Latest / Wits & Weights | Strength & Fat Loss Over 40 / Why "Listening to Your Body" Kept Her Stuck for Years (Cori Lefkowith) | Ep 452
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- 0:01Philip Pape: You've been told that tracking your food is obsessive, that if you just listen to your body and eat intuitively, you'll find balance.
- 0:07Philip Pape: And that feels right because who wants to weigh chicken on a food scale for the rest of their life?
- 0:12Philip Pape: Today's guest believed all of that.
- 0:15Philip Pape: She's a certified trainer, a former Division I athlete, a state powerlifting champion, and the founder of one of the fastest growing online coaching companies in the country.
- 0:23Philip Pape: And for years, she avoided macro tracking because she thought it would make her relationship with food worse.
- 0:29Philip Pape: She tried every other approach first.
- 0:31Philip Pape: None of them stuck.
- 0:32Philip Pape: When she finally gave tracking a chance, she realized that the thing she'd been avoiding was the thing that set her free.
- 0:38Philip Pape: In this episode, she is going to explain why the advice to just be intuitive fails most people.
- 0:44Philip Pape: What's actually happening when he feels stuck in a cycle of starting over and a simple system you can use to break out of it for good.
- 0:52Philip Pape: Welcome to Wits and Waits, where in every episode we put a popular piece of fitness advice under the microscope, find the hidden reason it doesn't work, and give you the deceptively simple fix that does.
- 1:07Philip Pape: I'm your host, Philip Pape, and today I'm excited to be challenging the idea that structure and tracking are the enemy of food freedom.
- 1:16Philip Pape: My guest is Corey Lefkowith, founder of Redefining Strength, where she coaches women through sustainable nutrition and strength training.
- 1:24Philip Pape: Her company has made the Inc.
- 1:25Philip Pape: 5000 list in back-to-back years, and she has a brand new book called The Strong System, a science-backed toolkit to keep you on track.
- 1:33Philip Pape: Corey spent years actively resisting macro tracking before becoming one of its biggest advocates.
- 1:39Philip Pape: And that 180 is the foundation of what we're talking about.
- 1:43Philip Pape: So by the end, you're going to understand why just listen to your body often backfires.
- 1:49Philip Pape: For most people who are trying to lose fat or build muscle, what the change loop is, she has an interesting framework that is going to help you out, how to recognize when you're trapped in the change loop and how a six-step system can turn tracking from a chore into a tool that you actually want to use.
- 2:05Philip Pape: Corey, thanks for coming on Wits and Weights.
- 2:08Cori Lefkowith: Thanks for having me.
- 2:09Cori Lefkowith: Super excited to dive in.
- 2:11Philip Pape: What I love about your story is that you have the open mind to have learned through your own journey of, hey, you know, in the past you would coach people on nutrition and fitness and telling them maybe you don't need to track macros.
- 2:24Philip Pape: And there's definitely a dichotomous kind of thinking out in the fitness industry, which sometimes is its own trap, right?
- 2:29Philip Pape: Like the black and white thinking.
- 2:31Philip Pape: So, you know, did you truly believe that at one point?
- 2:33Philip Pape: How has your thinking evolved?
- 2:35Philip Pape: And what did you settle on to where you are today?
- 2:38Cori Lefkowith: Well, the internet is amazing and also slightly embarrassing when you go back and look through its archives.
- 2:44Cori Lefkowith: But I did find even proof on my blog of when I wrote about how I would never track and how tracking was too restrictive and obsessive.
- 2:53Cori Lefkowith: And when I did that, it was after an experience of actually tracking where I'd cut out all the foods I love.
- 3:00Cori Lefkowith: I felt miserable, I felt hangry, low energy.
- 3:03Cori Lefkowith: And so I really had determined from this experience that it wasn't right for me, but I completely wrote it off.
- 3:10Cori Lefkowith: And I determined that if I was eating healthy foods, that had to be enough.
- 3:14Cori Lefkowith: But then as I started to do that and recognize my progress wasn't happening the way I wanted, I sat with myself for a second and was like, okay, well, what's going on?
- 3:23Cori Lefkowith: And as I began to research, I realized what gets measured gets managed.
- 3:28Cori Lefkowith: And I didn't really have any clue of the portions I was eating.
- 3:32Cori Lefkowith: And I don't know about you, you, but like peanut butter and that portion, that is not the actual serving size on the jar.
- 3:39Cori Lefkowith: So just gonna throw that out there.
