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Why You Snap: The Somatic Truth Behind Parental Rage · The Parent Tap

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  SPEAKER_01: You work with renowned practitioners and you mentioned that that really struck me was that people that hurt us can be our greatest teachers through forgiveness and emotional freedom.
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  SPEAKER_01: What does that look like?
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  SPEAKER_01: And how do we model that radical forgiveness for our kids, especially when we're dealing with our own unresolved family traumas?
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it it was a huge one.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course I'm still working on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not perfect, but I do, it's like the first step is awareness and being aware of how you feel in your body at that time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so if you have a family member that triggers you and you're like, oh, I don't even want to be around this family member, next time just take a second between them doing what they're doing and notice how somatically it feels in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Does it, is it like your part feels tight?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does your solar plexus, which is like your stomach area above your belly button, does it feel nauseous?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have a knot in your stomach?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just notice and then don't react to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when we react to somebody who's triggering us, then that energy has to go somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it gets embedded in our body somatically.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then also a view, you view life through that lens of that trauma or that energy that's bound in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so just knowing that it's gonna wreak havoc on your body is gonna put you in awareness, going, okay, I'm gonna, I can't let what happened in the past or what's happening right now affect me anymore because you will see as it affects you throughout your life and physically, mentally, emotionally.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's the first thing is just being aware.
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  SPEAKER_00: And our greatest gifts, I'm gonna speak for myself too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our greatest gifts, the greatest gifts for me were the people who gave me the most pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you don't realize it at the moment because you're in the middle of the shitstorm and it doesn't feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in retrospect, in retrospect, after, then you're like, oh my gosh, I became a different version of myself because of what they did to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I had this relationship and it was a romantic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I thought it was like, oh my gosh, I found because I'm divorced and my boys are older.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I was like, oh my gosh, I found my husband.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I moved and we moved in together after dating long distance for a year, and it ended up just being the most horrific time in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: He had this double life and uh and just a horrible, horrible person and experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, and I felt stuck because I moved in and I was like an hour to go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it was just a horrific time.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now, many years later, I'm like, oh my gosh, if I didn't go through that with that man, then I wouldn't be the person I am today with more discernment, bigger boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not so innocent, and meaning, like I'm not gonna just like it didn't harden me where I'm bitter, but it gave me a new perspective on okay, I can't be so innocent and giving with people.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have to earn it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm just a little bit more with how much energy I put in.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I'm gonna let you in to my my sphere, my heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you have to slowly earn it now instead of me going, here, I just want to be loved.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the way I grew up as a child, like I just never got the love that I needed and wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was abused.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I found that through relationships of just like overgiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I found my partner who was a taker, taker, taker.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that was like a, you know, the narcissist and the empath.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was like the perfect storm.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I was just like, please love me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they were just like, oh, I'm gonna take all I can from this person.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it was, you know, that last relationship really opened to my eyes and I'm like, wow, I'm not the same human.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh, and same with my childhood, like it was horrible, horrible childhood, and which made me a better parent because I'm like, I'm not gonna repeat those cycles with my two boys.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna redo parenting, what parenting is, but it also took to heal myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to heal yourself first before you heal others.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to start with self and fill up your own cup and heal you before you heal others.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, it it doesn't feel good at the moment, but that's your clue.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you have a trigger, when somebody hurts you or they trigger you in some way, you're like, whoa, that's a roadmap to what I actually need to work on.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is a mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're a mirror for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, okay, they're mirroring what I actually need to work on within myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you can never change how people treat you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't change the way people live life and you know, look at their potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like they are who they are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can only change how you perceive and how you react.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's where you go back to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, if this person hurt me and they did this and this and this, what do I need to change within myself so that never happens again?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, because the same lessons will come and repeat just with a different face and a different, different situation until you learn the lesson.
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  SPEAKER_01: Totally.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, totally.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so going through the the the childhood that you just described, you know, you probably had repress repressed emotions, right, as a survival mechanism.
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  SPEAKER_01: I I think a lot of parents probably do do that, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: But we have that, and but we just we're going through the daily grind.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're just like, right, we don't have time to deal with this, so we just repress it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But how does like what's the effects of of all that?
