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Episode 631: Why Your Ex Is STILL Watching Your Stories · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
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  This week I want to talk about why is your ex still watching
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  your stories? That is the $1,000,000 question.
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  We all want to know why. Is someone who broke up with us
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  or even someone who ghosted us still watching our stories?
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  Personally, if I break up with someone, or even if someone
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  breaks up with me, I don't watch their stories.
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  I actually did break up with someone over a year ago and I
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  have not watched one story and I couldn't even watch it on the
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  down low if I wanted to because their account is private.
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  But I don't want to. But that's just me.
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  However, most people are not me and they will watch your story
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  even if they broke up with you or heck, even if you broke up
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  with them. Why?
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  Well, stay tuned and you'll find out.
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  you purchase the book. So before I give you the reasons
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  why your ex would be watching your stories after they broke up
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  with you, or you broke up with them because they cheated or
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  took you for granted, there's something important to keep in
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  mind. And that is, are they still
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  following you or not on that platform?
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  Because if they're not and they're watching your stories,
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  that's actually a great sign because they have to seek out
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  your profile. It doesn't just come up in the
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  feed. So their interest in you is
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  higher than an ex who still follows you and is also watching
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  your stories. OK, so the first reason is to
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  see if they made a mistake. Did they make a mistake in
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  breaking up with you? So be sure to show them that
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  yeah, they did make a mistake, especially if you were needy in
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  the relationship. If you're not contacting them
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  and you're living your best life, they will second guess
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  their decision. Or if they lost attraction to
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  you physically and now you've levelled up, they'll second
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  guess again their decision. Or if they wanted you to make a
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  change in your life that you didn't, but now you're making
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  that change. Now that they're gone, they may
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  change their mind about the breakup.
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  So give them a show and show them that yeah, you know what,
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  you didn't make a mistake #2 is to see if you're happier without
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  them, to see if you're doing better or worse without them.
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  They're going to expect you to be sad and they will get an ego
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  blow when they see that actually you're not sad and they may
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  think, Oh well, they're just faking it.
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  So make sure that it looks like you really are having fun, that
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  you're not sad, at least not in the photos and videos that you
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  post. Because they know you, right?
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  They can read your expression in your body language.
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  You can't fake it. You got to really be happy in
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  the videos and photos that you post.
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  You can be sad the rest of the time, but not in the videos and
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  photos. Third reason is a bit sinister.
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  They want to live rent free in your head, they're trying to
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  mess with you. What?
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  So it really depends on what type of breakup it was and on
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  their personality. And usually the the younger the
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  person is, the more likely they are to do something like this.
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  Or if they're toxic, so don't show them that them watching
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  your stories effects you by posting things that are meant
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  for them. And I'll be talking about this
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  later on, so just stay tuned. And by the way, if you're
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  grow so that we can help more people get their ex back.
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  Thank you. OK, the fourth reason is to see
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  if you're dating someone else because they want to know if
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  they still have access to you or if they will have access to you
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  if their change. If they change their mind, and
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  if you want to get revenge on your ex and you are going to
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  date someone new, eventually you want to date someone who is
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  either the total opposite of your ex or someone who looks
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  exactly like them. That will mess with their head
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  and their ego. And if you're a woman, you want
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  to date someone who's much more successful.
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  And if you're a man, you want to date a woman who is younger if
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  you want to get revenge on your ex.
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  So yes, they will be checking to see if you're dating someone.
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  The next reason is that they miss you, so feelings don't just
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  go away. Even if they felt that they had
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  to break up with you, you were a big part of their life and they
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  were used to watching your stories.
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  So it's going to be hard for them to all of a sudden stop.
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  And if they do, all of a sudden stop, it's because it's too
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  painful to watch, not because they're totally done with you.
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  So it's just a matter of habit. They were used to watching it.
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  They miss you and they're able to feel a connection to you by
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  watching your stories. Which is why I say that after
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  two months, if you don't hear from your ex, if they don't
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  reach out and you didn't cheat or take them for granted and
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  they're still watching your stories, then you have to block
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  them. You have to cut that connection
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  so they don't get that dopamine hit anymore.
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  And they have to really think about whether they want to reach
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  out to you or not. OK.
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  And then the final reason is that they want you to contact
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  them and they're hoping that by popping up in your stories, you
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  will reach out. But of course we know that
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  you're not going to, right? Because that would be breaking
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  no contact of unless, of course, you took them for granted or you
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  cheated. So do not fall for that trick of
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  thinking, oh, you're watching my stories.
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  They want me back. They want me to contact them.
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  Well, if they want you back, they're going to have to do the
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  reaching out, all right? And then the last reason is to
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  see if you're going to post any messages for them, especially
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  subliminal messages meant for them.
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  That's why I say do not post cryptic messages on your social
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  media is because I consider that breaking no contact.
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  If your ex knows that it's for them, which they will assume, it
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  is probably for them. So stop that.
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  Usually women are more guilty of this than men, and I know you're
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  just trying to get your frustration out, but that's not
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  how you do it. OK, do not post cryptic
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  messages. All right, so a recap of the
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  reasons why your ex is still watching your stories, whether
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  it's on Instagram or Facebook or Snapchat, OK is they want to see
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  if they made a mistake. They want to see if you're
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  happier without them. They want to live rent free in
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  your head. They want to see if you're
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  dating someone else. They miss you.
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  They want you to contact them, and they want to see if you're
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  posting any subliminal messages for them.
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  So now I want to hear from you which of these signs, if any, do
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  you think applies to your ex? If your ex is watching your
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  story, so please comment below. And if you would like me to help
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