- 3:41Cori Lefkowith: But I was not measuring it out and my portions were very distorted.
- 3:45Cori Lefkowith: And so I decided that I was just gonna log what I was currently doing.
- 3:49Cori Lefkowith: And through just logging without making any changes, I began to realize that tracking was just data.
- 3:55Cori Lefkowith: I assigned all meaning to it and determined to make a choice to cut stuff out to restrict to a point where I felt hangry.
- 4:02Cori Lefkowith: And I say hangry because it was hungry and angry.
- 4:05Cori Lefkowith: Hungry isn't just enough.
- 4:06Cori Lefkowith: It's the low energy too that comes with that restriction often.
- 4:09Cori Lefkowith: So I began to realize that tracking was just a tool and it was a tool to fuel better.
- 4:13Cori Lefkowith: So there was that evolution and it's amazing to find, but I think it's also not only recognizing the habits, but the mindsets behind them that allows us to find freedom in the variations or tools or tactics that really help us move forward.
- 4:29Philip Pape: Great frame on this, right?
- 4:30Philip Pape: Because it sounds like when you originally tracked, you connected it to restriction.
- 4:34Philip Pape: And really there are two separate concepts happening in parallel, which can give somebody a misaligned association, right?
- 4:40Philip Pape: Which happens to us all the time as human beings.
- 4:42Philip Pape: And you just said it's a tool that can be used, it's a tool that can be misused.
- 4:46Philip Pape: And how you track is important.
- 4:48Philip Pape: What I did like one specific thing you said is your idea of portions was distorted until you tracked.
- 4:55Philip Pape: And I did an episode not long ago.
- 4:57Philip Pape: You guys can find it in the feed about developing intuitive eating skills.
- 5:00Philip Pape: And one fact I mentioned is that even the most expert, you know, nutritionists, dietitians, coaches are typically off about 20%, but even with the skill, they're off by 20%.
- 5:11Philip Pape: Without the skill, it's 40, 60, 80, 200% off.
- 5:14Philip Pape: You know, who knows?
- 5:16Philip Pape: So when we have that belief that tracking is disordered, where does that come from?
- 5:21Philip Pape: Is it exactly like your situation, or is there something like in the evidence we know that this association has developed, even though it's not reality?
- 5:30Cori Lefkowith: I think it all comes back to mindsets.
- 5:31Cori Lefkowith: There is not a one size fits all approach to anything.
- 5:34Cori Lefkowith: I mean, and the more we see the nuance in things, the more we can allow ourselves to be able to use different tools and tactics at different stages of life.
- 5:40Cori Lefkowith: But it's recognizing that you can be obsessive without tracking.
- 5:44Cori Lefkowith: I know lots of people, and I've worked with lots of clients who come into tracking because they need to eat more and giving themselves that clear evidence that they can eat more, that they should eat more, that they can include foods they love, really helps them release some of the obsessive tendencies they already have because we can get very restrictive without even like having that thing that we're weighing and measuring.
- 6:03Cori Lefkowith: We can decide that foods have to be off limits, that they're evil, that they're bad for us, and we assign moral value.
- 6:08Cori Lefkowith: So obsession is a mindset, it is not inherent in a tool or tactic.
- 6:13Cori Lefkowith: But we do often use things in a way that then creates that association.
- 6:18Cori Lefkowith: And it's really key we recognize that because when I even say that tracking, and I actually believe that tracking in some form is right for everybody, that means vastly different things for people.
- 6:28Cori Lefkowith: It can mean just writing down what you're eating, it can be writing down emotions on how you felt with the food, but you need some form of data to give yourself that ability to step back because we are very bad at remembering things and feelings play a huge role.
- 6:41Cori Lefkowith: And to slightly go back to the intuitive eating thing, one of the most eye-opening things early on in my coaching career was not only my personal experience with tracking, but I had a client and she was on a weight loss journey and I was having her track macros.
- 6:53Cori Lefkowith: And we encountered somebody when we were out who said to her, I can't believe you track.
- 6:57Cori Lefkowith: Just eat intuitively, listen to your body.
- 7:00Cori Lefkowith: And she was like, Well, my body tells me intuitively that I want to go eat that whole pint of ice cream in the fridge when I get home from work and it's been a stressful day.
- 7:08Cori Lefkowith: And with that moment, you could see the other person sort of be like, Oh, because there isn't this recognition that we're each coming at food from a different upbringing or a different perspective on it.
