Am I Financially Abusing My Boyfriend? A Conversation With The Man Himself

Money Mindset and Personal Finance for First Gen Latinas: Ching@ Tu Money® · Mar 17, 2026 · 27m

#40: Given that my boyfriend pays for a lot of our shared expenses - I often wonder, 'Am I financially abusing him?'

I don't wonder it jokingly. He has shared with me that in the past, he experienced some financial abuse (including financial infidelity). I love my boyfriend and I respect his money. But, some of the behaviors he describes from his past sound a bit like the arrangement we currently have going on.

In this conversation, we dive into his experience, thoughts and perspective. SPOILER ALERT: he says I'M NOT financially abusing him.

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