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  Speaker 1: From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm of your day. It's SHAWNA m. What's up.
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  Speaker 1: the real Shauna May.
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  Speaker 2: And check me out at Bella Underscore Lalla one two five.
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  Speaker 1: Allergy season has finally hit here. It has been horrendous.
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  Speaker 2: Shauna is dying today.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm dying like every day. If it's
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  Speaker 1: not like my stomach issues, it's the allergies, and it's
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  Speaker 1: just so bad this year.
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  Speaker 2: They said it's one of the worst. I think. When
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  Speaker 2: we went to the allergies she was telling me it's
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  Speaker 2: been one of the worst years in a long time. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: people are suffering.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I got my allergy tests back and I am
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  Speaker 1: not alerted to anything except highly allergic to latex, and
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  Speaker 1: yet I have all these symptoms of allergic reaction after
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  Speaker 1: allergic reaction and allergy after allergy. So I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what to believe.
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  Speaker 2: It's really it's crazy. Yeah. Like so Shauna, from the
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  Speaker 2: time she was a child was allergic to like everything
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  Speaker 2: under the sun, pretty much every fruit. This is what
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  Speaker 2: she know, she was telling me, and her doctors had said.
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  Speaker 2: And I know you can grow out of stuff, so yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I think she gra out of a lot of it.
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  Speaker 2: But it was crazy to see a lot of them
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  Speaker 2: like zero, Like she had no reaction to certain things
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  Speaker 2: that she was deadly allergic to.
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  Speaker 1: It's so weird, you know. I know your body changes
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  Speaker 1: every seven years, but I don't know. I wish, like
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  Speaker 1: the allergy, the latex allergy would just go away.
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  Speaker 2: I know. And I was watching something on Instagram and
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  Speaker 2: they said that even though things might not pop up
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  Speaker 2: into in your allergy testing blood work, you could have
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  Speaker 2: a histamine disorder which you react to certain types of foods.
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  Speaker 2: And this doesn't mean you're gonna die from it, but
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  Speaker 2: your body is like, man, I don't like this, but
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  Speaker 2: it doesn't show up in like an allergy blood work.
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  Speaker 2: It was crazy. I'm going to dive deeper into it.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm thinking that you and I have histamine issues
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  Speaker 2: and I haven't seen what treatment is for that, but uh,
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  Speaker 2: it's something to look into to see maybe that's what
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  Speaker 2: we're dealing with.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it could be you know. I went
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  Speaker 1: to the hospital last week after the show for a
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  Speaker 1: test and they injected me with iodine. It's some kind
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  Speaker 1: of IV contrast, and the minute they injected me, I
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  Speaker 1: felt to go through my arm and I felt it
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  Speaker 1: in my mouth and then my mouth just went completely
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  Speaker 1: numb and my tongue. So after the test, I asked
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  Speaker 1: the girl if it was normal. I said, my mouth
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  Speaker 1: is numb. Is that normal? And she's like, no, not
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  Speaker 1: at all. So of course they call the nurse and
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  Speaker 1: they walked me back and the doctor the radiologists had
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  Speaker 1: to come and check me out. O. My blood pressure
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  Speaker 1: was one seventy nine over seventy seven.
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  Speaker 2: I believe that's high for you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, very high. So they're like, you're definitely having some
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  Speaker 1: type of reaction to it. So they're like, you're allergic
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  Speaker 1: to idine. So I they're like, follow up what you're primary.
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  Speaker 1: So I follow up with my primary and she says,
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  Speaker 1: you're actually not allergic to iodine, which I didn't know.
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  Speaker 1: This iodine is in your body already, so I had
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  Speaker 1: no idea. But it's a component within the IV contrast
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  Speaker 1: that I'm allergic to, which makes sense now because I'm
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  Speaker 1: allergic to tons of medications.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Iodine is something that we need. It's
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  Speaker 2: very important for us. It helps your thyroid. That's why
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  Speaker 2: i'd assault was made. Do you ever see on assualt
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  Speaker 2: says IODI AsSalt? Yeah, and it has like the red cross,
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  Speaker 2: like the red cross in the bottom. In third world countries,
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  Speaker 2: they don't have it. I don't know the signs behind it,
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  Speaker 2: but either it's not readily available in there soil or
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  Speaker 2: they don't eat enough nutrients and they get these goiters
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  Speaker 2: on their neck like the thyroid. It's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw them.
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  Speaker 2: So in order to combat that other countries like US,
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  Speaker 2: we began iodizing salt because we don't get enough in nature,
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  Speaker 2: I guess. And it's now there's iodine in everyday salt,
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  Speaker 2: and we sent it over to those countries and then
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  Speaker 2: they use it on their food and they're able to
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  Speaker 2: not get those goiters. So it's very important. We need it.
