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SNDY - EP 27: Part 1 of 3 : The Body Is Not The Reward · She's Not Done Yet

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Question.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: What have you been waiting on your body to give you permission to do?
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Go ahead.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: I'll wait.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: The vacation?
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: The reunion.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: The photo shoot.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: Or the swimsuit.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: The date.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta wait.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: This is it.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: The launch of your business.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: What is it for you?
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because I need you to hear me clearly today.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_00: Your life is not in a holding pattern waiting for your body to catch up.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's happening right now.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: And you are either showing up for it or you are sitting in the waiting room of your own existence.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: But not today.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: Not on my watch.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: And definitely not on this podcast.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm your host, Teresa.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: And if this is your first time here, welcome home, girl.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: You landed exactly where you were supposed to be today.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: I've designed this podcast specifically for women in midlife who are stepping boldly into their purpose, their power, and their promise.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: We are kicking off something very special today.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: This is part one of a three-part summer ramp-up series, and I need you to stay connected because these three episodes are going to set you on fire heading into the best summer of your life.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: At My Church, Spirit and Truth, we have already kicked off our supernatural summer.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_00: We actually started back in May, and we are about to do the same thing right here, right now.
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: Part one today, we are talking about the lie.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: The lie that your body is the reward.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_00: Part two drops next Sunday on June 21st.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's the official first day of summer.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: And that one is called Satisfy Women Don't Trend.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: That is going to be something.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_00: And part three, I'll tell you more about that soon.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_00: But trust me, you need all three.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: But before I get into it, let me check in with you for one quick second.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: How are you actually doing?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Not the Instagram answer, the expected response, but the real answer.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because I know some of you came into this year with goals.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: You committed to your health.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you started a program.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you got serious about movement and got serious about your temple maintenance.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe, like so many women in this community, you went on a GLP one.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: You put in the work.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe you're even transitioning off.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: And here we are, heading into summer, and you still don't feel like you've arrived.
• 2:59
  SPEAKER_00: You're frustrated.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I've been there.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: You're proud of your progress and exhausted by the expectations at the same time.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: I see you.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_00: I'm with you.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: And today I'm going to give you something more valuable than a goal weight.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to give you permission.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: Let me introduce you to something I'm calling the waiting room syndrome.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what it looks like you have a goal, a number, a size, a look, and in your mind, consciously or not, you have attached the right to fully live your life to the achievement of that goal.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: When I lose weight, then I'll book the trip.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: When I look better, then I'll do the photo shoot.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Take it with Brandon Rashad.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: Photo Extraordinaire.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: He's great.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: When I'm smaller, then I'll go to the event.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: When I reach my goal, then I will let myself be happy.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: That is the waiting room.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: And some of you have been sitting in it for years.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I need you to understand.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_00: The waiting room syndrome didn't start with your body.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: This is a pattern.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: Women in midlife, especially women who were raised to be responsible, to be put together, to always be on.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_00: We learned very early how to defer our own joy.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: We waited to be chosen.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_00: We waited to be ready.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: We waited until the kids were older or until the job was secure or settled or the finances were right, until the house was clean enough.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: And now the latest version of that same old waiting game is your body.
• 4:41
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm here to tell you the waiting room is not a strategy, it is a prison.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: And the door has been unlocked the entire time.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: I want to be transparent with you because that's what we do around here.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: This space is built for that.
• 4:58
  SPEAKER_00: But for the past year, I've been on my own temple maintenance journey.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: I did the work, I got on GOP1, and I'm transitioning off now.
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I can sit here and tell you, even knowing what I know, even being the woman who hosts this show, I've had mornings where I stood in the mirror and I still didn't feel like enough.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: I still felt like I was one size away from deserving to feel good.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: And one day, the Holy Spirit stopped me cold and said, Who told you you're not enough?
• 5:36
  SPEAKER_00: Who told you that?
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: That question wrecked me.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: And it might wreck you too, because nobody told us out loud, but we absorbed it anyway.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: And real quick, before I keep going, if you are in that transition right now, coming off of a GLP one or coming off Weight Watchers or coming off any structured weight loss program, and you're terrified of what comes next, I made something specifically for you.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: And it's called the Exit Strategy.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's a digital guide packed with real food reintroduction framework, what to expect in your first week and first month off of any program, the mindset tools for when the cravings come back, and they will.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: And yes, my personal protein shake recipes.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: I have a 50 gram protein shake, and this has kept me on track this whole journey.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: And it's only$27.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: That's less than your last copay.
