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Design Your Destination: A Guided Future Self Visualization · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome back.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Tina.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your life coach, and I'm here to help you transform your toxic patterns and to help you with emotional intelligence tools and clarity tools.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today we're going to actually use a specific day, perfect day visualization.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to close our eyes and we're going to start thinking about our future.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking if we don't know our destination, how are we supposed to plan our future?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we need a GPS?
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it's best when you have a GPS.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you want to just go around and you don't know where you're going, but that's kind of hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: You kind of feel lost or you might feel stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the last couple episodes, I just wanted to clear up, we are in a new series about reinventing yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know we talked about a lot of fear and pushing past some of our limiting beliefs, and I think we've done some really good work on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now it is time to help you with your destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ready for your destination exercise, let's get to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are going to shift gears.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what I'm going to do is I'm going to ask you to do a couple breaths, find a comfortable spot to sit, maybe a couch, a chair, cozy up with your blanket, your dog, stuffed animal, whatever gives you comfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're going to go through this specific day.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a perfect day exercise, something that I did about six months ago that was very, very beneficial to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there are variations of this exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you heard one of them before, there's no right or wrong one, but I just wanted to share a tool from my experience and from my own toolkit.
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  SPEAKER_00: This will help you to figure out what your future may look like.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ready, we're going to take a couple breaths.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're going to breathe in for four and breathe out for two.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to do four of these breaths.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you need to do more, you can pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ready, close your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe in, count of two or count of four.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hold it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe out.
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  SPEAKER_00: In through your nose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Breathe out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll start feeling you're getting calmer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your heart is slowing down.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're feeling more relaxed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let's do one more breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Deep inhale in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hold for two seconds.
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  SPEAKER_00: And out for four.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, what I want you to do is you're gonna just close your eyes, sit back, get comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to imagine a perfect day one year from now.
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  SPEAKER_00: A typical day in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about setting the scene.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you in your house that you're in now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you moved to a different state?
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  SPEAKER_00: What state are you in?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you in the state that you want to be in?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you living in a condo or an apartment?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you had a dream to go in the RV.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you at a beach house?
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  SPEAKER_00: The possibilities are endless.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you see yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you see yourself being comfortable and happy?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now who is with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you alone?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you with the same people that surround you today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you with a significant other?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you dating somebody new?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who do you picture by you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have animals?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have dogs?
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  SPEAKER_00: Cats?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are your best friends?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they draining you or nourishing you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and now let's go back to just you went to sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now you're starting your day in the morning?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you let the alarm clock wake you up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or are you just waking up naturally?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have somewhere to be?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do you have the morning to yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you do have the morning to yourself, what are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have a routine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it structured?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have a ritual or prayer or meditation?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe the first thing you do is go to the bathroom.
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  SPEAKER_00: But how do you know that you're starting your day?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you get on your phone right away to see who texts you, or maybe if you made a sale on your business?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the first thing you do in the morning?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do you take that time for yourself to get prepared for the day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is anybody with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: If they are, what are you guys doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you talking about?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just imagine something in your life one year from now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you want to be?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who do you want to be with?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you want to wake up?
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  SPEAKER_00: And do you get up and have breakfast?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do you have water, coffee, tea, or a diet coke to start your day?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing to get up and start your day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're hopping right in the shower and you're getting ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you're just laying down a little bit more, like 20 minutes, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever your dream and hopes are for a year from now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you do go to breakfast, are you going out to eat?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you have an order placed and brought to your house?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does somebody make you breakfast?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you making breakfast?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you having?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like just imagine the perfect day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you woke up for breakfast and you made pancakes and you had strawberries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you had a protein shake.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or some hot oatmeal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what are you having for breakfast?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you alone?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is somebody with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're cooking for children or a significant other.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe your significant other is cooking for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you visualize that in a year?
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  SPEAKER_00: What makes you happy?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then after you eat your breakfast, are you meditating?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you headed off to work?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you bringing kids to daycare?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you maybe listening to your favorite song?
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  SPEAKER_00: And do you have your day planned out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you working at a specific business?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you still in the career that you're in now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you in school?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you running your own business?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you in your dream career?
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a moment to realize where are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you working?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or are you following your dream?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you followed a calling?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe to start a podcast?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe to educate others on something that you're specifically going through?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are your dreams for one year from now?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you woke up, what would be your perfect day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you do something special for yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-care moments?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you reading a book?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you washing your face?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you doing anything that you've wanted to do?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you calling family and friends?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you setting plans up for the rest of the day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you relaxing?
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  SPEAKER_00: What special plans do you have for yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And during the afternoon, what are your afternoon plans?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you having for lunch?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: The same thing as your breakfast.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing for lunch?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're working through lunch with colleagues.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're skipping lunch.
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  SPEAKER_00: That could happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing for lunch?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you going to the lake?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you going for a swim?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you going to the job you love?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you spending it with somebody you love?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you helping somebody?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are your plans for the day and the afternoon?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then during the evening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you working on yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And are you doing self-care maybe?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing in the evening to kind of calm down for the night?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what are you cooking?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're not cooking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have something ordered out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you have a subscription service that brings you food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: What makes you happy?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you in a safe environment that expands you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you feel safe like you can be yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of the day, do you have a special routine for yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you read a book, get ready, watch a movie, watch some TV, or maybe you're headed to work for the night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you have people at home that go to sleep early.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe the kids are finally tucked off into bed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe nighttime is the quietest time for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's when you can work on your own goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter when you do your goals, it's whatever time works for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nighttime can be a quiet time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now it could also be a time when your brain starts to race.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're gonna think about a life one year from now without that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe at bedtime you do like a little brain dump on a piece of paper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you have to quick write a list.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you had some ideas of something you wanted to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so now you can slowly open your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's okay if this brought up some emotions and feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you feeling?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe some of you are content with where you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe this had an eye-opening experience for you, and you realize you need to make some changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you don't need permission to cry.
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  SPEAKER_00: If it stirred up some emotions that are hard to deal with, we can break those down into parts.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to look at the whole picture.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then for this week, I'm just gonna ask you one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is my call to action for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would like you to look at two areas that came up today and just brainstorm and start a plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: One or two things that can help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a week, take this week to write down what you discovered.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can start brainstorming.
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  SPEAKER_00: And again, I want to thank you for your courage in doing this exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it brings up feelings that we weren't aware of.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I do want to thank you for tuning in to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can use this in different areas of your life if you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: As again, I'm not a therapist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just know that this is something that was very helpful and something that I am going to do again, probably this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will actually make that commitment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anything I ask you to do, I will do.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week, I will write down two things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because as I was reading that, I was answering it for myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was feeling the feelings, I was feeling the emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and this is Get It Got It Girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this might be a little bit off because I know we're all in a different state, but I do want to thank you for your hard work today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to clap for you because it's a brave thing to do, it's courageous.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not always easy to look inside, and you're gonna have fears and you're gonna have self-doubt, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I want to thank you again for tuning in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Please follow me if you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: Share this if it helps you, and I want to clap for you one last time until next week.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you have a great week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Get It Got It Girl, your transformational coach and emotional intelligence strategist.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.