  Now, just like most of my hypnosis sessions, this one was
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  created for a real client. And I don't think everyone is
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  aware that follows my content either on the podcast or YouTube
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  that the majority of my sessions were for an actual client.
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  But because of that, you're hearing a real hypnosis session.
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  But it also means that some of the suggestions aren't going to
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  be relevant for you because it was created for a specific
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  individual. But it's also worth knowing that
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  you could also work with me directly, just as this client
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  here was working with me directly.
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  And if that seems intriguing for you, click the link in the
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  description and you will see a link where you could book a
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  completely free 30 minute consultation call over Zoom to
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  explore working with me. So just bear that in mind for
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  now though, the ideal way to get value from this session is going
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  to be to find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed to relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in a.
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  Resourceful feeling of calm and. Relaxation and as you exhale,
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  that's it. Just allow all.
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  Tension in your. Eyelids to just be released and
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  with your eyes closed, notice just how much easier it becomes
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  to drift deeper and deeper. Relaxed.
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  In fact, the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  That's it. Allowing yourself to drift
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  deeper and deeper. Relaxed now and just scan your
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  body for any clues of tension, stress or worry.
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  And as you locate those sensations, just allow a feeling
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  of letting go to dislodge and dilute those sensations,
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  enabling you to feel that you can release those sensations.
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  As you exhale, you feel lighter, clearer.
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  I want you to get a sense that sometimes in the past, you may
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  have purged your food. But what if you could purge
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  overwhelming emotions just with a long outward breath?
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  In your exhale, you are letting go of those feelings that don't
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  serve you. That's it.
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  Just allow them to be released. That's it.
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  Taking you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  I want you to imagine a lake, but not just any lake.
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  I want you to imagine a dark, choppy, dangerous lake.
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  This is a lake from your past, not your present.
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  I want you to get a sense as you look out on this lake, a sense
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  of unease. The lake is dark and the lake
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  may have creatures inside the lake.
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  I want you to imagine you start to get towards the water.
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  Just imagine your feet submerged under the water of this dark,
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  restless lake. You can feel the wind lashing
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  against your face, and perhaps something about this lake simply
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  feels wrong. I want you to get a sense that
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  you can feel the waves almost grabbing and pulling your feet,
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  trying to get you into the dangerous lake.
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  And this is a place where you once needed to be not just
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  vigilant, but hyper vigilant, aware, cautious, aware of your
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  surroundings. Consider this place a place in
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  your past. A place where storms formed
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  without warning. A place where something inside
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  you learned to survive. Not thrive, but survive and
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  protect. I want you to imagine how
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  ridiculous it would be to wade into that dangerous lake with
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  those children's arm bands, those inflatable arm bands that
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  teach young children how to swim.
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  It might keep you afloat, it might feel like it's helping,
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  but it doesn't really protect you.
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  It's the illusion of protection. I want you to get a sense that
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  as you go back to the edge of the lake and see those dark,
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  restless waters, as you breathe in a feeling of relaxation and
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  continue to exhale any tension, stress and worries.
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  The lake is calming, quietening. The storm starts to fade and the
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  clouds begin to part and the dark water becomes lighter and
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  cleaner. And imagine stepping back just a
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  few paces and notice how your perspective begins to change.
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  The lake that was once dangerous now looks like a beautiful, safe
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  lake, perhaps in an entirely different part of the world.
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  So imagine seeing that new lake, the safe lake, the clean, quiet
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  lake. This is a lake of calm
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  tranquility. This lake seems to be inviting,
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  relaxing, and with every breath you take, the lake becomes even
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  more tranquil. The water settles, the wind
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  stills and the sky opens to blue skies and sunshine.
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  That's in. Because there can be a lake that
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  was once threatening that has now become a lake that is still
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  safe and serene and you are no longer standing in danger.
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  You are in safety. So breathe in and feeling of
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  safety and exhale any feelings of being in danger.
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  Just release it and let it go. You are no longer trapped in the
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  storm, you are in the calm beyond the storm.
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  And allow yourself to sink into that peaceful knowing, as if the
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  safety wraps around you like warm sunlight after rain or like
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  a cosy blanket that makes a young child feel safe.
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  And in this calm, your deeper mind is ready to listen.
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  Because once there was a voice like the storm or that dangerous
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  lake, loud, demanding, controlling, insistent, and it
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  claimed to protect you, to guide you, to keep you safe.
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  But now you see clearly it was the storm pretending to be the
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  shelter. And now you finally realise that
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  voice, that voice that's been trying to get its way is just
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  like Thunder in the distance, loud, but it can do no harm to
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  you. It was like a life ring that
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  once kept you afloat, but now it feels like an anchor pulling you
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  under. So thank that voice for what it
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  did for you in the past, and say goodbye as you choose to let it
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  go. And every time that voice
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  demands to be obeyed, I want you to feel a surge of calm
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  defiance, like standing safely on the shore, refusing to return
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  to that drowning lake. In the past, maybe you did obey
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  the storm to survive, but now you trust that you are safe and
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  the voice is just an echo from a past or even a person that no
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  longer needs to be in your life. And this part of you that once
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  tried to control the chaos doesn't need to, because now you
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  are the calm. You no longer need a jailer to
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  protect you from a prison that you've already escaped.
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  Feel an inner strength growing, like watching a toxic ex partner
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  knocking on the door of your mind and realizing you don't
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  need to go back to the thing you've already left behind.
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  Just because someone knocks at the door doesn't mean you have
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  to open it. Just because someone sends you a
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  message doesn't mean you need to reply.
