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_I_m Obese But I_m Healthy · THINK BEFORE YOU SLEEP

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Speaker 1: One of the hardest parts about being a fit mom
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Speaker 1: is that it's so deeply tied to my identity.
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Speaker 2: Did I miss something? Where's the fit mom? Did they
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Speaker 2: forget to edit that into the video? Being fit and
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Speaker 2: looking fit are two completely different things. One is testable.
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Speaker 2: The other is a beauty standard. Well, I mean, blood
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Speaker 2: pressure and blood sugar are testable. Cholesterol is testable. How's
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Speaker 2: that meniscus holding up? The meniscus is a part of
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Speaker 2: your knee. I'm saying that she's going to need knee
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Speaker 2: surgery in a few years if she keeps doing plyometrics
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Speaker 2: as a person who is 100 pounds overweight.
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Speaker 1: I love helping other people get fit and strong and healthy,
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Speaker 1: especially in a way that isn't tied to how their
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Speaker 1: body looks, in a way that makes them feel empowered
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Speaker 1: and strong and that they can go into their life
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Speaker 1: and feel like fitness and health adds to it in
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Speaker 1: a way that it does mine.
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Speaker 2: I love the audacity of these people who call themselves
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Speaker 2: healthy because of a few things that they're doing, while
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Speaker 2: at the same time they ignore one of the biggest
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Speaker 2: factors that's affecting their health, which is their bad diet. Anyway,
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Speaker 2: this is a CrossFit influencer who goes by Sporty Beth.
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Speaker 2: She's somewhere around 220 to 240 pounds, and she's training
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Speaker 2: to be able to survive the apocalypse.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to the gym right now so that I
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Speaker 1: can train for the potential apocalypse.
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Speaker 2: Well, she certainly has the twinkie part of that down.
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Speaker 2: But Beth has made a number of videos showing her
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Speaker 2: fitness prowess on TikTok and Instagram, like this video here
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Speaker 2: that says, don't underestimate heavy girls, where she shows everyone
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Speaker 2: that she can do pull-ups at her weight.
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Speaker 2: Okay, that's
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Speaker 2: not full range motion. Why is this a pinned video?
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Speaker 2: Even with the goofy CrossFit pull-up, she maybe gets her
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Speaker 2: chin over the bar once on the first rep. This
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Speaker 2: is not a good look, but maybe there's another exercise
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Speaker 2: that she does well.
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Speaker 1: I've started doing handstands recently in the gym with my partner.
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Speaker 1: And I had, because I've gained like quite a significant
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Speaker 1: amount of weight in ED recovery over the last few years.
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Speaker 1: I was really nervous going upside down when I wasn't
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Speaker 1: near a wall, because I thought I would be too
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Speaker 1: heavy for him.
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Speaker 2: Holy shit, that is an incredibly unsafe handstand for someone
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Speaker 2: who's trying to do this at over 200 pounds. And
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Speaker 2: here's a second one from a year and a half later,
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Speaker 2: and she's gotten worse. She would never be able to
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Speaker 2: do this without a wall, but based on the caption,
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Speaker 2: she clearly thinks this counts as a handstand. So Beth
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Speaker 2: is a fitness professional, or a fitness influencer, if you will.
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Speaker 2: who a number of years ago had some health issues,
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Speaker 2: so she decided to join CrossFit to manage her weight,
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Speaker 2: and she actually ended up losing 100 pounds.
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Speaker 1: This is the story of how I lost over 100 pounds.
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Speaker 1: The reason I started CrossFit, the reason I got into
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Speaker 1: fitness in the first place, was because I was experiencing
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Speaker 1: severe mental health issues. I had gained a lot of
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Speaker 1: weight because I've had struggles with food throughout my life.
