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181. Not Distraction-Free · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: The distractions aren't going away. The distractions aren't going away.
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Speaker 1: I want to let you know that the distractions aren't
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Speaker 1: going away. And I'm saying this multiple times because I
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Speaker 1: want you to recognize that as much as you try
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Speaker 1: to avoid the things that distract you from going and
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Speaker 1: doing and achieving and living the life that you want to,
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Speaker 1: distractions are here to stay.
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Speaker 2: They're not going away.
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Speaker 1: What I want you to do is live in a
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Speaker 1: world where you recognize that the distractions are there, that
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Speaker 1: you understand that it is part of the journey to
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Speaker 1: a counter distractions.
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Speaker 2: When you think.
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Speaker 1: About doing something, or maybe you decided to cut back
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Speaker 1: on your spending because you want to save, or you
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Speaker 1: want to create a fund that you can use for
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Speaker 1: a future event or an emergency fund for example, and
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Speaker 1: the day you decide, the day that you are convicted
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Speaker 1: to go do this thing, to stop eating sweets or
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Speaker 1: stop picking up the bag of chips or picking up
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Speaker 1: the soda or whatever it is, that's the day that
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Speaker 1: you're in your office and all of a sudden, somebody
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Speaker 1: walks around with donuts and they say, hey, do you
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Speaker 1: want a donut. That's the day that there is free
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Speaker 1: lunch and none of it is good or fits into
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Speaker 1: the plan or the mold that you said that you
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Speaker 1: would stick with so that you can stick within your
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Speaker 1: diet or stick within these lifestyle restrictions that you created
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Speaker 1: for yourself, or the moment you decide you're gonna save
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Speaker 1: your money and you're gonna watch what you spend, somebody
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Speaker 1: invites you to brunch beyond the plan that you have
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Speaker 1: to create the savings, to build your emergency fund, to
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Speaker 1: set up your you know, your account.
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Speaker 2: For your future travels, or what have you.
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Speaker 1: I say all that to say that distractions are part
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Speaker 1: of the journey. It seems like right, It seems like
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Speaker 1: it wasn't until you made that decision and you were
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Speaker 1: convicted to do that thing that none of these things
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Speaker 1: were in your purview, None of these things were coming forward.
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Speaker 1: But the minute you decided is when those things happen.
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Speaker 1: And I will tell you it's not because you made
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Speaker 1: that decision. It's because you're paying attention now and that's
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Speaker 1: a good thing. So whenever these things happen, it's not that,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, gosh, what's my luck that this thing
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Speaker 1: would go on sale.
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Speaker 2: The very day that I decide, or what's my luck?
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Speaker 1: That this is the week that they're doing this great
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Speaker 1: lunch for everybody in the office. It's not that those
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Speaker 1: things happened coincidentally. It's that you are paying attention to
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Speaker 1: your life now because you made an intentionality. You put
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Speaker 1: something out into the world, You proclaim something. And whenever
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Speaker 1: you get to that point of proclamation, you are going
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Speaker 1: to be faced with resistance. And that resistance comes in
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Speaker 1: the form of what we call distractions. And I don't
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Speaker 1: want you to be intimidated by distractions. I want you
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Speaker 1: to I don't necessarily say embrace distractions, but be aware
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Speaker 1: that it's going to happen. It happens so that you
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Speaker 1: can learn how to deal with them. The only way
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Speaker 1: you are going to get through something is to get
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Speaker 1: through that thing.
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Speaker 2: So in order to learn how.
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Speaker 1: To manage distractions, you're going to have to be distracted.
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Speaker 2: Think about it like this.
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Speaker 1: If you are intentional about gaining muscle, for example, right
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Speaker 1: in order to do that, of course, you know you
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Speaker 1: have to have protein so that you can build a muscle.
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Speaker 1: But throughout your gym exercise or your gym practice, you're
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Speaker 1: going to have to shred muscle. And when you shred muscle,
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Speaker 1: you're essentially picking up heavier weights. So in order to
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Speaker 1: build a muscle, you need to rip the muscle. It's
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Speaker 1: the same thing in order to build your resistance or
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Speaker 1: your ability to manage through distractions, you have to manage
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Speaker 1: through distractions. I'm not going to build a muscle if
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Speaker 1: I never pick up heavier weights. And that's what distractions
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Speaker 1: are are there for. They are there.