• 6:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's less than the meal you just had last week.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: And it will do more for you and more for your transition than any of those things.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_00: Head to sndypodcast.com to grab the exit strategy right now.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: The link is in the show notes now.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's get back to it.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: I've been on a journey this year of redefining what the goal actually is.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: Everybody's like, oh, Teresa, you got to your goal weight.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: You should stop now.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you're small enough.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I haven't got to my goal weight.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: I did have a goal weight.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was like 152.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not there.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: I've only I've lost to date 71.4 pounds.
• 7:10
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, very impressive.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: And again, this is, I always give this disclaimer.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: This is not to body shame anyone, your size, your frame, your goal, your reward.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: Let it be what it is.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: But for me, 152 was my goal weight.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: And it just like hit me that it's not really about what that number is.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_00: And the shift has been this.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_00: I stopped asking my body to be smaller, and I started asking it to be stronger.
• 7:39
  SPEAKER_00: And those are not the same thing.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: And the difference is everything.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: Smaller is about how you look to other people, how you look in your clothes.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: But stronger is what you can do with your life.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: Smaller is about fitting into something.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: Stronger is about carrying something, your vision, your calling, your purpose, your legacy.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: And here's what the science backs up.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: In midlife, muscle mass is directly correlated with how long you live, how strong your bones are, and how sharp your mind stays, and how well your metabolism functions for the next 20, 30, 40 years of your life.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: And for some of us, a sobering fact is that there are more years behind us than in front of us.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: What are you strong enough to accomplish with the rest of yours?
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: The goal was never really a size.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: The goal was a capable, enduring, fulfilling, and powerful life.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: And you already know my mantra.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_00: The rest of your life will be the best of your life.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to talk about something else.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: Something that I don't think we name enough.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: We know about comparing ourselves to other women on social media, but for women in midlife, there's a sneakier comparison happening.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: We are comparing ourselves to our younger selves.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: And we are looking at pictures from 10, 15, 20 years ago and treating that woman as the standard, like your 32-year-old body is the benchmark for your 50-year-old life.
• 9:22
  SPEAKER_00: But let me say something to you with love and with fire.
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: That is a grief conversation masquerading as a fitness conversation.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: And until you grieve, what you're never going to get back, the metabolism, the effortlessness it takes to lose 10 pounds in a weekend, the body before childbirth, before menopause, before life, start life, you will never be able to fully celebrate what you have right now.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: And what you have right now is extraordinary.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about permission for a moment.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: Because somewhere along the way, we were taught, not always in words, but in our culture, in the messaging, in the constant before and after imagery, that permission to be fully visible, fully present, and fully joyful in your body as it is, is something that you earn.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_00: Earn it through discipline, earn it through sacrifice, earn it through reaching that number.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to dismantle that today because it's a lie.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's a seductive, expensive, exhausting lie.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Think about Tabitha Brown, one of our most beloved, most followed, most joyful presences in this cultural moment.
• 10:46
  SPEAKER_00: She didn't wait until she looked a certain way to show up with her full, unapologetic, God-drenched joy.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: She decided to be fully herself and the world came running to her.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: There's something about her that's just so authentic that you're literally drawn to her.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: Permission is not a reward you earn, it is a right that you claim.
• 11:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then there's the word of God.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I need you to hear this because this is what settled it for me.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: Psalm 139, 14 says, and you could probably quote it with me, I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: Marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_00: Did you catch the tense?
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: Not will be, not could be when you get to where you're going.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: I am.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: That's present tense right now, in this body, in this season.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: God didn't look at you this morning and say, She's getting there, you coming along.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: He looked at you and said, She is marvelous.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: And the question is, do you believe him?
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because every time you put your life on hold, waiting to feel ready, you are in the quietest way, in the most personal way, telling God that what you made isn't enough.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: That is not humility.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: That's not discipline.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_00: That is a subtle, quiet, costly form of unbelief.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: And today, we're letting it go.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_00: Here's the shift I want you to carry out of this episode.
• 12:28
  SPEAKER_00: Stop treating your body like the reward at the end of the journey.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Start treating it like the vehicle for the journey.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: The reward isn't the body, the reward is the life.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: The reward is the summer you actually show up for.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_00: The event you actually walk into with your head held high.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: The photo that you take without hiding behind somebody.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: The swimsuit you plan on putting on and getting in the water.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, ladies, let's get in the water.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_00: I know we're trying not trying to mess up that silk press, but let's put on a bathing suit and get in the pool this summer.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: Get in the ocean.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_00: It's the trip that you want to book, not someday, but this year.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: That is the reward, living your life as you are now, celebrating everything that you can.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: And you don't have to weigh a specific number to claim it.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: So here's your challenge.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_00: At TFT Realty, we don't just sell homes, we guide transitions.
