Do People Who Say NO...Live Longer?

High Five Hot Mess Podcast · May 28, 2026 · 41m · transcript

Do people who say no actually live longer?

This week Lisa and Lisa get into the emotional cost of always saying yes — and why so many women feel guilty setting boundaries, disappointing people, or putting themselves first.

It starts with a study Lisa found claiming that people who resist outside pressure and act on their own terms may actually live longer. Which immediately sent both of them into a spiral about:

• people pleasing

• guilt

• over-functioning

• emotional exhaustion

• and why women are so often taught that saying no makes them selfish

They also talk about:

• growing up in the 70s…