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  Speaker 2: We do produce it too, but if you lack it,
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  Speaker 2: you can have a lot of serious issues.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting, I didn't know that. You know, the medical mystery
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  Speaker 1: still continues. Doctor after doctor.
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  Speaker 2: It's never an easy appointment.
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  Speaker 1: It scenes no, and I had to go for like
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  Speaker 1: more blood work. It was just it's getting ridiculous. You know,
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  Speaker 1: they're just testing you for the same thing over and
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  Speaker 1: over and over again, and I know it's so annoying.
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  Speaker 2: I think they're just trying to appease you, like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: we don't know, but let's keep we gotta do something
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  Speaker 2: for her, you know, make it seem like we're trying here,
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  Speaker 2: But it's hard, it really is.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean I was hoping for your birthday that you'd
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  Speaker 2: get some answers as that would be a nice birthday gift,
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  Speaker 2: like having some dead said answers here.
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  Speaker 1: But well I did. I mean I have a heart issue,
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  Speaker 1: I have a spleen issue, I have a liver issue,
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  Speaker 1: and I have an intestinal issue. So I mean we
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  Speaker 1: got some answers, happy birthday, but not what I was
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  Speaker 1: looking for.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I get it. Well, how was your birthday anyway?
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  Speaker 1: It was good. I spent it, uh usually, as you know,
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  Speaker 1: I spend it with my grandmother. We always went out
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  Speaker 1: to lunch or dinner. She passed away. So I was
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  Speaker 1: like really depressed, you know, like really bummed, like this
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  Speaker 1: whole weekend. And then I was going through one of
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  Speaker 1: my drawers in my apartment and I came across her
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  Speaker 1: gift card that she gave to me last year. So
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  Speaker 1: that just like put a smile on my face. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was like kind of like, you know, it's a sign, definitely.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yep.
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  Speaker 1: But I went to my cousin's house. He had a barbecue.
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  Speaker 1: He has an annual Memorial Day barbecue. And the food
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  Speaker 1: is just amazing.
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  Speaker 2: Really, Oh, that's the best. That's the best when you
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  Speaker 2: go to a barbecue and they actually know how to
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  Speaker 2: cook or have good food, because it sucks when you
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  Speaker 2: go to these parties or barbecues and the food is
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  Speaker 2: disgusting and you're like you're starving, you want to eat,
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  Speaker 2: but you can't even stomach the food, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, which is you know, usual sometimes that does happen.
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  Speaker 1: Not with my dad's family though. Yeah. My uncle is
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  Speaker 1: an excellent cook. I look forward to every holiday because
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  Speaker 1: we spend holidays there. And I just, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't get enough of like the macaroni salad, the
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  Speaker 1: baked beans, the corn on the cob was so good.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, last week I went grocery shopping and
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  Speaker 1: I bought ten years of corn.
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  Speaker 2: I know, it was so much for me and my mom.
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  Speaker 1: So my mom's like, you know, she makes it and
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  Speaker 1: she says to me, I said, oh, how did you
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  Speaker 1: like the corn? And she's like, it's deer corn. I
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  Speaker 1: said what. She's like, it's deer corn. It's not the
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  Speaker 1: yellow sweet kind that you like. I said, well, I
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  Speaker 1: liked it, I said, I thought it was good. So
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  Speaker 1: when we go to my uncle's house, she shows me
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  Speaker 1: the corn and it's like really really yellow and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: really sweet. She's like, this is the corn you should
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  Speaker 1: have gotten.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, but that's all they have. That's all
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  Speaker 2: they had there. They don't sell deer corn in the
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  Speaker 2: grocery store, so maybe it just wasn't you know, it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't sure you know, yeah, because deer corn and cawcorn
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  Speaker 2: they don't sell the people to eat.
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  Speaker 1: She always complains about everything that I buy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, true, So they don't have this section as
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  Speaker 2: like deer corn and human corn. No, like it just
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  Speaker 2: breaking the corn and sometimes yeah, like depending on the
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  Speaker 2: corn that you pick, they're gonna be some's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: more ripe and some's not mature yet, so it's not
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  Speaker 2: gonna have that sweet flavor. Yeah, but yeah, I don't
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  Speaker 2: know she's.
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  Speaker 1: She loves to complain. I don't know if anyone has
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  Speaker 1: like parents out there that love to complain, but she
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  Speaker 1: just loves to complain about every little thing. So this
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  Speaker 1: year for Mother's Day, I was gonna get her a
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  Speaker 1: cherry tree because she's she's always wanted her cherry tree.
