46 - He Knew Why He Was Triggered. He Still Couldn’t Stop: Tomer Kurman's Brotherhood Story

Masculine Containment · Aug 20, 2026 · 55m · transcript

Tomer Kurman understood why he was getting triggered. He had done therapy, explored his childhood, and learned communication tools.

But when conflict actually arrived, none of it seemed available.

When his partner brought him anger, sadness, grief, or feedback about something he had done, Tomer could become defensive, critical, withdrawn, or intensely reactive. He describes the activation as almost physically painful, like every cell in his body was telling him to defend himself or get out.

In this episode, Tomer shares what changed after joining The Brotherhood and beginning the practice of…