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Patreon Teaser May 2024: Misogynistic Foolery · To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

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  A Team Tolerator. It is the last Thursday of the month, and you
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  know what that means. That means that you are getting an inside look at
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  all of the bonus content we put up in April on our Patreon. This
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  month, the teaser will be from our misogyny motdown episode Misogynistic Foolery. In
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  the episode, I went over some foolish ways women made it into the news.
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  I talked about my Eclipse ritual, and then Annie See and I did
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  you all a solid by providing you examples of what goes into our anti gaslighting
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  kit so we can't be fooled any longer by the likes of manipulation and gaslighting.
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  This month on Patreon, our Patreon subscribers are focusing on mothers because May
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  is for mothers, so you'll get some inside look into my relationship with my
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  own mother and other fantastic mothers in my life. And then Elizabeth Kyle and
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  Darcy Darko and I are going to be discussing the mother of all mothers,
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  Taylor Swift. I will be playing a special game with Elizabeth and Darcy where
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  they have to do a little soul searching on Taylor and her most famous lyrics.
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  Here's a link in the show notes on how you can join us on
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  Patreon. Every Tier is running a free seven day trial. There is also
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  free information on the Patreon like blog posts, sneak peeks into episodes, and
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  bonus content that goes along with our episodes. So please at least go and
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  follow our free content. All right, here's your trailer and I will see
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  you next time. Hey, Team Tolerator, and welcome to the Misogyny Meltdown.
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  This yere is the only show you'll find putting a comedic twist on you
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  know, all the ways misogyny tries to fool us into believing men have been
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  doing a stand up job running things. It wouldn't be April without beginning the
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  month with pranks and jokes. And while I decided a while back that this
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  month's episode will be a festival of fools, I can't help but notice that
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  people weren't so quick this month to prank one another on April Fool's Day.
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  Hmm. There must be something about the climate dying while my taxes fund a
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  war, while I'm also subjected to the redemption arc of Tom Sandoval from Bander
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  Pump rules, that just really knocks the wind out of making jokes about praise
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  anatomy being renewed until twenty fifty. But just because we were all too depressed
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  to fake a pregnancy announcement on Facebook doesn't mean the foolish things haven't happened to
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  women. In celebration of my determination to never be fooled by a man again,
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  here are some of the dumbest things I've seen reported about women recently.
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  I'm convinced I can't have nice things. Near moments after Shakira was quoted saying
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  life was easier without a husband, she quickly dashed my hopes that she was
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  made for Team Tolerator by then being quoted saying her sons were a mad escalated
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  by the Barbie movie. Listen, if wearing a fur jacket while singing a
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  power ballad with your bros about your feelings of inadequacy isn't masculinity, I don't
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  want it. Like everything else in our patriarchal society, climate change also disproportionately
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  affects women, and no one seems to want to do anything about it.