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Speaker 1: I didn't realize how much I was turning to food
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Speaker 1: and alcohol in order to numb that pain that I
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Speaker 1: was going through. I'd already done a little bit of
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Speaker 1: weightlifting in the gym at home. I really enjoyed it
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Speaker 1: and I thought, why don't I go and have a
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Speaker 1: go at CrossFit and see if I enjoy it? I
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Speaker 1: was addicted after the first day. I needed to be
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Speaker 1: around people and I needed to move my body and
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Speaker 1: I needed to pursue health.
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Speaker 2: To be clear, Beth was obese, lost the weight, and
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Speaker 2: she's making this How I Lost 100 Pounds video after
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Speaker 2: she gained the weight back. But that's her little My
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Speaker 2: 600 Pound Life type backstory of how she got to
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Speaker 2: where she is today. Beth has a problem with overeating
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Speaker 2: and alcohol abuse. So she did the correct thing by
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Speaker 2: surrounding herself with the community aimed at fixing that problem.
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Speaker 2: Addiction is very much a social issue where a big
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Speaker 2: part of the problem is that you either aren't socializing
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Speaker 2: enough or you are surrounding yourself with the wrong people.
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Speaker 2: Fixing your social environment is a part of recovery. But
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Speaker 2: Beth says that this environment didn't end up being the
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Speaker 2: solution to her problems.
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Speaker 1: As I started eating healthier and going to the gym,
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Speaker 1: I started to lose weight. And then, of course, because
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Speaker 1: of the societal pressure, I felt that I was not
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Speaker 1: healthy in a larger body, and that I had to
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Speaker 1: lose weight in order to get healthy. I also tried
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Speaker 1: a really aggressive calorie deficit, where I was on about 1,200
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Speaker 1: calories a day.
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Speaker 2: I mean, if you're this big, then your weight is
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Speaker 2: having a negative impact on your health. And 1,200 calories
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Speaker 2: for a woman is not that restrictive. Depending on how
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Speaker 2: tall you are, maintenance calories for women is somewhere around 1600,
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Speaker 2: so 1200 calories isn't a huge drop. As I said,
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Speaker 2: she ended up losing all the weight from her previous
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Speaker 2: bout of obesity after joining CrossFit, but something's missing here.
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Speaker 2: She said that she was being unhealthy, but I don't
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Speaker 2: see how what she did was bad.
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Speaker 1: There's something in the fitness in a hundred words that
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Speaker 1: says eat amounts that don't support body fat. And I
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Speaker 1: took that as a very literal person, very literally thinking
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Speaker 1: that I should have no body fat. In the end,
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Speaker 1: I lost over a hundred pounds and that all happened
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Speaker 1: within the first six months of CrossFit. The training had
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Speaker 1: got so out of hand as well. I was doing
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Speaker 1: double days and frequently like seven days a week and
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Speaker 1: I wasn't taking any rest days at all.
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Speaker 2: Okay. So she was exercising excessively, which is why 1200
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Speaker 2: calories wasn't a lot to her. and she was losing
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Speaker 2: weight at an extremely fast pace, like basically four pounds
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Speaker 2: a week, which is not healthy. I don't know why
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Speaker 2: people at her gym didn't tell her that exercising without
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Speaker 2: rest days is bad for you. Either this CrossFit gym
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Speaker 2: is really irresponsible, or someone did tell her, and she
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Speaker 2: refused to listen. I mean, it's definitely possible that she
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Speaker 2: was told but didn't listen, because she seems to have
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Speaker 2: done incredibly small amounts of investigation into health, to the
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Speaker 2: extent that she thought it was possible to have 0%
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Speaker 2: body fat. I get that she didn't know that normal
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Speaker 2: weight loss is 1-2 pounds a week, it's very common
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Speaker 2: that people don't know that, but what I find really
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Speaker 2: strange is that as an adult she thought that a
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Speaker 2: person could survive without any body fat, and an extreme
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Speaker 2: idea like that raised no red flags in her mind
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Speaker 2: that maybe she should do a simple Google search to
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Speaker 2: fact check her beliefs. And I point this out because
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Speaker 2: I'm concerned that she is a fitness influencer, when for
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Speaker 2: multiple years she had such little ability to research the
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Speaker 2: science of exercise. What did she do to correct the
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Speaker 2: poor standards of education that caused her to adopt some
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Speaker 2: pretty dangerous beliefs? But anyway, what ended up happening as
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Speaker 2: a result of this intense routine is basically what happens
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Speaker 2: with everyone who over-exercises and over-restricts calories, which is that
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Speaker 2: eventually she lost control, started binging like crazy, and gained
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Speaker 2: all the weight back.
