234: Resisting the Urge to Contact Your (Ex) Affair Partner

Your Secret Is Safe With Me · May 21, 2026 · 34m

What do you do when you've decided you don't want to continue your affair, but you still desperately want to contact your affair partner?

So many people assume that if they truly wanted the relationship to end, they wouldn't feel the urge to reach out. But what if those urges don't mean you made the wrong decision at all?

In this episode, I talk about why learning how to tolerate the urge to contact your affair partner is very different from resisting or fighting the urge.

I explain why urges to reconnect are often the result of habit, emotional conditioning, and the brain's desire for…