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Episode 607: The ONE And ONLY Reason Exes Come Back · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is new cheer with the art
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  of love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about the one and
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  only reason why Exes come back and I had actually mentioned
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  this in another video that I did about why Texas come back.
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  In fact, I've done two videos, I'll post a link to one of them
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  up here and I realized that there is one main reason.
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  And every other reason I gave Gave in the two videos.
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  I did on Nexus coming. Back are all secondary reasons.
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  What is that reason? Well, stay tuned and you'll find
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  out. But first, I want to welcome
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  back my beautiful. No contact Army.
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  you're in and to read our manual.
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  Go to no contact secrets.com and you can read to free chapters
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  before purchasing the book. Okay, so why do Exes come back?
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  Well, what's the reason that anyone does anything?
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  In the previous videos, I talked about various reasons, why Exes
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  come back and I said it's because your interest level went
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  up again. There was unfinished business
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  there rebound or the person they left you for didn't work out.
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  It was a fake breakup. They realize they're better off
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  with you and one more reason. So I asked the question, why
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  does anyone do anything? Well, according to Abraham
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  Hicks, For those of you familiar with them, the reason that we
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  want to do be or have anything is because we think that we will
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  be happier when we do that thing.
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  Have that thing or person Or are that thing?
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  So X has come back because they think that they will be happier
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  because of you because if they're even in third level went
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  up and they don't think they're going to be happier, they're not
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  coming back, even if there's unfinished business and they
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  don't think they'll be happier, they're not coming back, even if
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  their rebound didn't work out, and they don't think they'll be
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  happier with you. They're not coming back even if
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  it was a fake. Up and they don't think they'll
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  be happier without you it's going to turn into a real
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  breakup. So they have to be happier and
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  realize that they are better off with you.
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  So this is about them, it's not about you, they're not coming
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  back for you understand that they are coming back for them.
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  It's because they're nostalgic. They're jealous.
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  They're lonely. They're stressed their
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  regretful. They're sad.
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  They're depressed, they're fill in the blank.
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  They're just not as happy as they thought they would be
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  without you. And by the way, if you like what
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  you're hearing so far, be sure to give this video a like in
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  order to help the YouTube algorithm that way.
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  Other people can find it and also benefit from finding out
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  why their ex all come back. Okay, thank you.
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  So, this is why I say to stay in.
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  No contact to not respond to breadcrumbs, to cause your ex as
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  much anxiety as possible as often as possible to cause them
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  pain. I actually did a video on that
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  about causing your ex pain. I'll put a link in the right top
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  corner on YouTube to make them jealous to make them think
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  you're moving on. Most people want to do the
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  opposite of this. They think they have to The
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  opposite to get their ex back. They have they think they want
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  to reassure the X until the x that they miss them and they
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  love them. That doesn't work because it
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  does not speak to their self-interest.
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  It only speaks to yours and everyone always acts and their
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  own best self interest at all times.
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  And I know that sounds terrible but it has to be that way.
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  Everyone is responsible for themselves.
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  You can't have someone One else be responsible for you?
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  Because what if they fail now you're screwed?
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  So, it's better if everyone is responsible for their own
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  happiness, at all times. Because look at it this way, who
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  called to check on you today? Probably no one, right?
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  No one's calling to check on you unless you're sick.
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  So, you are responsible for yourself for your well-being,
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  and for your happiness, and therefore people always act in
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  their own best self interests. That's why you want to be
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  indispensable to someone's life or even to a job.
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  That way, they will have a hard time replacing you now.
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  This doesn't mean babying them or doing everything for them.
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  It means being able to offer something to them, that no one
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  else is. Able or willing to offer and
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  only you can understand what that is if you're in a
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  relationship with them. And this often has to do with
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  what their Shadow side is. If you can tap into their Shadow
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  side, then you can become indispensable in Irreplaceable,
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  but that's a whole other video. Okay, so before I end, I
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  actually have two comments that speak to this topic of y-axis.
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  Come back. And because they only come back
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  because they think they will be happier with you in their life.
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  And this one is for the guys who think that women never come back
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  and that no contact. Does it work on women?
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  And it says after five months my ex contacted me and we are back
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  together. She was crying non-stop on the
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  phone. It doesn't always happen but if
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  they text ignore them a couple of times.
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  And Julie Chia her advice is golden.
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  All right, we got another one back that was crying and the
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  other comment also has a crier. This is what happens when you do
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  not respond to breadcrumbs and you ignore the breadcrumbs
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  often. This is what you get.
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  And she says it's day. 39, and my kids told me my ex was at the
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  door, he came over. So intoxicated, he couldn't
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  stand Well, I hope he didn't drive.
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  I was like you're a mess. He was crying and said, it's
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  been rough without me and wanted to fix things and he misses me
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  and loves me. I personally want to move on but
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  he just kept crying and asked why I didn't respond to his
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  texts. He felt like it was over for
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  good and it made him very sad. Well, I'm back dating now so I
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  think I will let sleeping dogs lie.
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  Thank you so much for this journey.
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  Wow, so she decided not to take him back.
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  Mmm-hmm that's what happens. People change their minds and
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  they decide that actually, they don't want to get back together.
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  That's one of the benefits of no contact you either get them back
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  or even if you do get them back you decide you know what I don't
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  want them back. But if you do want them back and
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  you want my help to get them back, then you can contact me at
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