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Speaker 2: To teach you.
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Speaker 1: I want you to think about distractions in a different
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Speaker 1: way because if you think about them as the thing
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Speaker 1: that's going to stop you, the thing that's going to
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Speaker 1: make you lose, the things that is going to deter you,
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Speaker 1: the thing that's going to take you.
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Speaker 2: Off your game.
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Speaker 1: If you look at it in that manner, you are
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Speaker 1: going to experience it in that manner. But if you
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Speaker 1: look at it in the manner in which it's there,
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Speaker 1: so that you can learn how to cope, how to manage.
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Speaker 1: What do I do when this happens? How did I
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Speaker 1: do this the last time when this happened. Oh, I
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Speaker 1: can come out on the other side of this when
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Speaker 1: this happens. I just need to remember, I just need
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Speaker 1: to lock in and go do this. And so today
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Speaker 1: I want you to get into a mindset where you
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Speaker 1: are planning for distractions. Said, it's not if they are
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Speaker 1: going to occur, it's when they occur. What do you
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Speaker 1: do when they occur? How do you manage yourself? Because
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Speaker 1: you're going to feel the heat of it, You're going
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Speaker 1: to feel the stress of it, and you are going
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Speaker 1: to have to make a decision point how will I cope?
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Speaker 1: And the first thing I want you to do is
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Speaker 1: regulate your emotions. Right, these are the same emotions that
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Speaker 1: tell us that this is a destroyer of our destiny.
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Speaker 1: These are the same emotions that tell us, if it
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Speaker 1: isn't good, it's bad. If it's not a win, it's
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Speaker 1: a loss. And I want you to know that you
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Speaker 1: might not be winning in that moment, but you are
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Speaker 1: learning in that moment. I want you to be observed
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Speaker 1: in that moment. How do you react to these distractions?
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Speaker 1: What are your distractions? Because I feel like distractions and
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Speaker 1: temptations are like twins or cousins or fraternal twins, meaning
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Speaker 1: they are.
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Speaker 2: Similar but not.
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Speaker 1: Where your distractions are oftentimes the things that tempt you
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Speaker 1: away from the goal, So they kind of share the
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Speaker 1: same goal, which is to pull you away from your
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Speaker 1: actual goal. They share the same objective, the distractions and
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Speaker 1: the temptations, and oftentimes they're intertwined. So I want you
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Speaker 1: to be familiar with what are the things that tempt you?
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Speaker 1: What are the things that tempt you. Maybe it is
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Speaker 1: that you are trying to save money, but you have
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Speaker 1: and you love to collect purses, and so because this
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Speaker 1: season or this particular purse that you've had your eye
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Speaker 1: on is getting ready to drop, so you need to
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Speaker 1: know what your temptations are. Know what buttons will get
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Speaker 1: pushed that would lead you down the path of temptation,
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Speaker 1: which essentially will distract you from your goal of saving money.
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Speaker 1: And you can fill in the blanks for whatever it
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Speaker 1: is that you are trying to do, Identify that's your
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Speaker 1: trigger point. Identify that as your temptation, and do what
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Speaker 1: you must to combat that. It may require you to
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Speaker 1: literally write it down and then write a counter to it.
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Speaker 1: Giving the example of the purse. You're trying to save money,
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Speaker 1: but now your favorite designer is dropping a new purse,
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Speaker 1: and you decide, I have almost every purse from this
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Speaker 1: designer and I'm not going to stop now. I want you,
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Speaker 1: in that moment to recognize that that's how you normally
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Speaker 1: think about it. That's how you normally process it, write
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Speaker 1: it down, and then I want you to counter it.
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Speaker 2: Okay, this is what I'm working at. This is my
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Speaker 2: ultimate goal.
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Speaker 1: My objective to reach that goal is to make sure
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Speaker 1: that every dollar that I get that doesn't go towards
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Speaker 1: my four walls and my emergencies is put towards me
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Speaker 1: building the emergency fund, or me saving money for my trip,
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Speaker 1: or whatever it is that you're working towards. So we
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Speaker 1: know what the goal is, and we know what the
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Speaker 1: objectives are. Now we want to break those objectives down
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Speaker 1: into daily tasks. We want to break them down into
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Speaker 1: a finite number. What does that number look like for
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Speaker 1: my bottom line, for me to be able to have
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Speaker 1: a certain amount saved by a certain date. And as
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Speaker 1: you start doing this work and you start working this out, yes,
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Speaker 1: in fact, you are literally writing and working this out.
