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Why Men Masturbate In The Shower. Way Back Post. · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for October 14th, 2026 Why Men Masturbate in the Shower
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  Wayback Post Today's Wayback Post
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  is from the XY Code, a blog I did that attempted to explain men to women.
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  There was no real choice on this one. Since it was first written on June 16th
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  of 2017, Why Men Masturbate in the Shower has been by far the most popular post on the blog.
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  Today it has over 60,000 views, beating out the next two combined.
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  So with no more lead-in, I suppose the first question I need to answer would
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  be, how common is it for men to masturbate in the shower?
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  The vast majority of guys learn to do this as teens. Proper washing of the penis
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  feels good and can be a bit arousing, which can easily lead to masturbation for a young guy.
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  So men bring the habit into their marriage.
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  In a TMB survey we did of almost 700 men, 54% said they had done it in the last
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  month, and 28% in the last week.
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  So yes, it's a common activity for married men. However, it's nowhere near universal
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  15% say they never do it And 40% say they do so only a few times a year,
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  As to why it happens, the easy and most common answer is not enough sex If a
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  man is sexually frustrated, a shower may make him aware of it And doing it there
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  is quick, easy, and mess-free,
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  However, men see shower masturbation as something far less than sex.
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  When asked how they feel about it, 38% said it was okay, but nothing special.
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  It provides release, nothing more. As one man said in the comments,
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  Masturbation gives me some breathing room from the physical effects of my drive. It dulls the hunger.
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  It does nothing for the emotional needs of my heart.
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  It does not make me more intimate with my wife or less lonely.
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  It is highly depressing. I masturbate to get relief, yet it is a bitter testimonial
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  to the profound loneliness I have found in marriage.
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  Sadly, some men think they're doing their wife a favor by doing this 17% said,
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  I'm glad I can do it rather than bothering my wife all the time,
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  Other men find it easier than risking rejection Especially when they feel a
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  strong need for physical release,
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  A dozen men said they masturbate in the shower to help avoid porn As one said,
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  you can't do that in the shower,
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  Several men said they masturbate before sex so they can last longer with their
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  wife in bed A few men said they masturbate but don't climax so they are aroused
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  for sex with their wife or so they are highly aroused because that makes sex better for them.
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  Finally, 10% of men said they engage in shower masturbation when they are separated from their wife.
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  Doing it in the shower prevents the temptation to flip on the TV and look for porn.
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  There were a few men who said they really enjoyed flying solo in the shower
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  and 5% said more sex with their wife wouldn't change their shower masturbation frequency at all.
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  But 59% of men said more sex with their wife would put an end to doing anything
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  in the shower and most of the rest said it would greatly reduce it.
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  The bottom line is shower masturbation by married men is common,
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  with about a third of men doing it at least once a week However,
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  the vast majority of these men see it as a physical necessity,
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  and they would much, much rather be having sex with their wife,
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  This is Paul, I'm XY, and my wife is so much more enjoyable than any shower.