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Speaker 1: I gained back a lot of the weight that I'd lost.
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Speaker 1: But because my goals were physical and mental health, and
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Speaker 1: not to pursue thinness to impress other people and the
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Speaker 1: rest of the fitness industry... I know in myself that
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Speaker 1: what I'm doing is best for me. And I've got
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Speaker 1: to allow myself to eat without restriction so that foods
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Speaker 1: become less scary and I'm less likely to binge on
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Speaker 1: those kind of foods because I'm not restricting them out
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Speaker 1: of my life. And the more that I've done that,
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Speaker 1: the more that I've found those foods that I've been
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Speaker 1: restricting that I would obsess over and binge on, I
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Speaker 1: now find them far less interesting.
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Speaker 2: Okay, so this is a straight up lie. She still
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Speaker 2: has constant cravings for junk food to the extent that
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Speaker 2: it's unhealthy. In an older video, she admitted that her
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Speaker 2: recovery plan was to eat chocolate ice cream every day.
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Speaker 1: I have chocolate like every single day because I have
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Speaker 1: like an ice cream in the evening.
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Speaker 2: What are you, five? You need your chalky ice cream
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Speaker 2: and candy every day? Now, I'm not going to pretend
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Speaker 2: that I've never eaten junk food before, but eating dessert
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Speaker 2: items daily is excessive. Healthy people don't eat like that.
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Speaker 2: So her whole claim is that she's recovering from bad
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Speaker 2: eating habits, but this isn't recovery. This is just trading
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Speaker 2: one addiction for another, which is something that addicts commonly do.
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Speaker 2: All she did was trade her weight loss addiction for
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Speaker 2: a food addiction. And in these several years that she's
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Speaker 2: said that she's been in recovery for her pathological behaviors
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Speaker 2: around food, she hasn't really learned anything. So what's happened
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Speaker 2: here is that you can tell that Beth wants to
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Speaker 2: be thin and have healthy eating habits. She even says
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Speaker 2: that in older videos after she gained a bunch of weight.
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Speaker 2: But she's put so little work into learning the science
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Speaker 2: and the psychology of healthy weight loss that she now
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Speaker 2: has it in her head that she can no longer
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Speaker 2: try to get back to a healthy weight because she
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Speaker 2: thinks that if she goes into a calorie deficit... She's
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Speaker 2: going to end up binge eating.
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Speaker 1: I can't focus on weight loss because I have an
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Speaker 1: eating disorder. And if I did focus on weight loss,
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Speaker 1: if I tried to lose weight, then I would spiral
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Speaker 1: back into my eating disorder and become incredibly unwell and
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Speaker 1: also probably gain weight because it has a binge eating component.
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Speaker 1: So for me, it's not something I can do.
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Speaker 2: There's also this sort of underlying implication from Beth that
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Speaker 2: trying to lose any amount of weight isn't healthy. And
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Speaker 2: the way she rationalizes that is that weight loss causes
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Speaker 2: so much stress on fat people that it's bad for
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Speaker 2: their mental health. Right, so you're sacrificing total health for
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Speaker 2: minor or negligible improvements in mental health, because I've watched
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Speaker 2: a lot of Beth's content and I don't see any
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Speaker 2: evidence that her mental health is all that much better
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Speaker 2: than it was four years ago when she claims that
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Speaker 2: she started her recovery. In fact, you can argue that
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Speaker 2: it's worse, especially with the frequent camera angles for porn
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Speaker 2: addicts that she uses to try to boost her views. Honestly,
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Speaker 2: I was surprised to not see an OnlyFans link anywhere.