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  From this point onwards, this voice will feel like letters
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  that don't need to be opened. You've heard them all before,
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  They have nothing more to offer. People don't get what they
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  deserve, they get what they tolerate.
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  And if this voice gets its own way, it will feel even more
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  emboldened to coerce and control and manipulate you.
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  But you are free. You now see the voice for what
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  it really is. A controller, a false friend, a
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  toxic manipulator. And if you allow it, it will
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  return. And if you refuse it, it will
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  either have to change or go away to feel that inner strength and
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  defiance growing within you. So even if the voids, shouts,
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  screams, begs, your refusal to comply becomes a bold
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  declaration of freedom. Not this time.
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  In fact, never again. And you could acknowledge that
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  voice as a frightened passenger on your bus, allowed to ride but
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  never allowed to drive. You are in the driving seat and
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  you will never give it permission to take control ever
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  again. And the more desperate the voice
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  becomes, the more it's letting you know you're about to be free
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  of it. They say it's always darkest
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  before the dawn, and the voice will be loudest before the
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  silence, before that voice goes away for good.
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  In fact, you can goad it to give you an ultimatum.
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  You want it to say the words you'll never hear from me ever
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  again. And when it says those words,
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  you'll smile because you will welcome the words.
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  Don't be afraid of losing this voice because it's served its
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  purpose. You don't need it anymore.
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  You're learning to surf the wave of urges, not drowning them,
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  watching the swell pass by without reaction.
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  This voice is a part of you, but it isn't you.
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  You are not the voice, you are the observer of the voice.
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  And as you observe, the voice begins to lose its grip and
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  every now and then you could say whose is this voice anyway?
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  Sometimes you can even play with the voice.
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  Make it squeaky, make it quiet, make it sound like it has an IQ
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  of 40. Play with a voice which loses
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  all control over you, and each moment you hear the voice, it
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  becomes less and less like a command and more like an echo
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  which is static from a forgotten radio station.
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  It loses its power. And letting go of this part is
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  not rejection, it's releasing something that doesn't fit you
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  anymore. You don't keep your old clothes
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  from when you were 10. You outgrew them.
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  And you've outgrown this voice too.
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  You are no longer a child needing control or coercion.
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  You are an adult choosing freedom moment by moment, breath
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  by breath. Consider this the nemesis.
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  Your evolution has one final stage, meeting your nemesis,
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  refusing to back down, to be free of it.
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  Allow yourself to unleash the courage, the defiance, the inner
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  strength to simply say no, never again.
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  And each and every time you don't act on the voices
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  suggestions, you prove to it and to yourself that it has no power
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  over you anymore. This doesn't just work with the
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  voice, but it protects you against other people that may
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  try and control you in your future.
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  When you defeat the voice, you simultaneously defeat people
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  like the voice manipulators, controllers, toxic narcissists
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  that have an agenda that want to take from you.
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  And you can let the voice talk, you just don't need to respond.
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  And as you refuse to engage, leaving those letters unopened,
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  the letters get fewer and fewer. Or the nature of the voice
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  becomes helpful, encouraging, and positive.
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  And under those conditions within, yes, maybe you do open
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  the letters. But not while it's controlling,
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  not while it's coercing you to do something against your better
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  interests. And if an urge to binge your
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  purge arises, just imagine a storm forming in the distance,
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  but you decide to stay safe, warm and dry inside.
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  You don't need this. It's your past, not your
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  present. Perhaps you can recall the time
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  when you ended a dynamic where someone was trying to control
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  you. You found a safe place.
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  You evaluated it for what it really was.
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  You made the decision and you acted on that decision, so you
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  already know how to escape this controlling voice.
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  You have the blueprints because you've done it before.
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  This voice is just another chapter that you've outgrown.
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  I want you to feel liberated having let go of this heavy
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  anchor, these inflatables that aren't meant for you now, at
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  this point in time. And you are not at war with this
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  part. You are simply choosing not to
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  feed it anymore. You wouldn't feed cockroaches
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  just because they come to visit. And if you did, you would get
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  more cockroaches coming more frequently.
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  You would starve the cockroaches.
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  And you can starve this voice by depriving it of what it feeds
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  on, your compliance and your engagement.
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  When you don't respond, it loses its energy.
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  So from this day forward, each moment you honour your body,
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  your health, your vitality with kind compassion instead of
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  control. The voice gets quieter until
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  it's barely a whisper. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  a glimpse of you maybe two or three months in the future, a
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  time where the controlling nature of this voice just never
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  comes up anymore. And I want you to see in that
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  future, all of its threats were false.
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  It was just a bluff. And you called the bluff.
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  See yourself looking healthier with the body shape more aligned
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  with what is desirable for you. See yourself looking even more
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  attractive and realise that a future without binging and
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  purging gives you more of what you want and less of what you
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  don't. Allow this glimpse of the future
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  to reassure you that the manipulative nature of this
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  voice is just a bluff and you've heard Bluffs like this before,
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  so you know how to handle them. Find yourself there, back on
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  that calm lake, and imagine going for a swim in the lake,
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  washing off everything from your past and noticing there's still
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  1 anchor tied to you. Release it, feel the anchor sink
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  all the way to the bottom of this safe lake and notice.
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  How much more? Freer you are now to swim and
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  enjoy the lake without this heavy thing attached to you.
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  Return to the shore feeling lighter with more, more clarity,
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  more defiance and more strength as it's time to return back to
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  the here and the now. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  That's it. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you
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  and you will awaken feeling resourceful, strong, clear,
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  knowing exactly how to be free of something or someone that is
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  controlling. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8 Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake.