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Are you chasing the wrong things? · The Daily Reset Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to The Daily Reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I want to talk about something I came across on social media.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a simple image with two columns.
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  SPEAKER_00: On one side it said, things that don't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Other people's opinions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Comparing yourself to other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: That thing you failed at.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your age.
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  SPEAKER_00: And on the other side, things that do matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: You woke up this morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clean food and water.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Doing what you love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: Almost obvious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yet,
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  SPEAKER_00: if we're honest,
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  SPEAKER_00: how much of our lives are spent worrying about the list on the left instead
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  SPEAKER_00: of appreciating the list on the right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I know what it's like.
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  SPEAKER_00: I spent years chasing success,
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  SPEAKER_00: building businesses,
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  SPEAKER_00: worrying about what people thought,
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  SPEAKER_00: wondering if I was behind everyone else,
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  SPEAKER_00: feeling like I should have achieved more by now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then life has a way of reminding you what really matters,
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  SPEAKER_00: losing people you love,
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  SPEAKER_00: getting sober,
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  SPEAKER_00: receiving a diagnosis,
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  SPEAKER_00: watching your child become a parent,
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  SPEAKER_00: holding your granddaughter for the first time,
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  SPEAKER_00: suddenly your inbox doesn't seem so important,
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  SPEAKER_00: your LinkedIn likes don't matter,
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  SPEAKER_00: the job you didn't get doesn't matter quite as much.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because life has a funny way of bringing your attention back to what was important all along.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is, I'll be happy when?
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  SPEAKER_00: When I lose the weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I get the job.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I earn more money.
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  SPEAKER_00: When people recognise me.
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  SPEAKER_00: When my business succeeds.
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  SPEAKER_00: But happiness was never waiting for us at the finish line.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was sitting beside us all along.
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  SPEAKER_00: In a cup of coffee with someone you love.
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  SPEAKER_00: A walk outside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: A laugh with your child.
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  SPEAKER_00: A cuddle from your granddaughter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The dog waiting excitedly at the front door.
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  SPEAKER_00: The sun breaking through the clouds.
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  SPEAKER_00: These aren't distractions from life.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't mean ambition is wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love building things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love coaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want balance to help millions of people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Purpose matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Money matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Meaningful work matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: But they should add to your life, not replace it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Success without health isn't success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Success without relationships feels empty.
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  SPEAKER_00: Success without peace is exhausting.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing becoming a grandmother has reminded me is how naturally children pay attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: A butterfly can occupy them for 10 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: A puddle is fascinating.
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  SPEAKER_00: A flower deserves inspecting.
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  SPEAKER_00: A stick can become a magic wand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Somewhere along the way, adults stop noticing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're rushing to the next meeting,
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  SPEAKER_00: checking another notification,
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  SPEAKER_00: thinking about tomorrow, reliving yesterday, and we completely miss today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's today's reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of asking what's wrong with my life, ask what is already right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you woke up today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe someone loves you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your body carried you through another day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have food in your fridge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have another chance to start again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those things aren't small.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're the foundation everything else is built on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's something I often ask coaching clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine you're 90 years old.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're looking back on today,
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  SPEAKER_00: what would your 90-year-old self wish you'd paid more attention to?
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  SPEAKER_00: The critical comment on social media or your daughter's laugh?
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  SPEAKER_00: The email that annoyed you or watching the sunset?
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  SPEAKER_00: The comparison with someone else's success or your own beautiful imperfect life?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think we already know the answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today,
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  SPEAKER_00: put your phone down for 10 minutes,
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  SPEAKER_00: go outside,
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  SPEAKER_00: call someone you love,
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  SPEAKER_00: notice something beautiful,
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  SPEAKER_00: say thank you,
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  SPEAKER_00: take a deep breath, Because the life you're waiting for is already happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't miss it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for listening to The Daily Reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: If today's episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, the things that matter most in life are often the things we stop noticing.
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  SPEAKER_00: See you tomorrow.