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  SPEAKER_01: And like what's the solution to to because like regression, repressed emotions can't be good, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like eventually we have to get it out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that what you would recommend?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so repressed emotions, so everything's energy, our whole universe is energy, tone, and vibration.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when something happens, even a thought, even a thought that you had that you didn't even verbalize is still energy and it gets embedded somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you have to just remember like everything's energy, and if it doesn't get expressed, it will be somatically caught in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So sometimes you can't react, you can't like express the emotion that you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my oldest son, he's 26 now, but when he was little, like boy, was he a tough kid.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have a 26-year-old.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do, I do, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're meant, you know, it's so sad.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh, but it's neat at the same time, like seeing them grow into.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm like, I still picture both as these little boys.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will always see them as these little boys, and no matter even if they're like 80, I'm like, you're still my little boy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, okay, so I just came back from a 10-day meditation silent retreat up in the mountains, and it's called Vipassana meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so um, there's many Buddhas, but this one Buddha came up with this meditation, and when you sit there in meditation, you scan your body for sensations.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was like, oh my gosh, this is the same, this is the same type thing I do with somatic energy healing because in somatic energy healing, I can tell by your body when I put you on my table, I'll do certain checks.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's active, passive neural checks that I do on your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll take your legs and put them together for the adduction and pull them apart for abduction.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll do heel traction, heal aversion, la palpate your body up and down.
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  SPEAKER_00: It tells me what pattern you're in, what energy is held within the vertebrae and your spine, in your in your tailbone, in your coccycks.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it tells me where to start.
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  SPEAKER_00: This meditation kind of does the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you scan your body for sensations.
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  SPEAKER_00: So every sensation in your body that comes up is in a motion that is trying to come up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So think about if you like have a chronic knee pain, or sometimes I'll feel like electric shocks in my feet or my legs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I have good sensations, like I can feel energy running down like the inside of my thigh and my my calf.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I can feel the energy, I can feel the bottoms of my feet, the root chakras, or the earth chakras are connecting with the core of the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can feel it, it's vibrating.
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  SPEAKER_00: So not everything's bad, but every single sensation is telling you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's telling you is it's an emotion embedded in that part of your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it'll just pick.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you don't extract, if you're like so frustrated and you're just like, oh, but I can't let it out right now, and you repress that emotion, it gets stuck somewhere in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you're meditating and you scan your body for sensations, you have to meet that sensation with awareness, like, okay, I recognize you, and equanimity, which means an equal of balance of emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's you don't put a label on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not good nor bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so putting your awareness tells your brain, oh, this is something here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna put a story on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't even know what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to know what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm aware it's not good nor bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not an aversion or craving, they call it, because you're not gonna crave the good sensation, you're not gonna have an aversion to the bad sensation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It needs to be a balance of just like it is, it is what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when you put your awareness with equanimity, equanimity, balance of emotions, then it gets recognized and it's able to release from your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so just having this tool when you go back to how am I feeling today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, my kid is acting out so bad, and there's, you know, we're in public and I can't be like, stop it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have that emotion, feel it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're like, okay, I feel like want to scream and I feel rage, like he's embarrassing me and I don't know what to do, and everybody's staring at me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just take a second, take a breath, notice what's doing in your body, and just meet it with, there's nothing I can do right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's a kid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kids can't regulate their emotions a lot of the times.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're looking to you for you and your reaction on how, you know, what are you reacting for?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know how kids when they fall down and then they look at you and they're like, Should I be crying?
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  SPEAKER_00: Should I be laughing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because they don't know how to regulate their emotions yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're looking to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it's a good example also of not losing your shit in in public, but just recognizing where it is in your body and meeting it with it's not good nor bad, it's just it is what it is, and then that energy will not get bound in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can do those, yeah, these tools on your own without a healer and uh to minimize the energy getting stuck in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: But a lot of parents come to me, yeah, and they'll come to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I guess a theme as you were asking, low life force, they feel tired all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're just like, I am chronically tired, and my kid is three, and he's jumping off the walls and just like going, going, going, and they have a full-time job, and my wife has a full-time job, and I have chronic pain in my back.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, so I'll get that a lot from parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, right.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just chronic that chronic stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I know I was I was a parent of young kids too.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just like you're running on fumes, and so life force energy is scarce, and it's like you're always tired, you're always filling up your kid's cup, and you're not filling up your own, and it's just chronic depletion.