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  The UN has released that out of one hundred and nineteen countries, only thirty
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  eight have taken into account contraception and reproductive and sexual health care in their climate
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  crisis relief plan. Hmmm, well, not including those things ignores the fact
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  that rising temperatures can cause pregnancy risks, and also discounts the rising numbers in
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  women's assault during natural disasters. Also, if it keeps getting hotter, they'll
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  make the bikini smaller, and yet men who look like feet will have louder
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  opinions about my body. Okay, all right, I'm officially sick of looking
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  at the news, so let's talk about something way more valid astrology. This
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  month, we all lost our collective shits as the US experienced a total solar
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  eclipse in fifteen states. We're in its path of totality. My ritual for
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  the eclipse included me putting to rest some things that were holding me back so
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  I could shed light on the way forward. Here are some things I thought
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  we could all put to rest. I think we can put to rest using
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  women as our scapegoat for our big whoopsies and instead shed light on the need
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  to respect someone's privacy during their health crisis. And let's go ahead and put
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  to rest fat shaming women for having opinions and instead shed light on women being
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  more than the objects that make your dick hard. While we're at it,
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  I'm sick of hearing about ozempic, so let's put that to bed while we
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  focus on whether or not our food is actually healthy. I swear it tastes
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  like AI rights. Now we have the lovely anti seed here to help you
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  and I build our personalized anti gaslight kits. They can't fool us about our
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  own reality if we're ready for them. Hey, Annie, thanks for being
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  willing to melt down with me, Always always on the verge of the meltdown,
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  happy to do it on camera in your presence. That's what friends are
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  for. April is the month of fools. Kind of no one had a
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  sense of humor this month. Yet here we are, only eleven days into
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  the month and you're already like, not a one person has been funny,
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  Not one person has been funny. Come at me. But we're here to
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  talk about the ever present tool in men and the patriarchy making a fool out
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  of us, and that is gaslighting. Gaslighting? What is your definition of
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  gaslighting? So I feel like I should preface this with like the automatic disclaimer
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  of the fact that, like, yes, we all know that this term
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  has been wildly overused in recent years and that a lot of people are using
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  it pretty not accurately. But from my understanding, gaslighting is basically where someone
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  I don't know if it has to be intentional or if it can be sort
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  of subconscious on their part, but they are leading you to question your own
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  sanity in order to make whatever they are doing seem acceptable when it's not.
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  And so it is definitely one of the favored tools of the patriarchy because,
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  as probably anyone who's paying any attention has noticed, everything a woman does is
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  labeled as crazy. Any thought of thing you have is almost immediately labeled by
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  someone as crazy and hot take lots of the things we think can feel are
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  not crazy. So it's my spark notes for us. You heard it here
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  first. Not everything women do is in fact crazy. I will say it's
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  important that not everything, because some of the things, certainly for myself,
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  that I've thought and done. I mean, I know, we're not supposed
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  to really use the term crazy anymore. We're supposed to be more thoughtful about
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  diagnoses and mental health and all of that. But sometimes I do be crazy,
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  but not as well these men want me to think sometimes i'd be wild
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  and in these streets, but yeah, mine was basically the same. It's
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  like, it's when you're standing there in front of someone and you were speaking
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  your reality. You're like, remember when this happened, and they're like,
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  that's not what happened at all, and they're like and then you're like,
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  I don't remember the last time you were Yoda, And then they go,
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  no, believe me, it didn't happen, and everything's fine, and you're
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  perfectly safe, and your entire body is screaming. I don't feel safe,
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  but I don't know why. Yeah, it's such an insidious thing because even
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  if you have a lot of awareness of gaslighting as a concept and as a
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  tool of manipulation, it can still absolutely get you. Like, this is
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  not a new concept to me, And I look back at my previous relationship
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  and I'm like, oh, so there was a lot of it, and
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  there was a lot of it that was happening that I didn't notice. Hm.
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  It gets ya, It gets yeah, because it's a lot easier to
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  believe, at least for me, that I'm being unreasonable and crazy versus somebody
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  else. I don't know why, but I'm like ready to believe that I'm
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  wrong a lot of the time. Well, and we've talked about this before,
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  because you and I talk about Vanderpump Rules. Is that like, for
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  whatever reason, my sweet do iyed self just wants to go well, surely
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  they're not that bad, and of course they have every good intention in their
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  heart to treat me. Okay. Yeah, I think it's easy when you're
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  looking at like an outside, completely removed situation like vander Pump Rules, to
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  be like, oh, what's happening is definitely wrong and what they're saying makes
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  no sense. But at least in my experience, I'm pretty picky about who
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  I let into my inner circle, who I give the opportunity to guess Lney,
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  and generally, if I've let some in, I'm like, it's because
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  they're good. I've already decided that, and people are a binary of either
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  good or bad, of course, and then it's shocking to me every time
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  that that's not quite how that works. Well, And that will bring me
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  to my next point, which is that I do self gaslight where I'm like,
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  well, surely, if this person has walked into my home, they
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  are a liberal who loves gay people would never ever support cops. Natalie,
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  are you out here dating some maga freaks? Is that what's happening? Are
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  you trying to tell me that you d you date the right? Remember when
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  I did that fake version of Love is Flight? I know you have a
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  dark past on that front. As a side note, my pets seem to
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  have both just decided that now is time for a meal. It is.