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Speaker 2: but I think she spends a lot more time thinking
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Speaker 2: of copes than she spends doing any actual mental health work.
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Speaker 1: I heard of body neutrality a couple of years ago
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Speaker 1: and it really resonated with me and I knew straight
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Speaker 1: away that was the direction I wanted to go in.
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Speaker 1: The definition of body neutrality is the act of taking
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Speaker 1: a neutral stance towards your body, both emotionally and physically.
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Speaker 1: This means not supporting hatred towards your body's limitations or
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Speaker 1: investing time and energy... into loving it either. You can
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Speaker 1: simply be at peace with your body. My body doesn't
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Speaker 1: really say anything about me. It's just my body and
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Speaker 1: a tool that I use to live my life.
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Speaker 2: Congrats, you've discovered nihilism. She began as someone who was
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Speaker 2: body negative, which is like being pathologically pessimistic about the
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Speaker 2: way you look. Then she moved on to body positivity
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Speaker 2: or fat acceptance a few years ago, which is like
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Speaker 2: conceited optimism. And now she does body neutrality, which is
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Speaker 2: not caring about anything. And really, I think all of
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Speaker 2: these are an unhealthy psychological response to bad eating habits.
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Speaker 2: They're all based on some sort of delusion, whether that's
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Speaker 2: fat acceptance suggesting that it's healthy to be fat, or
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Speaker 2: restrictive dieters thinking they will become obese if they eat
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Speaker 2: one slice of pizza, or the body neutrality group like
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Speaker 2: Beth who are delusional enough to think that nobody cares
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Speaker 2: about appearance, overeating doesn't have a negative impact on your health,
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Speaker 2: and there are zero appearance factors that indicate your physical health. Please, Beth,
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Speaker 2: think about what you're saying.
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Speaker 1: I kind of rationalise it by thinking, would I say
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Speaker 1: these kind of things about an animal? Does anybody say
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Speaker 1: these kind of things about an animal? If an animal
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Speaker 1: has a bit of extra body fat, we tend to
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Speaker 1: think that they're healthy. If they're like really thin and
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Speaker 1: their ribs are showing, we tend to be worried about that. them.
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Speaker 2: So like five seconds after she explains body neutrality, she
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Speaker 2: gives an example that's not neutral. She said it was
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Speaker 2: good for an animal to be fat, but she would
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Speaker 2: be worried if an animal was too thin. Worrying is
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Speaker 2: an emotion. If you were body neutral, then you wouldn't
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Speaker 2: be judging someone for being thin, nor would you be
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Speaker 2: attributing positive feelings towards someone because they're fat. There's your
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Speaker 2: proof right there that all this body neutrality garbage from
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Speaker 2: her is a lie. She clearly wants to be thin,
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Speaker 2: but because she can't figure out how to do it
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Speaker 2: in a healthy way, she's adopted this ideology that allows
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Speaker 2: her to tell people that it's not pathological behavior to
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Speaker 2: eat chocolate ice cream every day and be 100 pounds overweight.
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Speaker 1: We don't hold our dogs or our cats or... cows
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Speaker 1: and pigs and horses to any random beauty standards based
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Speaker 1: on the shape of their body or the way it looks,
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Speaker 1: and go out to a field and look at a
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Speaker 1: load of cows. I walk past a field of cows
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Speaker 1: most days, and they're all different shapes and sizes.
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Speaker 2: Maybe comparing yourself to a cow or a pig isn't
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Speaker 2: the smartest idea. Just a little advice from creator to creator.