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  SPEAKER_00: So they come to me for like even laying on the table for an hour.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's like just for that hour apiece.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter what I do, I can just like leave the room and play music, and they'll be happy.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, totally.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm there, yeah.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, sometimes it's like anything, anything.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_01: I'll go get a haircut.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_01: Or I don't get very many, but when I do, I'm like, yeah, like do the works because like I want to be here longer and I want to relax and I want to not be at home.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_01: Kind of thing.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: Like I love my kids, but they're two and five, and sometimes it gets to the point where it's like, yeah, I just I need to get out.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_01: I need to like yeah, I need to get out and and I work, you know, I was working from home too, and I'm still working from home, so it's like sometimes I just don't get out, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like sometimes I'm just stuck here.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_01: I'll I wouldn't say stuck here, but you know what I mean.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_01: Like I like being at home, but it's also a certain point where it's like, okay, it's nice to go to the store, it's nice to go to the yeah, to kind of see people interact and and all that.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_01: But luckily I get to do that on the podcast.
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_01: Uh Shannon, are you able to heal me through through like chakras or read read my chakras, or I don't know how you phrase it, but is there yeah, is there a quick okay?
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you can do energy healing besides somatic energy healing.
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_00: You you need to be in person because you have to do checks on their body.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: But Reiki and I do another one called Pure Bioenergy, it it can be from a distance because energy is not linear, linear.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to be right in front of the person.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could be in China and I could just set the intention.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna work on Ryan and you'll lay on your bed and then you'll feel it.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: And so, yeah, you can do it from a distance.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: It's almost more powerful sometimes when the person isn't in front of you because they're not staring at you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're just like, what's happening?
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's just like silence, and you can totally concentrate.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_00: And uh, yeah, we can work on your chakra system.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: We can yeah, we can open up your chakras and give you some healing golden light from the divine and just make you feel healed and whole and complete, and just a remembering of who you actually are without the suit that we wear every day and this avatar of Ryan, this avatar of Shannon.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's just like we are divine light beings and we just forget who we are, but we're here in this lifetime incarnated to remember who we are, and so that's the beautiful thing about energy healing.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like Jesus healed with his hands, and we all have this innate ability, we just have forgotten about it.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's so great.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_01: And so, could you tell the audience listening right now where to connect with you on the internet and like how they can get uh you know set up with a healing session and all the stuff that you have to offer?
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my Instagram is thegraceful underscore healer, and my website is thegracefulhealer.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can contact me through either way.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_00: You can DM me on Insta or you can uh also my email is Shannon at thegracefulhealer.com.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: That's so cool.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: And then you like you said, you you use your service not just like in person, right?
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_01: So you don't have to be local necessarily.
• 13:48
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: So it could just be good distance as well.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_01: We could work, we could work, okay.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_01: So like I might need some work.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_01: I've had a hell of a year, Shannon.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: I know, but sounds like you're going through it, Ryan.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes endings are for beautiful beginnings, and we have two solar eclipse.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: No, we have two eclipses this month, which the solar just happened on the 12th, and then on the 28th, we have a lunar.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: And so there's a lot of change going on right now, and stuff is being eclipsed out of your life that no longer serves to make room for the new stuff.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: And so uh you'll figure out the YouTube and something new will come.
• 14:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_01: So just we're gonna get this on the we're gonna get this on the channel this month.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_01: It's gonna happen.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_01: And I appreciate you coming on the show because like I I just feel like your energy has gotten me in a better place, and so I know that like you'll do that for the audience too, and the viewers and and all that.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm so glad that we were able to connect.
• 14:39
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, I'd love to love to have you back sometime.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I would love to come back.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you, Brian.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_01: Sweet.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, thank you so much, Shannon.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_01: I appreciate your time and I hope you have a good weekend, even though you're not jetting out anywhere.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_01: Uh but that's okay, right?