• 13:33
  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're selling your current property to step into your next chapter, or you're a first-time home buyer ready to stop leasing and start owning.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: We bring strategy, clarity, and experience to every deal.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_00: My team is prepared to walk with you from consultation to closing, helping you make informed decisions that align with your lifestyle and financial goals.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: If you're ready to make a move in Atlanta's real estate market, now is the time to do it.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: And we're ready when you are.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: Visit TFTenterprises.net to schedule your consultation, send us an inquiry, or DM me today.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: TFT Realty, we are your key to Atlanta's real estate.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: Before part two drops on June 21st, I want you to identify one thing that you've been withholding from yourself just while you waited to feel ready.
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: One experience, one decision, one yes.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to do it this week, before you reach the goal, before you feel ready, right now.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because the rest of your life is the best of your life, but only if you show up for it.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: Let's bring this home with a journal jot.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: We haven't written in our journals in a long time.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's been a minute for me, but definitely a minute since we've done it on the show.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: But I want you to grab your journal.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't have your She's Not Done Yet journal, you can go to SNDYpodcast.com and order one today.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_00: But if you don't have your journal, then use your note apps on your phone or the back of an envelope.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: I don't care.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Just write it down.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is a question I want you to answer for yourself.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: What have I been withholding from myself while I waited to feel ready?
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: What would I do this summer if I decided my body was enough right now, today?
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_00: Write it out.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: Be honest and don't curate your answer.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: Just let it come.
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_00: And we're also going to do our affirmations today.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: And we've not done affirmations in a minute, but we're going to close out with these three affirmations.
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to say them out loud with me.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_00: And don't skip this part because your ears need to hear your own voice speak truth over yourself.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: That's powerful.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: Let your inner self hear you say something positive.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_00: And number one is I do not need permission from the scale to live my full best life.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_00: Number two, my body is not a project to be completed, it is a life to be inhabited.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you're taking these in.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: And number three, I show up now as I am, and that is more than enough.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, before you go, I've got a few things for you.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: This wasn't even a long show today.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: I just in and out, just wanted to hit it because we're getting ready for this summer.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: We're getting ready for this supernatural summer.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: First, the exit strategy guide.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: We talked about it earlier.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: Women who did the work, made the progress, and still don't feel like she's arrived.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: And for so many of you, part of that anxiety is the transition of coming off of a program and not really knowing what's on the other side.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: I built the exit strategy guide for exactly that moment.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: It's less than 50 pages.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's not a long read, but it's everything that I wish I had when I was navigating my own transition and before spending weeks and months of research, a real food reintroduction framework, what to actually expect in week one off the program, and how to handle the cravings without the guilt of spiraling down.
• 17:27
  SPEAKER_00: And my personal 50 gram protein shake recipes that have been a game changer for me, including all the supplements that I take, everything that I'm using.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: And if you guys know of some, I always ask you to drop it in the notes.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: Send me a note of message and let me know what you're taking.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: If you found something that truly works, I do want to know about it.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: I just literally start taking spoiled child collagen and I'm gonna let you know.
• 17:50
  SPEAKER_00: Give me 30 days.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: Give me, I think it says you can give them 90 days.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm going to give them one, two, three months and see what happens.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: But all of that is in the guide.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Now it's$27.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I need you to hear that price and not flinch.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_00: Because$27 is less than any skin care routine treatment.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: Anything you buy off TikTok is less than a good meal out, is less than a jail polish change.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: And it will do more for your transition than any of those things.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Go to sndypodcast.com right now.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: The Exit Strategy Guide is waiting for you.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: The link is in the show notes.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: So go get it.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: Second, share this episode.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_00: Send it to the woman in your life who is sitting in her own waiting room right now.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: You know who she is.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_00: She did the work, she's frustrated, and she just needs permission to show up this summer.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: Be the reason she hears this today.
• 18:54
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• 18:57
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• 19:06
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• 19:10
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• 19:13
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• 19:15
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• 19:19
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• 19:24
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• 19:27
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• 19:33
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• 19:36
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• 19:46
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• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: And finally, mark your calendar for June 21st, next Sunday.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's the first day of summer, the official first day of summer.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: Part two of this series drops.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: The title is Satisfied Women Don't Trend.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: And the moment you hear what it's about, you will not be able to unhear it.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: We are pulling back the curtain on the system that is economically built on your dissatisfaction.
• 20:13
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• 20:19
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• 20:20
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• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: But until then, remember, the rest of your life is the best of your life, but only if you show up for it.
• 20:33
  SPEAKER_00: And sis, you are more than ready.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: I love you.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I'll see you on June 21st.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_00: Bye for now.