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Speaker 2: But people 100% care about the appearance of animals. Not
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Speaker 2: only did you admit that in your own example, but
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Speaker 2: there are a lot of people who have been calling
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Speaker 2: it animal abuse when they see obese cats. So like
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Speaker 2: I said, this is just nonsensical cope that's not going
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Speaker 2: to lead Beth to what she actually wants, which I
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Speaker 2: would say is to be thin and physically fit, while
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Speaker 2: also not suffering a hit to her mental health. But
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Speaker 2: she probably failed to achieve that a number of times,
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Speaker 2: which is why she follows delusional ideas that she clearly
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Speaker 2: doesn't believe internally because they obviously aren't true. So let's
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Speaker 2: ignore the bullshit from her and see if we can
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Speaker 2: find what's actually keeping her from being a healthy weight.
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Speaker 1: Now, in a binge eating episode, often you go into
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Speaker 1: this trance-like state. And this can be for a couple
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Speaker 1: of hours, if not more. You might find yourself going
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Speaker 1: to the supermarket and uncontrollably buying loads of food and
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Speaker 1: then going home, or even just getting in your car
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Speaker 1: and eating it on the way home. You're not, like,
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Speaker 1: present in your body when this is happening.
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Speaker 2: Yep, I know exactly what she's talking about. Honestly, outside
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Speaker 2: of having an educational background in fitness and nutrition... There's
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Speaker 2: a reason I know so much about food addicts, and
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Speaker 2: that's because I've dealt with some of the same issues.
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Speaker 2: That being said, these trance states that she described where
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Speaker 2: you don't care about your well-being and you'll pathologically engage
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Speaker 2: with whatever problem behavior you have, happens with any addict.
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Speaker 2: The way you manage them is through meditation. And I'm
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Speaker 2: not talking about hippie, spiritual guru, be one with the
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Speaker 2: divine force meditation where you sit down and stare at
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Speaker 2: the wall for an hour. I think that's excessive and
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Speaker 2: not very clinically useful. What I'm talking about instead is
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Speaker 2: the core of meditation, which is to be able to
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Speaker 2: rid yourself of negative or unwanted thoughts, the ability to
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Speaker 2: maintain focus on a singular activity, and being able to
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Speaker 2: distract yourself away from pathological behaviors or things that cause
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Speaker 2: you anxiety. Getting good at these things is extremely useful
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Speaker 2: for addicts. With that said, the secret of the trance
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Speaker 2: state is that if you wait long enough, it will
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Speaker 2: go away. The first thing you want to do is
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Speaker 2: make it as inconvenient as possible to engage with your addiction.
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Speaker 2: So if you're a food addict, you don't keep junk
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Speaker 2: food in the house. You make yourself drive to the
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Speaker 2: store every time. The longer it takes you to eat
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Speaker 2: things that are bad for you, the more chances that
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Speaker 2: you have to say no. But a lot of times,
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Speaker 2: those cravings to do bad things will be incredibly strong,
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Speaker 2: so you'll need a distraction to defeat them. The easiest
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Speaker 2: and most effective distraction is to just call someone and
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Speaker 2: talk to them if you're having a craving that you
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Speaker 2: can't control. This is what 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous
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Speaker 2: do with their sponsor system, and they do that because
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Speaker 2: it works. Other distractions can be doing a hobby, watching
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Speaker 2: a movie, playing a video game, cleaning... The distractions that
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Speaker 2: work will be specific to you, but the point is
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Speaker 2: that if you have anxiety issues or deal with unwanted thoughts,
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Speaker 2: like the urge to overeat or drink or have trouble sleeping,
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Speaker 2: or if you have ADHD and have trouble staying focused,
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Speaker 2: then practicing meditation for a few minutes a day is
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Speaker 2: how you fix that. So the issue with Beth is
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Speaker 2: that much like she refused to listen to the CrossFit
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Speaker 2: doctrine that says don't exercise every day... She's refusing to
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Speaker 2: learn how to manage these problems, and now she's stuck
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Speaker 2: in this cycle here.
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Speaker 1: And often when somebody just tries to stop doing that behavior,
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Speaker 1: they replace it with something else. And often that can
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Speaker 1: be something that is more harmful.
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Speaker 2: Yes, that's true. And swapping out one pathological behavior for
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Speaker 2: a different pathological behavior is something that you're already doing.