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you can have some lucid dreams, and maybe you can do that, you know, in your dreams.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_01: Like maybe there's some destination you're you're meaning to go to, and you just haven't.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_01: And so Yeah.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: No, I think you read my future.
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going somewhere, I'm jetting off somewhere.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_01: There you go.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe, maybe I could be a uh healer in training.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I'm I'm sorry.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_01: I'm I'm an idiot.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_01: No, you're not.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like we're all healers.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: We all have this innate ability, we all have psychic abilities.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're just they're dormant and they're becoming awake right now.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, the more you tap into it, the more you own it, the more they will open up.
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_00: So I'll let you know.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, hey, I'm jetting off.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_00: It was true.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, right?
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_01: And be like, I knew it.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_01: I just I didn't know how to tell you.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I love it.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_01: Well, Shannon, uh, this is great, so great.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_01: I'm I'm so glad I met you.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_01: And yeah, like I said, I'll get this episode out this month and I'll let you know when it when it's uh when it's there, and that way you can put it and promote it however you want.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_01: Well, it's so weird for me because it's like YouTube is my main baby, and so like I'm like YouTube is like it's kind of a YouTube first channel.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_01: Uh but then like obviously we put it out on the podcast platforms as well, and I'll put everything in the notes so people can connect with you and hopefully utilize your services and and and get healed because I know that there's an importance, an importance to it, because like I'm I'm just feeling like I'm I'm somebody that once I get myself kind of back on my feet, like I'm gonna need some sort of like some sort of like this this thing would work for me.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_01: Because again, I'm I'm go like you said, I'm going through it as a parent.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_01: Our our audience is pretty much predominantly parents, and so like I I know people can relate to what I'm going through too when life is kicking you in the nuts and you know it's gotten you down or whatever, like it's going on, and you just feel like I need some I need a release.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_01: I need that hour of sitting on the table and whatever, you know.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: Totally.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_00: We we all do, but you you're going through it right now.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: Just just keep in mind that it's this too shall pass.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: I used to write that and put in my fridge when my kids were little, and like this too shall pass.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like nothing is nothing stays the same.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: Everything is always changing, just like the weather, just like politics, just like you know, things stay static, uh everything changes.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, the winds of change will blow when it's time.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: And whenever these lessons that you need to learn right now are learned, then you know, the winds of change will blow for you.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: But just go in and be like, okay, ask, ask spirit, what are the lessons that I need to learn right now through all of this?
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe it's going within and trusting yourself more, believing in yourself more, knowing that your higher self has your back, spirit has your back, whatever you want to call it, God, universe, Jesus, like I mean, your higher self is an aspect of your soul still up in the ethers, giving you breadcrumbs and feeding you whispers, and you find them within the wind, within the water.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like when you take a shower every day, imagine the water, because the water is a messenger.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: She she's a messenger.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_00: Just imagine it clearing you and asking her, please clear any stagnant energy that's holding me back right now that does not serve me.
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: So imagine water just washing away all this gunky, gray, dark brown energy and visualize it going down your body and into the drain.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: And then imagine this golden healing light coming from above and coming in through your crown chakra and going down and down your body and just filling you up with this golden healing energy.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: So you can use the elements to heal yourself too, and water and then the wind.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: When the wind blows, like mess what messages are you giving me?
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: And just sit there and be open and clear your mind.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_00: And then stuff will just come to you like that.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, what?
• 18:29
  SPEAKER_00: That that actually works.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: You can use the inner the element of fire.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: You can write down in your journal, like that person did that to me, and I'm gonna forgive you.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm going to write this down, which makes it very powerful, and burn it, and then release that to the to the universe too, and have them take that energy.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah.
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_00: So they're just little tools you you can do for yourself as well.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I could listen to you talk all day about just whatever because it's you have a very calming presence, very calming voice.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_01: And so, yeah, I mean that's just another plug.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_01: Like, like go go utilize for services, shannongracehealer.com.
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_01: Shannon Grace, thank you so much for being on the show.