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- Lucas: So I want to talk about something I started doing about six months ago that genuinely changed how I experience my workweek. It's not flashy — it's a recurring calendar audit. Thirty minutes every Sunday evening where I open my calendar for the week ahead and actually interrogate every single block. Luna: Interrogate how? Like, what questions are you asking? Lucas: Three specific ones. First: 'Does this require me specifically?' If the answer is no, I try to delegate it or see if I can skip it entirely. Second: 'What energy level does this demand?' I color-code — deep focus gets blue, routine syncs get green, high-stakes decisions get red. And third: 'Can this be shortened or moved?' A lot of thirty-minute meetings can be fifteen if you're honest about the agenda. Luna: Okay, I like the color-coding. But don't you find that Sunday evening is a weird time? You're already winding down for the week. That feels like it could create anxiety before Monday even starts. Lucas: I actually find the opposite — it gives me a sense of control. I used to walk into Monday morning blind, and the first thing I'd see is a wall of back to back meetings and feel that tightness in my chest. Now I've already triaged the week. I've already decided which blocks are non-negotiable and which ones I can treat as optional. Cal Newport wrote about this — he found that knowledge workers lose up to 28 percent of their productive time to poorly structured meetings. That's more than a full day a week. Luna: Twenty-eight percent is wild. I'd believe it. I think the thing that gets most people is that we treat the calendar as a passive record of what we agreed to, not as a strategic tool. It's like we're just documenting other people's demands instead of shaping our own time. Lucas: Exactly. The calendar is the default source of truth for your week. If you don't actively manage it, someone else will. And for me, the audit was the thing that stopped the 'yes creep' — you know, the slow accumulation of low-value obligations that happen because you said 'sure, sounds good' in a hallway conversation three weeks ago and now it's a recurring invite. Luna: Yes creep — I love that phrase. It's insidious because each individual yes is tiny. It's just one meeting, just one review, just one check-in. But collectively they consume your week. Lucas: Right. And the audit forces you to see them all at once. When I started, I realised I had five recurring meetings that I never actually needed to attend. I was just on the invite because someone added me once and never removed me. I dropped those and instantly reclaimed about four hours a week. Luna: Four hours? That's huge. But I also want to push back a little — this feels like a practice that's easier to implement if you have some autonomy. If you're a junior employee or in a very hierarchical culture, you can't just decide to skip a meeting with your boss or a client. So how do you adapt the audit for someone who doesn't have that leeway? Lucas: That's a fair point. I think the audit still works, but the questions shift. Instead of 'can I skip this?', it becomes 'what can I do to prepare for this so it's more efficient?' Or 'can I ask for a shorter slot?' Even just asking 'is this a decision-making meeting or an update meeting?' can help you adjust your energy. If it's an update, you can listen on one ear while doing something else, or ask for an email summary instead. Luna: That's a useful reframe. So the audit becomes about optimizing within constraints rather than removing things. I think that's more realistic for a lot of listeners. Lucas: Exactly. And honestly, if you're in a junior role, there's often a hidden benefit: you can start building a reputation as someone who's thoughtful about time. When you ask 'can we make this 15 minutes instead of 30?' or 'do you need me there for the whole thing?', people notice. It signals that you respect their time too. Luna: Yeah, that's smart. So let me ask you — how long did it take before the audit became a habit? Because I imagine the first few Sundays it feels like a chore. Lucas: It took about three weeks before it stopped feeling forced. The first week I did it, I sat there for thirty minutes and felt like I hadn't accomplished anything. But by the fourth week, I started looking forward to it. It became a kind of ritual — I make a cup of tea, put on some lo-fi, and just think about the week ahead. It's almost meditative. Luna: I think the ritual part is key. If it's just a task, you'll drop it. But if it becomes a moment of reflection, it sticks. I've started doing something similar on Friday afternoons — a 15-minute review of the week that just ended. What worked, what drained me, what should I change. It's like a post-mortem for my time. Lucas: I love that. A Friday review and a Sunday preview. That's a powerful combination. And I think the Sunday one is especially important because it lets you protect your deep work blocks. If you know Tuesday morning is your most focused time, you can make sure it's not clogged with a status meeting. Luna: Yeah, I think most people don't even know when their deep work hours are. They just react to whatever lands in their inbox. The audit forces you to acknowledge that you have peaks and valleys of energy, and you should schedule accordingly. Lucas: Right. And that's where the energy color-coding helps. I use red for high-stakes decisions — those go in my morning window. Blue for deep focus — those get a two-hour block with no interruptions. Green for routine syncs — those can go anywhere, and I keep them short. It's a simple system, but it transformed how I feel on Friday afternoons. I'm less exhausted because I'm not fighting my own calendar. Luna: I want to try this. But I also want to ask — what do you do when the audit reveals that your week is just packed with mandatory stuff? Like, you can't cut anything. What then? Lucas: That happens sometimes, especially during product launches or end of quarter pushes. In those weeks, the audit becomes about survival. I look for micro-margins — can I shift a 2 PM meeting to 3 so I have a clear hour for lunch? Can I batch all my calls on one day so the other days are free? Can I add a 10-minute buffer between meetings so I'm not sprinting from one to the next? Those small adjustments add up. Luna: Micro-margins — I like that. It's not about reclaiming hours, it's about reclaiming minutes. Because a day with no breathing room is brutal. Lucas: And here's the thing — I think the audit also trains your brain to spot patterns. After a few weeks, you start to see which meetings are always energy drains, which people are respectful of time, which weeks are always chaotic. And once you see the pattern, you can proactively address it. Like, maybe you realise every Monday is a nightmare because you have four handoff meetings — so you ask to consolidate them into one. Luna: That's a good point. The audit isn't just a weekly reset, it's a data collection tool over time. And that data can help you have better conversations with your manager about your workload. 'Look, I've tracked my time for a month, and I'm spending 40 percent of my week in meetings that don't require me.' That's a powerful argument. Lucas: It is. And honestly, if today's episode helps one listener reclaim even a couple of hours a week, that's a win. If it was worth a coffee to you, that's the link — buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It keeps the show ad-free and lets us keep doing deep dives like this. Luna: Yeah, it's a small gesture that makes a big difference for us. And we genuinely appreciate it. Lucas: So coming back to the audit — another thing I've noticed is that it makes me more intentional about saying yes in the moment. Because I know I'll have to look at that yes on Sunday and decide if it still fits. So I'm more cautious upfront. I'll say 'let me check my calendar and get back to you' instead of 'sure, I'm in.' That pause alone has saved me from dozens of overcommitments. Luna: That's actually the most practical takeaway from this whole conversation. Just one phrase: 'Let me check my calendar and get back to you.' It gives you time to think, and it sets a boundary without saying no directly. Lucas: Exactly. And then when you do the audit, you can make a thoughtful decision. Not a reactive one. I think that's the core of what we're talking about — moving from reactive scheduling to intentional scheduling. It's a small shift in mindset, but it changes everything. Luna: So what's your final advice for someone who wants to start this tomorrow? Like, what's the first step? Lucas: Pick a time this Sunday. Put a 30-minute block on your calendar called 'Weekly Audit.' Then open your calendar for the week ahead and ask those three questions for every single event. Do it for one month. See how you feel. I bet you'll never go back. Luna: I'm going to do it this Sunday. I'll report back. And I think that's a great place to leave it — a simple, actionable start. Lucas: Perfect. See you next time.