- 7:18Cori Lefkowith: And some of us have trained ourselves to emotionally eat because that has solved the feelings in the moment.
- 7:25Cori Lefkowith: And that pattern is so ingrained that we don't even sometimes realize we're replicating it until after we've done it.
- 7:30Cori Lefkowith: So that tracking can help bring that awareness and recognize when we're eating out of intuition in a way that we've just trained our body to respond.
- 7:39Philip Pape: Yeah, and that makes a lot of sense because those signals that people just assume you have become more and more dysregulated and dysfunctional and with certain behaviors like chronic restriction, right?
- 7:51Philip Pape: Because you're talking about fueling and but chronic restriction, let alone eating disorders and such, which makes it even worse, where it's just completely dysregulated that connection.
- 7:59Philip Pape: And some of it is neurological too, with the between that and your hormones, when we talk about all the types of hunger.
- 8:04Philip Pape: So one thing you mentioned that's very powerful is that your system of tracking itself can be so flexible.
- 8:11Philip Pape: Like when we talk about flexible eating or flexible dieting, it's not just macros, it's, you know, the way you're tracking.
- 8:17Philip Pape: So what I'm interested before we go on is in your past, when you weren't quite on the side of full-on tracking, were there things you, in hindsight, did find successful that may not fit in the tracking window?
- 8:31Philip Pape: Does that make sense?
- 8:31Philip Pape: Like, are there things you still carry to you to this day that are disconnected from tracking that helped you and still help you with food, let's say?
- 8:39Cori Lefkowith: You know, this is a question I've never asked myself, but I would honestly say no.
- 8:43Philip Pape: Okay.
- 8:44Cori Lefkowith: Because I think in some way you always are tracking.
- 8:47Cori Lefkowith: You're keeping a log of what you've done.
- 8:49Cori Lefkowith: Like even if you think about the mindsets and the confidence you have, it's a log of proof that if you've stacked one way or the other.
- 8:55Cori Lefkowith: When you don't trust yourself to go into a program again to make changes, that's because of proof you feel you've stacked.
- 9:02Cori Lefkowith: So in some way, we're always tracking everything mentally, whether or not we're aware of it.
- 9:07Cori Lefkowith: And so I think what happened before is that I would track my food by having specific foods I deemed healthy to eat, but I was still sort of tracking what I was doing.
- 9:18Cori Lefkowith: It was just from the framework of having good and bad foods, which for me honestly led to more obsession and restriction and more starting over again because I would ultimately want some food that I had labeled as bad.
- 9:30Cori Lefkowith: For me, the the stricter macro cycling and tracking actually allowed more food freedom because I worked in those foods, saw that they could be a balance.
- 9:37Cori Lefkowith: And when I want to balance in a little more fun foods, I switch how I'm tracking.
- 9:42Cori Lefkowith: So maybe it's a more minimalist approach, only watching protein and calories, or maybe I'm taking pictures just to make sure my portions are somewhat in line and to allow myself to really understand am I feeling full or am I not feeling full?
- 9:54Cori Lefkowith: If I'm not feeling full, am I not feeling full because I had more processed foods that might not have, you know, really made me feel full so that the hunger cue is still there.
- 10:02Cori Lefkowith: You know, I would say we're always tracking whether or not we realize it.
- 10:06Philip Pape: That's a great way to put it.
- 10:07Philip Pape: So then can you systemize your tracking to make it work for you?
- 10:10Philip Pape: Is really the goal.
- 10:11Philip Pape: You know, we all have bank accounts and there's some level of tracking going on, but some people don't think about it and they spend, spend, spend, and then before long they're like, oh no, I don't have any more money.
- 10:20Philip Pape: I need to use a credit card.
- 10:21Philip Pape: Others, you know, may track every single expense and use budgeting software.
- 10:25Philip Pape: Um, and I and I spent like a weekend not long ago doing that for my business and saying, oh no, I need to cut out a bunch of expenses.
- 10:32Philip Pape: But sometimes you need that next level.
- 10:33Philip Pape: You need to level up the amount that you're scrutinizing and using that data.
- 10:37Philip Pape: So what is it about logging that I guess threatens people that I would suspect is emotional about all of this?
- 10:44Philip Pape: I mean, you kind of alluded to it here and there, but do you see today one or two big buckets where people still resist when you say, no, this is gonna do it for you?