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  Speaker 1: I bought her one a few years ago. The deer
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  Speaker 1: ate it and that was the end of that. So
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna get her another tree. Then I was
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  Speaker 1: gonna get her, you know, an apple tree, and it
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  Speaker 1: was just I ended up getting her nothing because she
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  Speaker 1: she just complains about everything.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want that. Yeah, your mom for years since
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  Speaker 2: I've known her, has been asking for an apple tree.
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  Speaker 2: If anyone wants to get me something, I want an
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  Speaker 2: apple tree. And then you go to get it for
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  Speaker 2: her and she tells you no, Like I don't understand that.
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  Speaker 1: I know she can't plant it herself, but like my
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  Speaker 1: dad could have came over and planted it, or somebody
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  Speaker 1: could have my sister in law or brother or somebody
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  Speaker 1: could have come over and planted it for She just
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  Speaker 1: loves to complain. And it's so I didn't get my
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  Speaker 1: vacation that I wanted. So only thing I wanted was
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  Speaker 1: to go away for like the weekend, and that didn't happen,
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  Speaker 1: although it was really cold and raining and it was
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  Speaker 1: a horrible like Memorial Day weekend, I know.
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  Speaker 2: But you know what, you can always schedule your birthday.
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  Speaker 2: My birthday is on Christmas, so I can never do
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  Speaker 2: anything on my birthday, but we schedule, like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: right now tomorrow, actually I'm going on my birthday trip.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: So that's what you can do, is like, all right,
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  Speaker 2: May kind of sucks sometimes the weather plan it out
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  Speaker 2: because I'm I'm Christmas baby and my birthday present is tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to see Shakira in Boston and it's gonna
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  Speaker 2: be nice, hopefully nice out. So you should do the
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  Speaker 2: same thing, like have her bookie something in July where
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  Speaker 2: you know the weather's gonna be nice.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So she did say that we can do that.
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  Speaker 1: I just have to, you know, look up and see
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  Speaker 1: where we want to go. You know, I did look
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  Speaker 1: into Myrtle Beach. You know, the hotels there are five
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  Speaker 1: hundred and something dollars an.
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  Speaker 2: What the hell I could go to Florida for cheaper
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  Speaker 2: than that on a beach.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's insane. I was like, well, forget that. And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, maybe it's because it's like during the
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  Speaker 1: summer in its peak season. I don't know, but I
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  Speaker 1: am not spending no five hundred and something dollars on
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  Speaker 1: a hotel.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: Granted it's on the beach, yeah, but still no, not happening.
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  Speaker 1: Even I checked Jersey hotels for the Jersey Shore, like
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  Speaker 1: six hundred dollars. I'm like, this is insane. Yep, it's
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  Speaker 1: the Jersey Shore.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. They know that they're gonna get a lot of
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  Speaker 2: the people who don't want to fly down to Florida
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  Speaker 2: or drive down to Florida, so they can they do
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  Speaker 2: it because they can, like, oh well, the East Coast
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  Speaker 2: really doesn't have or the Upper East Coast doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: a lot of options. They're gonna come here, so let's
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  Speaker 2: charge them out the button.
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  Speaker 1: But it's not even that nice. You know, it's Seaside Heights,
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  Speaker 1: Point Pleasant. I mean Point Pleasant is way better than
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  Speaker 1: Seaside Heights. Yeah, still, come on.
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  Speaker 2: I know. And the hotels are never nice. They're like
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  Speaker 2: old dingy. I mean I went to one that was
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be nice, and I was very parking it
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  Speaker 2: really wasn't. It was very dingy.
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  Speaker 1: So we went to It was my first time staying
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  Speaker 1: over at Seaside Heights. We went with my godfather's wife,
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  Speaker 1: his daughter, and some of her friends. We stayed at
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  Speaker 1: the Hershey Hotel or Hershey Motel, and my little cousin
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  Speaker 1: was running around with his key for the room and
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  Speaker 1: his key opened up our door and like other people's doors,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, no, we're leaving.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you can get into every room.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, thank god, we only stayed there like overnight,
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  Speaker 1: but we left.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: How scary is that?
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  Speaker 2: Well, that is very it's really really scary. That means
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  Speaker 2: that another guest could, if they figured that out, could
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  Speaker 2: get it right into your room's.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a problem. So forget ever staying there.