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Speaker 1: It is like a math problem. Remember back in the
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Speaker 1: day when you had those word problems, math problems that
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Speaker 1: were word problems, and you thought, I will never need
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Speaker 1: to sit down and work through a word problem. This,
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Speaker 1: in fact is your word problem. We all have math problems,
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Speaker 1: and we are all plagued with these types of word
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Speaker 1: math problems, and this is the one that you have
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Speaker 1: in front of you. Now you need to understand what
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Speaker 1: it will take to get to the answer. Unlike your
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Speaker 1: word problems in the past, you didn't have the end, sir.
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Speaker 1: You had all the situational things that were part of
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Speaker 1: the answer that you had to solve through to get
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Speaker 1: to the answer.
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Speaker 2: You know what the answer is. You know what your
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Speaker 2: end goal is.
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Speaker 1: So it's a little bit different of a word problem.
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Speaker 1: You already know that you're going to get to the goal.
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Speaker 1: So already say I'm getting to the goal. But now
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Speaker 1: work back reverse engineer it right, and determine what are
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Speaker 1: the things that have to happen for me to get
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Speaker 1: to that end goal as opposed to these things have happened.
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Speaker 2: What's going to be my end goal? Now?
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Speaker 1: I don't want my end goal to be zero or
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Speaker 1: close to zero or not.
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Speaker 2: What I plan for.
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Speaker 1: I want my end goal to be that net number.
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Speaker 1: So now I have to reverse engineer to get to
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Speaker 1: that net number. I hope this is making sense. I
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Speaker 1: hope this is making sense that you are working backwards,
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Speaker 1: because once you start working it out and you start
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Speaker 1: recognizing what you need to do, by month, three, by
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Speaker 1: month two, depending on how far of a roadmap you've
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Speaker 1: created for yourself, whether it's a six month, three month,
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Speaker 1: nine month roadmap, what does it look like to go
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Speaker 1: back a couple months, a couple weeks, a couple days
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Speaker 1: and understand what it's going to take for you to
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Speaker 1: ultimately achieve the goal of X number. And that's how
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Speaker 1: you're going to come against the distractions. Because in that
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Speaker 1: map problem, in that word problem, there are distractions. There
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Speaker 1: are concerts of your favorite artists. There are shopping sprees, brunches,
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Speaker 1: lunch at work versus packing a lunch at home.
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Speaker 2: There are decision.
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Speaker 1: Points all along the way that are going to challenge
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Speaker 1: you against your desire, against your goal, and ultimately against yourself,
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Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, you're playing yourself.
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Speaker 1: If you don't take this seriously, if you don't act
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Speaker 1: upon this like you're spending your own money, which you are,
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Speaker 1: you are going to be the person that loses in this.
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Speaker 1: And I don't want you to lose, and I know
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Speaker 1: you don't want to lose, so you need to lock
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Speaker 1: in and like I said, recognize that distractions are just
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Speaker 1: part of the name of the game. They're not going
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Speaker 1: to go away. You are going to develop a strategy.
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Speaker 1: You are going to work out the problem. You are
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Speaker 1: going to plan for the distractions because you know your temptations,
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Speaker 1: you know what buttons are going to be pushed.
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Speaker 2: I want you to come to a.
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Speaker 1: Full awareness that distractions are going to come forward, especially
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Speaker 1: in the moments when you are convicted, when you are
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Speaker 1: making a decision intentionally to do something, especially something you've
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Speaker 1: never done before. And those are the ones that I
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Speaker 1: want you to be most aware of. A lot of
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Speaker 1: times when we challenge ourselves to do something that we've
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Speaker 1: done before, we have a familiar walk, We recognize what's
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Speaker 1: going to be ahead. Some of the things that you
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Speaker 1: know to expect, some of the things that you can avoid.
