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Hypnosis to Feel Immune to Criticism and Disrespect · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And on this hypnosis session
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  that you're just about to listen to, you're going to be listening
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  to a session created about emotional triggers.
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  And I was working with a. Client that had.
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  Just recently done something where they were presenting to an
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  audience and they had a workshop they were doing and they got
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  some criticism, but the criticism that they.
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  Had received was. From one person that only saw a
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  small element. Of.
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  What had actually happened and all the rest of the feedback was
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  really. Positive.
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  But this client? Felt devastated.
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  By this feedback. Because they were.
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  Giving too much value to this one bit of feedback, this one
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  bit of criticism, So what? You're gonna hear.
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  In this particular session is a way of gaining perspective if.
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  There is disrespect or. Criticism or something rude, a
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  way of responding rather than reacting to actually have the
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  ability to choose how and even if you respond to a situation
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  and it wasn't just this specific thing, this was a microcosm of
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  what was happening in their life.
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  And there's a few metaphors here.
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  There's a metaphor of binoculars.
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  If you imagine just the incredible landscape, but with
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  the binoculars, you hone in on a tiny thing that's either boring
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  or unpleasant. You or mind could assume that
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  everything is boring or unpleasant when in fact you're
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  focusing on a tiny thing, not the big picture.
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  And then there's another element of using photography in a giant
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  photo to come up with a similar kind of message.
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  Because what we wanted this client to really get a sense of
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  is the fact that by zoning out and zooming out.
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  They're able to see. A lower level of importance, and
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  in psychology we call this catastrophization, where people
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  make something small a really big part.
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  And some people do this with events that have happened in
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  their life, so this one bad or embarrassing thing happens, and
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  then that almost defines them. They ruminate over that thing
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  rather than zooming out and looking at the big picture.
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  And generally that's a more helpful way of doing it.
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  But there's also metaphors about how to deal with provocation or
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  what can feel like provocation. So there's a bit going on in
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  this session. If you like the idea of working
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  with me directly, there will be a link in the descripcion where
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  you can schedule a free consultation call.
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  For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable lace where you won't
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  be. Disturbed, relax and.
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  Enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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  your eyelids to close. That's it.
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  And notice with your eyes closed just how much easier it is to
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  allow you to focus on the sound of my words as you continue to
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  breathe in that relaxation and exhale feelings of any stress,
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  worry or tension as you consider this an emotional transfusion,
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  breathing in what you need and exhaling echoes of intense
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  feelings. That may not.
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  Be useful for you right now. Allow the echoes to do what
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  echoes do perfectly naturally. Fade away.
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  That's it. And scan your body for any clues
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  of tension, stress or worries, maybe around your forehead, your
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  jaw, your neck or your shoulders.
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  Sometimes sensations like anxiety and worry can be there
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  in the gut. But as you breathe in then
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  resourceful feeling of relaxation, feel any of those
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  sensations start to melt away. Continuing to breathe deeper,
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  exhale for longer. And as your mind tunes in and
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  tunes out the sound of my voice, you may begin to wonder with
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  your left hand feels heavier than your right.
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  Or perhaps your right hand feels warmer than the left.
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  Or maybe you've already drifted into a space where none of that
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  really matters. Because your mind can wander
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  now. It can wander and it can wander
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  like a feather floating down a quiet stream.
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  And maybe you can notice your breath as it slows and deepens,
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  inhaling calm and and releasing anything as you exhale with that
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  long outward breath. And with every sound you hear
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  and every breath you take, maybe you find yourself sinking deeper
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  and deeper into deep relaxation. Just like those times when
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  you've gently lowered yourself into warm, relaxing water.
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  The kind that. Makes it.
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  Super easy to relax deeply, the kind that supports you
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  completely and nothing needs to be done except to allow it.
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  And as your body relaxes, your mind opens, ready to receive new
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  perspectives, new insights, new levels of resilience.
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  I want you to imagine being on board a boat, surrounded by
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  incredible natural beauty. And I want you to imagine
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  someone hands you a pair of binoculars.
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  Imagine staring into those binoculars and seeing a tiny
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  part of that incredible view. And maybe you see something
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  dull, mundane, or even disgusting, but if you were to
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  just focus on that thing and nothing else, you could come to
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  the conclusion that you're not in a place of beauty, you're in
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  a place of boredom or disgust. And I wonder if every now and
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  then in your life, your mind takes you to that nought point,
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  nought 1% of what's happening in your reality and making that
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  small thing big. So it feels devastating when
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  it's just a tiny, tiny part of what's really going on.
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  So imagine putting the binoculars down and seeing all
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  of that incredible natural beauty.
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  So much so that that boring, mundane or disgusting thing
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  can't even be seen. Now the thing that you could
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  only see when you hyper focus on that thing is invisible when you
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  see things for how they really are.
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  And imagine somewhere on that boat is a staircase taking you
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  down to the lower decks. I want you to imagine standing
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  at the top of that staircase, knowing that each step down
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  takes you deeper within. And let's walk down that
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  staircase now. 10 feeling safe, 9 letting go, 8 more relaxed.