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  Speaker 2: Go to Ocean City. It's a lot nicer, cleaner, the
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  Speaker 2: weather's nicer because it's you know, further south, a little
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  Speaker 2: bit of a drive. But I would recommend that over
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  Speaker 2: Seaside or New Jersey any day, any day. Or Delaware
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  Speaker 2: there's a I've never been there, but I heard Delaware
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  Speaker 2: Rehobeth Beach is really nice, clean and nice area. So
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  Speaker 2: but it's cold there, it's not as cold as New
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  Speaker 2: Jersey is gonna be. It's gonna be warmer. Oh so
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  Speaker 2: it's further south. Okay, so that's Ocean City and Dela
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  Speaker 2: and Rehobeth be there close like you can. But if
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  Speaker 2: you didn't, I don't know. I mean, I guess if
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  Speaker 2: you're driving that far, just go to Ocean City. You
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  Speaker 2: know what's the difference. But I would, I would say
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  Speaker 2: go to Ocean City. There's so many cool things, lots
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  Speaker 2: of cool bars on the water, like for dinner and lunches.
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  Speaker 2: I like it. It was very clean. I haven't been there though,
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  Speaker 2: I probably thirteen years, but my sister goes every year
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  Speaker 2: and she says it's still nice.
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  Speaker 1: So I'll have to check it out. So, speaking of vacation,
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  Speaker 1: me and you were tall the other day and you're
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  Speaker 1: going to Florida in July, and your sister was supposed
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  Speaker 1: to go with you, but her husband can't get off
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  Speaker 1: of work. Yep, So she said, as a joke, I'll
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  Speaker 1: just go with Enzo, Yeah, her son, her son, and
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  Speaker 1: you'll just have to pay for us, meaning her husband
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  Speaker 1: will just have to pay. So your husband was on
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  Speaker 1: the phone and he said that it's rude. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think so. I mean, granted, my mom my parents
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  Speaker 1: are divorced, but I know so many people that go
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  Speaker 1: on vacation without their significant other, you know, I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's hard because so, yeah, like my sister,
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  Speaker 2: she really wants to come with us of Florida with
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  Speaker 2: my nephew, and because her husband can't get off like,
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  Speaker 2: she said that, yeah, like can you pay for me
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  Speaker 2: and Enzo to go? And you know, I'm sorry, I
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  Speaker 2: want to go, and my husband just really like destrode
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  Speaker 2: over this, like how could she say that to him?
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  Speaker 2: That's so rude. I'd be so mad if you said
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  Speaker 2: that to me. So at first I was like like Sean,
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  Speaker 2: and was like, oh, what's the big deal because it's
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  Speaker 2: my sister, So I want her to come, And if
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  Speaker 2: he can't get off work, then I you know, I'd
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  Speaker 2: rather her come than not come. And he's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: working anyway, so what's the difference, you know. But then
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  Speaker 2: as my husband was explaining it, he's like, so let's
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  Speaker 2: reverse the roles, Lauren. If my parents were going to
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  Speaker 2: Florida on this nice vacation and in a beach house,
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  Speaker 2: you wanted to come but you couldn't get off from work.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, well, then I'm gonna go without
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  Speaker 2: you pay for me, and I'm gonna go with Juliana.
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  Speaker 2: And even if I didn't say pay for me, I'm
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  Speaker 2: just gonna leave you. I'm gonna take the kids and
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go to the beach for a week. How
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  Speaker 2: would you feel? And I thought about it, I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I would be really pissed. I would be upset, like
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  Speaker 2: because I want to go, but I can't get off work.
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  Speaker 2: So wait for me, you know, like, let's plan another
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  Speaker 2: trip so I get it. But then then yeah, like
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  Speaker 2: then my single side comes out where back in the day,
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  Speaker 2: I'm on the same page as you, like, just go
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  Speaker 2: out your husband, like who cares? You know, but certain
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  Speaker 2: certain marriages don't. They don't care. I have friends who
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  Speaker 2: they like getting away from their husband. They like going
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  Speaker 2: on girls trips, yeah, they and they the husband doesn't
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  Speaker 2: care because he likes the lone time too, you know. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and that's great. My marriage isn't like that, and my
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  Speaker 2: sisters is definitely not like that. Likes my sister's husband
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  Speaker 2: wants to be with her, you know, he doesn't want
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  Speaker 2: her going somewhere and might. And Mike's like that too,
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  Speaker 2: like he wants to be with his kids every day.
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  Speaker 2: He wants to be with me if I'm late or
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  Speaker 2: if I'm out. When he's getting home from work, he's
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  Speaker 2: really depressed because he wants to come home to see
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  Speaker 2: Jelina and my son, Like he wants them there when
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  Speaker 2: he comes home, so we can hug them and hang
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  Speaker 2: out with them because he misses them. So he is
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  Speaker 2: different that way. He does not want us to leave him.