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Speaker 2: You still have an unresolved food addiction and you aren't
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Speaker 2: really different from how you were several years ago when
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Speaker 2: you got addicted to CrossFit. You just traded that for
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Speaker 2: eating and it's why I said that you haven't made
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Speaker 2: any noticeable progress in mental health. You started out as
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Speaker 2: a binge eater, switched to CrossFit, and then switched back
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Speaker 2: to binge eating. You full-on 360'd, except it's worse this time,
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Speaker 2: because now you're several years better at justifying your pathological
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Speaker 2: behaviors to other people.
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Speaker 1: There are loads of reasons people might be in a
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Speaker 1: larger body, and their health and anybody's health is really
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Speaker 1: none of our business. There are loads of things that
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Speaker 1: I'm sure you do that are potentially unhealthy, but you
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Speaker 1: do it because you want.
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Speaker 2: To do it. Yeah, but if I had a drinking problem,
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Speaker 2: then I hope my friends would criticize me for it
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Speaker 2: until I got treatment, because that's what good friends do.
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Speaker 2: Her mentality here is insane. She's essentially telling everyone that
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Speaker 2: it's wrong to criticize people for doing things that are
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Speaker 2: bad for them, and you should never try to correct
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Speaker 2: the behavior of the people around you. Do you have
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Speaker 2: any idea how many people in the world are suffering
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Speaker 2: intensely right now because they have no one in their
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Speaker 2: lives to give them a wake-up call?
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Speaker 1: And I just find it so weird that you can
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Speaker 1: judge people so harshly based on something as small and
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Speaker 1: insignificant as their body.
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Speaker 2: I think in her case, small is the wrong choice
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Speaker 2: of words, and this is not insignificant. Your body is
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Speaker 2: one of the most important factors not just for attractiveness,
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Speaker 2: but also your physical health. And to be cruel, if
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Speaker 2: you're going to be like Beth and say that being
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Speaker 2: 100 pounds overweight doesn't have a negative impact on your health,
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Speaker 2: then you're either stupid or delusional.
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Speaker 1: People will assume differently, because obviously I'm in a larger
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Speaker 1: body now, and people assume that that means that we're
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Speaker 1: less healthy, but that's not accurate at all. My heart
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Speaker 1: rate is lower, I think, than it's ever been. It's around, like,
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Speaker 1: 50 beats per minute. I've got no, like, illnesses or
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Speaker 1: cardiovascular problems or any of that sort of stuff.
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Speaker 2: That's because you're still young. All these fat acceptance types
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Speaker 2: love to talk about how good their vitals are in
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Speaker 2: their 20s and their early 30s, Come back to me
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Speaker 2: when you're 45 or 50 and you start having strong
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Speaker 2: markers of heart disease 20 years early, or you need
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Speaker 2: a hip or a knee replacement 20 years early. That
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Speaker 2: being said, it's very clear that Beth doesn't put a
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Speaker 2: lot of effort into making sure that the information that
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Speaker 2: she has is correct, which is a problem because, according
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Speaker 2: to her, allegedly people pay her to teach them stuff
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Speaker 2: about fitness because she's a fit mom? And an athlete.
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Speaker 1: I run a coaching business with lots of clients that
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Speaker 1: I have to program for. And by the way, the
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Speaker 1: definition of an athlete is being proficient in a sport.
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Speaker 1: So if you are at all proficient in any sport,
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Speaker 1: then you are an athlete.
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Speaker 2: Wow, that was a bad thing to say because after
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Speaker 2: looking at a ton of her videos, it's hard to
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Speaker 2: say that Beth is proficient at anything. There are so
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Speaker 2: many common exercises that she does incorrectly that I have
16:42
Speaker 2: a hard time believing that she's done any sort of
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Speaker 2: fitness education. I mentioned before that her handstand form was horrendous.