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  It is not. But if there's a bunch of weird, chaotic noises in
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  the background, I apologize they're trying to gaslight you. They're like, do
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  you see us? We're hungry. Yeah, They're like, it's definitely time.
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  This is the time that you always definitely feed us, for sure,
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  even though you did two hours ago. So, lady lady who does a
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  till time, correctly, it is our feeding time. But yeah, I
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  do have a dark past, mostly because I've grown up in Indiana and I'm
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  so sorry and now live in Ohio and I did fake Love is Blind because
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  I saw a post on Instagram on Internet. I saw on Internet, I
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  saw no maga for sure, and I said, well, Sureley, if
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  he's heard that I'm a witchy woman who just loves to dress like a bisexual
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  Stevie Nicks. Like, I just sorry, like a bisexual Stevie Nicks.
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  Are we assuming the Stevie Nicks is Stevie Nicks. She denies so much.
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  She's like, I don't understand why people think that I'm their witchy queen.
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  And I was like, because I'm convinced you controlled the moon, Stevie,
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  Like I basically, in my mind have merged actual Stevie Nicks with the Stevie
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  Nicks inspired which from American horror story. Con So, in my brain,
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  that's just one person, and that AHAs an account of her personal history.
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  You can't, I as hell, you cannot tell me that Stevie Nicks did
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  not curse that man whose name I often forget, by singing silver springs,
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  making dead eye contact with them as she threatened him with song and cursed him.
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  But let's get to our kids. We're here as Gasola experts to help
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  you, to help you. Have tools in a toolbox that maybe therapists would
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  sign off of, maybe not, but these are our tools to be like,
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  hey, that's gaslighting and I'm not into it, so I'll go first,
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  because I never want you to go first. That feels like pressure.
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  Okay, my number one tool in my toolbox against gaslighting is that you have
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  to have at least one friend who doesn't date men, who has a clear
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  head and is not digmatized. Yep, that's on my list for sure too,
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  because because they won't be the person to look you in the eyes and
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  go ooh, sweetie, I think he's trying his best. I will say,
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  as a side note to this, to all of the gays and lover
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  of days and everybody who does not fall into the digmatization zone, you can
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  still super get gas lit by end who is not male identifying one hundred thousand
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  percent. Just want to flag that, yeah, sis, headman are often
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  the annie's more socially conscious than me. I'm just always like, we don't
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  like men here, here, there, everywhere. Yeah, they're a pretty
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  big bummer, But that doesn't mean that everybody else isn't also sometimes a pretty
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  big bummer. That's right. So it's not that I'm saying not all men.
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  It's that I'm saying, yes, all men and some others as well,
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  some other people. Yes, that's true. True equality is that everyone
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  can be toxic at the drop of a hat. It's true, but I
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  don't know if this happens to you, but I will run into older women
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  in my life and I'll be like, this man was toxic. He literally
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  sat there, he lied to my face. He told me that these were
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  the terms and conditions of the day, date, event, dinner I agreed
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  upon. And when I showed up, fifty things that I did not expect,
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  and thirty two people that I did not want to talk to were there.
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  And when I said, hey, I remember that this is what was
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  going on, I wasn't told that's not what I said, or you must
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  have misheard me, or you must have has understood what I was talking about.
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  You're so silly and so dumb, little girl. And then I go,
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  that's toxic, And then older women in my life will be like,
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  toxic is a really tough word. Family, that's really harsh. What you're
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  thinking of is men are just big, big goofs who are bad at calendar