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  Speaker 2: He does not want to be away from us. So
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  Speaker 2: I see it both ways. I know what you're saying, though,
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  Speaker 2: because I have friends too who just bye to their
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  Speaker 2: husband and the husband's like, yeah, i'll see you in
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  Speaker 2: a week, and they're fine with it, you know. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I mean you know, she's taken can end so so
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't have to worry about that, Like he's got
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: the house to himself, he's gonna be working anyway.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I get it. But then if I put
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: myself in their shoes, then I'm like, yeah, I'd be mad,
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: you know, I'd be mad. It's kind of like your
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: if your mom if she wanted to go on a
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: beach to a beach house and you couldn't get off
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: from your job. And then she's like, all right, well
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go without you, And you're like, well, can't
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: you just give me book another trip?
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: You know I would probably go without me, but let's
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: book another Yeah, when I can go.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's tough, it really is. I guess it depends
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: on the marriage, Like I said, like my marriage, no,
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: he's not cool with that. My sister's Nope, not at all.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: And then other marriages, Yeah, they don't care. They're like freedom.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: You know, both sides like freedom. So what what do
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: you guys think? Like, are you more like Shaana saying
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: I don't see an issue with it. He should let
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: her go on vacation with you know, me and my husband,
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: and he should stay home and work, or more like
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: me and my husband, like, no, that's that's not nice
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: to do to him. Stay home with him and book
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: another trip together.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: We'll have to do a poll.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll do a poll online or something.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, on our social media. So I guess that goes
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: with like mom guilt versus like single girl.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, parent guilt, but yeah, mom guilt. Moms and
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: dads can have it. I think more so moms get
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: a lot of mom guilt, Like I know I have
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: you do every single day, maybe not multiple times a day,
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: but most days it usually is. But always at night time.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: It hits me. Always at night time, I have this
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: mom guilt and it makes me so depressed that I
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: have to stop my brain from thinking. I think of
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: everything that I did wrong and how I treated my
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: children through the day, mainly my son, because my daughter whatever,
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: she's three and she snaps back. But my son is eleven,
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: so he's at.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: The age where he's not a bad kid.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: He's not a bad kid, but he's going through those
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: hormone changes, emotion, whatever it is. And I have no
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: freaking patience for him, and I feel horrible, like I'm
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: so nasty to him, sometimes not saying he's being an angel,
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: and I'm being nasty Like he gets he does things
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: that are aggravating. But I lose my cool so fast
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: on him.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: He loses his book bag.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he loses his book bag. He he's all he
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: is right now is about is talking to his friends
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: on the tablet or on his PlayStation. So that's all
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: he wants to do is talk to them. So he
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: is so zoned into that and I'll be like, hey,
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: can you go let the dog out? Or hey can
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: you do this? And he'll jump and do it really fast,
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: but he rushes through it because he wants to get
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: right back to that tablet. And then he didn't clip
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: the dog in one day good enough, like on its harness,
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: so the dog got loose and you know, I couldn't
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: find it for an hour. Things like that where he's careless,
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: and I know it comes with age, but as a mom,
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: I'm losing my cool and I'm screaming at him and
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: I'm like putting him down in a way, you know,
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: like what the hell's wrong with you? And it's not good,
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: it's not nice. And then did I I didn't hug
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: enough today? And then I start thinking of how old
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: he's getting in soon he's not gonna want to hug me.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Soon he's not gonna want to be around me, and
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna lose him, you know, he's gonna he's gonna
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: get into those teenage years and then he's gone. And
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: every night that mom guilt hits super hard, and I'm like,
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: I'm this is it's not it's not fun those emotions
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: and we're all trying to do our best, but we
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: make mistakes, and I definitely make a ton of mistakes
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: and I hate it. Like I don't know, I hear
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: that single women, you girls have single girl guilt or
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: something or single girl pressure.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: I mean my pressure is different. I'm you know, I'm
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: I'm single, but I'm looking you know, if a guy
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: just comes to my door magically, maybe, you know. But
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: our I think my thing is is I'm focused on work. Yeah,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: I don't have kids. I have the cats, so you know,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: my focus is a little bit well way different. Yeah,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: I feel the guilt like, oh, you know, I should
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: have Like, for instance, my cousin is having a party
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: and I'm going to be out of town for the podcast,
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: So which should I do? Should I do the podcast
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: or should I go to my cousin's birthday party? You know,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: So that kind of guilt maybe like you could spend
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: time with family, you know, any time, but you know,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: these interviews only come up once in a blue moon,
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: so you know, like it's kind of like you gotta
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: weigh your options.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and that's I guess the same thing with me.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: It's you know, I work a lot, I have the
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: mom guilt with my daughter too, like she's not enjoying
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: her toddlerhood. I feel because I'm always working all the time,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: and every morning, most morning, she's like, Mommy, I don't
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: want to go anywhere. I want to play in my room.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: And it's heartbreaking to me because you know she should
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: be playing in her room, she should be playing with
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: her dolls. But yeah, you gotta work, got to survive.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: And that guilt kills me too. I'm like, you know,
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: she Geo. I didn't work until he was about three,
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: so he had a lot of freedom from the from
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: a baby to a toddler. He was in his room,
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: he was playing, he was outside, he was never in
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: the car Angelina. It's different. So I have a lot
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: of guilt with her too, And you know, you weigh
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: out the options. I need to work, I need to
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: make money and try to make the best of it
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: for her, you know, try to make sure she's having
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: fun and have a day off where she's staying hanging
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: out at home in her room and she doesn't feel
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: the constant because every day is funny. My husband last
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: because she's like a little old person. She's like, where
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: are we going? I'm like, well, I gotta go to
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: work again, and you know, she's getting tired of the
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: everyday thing, and I feel bad for her. Yeah, but
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: and that's the guilt, and you know, we got to
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: weigh out her options. And you have the pressures of
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: other things, probably of life and family, like oh, when
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: when are you getting married? Or when are you meeting someone?