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Speaker 1: Now that you know a little bit better, you can
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Speaker 1: do a little bit better. But I want you to
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Speaker 1: be aware and keep your eyes wide open when you're
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Speaker 1: going into something new, when you're tackling a new thing,
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Speaker 1: sometimes a big thing. And one of the distractions I
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Speaker 1: want you to be aware of is not inviting everybody
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Speaker 1: into the work or the plans that you get to do,
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Speaker 1: because a distraction can also be a good hearted friend
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Speaker 1: or person that you have come to trust that, although
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Speaker 1: are trustworthy in some stages, they may not be the
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Speaker 1: person you trust with what it is you're trying to do.
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Speaker 1: And the reason why I say that is because it's
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Speaker 1: hard to entrust someone with a task or a seed
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Speaker 1: that they've never overlooked or they've never managed. Think about
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Speaker 1: it like this.
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Speaker 2: You are.
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Speaker 1: The mother the father of a brand new baby, and
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Speaker 1: you have an emergency situation, and now you need to
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Speaker 1: find somebody who can watch your brand new baby because
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Speaker 1: you can't be there. You're in an emergency situation, You're
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Speaker 1: in a desperate situation. Who do you entrust with the baby?
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Speaker 1: Do you entrust someone who has never been around kids,
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Speaker 1: who has never been around a newborn in particular, which
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Speaker 1: is very different from just being around kids. Or do
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Speaker 1: you entrust your newborn baby with someone who has experienced,
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Speaker 1: someone who may also have been a parent of an
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Speaker 1: infant at one point in life, and maybe the child
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Speaker 1: has grown.
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Speaker 2: It's the same thing here.
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Speaker 1: You're going to entrust your baby, your dream, your goal
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Speaker 1: with someone who knows absolutely nothing about it and who's
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Speaker 1: going to give you all the advice, all the worry,
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Speaker 1: all the fear, all the limited beliefs, because they've never
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Speaker 1: believed for what it is you're trying to achieve. So
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Speaker 1: distractions can also occur in the minds and hearts of
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Speaker 1: people who are well intended but not properly emotionally guided.
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Speaker 1: To help you stay connected with your goal, right there
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Speaker 1: are people who may not have experienced or are targeting
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Speaker 1: what you've targeted, but they do understand the emotional intelligence,
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Speaker 1: the emotional conviction that it's going to take to stay
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Speaker 1: on track and to not be sidetracked or misguided because
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Speaker 1: things aren't looking perfect. The person that's going to encourage
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Speaker 1: you to get back in the ring, the person that's
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Speaker 1: going to cheer you on when you are a close
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Speaker 1: to the finish but you're in the hardest walk of
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Speaker 1: the journey to complete the journey, which is oftentimes when
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Speaker 1: people quit because that's when it seems hardest. But you're
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Speaker 1: so close to the end, so you're gonna need people
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Speaker 1: in your corner who are going to help you push
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Speaker 1: past the distraction. So part of this is going to
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Speaker 1: be you, but part of this is going.
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Speaker 2: To be you.
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Speaker 1: Surrounding yourself or creating a circle of people that are
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Speaker 1: entrusted with your goal that can be trusted with your baby,
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Speaker 1: your newborn baby. Again, these are some of the things
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Speaker 1: that you've been looking after and dreaming for and having
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Speaker 1: a vision for for a long time, and so you
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Speaker 1: want to make sure that the person that's around that
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Speaker 1: vision can help you see past your limitations, can help
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Speaker 1: you see past the furthest point you've ever gotten to,
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Speaker 1: because oftentimes that's as far as we can see, the
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Speaker 1: firstest point we've ever gotten to. And so that's why
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Speaker 1: you need to push past that traction right and get
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Speaker 1: to your goal. Listen, there are so much external distractions
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Speaker 1: that you're gonna have to deal with in this But
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Speaker 1: then you still have the ones that have plagued you
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Speaker 1: for years, the limiting beliefs, the words that were spoken
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Speaker 1: over you that did not affirm you, but they confirmed
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Speaker 1: in your mind that you couldn't and you shouldn't, and
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Speaker 1: there's no way you can. But I'm asking you today
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Speaker 1: to be active in the activities that are going to
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Speaker 1: help you get to your goal, and be aware and
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Speaker 1: alert of the distractions that may limit you if you
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Speaker 1: let them. But ultimately you have the final say.
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Speaker 2: You have what it takes to get to the finish.
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