- 10:52Cori Lefkowith: I think a lot is tied to our past experiences with it, where when you have a bad experience with something, you're not gonna want to do it again.
- 10:59Cori Lefkowith: I also think that we have to recognize that when we say tracking, the mental pushback we get is against the form that we envision first.
- 11:06Cori Lefkowith: And so we don't like to make changes because we're only comfortable being uncomfortable in certain ways.
- 11:12Cori Lefkowith: And generally the changes we're resisting are discomfort in a different way.
- 11:16Cori Lefkowith: And we do see that data as judgment because we instantly place judgment on ourselves.
- 11:23Cori Lefkowith: We know we are not doing the things we feel we should, and so therefore we see it as a negative.
- 11:27Cori Lefkowith: So I always like to start people with just tracking what they're currently doing.
- 11:32Cori Lefkowith: Hey, you're not trying to make changes, you're not trying to judge, you're just seeing what you're doing.
- 11:36Cori Lefkowith: Because maybe they're the changes you think you need to make, you don't actually need to make.
- 11:40Cori Lefkowith: Maybe you need to eat more, not less.
- 11:42Cori Lefkowith: And that is honestly the biggest relief because you start to separate out the emotions from like the tool a little bit.
- 11:50Cori Lefkowith: But we so often just go into something wanting to make changes and trying to make these sweeping overhauls that it's not the tracking, it's the overhauls that are really getting us, but it gets the association anyway.
- 12:00Cori Lefkowith: So I would say the mental hang up really does come back to the discomfort of something new and outside what we've always done.
- 12:06Cori Lefkowith: Because we push ourselves into pain.
- 12:09Cori Lefkowith: It's just pain we're okay with.
- 12:10Cori Lefkowith: And then it's recognizing, like, hey, how can I do this in a way that doesn't get that mental pushback to start?
- 12:16Philip Pape: Yeah, that makes sense.
- 12:17Philip Pape: So the form we envision using most is usually what comes to our head, is what you said, which sometimes makes us repel against this idea until you realize, no, there are multiple ways to do it, and let's do it and take a baby step of letting it show us what's happening, what's reality, what's your baseline, rather than going to the next step.
- 12:34Philip Pape: And that's super, super revealing.
- 12:35Philip Pape: I totally agree.
- 12:36Philip Pape: So you talk about something called the change loop, which is a cycle of you try something new, they get some results, but then they hit a wall or a plateau, uh, then they quit, right?
- 12:46Philip Pape: Or switch to another program or the next shiny object.
- 12:49Philip Pape: And I'm assuming you went through this yourself many times in your past.
- 12:53Philip Pape: Tell us about that change loop, how you recognize it, like why it's important to understand that pattern, so then we can do something about it.
- 13:01Cori Lefkowith: I did the starting over Monday for far too long.
- 13:05Cori Lefkowith: And I think a lot of people can sympathize with that.
- 13:08Cori Lefkowith: But then I recognize I am never starting over.
- 13:12Cori Lefkowith: You are stuck with everything you have done prior.
- 13:15Cori Lefkowith: And that sounds really negative, and I don't mean it to be, because you're also stuck in a positive way with the lessons you've learned if you really reflect on everything that's happened.
- 13:23Cori Lefkowith: But that's why when someone will ask me, like, how long is it between X photo and X photo in this transformation?
- 13:28Cori Lefkowith: I'm like, my entire life.
- 13:30Cori Lefkowith: And so when I started to really recognize this pattern of constantly starting over, I recognize the emotions that went with it.
- 13:38Cori Lefkowith: We get really excited for a new program because we've hit this point of like the pain of change, like just is worth anything, right?
- 13:46Cori Lefkowith: To us, right?
- 13:47Cori Lefkowith: Because the pain of staying stuck just stinks so bad.
- 13:50Cori Lefkowith: We are not liking where we are.
- 13:52Cori Lefkowith: So we get really excited with a program promise, something that says it's like new, exciting, whatever else.
- 13:57Cori Lefkowith: And so we go all in.
- 13:58Cori Lefkowith: But in going all in, we never reflected on who and what we are, what habits have sabotaged us in the past, any of our realistic lifestyle, right?
- 14:07Cori Lefkowith: We just go for this ideal we see.
- 14:09Cori Lefkowith: Hey, this woman looks lean.
- 14:10Cori Lefkowith: I'm gonna do that program.
- 14:12Cori Lefkowith: That's right for me.