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  That's it. Seven more grounded, 6 breathing
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  and relaxation, exhaling tension 5 halfway down now, 4 feeling
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  peaceful, 3 deeper and two deeper, and one deeply relaxed,
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  deeply open. And instead of being in the
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  lower part of a boat, I want you to imagine yourself in a large
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  hall with large walls. And I want you to imagine, in
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  this calm space, you imagine that one of those giant walls of
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  the hall is a photograph, enormous, as tall as a house,
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  stretching from one side of the wall all the way to the ceiling,
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  the floor, and then the other wall.
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  And maybe it's a stunning landscape, maybe a beach or a
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  field of wildflowers, a picture so breathtaking you could get
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  lost in its beauty. But I want you to imagine
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  walking close to the wall and see something small, perhaps no
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  bigger than a coin, A tiny imperfection, A smudge, A speck,
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  maybe something unpleasant or unprofessional.
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  But this is a tiny part of this big picture.
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  Such a tiny part of a huge picture.
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  The only way you could evaluate that this picture is not
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  incredible is to only look at the tiny part that isn't.
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  I want you to get a sense of feeling proud of all your
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  progress. Progress of awareness, new
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  patterns, new observations. Congratulate yourself every time
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  you take a breath. You choose to respond rather
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  than react, rather than dwelling on the tiny things, then give
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  you a different meaning. I want you to imagine that your
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  life is like that giant picture. Yes, there are moments of
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  discomfort, embarrassment, criticism or pain.
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  These are specks, tiny smudges in the canvas of something
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  incredible. And as you think back to these
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  last few months, these specs and smudges are becoming less and
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  less frequent. A moment does not define you,
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  mistake does not ruin you, and a comment does not control you
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  because you are learning now to zoom out, to take in the whole
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  picture. Remember your worth, your
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  strength, your progress. And just like that skilled
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  photographer, you begin to frame things differently.
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  If there's criticism, even if it's fair, instead of reacting,
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  you pause, You breathe. You start to evaluate it from
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  different perspectives. Is this about me or about them?
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  Are they Nuggets of gold in the sludge of this feedback?
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  Give yourself time and space. You take pride in responding
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  instead of reacting. And if every now and then you do
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  react in a way that with hindsight you'd have preferred
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  not to, that's also OK too. Because even then you grow, you
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  reflect, learn, adjust, replay that moment until it's exactly
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  as you would have wanted it to have been.
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  So you are priming yourself. Each time the set back becomes a
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  springboard forward, they handle the next situation better than
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  before. You are becoming more and more
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  resilient, more aware of your progress.
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  Instead of fixating on what isn't perfect yet, you're
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  appreciating just how far you've come.
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  Imagine you're back on the deck of that boat, looking out at the
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  oceans, and I want you to imagine your emotions as waves
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  on that ocean. And maybe in the past there was
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  no waves, and then a tidal wave, Nothing.
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  And then something extreme and destructive crashing down.
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  Like those big tidal waves, affecting you, affecting others,
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  damaging friendships, relationships.
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  But see the waves changing. Now the waves become smaller,
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  gentler, manageable. Your future is not the absence
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  of waves, it's just more waves of your choosing, more waves
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  that are easier to manage. That instead of being knocked
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  over by the waves, you ride the waves, bobbing up and down.
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  Imagine how good it would feel too ride those waves with
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  balance. The goal is not to avoid the
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  ocean, but just to ride those waves.
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  And every experience becomes part of your training, your
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  strength, where the stronger you become, the smaller those waves
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  feel. In the past, a wave of criticism
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  would have knocked you over, or you would have responded with an
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  even bigger wave yourself. But the waves get smaller and
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  smaller, and you choose to respond, not be triggered and
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  not react. There's you more and more,
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  becoming the calm in the storm, centred in the chaos and strong
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  in the face of challenge. So as you look out to those
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  waves, I want you to imagine a future version of you.
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  See yourself in the kind of situations that in the past
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  would have felt like provocation, triggered a
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  reaction of anger or storming away.
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  But this time, see yourself with new ones.
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  Perspective, curiosity, or pragmatism.
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  See yourself handling situations with more calm and clarity.
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  Purposeful communication Not. Emotional communication.
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  And as you see yourself, maybe you notice how quickly you
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  recover, how wise you've become proud of your progress and
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  noticing the beauty of the big picture.
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  So that even when something unpleasant, annoying, rude or
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  disrespectful APP happens or occurs, you smile because you
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  remember this is just one speck, 1 smudge in a life that is vast,
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  meaningful and truly beautiful. See those calm, manageable waves
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  and realise that the binoculars can focus on something
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  undesirable or desirable. You can zoom out and see the
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  whole picture. With this perspective,
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  resilience and patience, you will notice more and more the
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  progress you're making and even sandbags simply make you even
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  more wiser. It's time to return from this
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  boat within your imagination. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes that say
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  connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7 eights. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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