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Speaker 2: Her hands are too far apart, her fingers and elbows
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Speaker 2: are pointed out, her shoulders aren't in line with her wrists,
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Speaker 2: and she's looking the wrong direction, which will cause her
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Speaker 2: to instantly fall if she wasn't being supported. Outside of
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Speaker 2: looking the wrong direction, these are basics that are present
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Speaker 2: in a number of fundamental exercises. For example, push-ups where
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Speaker 2: she's making the exact same mistake with her fingers pointing out,
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Speaker 2: and is not going through the full range of motion,
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Speaker 2: just like with the pull-ups that I showed at the
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Speaker 2: start of the video. Beth also has a number of
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Speaker 2: different videos where she's doing burpees or some sort of
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Speaker 2: variant of that, and on every rep she plops her
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Speaker 2: stomach down to the floor first instead of having her
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Speaker 2: entire body go down at the same time. She can't
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Speaker 2: even do a deadlift properly without dropping the weight every time.
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Speaker 2: And worse, she made a video justifying her poor and
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Speaker 2: dangerous technique.
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Speaker 1: What I find really interesting about all of these hate
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Speaker 1: comments is they're like, that's not real strength. You're not
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Speaker 1: really strong. You can't actually lift that. You're cheating because
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Speaker 1: it's using momentum. And they're trying to qualify it by
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Speaker 1: saying real strength is doing it slowly because you're not
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Speaker 1: really lifting it unless you're doing it. really slowly and controlled.
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Speaker 1: But I think if we look deeper into it, it's
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Speaker 1: really clear that all of these guys are men and
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Speaker 1: they can't lift the same amount as me. So what's
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Speaker 1: actually happening is they're seeing my videos, they're feeling super
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Speaker 1: threatened because they see a weight on the bar that's
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Speaker 1: way heavier than what they can lift. And they think,
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Speaker 1: how can I dismiss this? How can I make this
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Speaker 1: seem like she's not really doing it? And what they
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Speaker 1: really hate is seeing a woman that is stronger than
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Speaker 1: the average man. That's what they don't like.
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Speaker 2: It's crazy to watch multiple videos of this chick talking
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Speaker 2: about functional workouts for lifetime fitness. And then you see
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Speaker 2: her dropping the weight every rep or using momentum and
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Speaker 2: having to do cheat reps to sort of be able
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Speaker 2: to do pull-ups. She teaches a course on pull-ups and
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Speaker 2: she's only able to do one full one where her
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Speaker 2: chin clears the bar. I mean, does she even know
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Speaker 2: what the word functional means in exercise? I guess if
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Speaker 2: I have to lift a heavy couch for my lifetime
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Speaker 2: fitness daily activities, I can just drop it from waist
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Speaker 2: height after I have it in the right spot, because
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Speaker 2: after taking Beth's fitness courses, I don't have any of
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Speaker 2: the muscle development to be able to lower the couch
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Speaker 2: safely to the floor. There's nothing functional about any of
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Speaker 2: her technique, and the only thing she's good at is
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Speaker 2: lifting with her ego.
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Speaker 1: We're not training for that at all. We're just training
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Speaker 1: to feel strong, feel like a badass, do cool things
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Speaker 1: in the gym. I want my results. I want to
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Speaker 1: be able to clean and jerk heavier, and doing things
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Speaker 1: slow and controlled is not going to get me there.
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Speaker 1: They literally just can't comprehend that a woman would want
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Speaker 1: to lift heavy weights.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a surefire way to get hurt. Ego
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Speaker 2: lifting is probably the most dangerous mindset a gym goer
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Speaker 2: can have. As many permanent injuries, or worse... have been
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Speaker 2: caused by people who only care about bragging about how
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Speaker 2: much they can lift. I wouldn't be shocked if Beth
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Speaker 2: has been injured a number of times considering how bad
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Speaker 2: her form is on a lot of her exercises. That
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Speaker 2: being said, I will give her some credit because some
19:35
Speaker 2: of the time she says things that are correct. These days,
19:38
Speaker 2: she's an advocate against overtraining and tells people to take
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Speaker 2: rest days. She also points out that most supplements are
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Speaker 2: a scam, which is true. Most supplements outside of caffeine, creatine,
19:48
Speaker 2: and multivitamins do nothing, and are a huge waste of money.