- 14:12Cori Lefkowith: We get super excited by it, do all the habits, and we hit like that habit overload where you start to be like, okay, I'm doing all these things, you know, I can do two-a-da workouts, I can cut out the dessert I love, I don't have to have the wine.
- 14:23Cori Lefkowith: And then, you know, like at the end of the week, you weigh in, you're like, okay, I lost some weight.
- 14:28Cori Lefkowith: I think I can do this.
- 14:30Cori Lefkowith: And then another week goes by and maybe the scale doesn't go down or even goes up, and you're like, what the heck am I doing?
- 14:35Cori Lefkowith: Why am I doing this?
- 14:36Cori Lefkowith: Right.
- 14:36Cori Lefkowith: And so that's where we hit the habit overload leading to emotional sabotage, where I also call this the flat tire rule, uh, where it doesn't feel worth it.
- 14:45Cori Lefkowith: It's Friday night.
- 14:46Cori Lefkowith: You're like, forget everything.
- 14:48Cori Lefkowith: You go pour the glass of wine, and then you pull out the box of cookies, and one cookie becomes like 10, especially if you're me or the pint of ice cream.
- 14:55Cori Lefkowith: I prefer ice cream.
- 14:56Cori Lefkowith: But it just is this whole downward spiral.
- 14:59Cori Lefkowith: And it's basically what I call the flat tire rule because you get a flat tire, right?
- 15:03Cori Lefkowith: You don't get the results you want.
- 15:04Cori Lefkowith: Maybe you even do have the wine, but instead of stopping there, you pull over to the side of the road.
- 15:08Cori Lefkowith: Instead of fixing the flat, you slash the other three tires, maybe even light the car on fire and walk away.
- 15:12Cori Lefkowith: But you spiral a lot more than you need to.
- 15:14Cori Lefkowith: And then there's the guilt.
- 15:16Cori Lefkowith: This is part of that emotional sabotage because so often, if we just stop at the event instead of making ourselves feel guilty, we wouldn't fall off and quit for multiple more weeks.
- 15:25Cori Lefkowith: But that's what we do.
- 15:26Cori Lefkowith: And then we end up getting to a point where we are so not happy with the situation, but we're also so not trusting ourself that all we can do is hope that the next thing will be the thing.
- 15:35Cori Lefkowith: And so that's where we repeat the pattern.
- 15:37Cori Lefkowith: And the only way to break it is to ultimately like sit with ourselves and say, why does this keep happening?
- 15:44Cori Lefkowith: Is it the same point?
- 15:45Cori Lefkowith: Is it how I'm doing the habits?
- 15:47Cori Lefkowith: But it's that self-awareness we need to build because there is no perfect plan.
- 15:51Cori Lefkowith: And the more we keep trying to go on a plan or fall off a plan and see it that way versus seeing ourselves as a plan, the more we just keep ourselves stuck.
- 16:00Philip Pape: So I have two follow-ups to some things you just said.
- 16:02Philip Pape: So on habit overload, and you kind of alluded to the fact that if you're trying to do a lot of things and then you make a little progress, but then you stop making progress, it kind of correlates with those speed bumps.
- 16:13Philip Pape: So do you have like a framework of, hey, literally one habit at a time for a certain amount of time before you go to the next, like a stacking framework that you suggest to people?
- 16:24Philip Pape: Or is it a little more individualized?
- 16:27Cori Lefkowith: Well, the more individualized, always the better.
- 16:29Cori Lefkowith: But I think what the thing comes back to is that self-assessment of effort and outcome.
- 16:34Cori Lefkowith: I like to think of it as the habit budget.
- 16:37Cori Lefkowith: And it was funny that you brought up money before because I do think of it as like, what are you putting into yourself to invest that gives you more energy, less stress, more ability to do more things?
- 16:48Cori Lefkowith: And then what is taking out from your self-control?
- 16:51Cori Lefkowith: And this is a lot of different things.
- 16:53Cori Lefkowith: And I don't think it's one set time of like 21 days, 45 days, whatever it is.
- 16:58Cori Lefkowith: I think it's more when that budget gets out of balance that we start to see that real pushback or habit overload.
- 17:05Cori Lefkowith: So if you're making changes in January, where maybe the holiday wake-in has you, you're feeling a little blah, you know, it's not a time where you're traveling, you're like, okay, I have an ideal time, like work's not busy, whatever else.
- 17:16Cori Lefkowith: So you can make changes based on that time.