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Or man, are you gonna have kids? Right? Like those questions.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the whole kids thing that has gone away, thank god. Yeah,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: I pretty much made it very clear that I do
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: not want to have kids. I love kids, but I
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: just don't want to have my own kids, you know.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: And it's not even the selfish thing. It's that I
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: cannot handle poop and throwing up yep. That is really honestly,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: And like the crying stages all the time, like the whining,
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Oh I can't stand that. But yeah, the whole marriage thing, yeah,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: that still comes up all the time. When are you
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: gonna get married? When you well, you gotta meet someone, right,
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I gotta meet somebody first, you know, someone who's not
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: an asshole.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: That's hard. That's a hard one.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: You know, Like these dating apps, I see it all
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: the time. They're like, does anyone know of any great
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: dating apps? You know? These all suck? Nope, they all suck.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm off of them. I'm not on them.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: I I can't imagine. I can't. It was bad, like
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: back I was on the dating amms, back when they
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: kind of first started. We only had two options like
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: Match dot com Yeah, and plenty of Fish. I think, yes,
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: And it was bad back then. Not so much Match,
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: but plenty of Fish was like a cesspool of just
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: sexual predators.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I feel like it was. It was bad. It was disgusting.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: Didn't somebody say that they wanted to lock you in
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: their basement? Oh?
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they said. I still have them screenshop. But the
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: guy wrote me and said, you're so cute, You're so tiny,
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: I'm going to send someone to your house and put
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: you in bubble wrap and ship you to my house
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: and lock you in my basement while feeding you TV
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: dinners to keep you alive. That was a message I
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: got from a guy trying to date me or get
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: me to go on a date with him, and I
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: like posted it because I was so freaked out, and
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: a few people were like, that's funny, he sounds funny. No,
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: don't I don't find it funny when you're kind of
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: threatening to like kidnap me and you lock me in
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: your basement, like come on. But I don't know if
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: people are that creepy nowadays, because that was the beginning
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: of that kind of stuff, So maybe now people are
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: smarter than to write that out. And who knows. I
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: don't know.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I mean, you never know. I come across when I
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: was on those dating apps. I've come across some sketchy,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: sketchy things, you know. I've come across people that are
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: married that I know on these apps. Yep, you know,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: like it's crazy.
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: And they don't care. They don't care.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: No, And like my cousin's relative on her husband's side,
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: like he's on the app and he like always messages me,
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, you know me, oh my god, you know,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: like why are you messaging me?
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: The balls these people have? I don't know, I don't know.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: I My newest obsession has been are we dating the
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: same guy that those those Facebook groups?
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I love reading that crap. And they're they're everywhere.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: There are a lot of states have them, a lot
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: of cities and towns and counties whatever, And it's great
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: because it's like girl power and you know, girl code.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: We're posting up a picture. Sometimes they just want to
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: know their car facts. I call it the car facts
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: on them, you know, yeah, give me the red flag,
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: give me the pros, give me the content. I always
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: wish there was something like that back in the day
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: when I was on those apps, I said, I wish
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: these apps came with like a review, like a review
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: section of like where past girlfriends could write underneath it, like, yeah,
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: he's a jerk, he cheated on me, he has a
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: weird fetish, you know.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: He doesn't pay for the meal on the date.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he has three baby mamas. Like I wish there
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: was a review section that people could just go on
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: and write. But now these Facebook groups they do that,
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: and I love it. I love reading it. And then
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: I saw someone recently that I knew my husband knows.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: I met him through my husband a few times, and
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: he was on there. A girl plastered his face on
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: there was making fun of his you know what, like
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: told and sane. It was a micro it was very tiny,
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, ripping him apart, and I was I
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: was laughing. I'm like, oh my god, you know this
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: is crazy that.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: The bad part about it is could this be someone
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: making up lies about him, like she's mad that he
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: turned her down or whatever. Yeah, but I don't know.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: I think it's a good thing. We got to look
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: out for each other. And there's a lot of creeps
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: out there. There's a lot of men out there that
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: they play the game. They play women very very well
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: while they're either with somebody oh yeah, and they play
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: mind games with you and and their girl or whoever
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: they're with, And we got to call them out. We
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: got to put put them on last because they they're
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: doing this and they're getting away with it. And yeah,
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: I think I think it's a good thing. So that's
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: my newest obsession is these are we dating the same guy?
