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SPECIAL EPISODE: How to Stop Cruel Old Habits from Returning · Naughty But Nice with Rob Shuter

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  Speaker 1: All advice. Welcome to the weekend edition of the Naughty
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  Speaker 1: but Nice Podcast. I'm Rob Shooter. You know me as
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  Speaker 1: a gossip columnist, as an entertainment reporter journalist, but what
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  Speaker 1: you might not know is I'm also a best selling
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  Speaker 1: author and also an expert in motivation change habits. So
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  Speaker 1: for ten minutes on the weekend, we're going to stay
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  Speaker 1: away from celebrity gossip and focus on really the biggest
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  Speaker 1: star in your life, which is you. Today's topic is
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  Speaker 1: going to be how to stop those old cruel habits
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  Speaker 1: from returning. So the reason we give up on our
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  Speaker 1: summer diets, the big plans we have to change our lives, well,
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  Speaker 1: maybe even the New Year's Eve resolutions, it's already what February,
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  Speaker 1: the end of February. Have you already given up on those?
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  Speaker 1: The reason we do this is it is much easier
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  Speaker 1: to go back to living the old way than to
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  Speaker 1: live the new way and make a change. Change is hard.
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  Speaker 1: Let me say that again. Change is hard, and the
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  Speaker 1: minute I focus shifts, old habits come rushing back. We're
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  Speaker 1: all basically creatures of habit, designed to find comfort in
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  Speaker 1: our daily routines, which is why before long without putting
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  Speaker 1: up much of a fight at all. The new game
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  Speaker 1: is over and the old game and old behavior wins.
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  Speaker 1: Your gym membership has expired. You forgot what a vegetable
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  Speaker 1: even looks like, and you'd rather stay home and watch
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  Speaker 1: TV then get dressed up and go out. This is
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  Speaker 1: why we have to remain focused and alert. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to drift back into your old ways, you
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  Speaker 1: cannot allow your mind to drift, not for a minute.
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  Speaker 1: You need to constantly remind yourself. I'm talking every day
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  Speaker 1: here that you are making a choice, and if you
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  Speaker 1: are not choosing it, you are not changing it. Making
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  Speaker 1: no decision at all is actually making a really big decision.
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  Speaker 1: You're making a choice. You're choosing to sit on the
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  Speaker 1: couch rather than go for a walk. You're choosing to
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  Speaker 1: scroll through your Instagram rather than text a friend that
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  Speaker 1: you haven't seen in a while. You are choosing to
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  Speaker 1: eat junk junk food instead of food that you know
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  Speaker 1: will nourish your body. The only one with the power
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  Speaker 1: to decide to change your life or to continue with
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  Speaker 1: the status quo is you. Behavior Good and bad begins
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  Speaker 1: with the choices we make every single day. So don't
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  Speaker 1: wait until New Year's Eve to start over. Don't wait
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  Speaker 1: for the summer to get that beach body, and don't
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  Speaker 1: wait for tomorrow to go after your dreams every single day.
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  Speaker 1: I used to be one of those people that made
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  Speaker 1: endless to do lists, and then I found endless excuses
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  Speaker 1: for why I should wait until tomorrow. Of course, tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: never came. But now, instead of doing that, I've thrown
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  Speaker 1: away the lists and instead I've decided to replace stem
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  Speaker 1: by action. I think of my life as a TV
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  Speaker 1: show broken down into hour long episodes. Try to do
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  Speaker 1: this with your life. If you do, then that means
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  Speaker 1: you start every hour like it's a new episode, like
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  Speaker 1: you've changed the channel. It's a little trick I've invented,
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  Speaker 1: developed to make sure I no longer procrastinate. Each hour
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  Speaker 1: is a new beginning. I don't wait for New Year's
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  Speaker 1: Eve for once a year. I don't wait for tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: that could be twenty four hours away. No, every hour
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  Speaker 1: in my life is a new beginning, and the ruts
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  Speaker 1: I used to fall into throughout the day now can
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  Speaker 1: no longer last more than sixty minutes. When you make
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  Speaker 1: the decision to reset your life, every single hour, you
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  Speaker 1: give yourself so many more chances to make sure the
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  Speaker 1: old habits don't win. Refocus at the top of every
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  Speaker 1: hour and just see how you will accomplish. You're going
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  Speaker 1: to be really surprised by this. Jane Fonda said the
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  Speaker 1: following quote, It's never too late to start over and
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  Speaker 1: never too late to be happy. Let's start doing it
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  Speaker 1: right now. Let's start being happy today. Attack each hour
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  Speaker 1: with the same enthusiasm that you attack the beginning of
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  Speaker 1: each day. Remember, when you change your decisions, you change
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  Speaker 1: your life. Nobody is coming to do it for you. Nobody,
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  Speaker 1: nobody is out there who is coming to change your life.
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  Speaker 1: You have to do it. And the way you do
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  Speaker 1: it is by staying focused and stop those cruel habits
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  Speaker 1: the moment they start creeping back in and taking over
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  Speaker 1: your life. Remember, the only person you need to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that you don't disappoint is yourself. I love this
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  Speaker 1: quote from Witherspoon. She said, all those things that you're
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  Speaker 1: worried about are not important. You're going to be okay,
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  Speaker 1: better than okay, you're going to be great. Spend less
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  Speaker 1: time tearing yourself apart worrying if you're good enough. You
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  Speaker 1: are good enough and You're going to meet amazing people
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  Speaker 1: in your life who will help you and love you.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Rhes. We have a choice about what we
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  Speaker 1: do and don't do every single day. Make sure you
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  Speaker 1: are choosing kindness because kindness will change your life. Kindness
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  Speaker 1: and success are not just linked, they are interwined. I
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  Speaker 1: found this out the hard way. Let me explain, without kindness,
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  Speaker 1: you cannot find real success, and without real success, it's
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  Speaker 1: almost impossible to find kindness. Because real kindness is real success,
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  Speaker 1: and real success is kindness. So let me reveal one
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  Speaker 1: of the greatest secrets of your life. Success and happiness
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  Speaker 1: start with becoming kind to yourself. I think kindness might
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  Speaker 1: be the number one attribute in a human being. I
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  Speaker 1: put it before many other things, courage, bravery, generosity. If
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  Speaker 1: you're kind, that is it. My friends. Let's all be
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  Speaker 1: kind to ourselves and others today and focus remain laser
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  Speaker 1: focused so that we make sure those all bad habits
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  Speaker 1: don't start creeping back. Try the TV episode rule. Let
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  Speaker 1: me know if it works. What is it like looking
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  Speaker 1: at your phone at the clock and every three hour
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  Speaker 1: starting over? What is that like? It's going to change
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  Speaker 1: your life? Hey, I hope you enjoyed listening. I love
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  Speaker 1: doing these short podcasts on the weekend. I love my
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  Speaker 1: life as a gossip columnist, as an entertainment reporter, but
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  Speaker 1: I have such a passion about our work together too
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  Speaker 1: on the weekends. You make it as a rewarding for
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  Speaker 1: me as you do for yourself. So thank you, thank you,
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  Speaker 1: thank you, And remember, if you're going to be naughty,
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  Speaker 1: we've got to be. It's not even nice with Rah