- 17:19Cori Lefkowith: Maybe it is working out six days a week, maybe it is truly tracking macros intensively.
- 17:23Cori Lefkowith: And you start those habits and you have enough in your savings to really budget for them.
- 17:27Cori Lefkowith: But then you see the summer come, or for some people, it might be all the way to the holidays, or some it might be, you know, their birthday, like just in February, whatever it is, we have that time where all of a sudden stress or lifestyle shifts.
- 17:40Cori Lefkowith: And maybe we're not putting as much into savings, we're not doing as much for ourselves in terms of like the self-care, or maybe work stressors increase or family life changes.
- 17:48Cori Lefkowith: And all of a sudden, the habits that felt within budget no longer do, even though they didn't change.
- 17:54Cori Lefkowith: The effort didn't really change, but the feeling of effort did.
- 17:58Cori Lefkowith: And we have to recognize when that shifts, because when that shifts, if we don't evolve those habits or see what else we can adjust in our outside life, that's where we end up saying, forget everything, I'm done.
- 18:09Philip Pape: Yeah, that's resilience, at least, at least in my opinion, that's what came to me was that ability to stretch the rubber band and let it come back rather than break when time gets hard.
- 18:18Philip Pape: You know, planning for the worst case, let's say you could either run in such a way where you're always behind paycheck to paycheck, which maybe we think about that as the budget you just mentioned, or also even our calories, let's be honest, where you're kind of always on fumes and or you can like focus on muscle and focus on fuel and like pay yourself first.
- 18:37Philip Pape: Again, thinking in money terms, like take out the profit and the owner's pay first, which is like taking care of yourself and then seeing what's left.
- 18:44Philip Pape: So when we talk about fuel and adding things in and building muscle and all that, I know that's like in your bailiwick, right?
- 18:51Philip Pape: Where does that sit in all of this, even from day one?
- 18:54Philip Pape: Like as you're starting to do an audit with someone or habit assessment, how are these conversations going, Corey, with regards to building muscle?
- 19:01Philip Pape: Because there's so many fears and like myths around that, especially for women, for example.
- 19:05Cori Lefkowith: Most of us do come into wanting to make healthy lifestyle changes because we want to lose weight.
- 19:10Cori Lefkowith: I know for me, like out of college, I did want to perform a certain way.
- 19:14Cori Lefkowith: I was into like lifting and building muscle, but a big journey into macros was because I had decided, you know, I want to see body recomp.
- 19:21Cori Lefkowith: I want to lose fat, I want to get lean.
- 19:23Cori Lefkowith: And in that process, I recognized that if I actually wanted to stay lean, not only did I have to recognize there were more phases to fat loss than just the constant cutting, but I recognized that muscle was everything.
- 19:35Cori Lefkowith: And if we start with a focus on muscle, everything else is gonna happen because you're gonna see improvements in your health, which is gonna make your body more efficient, which is gonna lead to fat loss.
- 19:44Cori Lefkowith: And while it's not sexy to think about it in that way, the reason you feel like things work, but nothing has actually worked long term is because you're approaching it as fat loss first over building muscle first.
- 19:54Cori Lefkowith: And those practices have often made us lose muscle in the process and trying to weigh less, but they've also adapted our metabolism.
- 20:02Cori Lefkowith: And if you think about your metabolism as like all the lights on your house being on to start, and then with your dieting practices, maybe with age, some have dimmed, some have been turned off.
- 20:12Cori Lefkowith: You can go turn them back on.
- 20:14Cori Lefkowith: But it means giving your house the energy so that it can do that.
- 20:18Cori Lefkowith: And so you have to fuel to build that lean muscle.
- 20:21Cori Lefkowith: And in the process of building that lean muscle and all the processes regulating back because they've potentially downregulated in order to survive off the calories you're consuming and the training that you're doing, you'll see yourself actually building that muscle and losing fat and seeing the recomp happen.
- 20:35Cori Lefkowith: Of course, it's not a fun process and often takes far longer than we want.
- 20:39Cori Lefkowith: And it's really challenging, especially mentally, because you often at first see the reverse of what you want to have happen actually happen.
- 20:47Philip Pape: Yeah, you see maybe a little bit of extra weight gain, you carry a little more fluid, you maybe even gain a little bit of fat.
- 20:53Philip Pape: And you're right, this kind of messaging is everywhere because it's important because it leads to the other question I was going to ask you, which is about these what you're measuring from the beginning.