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: I just like reading like what people are writing, you know,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: on there, and to see like just the scum. I
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: guess she could say that's on those dating apps. Yeah,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: they are really just really bad. I mean your brother
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: was on it for months yep, and he finally found
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: a girl.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: He found a girl from it. Yeah, uh, I mean,
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: but he was a jerk on there too. He was
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: always like mean to people if they if they said
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: something wrong to him. You know, but he found a girl.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: We'll see how long, you know, hopefully she sticks around.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: We really like her. She's really sweet, you know. I
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: think they make a good pair. But I'm like, oh, Carl,
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: don't mess this up. Come on, She's a good, normal girl.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: But yeah, he used the dating app, so it was
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: good for him. I actually met my husband on the
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: dating app on Plenty of Fish.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so he would have met him before, yeah, like
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: i'd seen.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Him out kind of. He was friends with a friends
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: but and my sistern had met him a few times before.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: But that's how he reached out to me. He reached
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: out to me on Plenty of Fish and was like, hey,
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: I know your sister, and then we started talking from there.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: But so it works, you know, it can work. It
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: just that you're not getting the best options on there.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: It's kind of like, out of one hundred guys on there,
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: you might find two that are good and the rest suck.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: So it's very hard finding those two good guys out
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: of the hundred weirdos, you know.
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I've made friends with guys from the apps.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: But yeah, you had some duds there, some some jerks
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: that I wanted to like, choke out.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know which one is worse, the one
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: that was counting his money in front of me, oh god,
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: on the date, or the one that asked me to
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: pay for his child support and diapers.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: They're brazen, these men, they're brazen.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: I don't know which one is worse.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: I think the diapers guy, because he kept asking me
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: to pay for his kids. You're only talking to him
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: for like a few weeks online. You didn't even meet
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: him in person.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: No, we didn't even be in person.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: The guy counting his money, I was there for that,
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: and that was just that was embarrassing. I was embarrassed secondhand,
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: embarrassed for him, you know. So this is the story
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: showing us on a date. I happened to be there
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: with my kids. I saw him like oh, and she's like,
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: why don't you say with us? So this is their
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: first date. It was he he was very awkward.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: So yeah, that's why he was normal when you talk
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: to him on the phone.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: The phone. Yeah, so she was feeling awkward. So like
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: heyla like, comes sit with me. I sat there and
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: then I think he thought he had to pay for
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: my food, and my daughter sued and showing a suod
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: and he just kept counting his money and he only
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: had I don't even know, maybe ten singles in his hand.
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: And he's under the table, but you could kind of
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: see it. He's counting, counting, counting, putting it back, counting
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: it probably like fuckuck, I don't have enough money to
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: pay for this.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then he just started taking it out on
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: the table.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yep, counting, counting.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: And then the waiter came and I said, just put
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: up my.
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Card, yeah, put the bill on my cart, and he
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: was like like a relief came over him. He's like,
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: I only had ten singles on me, Like who goes
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: on a date and with only If you don't have money,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: that's fine, but just say, hey, why don't we hang
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: out somewhere else? Like if you're going to eat at
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: a restaurant, you should have some money on you.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, girl and guy he picked the place.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, very weird, very weird. That was awkward, but still
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: not as bad as that guy asking you for to
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: pay for his diapers and baby stuff, because that was
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: that was crazy to me.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: That was just like on a whole nother level, like
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: you're not gonna get a girl by asking that.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, you know, like maybe an idiot,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: but not any normal or intelligent woman.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Then there was another guy. He was from upstate
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: and he had like three or four kids, and he
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, do you want kids? And at that
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: time I was like, yeah, you know, maybe I don't know.
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: So he writes back and goes, if you come up here,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: I can make that happen, Oh my god, And I'm like,
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: are you kidding me? I'm like, oh, block you.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Yep again brazen, Like what is.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: Wrong with these guys?