19:52
Speaker 2: And she points out some of the pathological ideology that
19:55
Speaker 2: many fitness influencers have, where they are constantly recommending that
19:58
Speaker 2: people stay at super low levels of body fat that
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Speaker 2: are not only unhealthy, but quite honestly, very few people
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Speaker 2: find it attractive. If you're a guy and you're getting
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Speaker 2: jacked and then cutting down to a single-digit body fat,
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Speaker 2: know that you're going to mostly attract attention from other men.
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Speaker 3: So if you were to go walking on a cruise
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Speaker 3: with your shirt off or something like that, how many
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Speaker 3: compliments would you say you get on your physique in
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Speaker 3: one hour? And how many from guys and how many
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Speaker 3: from girls? I would say 90% of compliments are from men.
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Speaker 3: If I'm going back to when I was younger, it's
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Speaker 3: almost all men. And maybe not so much at the beach,
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Speaker 3: but at the bar, it would be continuous all night. Wow,
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Speaker 3: look at the physique. Every time I go to the washroom, men, men, men.
20:35
Speaker 3: And so if you're thinking you're developing a body to get.
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Speaker 2: So she's right about stuff like this, but she gets
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Speaker 2: so many things egregiously wrong that it spits on all
20:46
Speaker 2: the good stuff that she says. Outside of all that,
20:49
Speaker 2: I mentioned during the part about meditation that there are
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Speaker 2: psychological tactics that you can use to manage bad behaviors
20:54
Speaker 2: or create change, and it centers around the idea that
20:57
Speaker 2: you have a finite amount of mental energy. Mental energy
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Speaker 2: is required to learn new things, you need it to
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Speaker 2: make changes in your life, and you need it to
21:05
Speaker 2: maintain positive behaviors. So things like these use your mental energy,
21:09
Speaker 2: and so does stress and anxiety, which means that if
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Speaker 2: you are constantly stressed out all the time, then you
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Speaker 2: won't have the energy to make changes, you will fail
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Speaker 2: to learn new skills, and you won't be able to
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Speaker 2: maintain positive behaviors for a long period of time. Harmful
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Speaker 2: behaviors are significantly harder, if not almost impossible to resist,
21:27
Speaker 2: when you're under stress and drained mentally. I like to
21:30
Speaker 2: think of it like a mana bar in a video game,
21:32
Speaker 2: and when it runs out, you start binge eating or
21:34
Speaker 2: engaging in every vice that you have. So when life
21:37
Speaker 2: is stressful, eating a gallon of ice cream is like
21:39
Speaker 2: a mana potion that restores your mental energy. And you'll
21:42
Speaker 2: keep going back to that uncontrollably if you don't reorganize
21:45
Speaker 2: your life to produce less stress. I think a few
21:48
Speaker 2: big ones for weight loss are sleep, not getting enough electrolytes,
21:51
Speaker 2: and allergies, particularly if you get headaches with your allergies.
21:55
Speaker 2: There are also things that are a little bit more
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Speaker 2: non-physical that cause lots of stress, like making yourself a
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Speaker 2: slave to creditors because you keep overspending on stuff that
22:02
Speaker 2: you don't need, or taking on a work schedule that's
22:04
Speaker 2: too intense or has really inconvenient hours. Essentially, you need
22:08
Speaker 2: to find out what your biggest causes of stress are
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Speaker 2: and start making small edits to your life over time
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Speaker 2: so that those things either go away or have less
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Speaker 2: power over you. At the same time, figure out what
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Speaker 2: things restore your mental energy so that you aren't choosing
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Speaker 2: things like food or alcohol to do that. Anyway, thanks
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Speaker 2: for watching, follow me on Twitter, and I'll see you
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Speaker 2: in the next video.