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know if they think that's what you want
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: to hear, or they think it's sexy but it's not.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Now No, they think last thing I want to hear.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they think with their dick and that is it.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: Hey, you want to get knocked up by a guy
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: with four babies already on the first date? No, No,
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: who would? Who would? Unless you're like a zillionaire. That's
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: the only billionaire. I'd be like, all right, child support,
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: you know, I'm kidding, but no, not no light low life,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: four baby mama. Having guy out there you're like, oh,
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: let me knock you up the first date and then
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  Speaker 2: by you know.
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  Speaker 1: Like yeah, he probably didn't even have it. I didn't
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: even like ask what he did for a job, but
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: he probably didn't even have a job.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, not at all. I guarantee it.
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  Speaker 1: I just I don't know. Oh jeez, that's me with
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: my dating stories. So, speaking of my little fur babies,
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  Speaker 1: my children. We got the litter robot for Mother's Day
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  Speaker 1: and my dad finally hooked it up for me. I
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  Speaker 1: am obsessed with it. I've never been so excited over
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  Speaker 1: a litter box. But you know how, I'm like always
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: like I wonder if Leo is okay. I wonder if
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  Speaker 1: this one's okay, you know. Yeah, so I could track,
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna sound crazy. I could track when they use
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  Speaker 1: the litter box on my phone, like.
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  Speaker 2: Which cat uses it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Wow?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So you type in like you know the name
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  Speaker 1: of the cat, and then their weight and if they
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: have any like medical issues. Mine don't have medical issues,
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  Speaker 1: thank god. But you type in the weight and all that,
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  Speaker 1: and then it tells you which cat uses the litter box.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it tells you on the app when it
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  Speaker 1: needs to be changed, like when the litter has to
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  Speaker 1: be changed if there's not enough litter because it kind
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  Speaker 1: of like goes through a cycle, so it's scoop for it.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to scoop it. It just goes. It
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  Speaker 1: goes on like.
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  Speaker 2: It strips itself, like yeah, yeah, sure, and.
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  Speaker 1: The little tray on the bottom just comes out and
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  Speaker 1: you just pick up the bag and throw it away.
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  Speaker 1: Super simple, super easy. It's great for people with disabilities
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  Speaker 1: because we could do it independently. We don't need help anymore.
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  Speaker 1: And it's just so easy. And the cats love it,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: I think not walking in.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Poop, yeah, And I think that's my favorite part about it.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm not trying to be mean, but whenever it
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: comes to show in his house there, anybody's house that
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: has cats, the litter box always grosses me out because
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: you see the poop, You see the poop, Yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: smell it, and you smell it, so that's a problem.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: And it always like grossed me out going to anyone's
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: house with cats not just shown us, and I'm like,
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: I don't want to look at cat poop. I don't
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: want to smell it, you know. But this thing, she's
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: had it hooked up for over a week now about
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: and I don't smell litter like I've gone and it's
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: just the litter Roba is in like a small room
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  Speaker 2: and whenever I go in there, I do not smell
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  Speaker 2: it at all. You wouldn't know there was a litter
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: box in that room, and you don't see it anymore.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: You don't see the poop or the clumps of peas.
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: And I love that that. It's any Every house with
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: cats should have it, because you don't want your house
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: to smell a cat, you know. No one likes that, no,
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  Speaker 2: but that's that's the best thing to me, is like
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: the smell and not having to see it.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love it. I absolutely love it. And uh,
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do a full video review of it
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: very shortly as soon as like I have to get
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: the cats like involved in the video, and they're very
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: camera shy. Yeah, Holly was afraid to the little robot.
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  Speaker 1: So it took her like ten minutes. She just kept
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: like sniffing it and then she'd stick her head in it,
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: and then she'd step back, and then she just stare
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: at it, and then she finally went in and used it.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: I'm like, she's.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Fine now, she's okay, yeah, yeah, good.
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  Speaker 1: But it took it took some time.
• 35:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Everything. It's just like kids. They're gonna nothing happens
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: overnight and they have to get used to things. You know,
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: they have they have a one thing for the whole
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: their whole life was the same little litter box, and
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: then you change it to this robot looking thing. It
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: looks like a spaceship. You know, they're like, what the
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: heck is this?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: We need that for you people. Right, we need to
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: weigh us while we're sitting on the toilet track us.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: How many times did I go today? Oh? Jeez? But no,
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: it's great and it really is easy for cat owners
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  Speaker 2: to have, especially with multiple cats like Showana. She has three,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: so that makes it so much easier to keep everything
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  Speaker 2: smelling clean, looking clean, and the cats are happy.
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• 36:02
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