- 21:01Philip Pape: Because we mentioned nutrition, okay, that makes sense, but you also mentioned weight, which involves the scale.
- 21:07Philip Pape: And, you know, we know that the scale can be helpful, but definitely it out of context can be very dangerous in the wrong hands in terms of how it's interpreted.
- 21:16Philip Pape: So given muscle and fuel and no longer restricting and having a flexible diet, and all these are important, what are the basic things that people should be measuring and not paying attention to as well, at least early on?
- 21:30Cori Lefkowith: It really does depend on your goal, because if your goal is gaining muscle, I'm probably gonna tell someone to just chuck the scale out or put it in the in their closet for a little bit just because you can't really watch it.
- 21:39Cori Lefkowith: Because often you will even be building muscle before you lose fat.
- 21:43Cori Lefkowith: And yes, your glycogen stores are gonna be full because your body thinks it's in a calorie surplus as it adapts.
- 21:47Cori Lefkowith: But we measure a lot what we like to call NSVs or non scale victories.
- 21:53Cori Lefkowith: And so we have reflection sheets not only on are you doing the habit consistently?
- 21:56Cori Lefkowith: Because I think a lot of times we don't notice our own inconsistencies.
- 21:59Cori Lefkowith: And then we get really frustrated, we're putting in a lot of effort for things not to snowball.
- 22:04Cori Lefkowith: But we want to measure progress in other ways because that's really the signals often before we reach our goal that things are working.
- 22:10Cori Lefkowith: So is your sleep improving?
- 22:11Cori Lefkowith: As you're increasing calories, are your nails growing?
- 22:14Cori Lefkowith: Is your hair growing?
- 22:15Cori Lefkowith: Are you fidgeting more?
- 22:16Cori Lefkowith: We want to make note of all the different ways that we can see those habits paying off to know that we're on the right track because we see a lot of those signals well before our ultimate goal.
- 22:26Cori Lefkowith: And then I do think body measurements, progress pictures can be very helpful to track progress.
- 22:30Cori Lefkowith: But the more ways you measure success, the more ways you give yourself to be successful.
- 22:35Cori Lefkowith: So you got to measure progress outside of your ultimate goal.
- 22:38Cori Lefkowith: And I even think setting complementary targets is really important.
- 22:41Cori Lefkowith: So if you're going after weight loss, you want to think about a performance goal in the gym.
- 22:45Cori Lefkowith: You want to think a habit consistency goal.
- 22:47Cori Lefkowith: You want to think about outside challenges that you know will keep you in the habits that ultimately pay off with if you're going after the scale change, the scale change.
- 22:56Philip Pape: That's great.
- 22:56Philip Pape: And you just said complementary metrics.
- 22:59Philip Pape: So again, digging in one more layer, does that mean that the suite of metrics can change quite a bit from person to person?
- 23:08Philip Pape: Not even one person from goal to goal, but literally like this person may need to have these three things on their list at most of the time, even for the rest of their lives.
- 23:16Philip Pape: And this person over here is these three other things.
- 23:18Philip Pape: I'm curious, like how that comes up.
- 23:21Cori Lefkowith: Oh, it definitely does.
- 23:22Cori Lefkowith: Like each season of our life is going to be different.
- 23:24Cori Lefkowith: And if you're trying to work towards a muscle-building goal, you're going to have to work, like let go of some of the habits that you did to lose fat.
- 23:30Cori Lefkowith: And so you have to track then progress in different ways.
- 23:33Cori Lefkowith: But it really depends.
- 23:34Cori Lefkowith: Like I always start with clients with getting an accurate assessment of where they are.
- 23:38Cori Lefkowith: What aren't you happy with in your life right now?
- 23:39Cori Lefkowith: What have you struggled to do in the past?
- 23:41Cori Lefkowith: What do you feel like has sabotaged you in programs?
- 23:43Cori Lefkowith: Like, where would you like to see improvements in your life outside of the weight that you want to lose?
- 23:48Cori Lefkowith: And when we do that, we can often find little things that I like to call sort of pulling on the thread that unravels everything, where we know things that will be signals that things aren't paying off the way we want or habits have started to slide.
- 24:00Cori Lefkowith: So if a client comes in saying, My sleep is just horrible, as we're making changes, if we start to notice their sleep is bad again, we'll yes, look at outside stressors, but say, Hey, have things changed in how you're doing your meal timing?
- 24:13Cori Lefkowith: Are you starting to try to do too much in your workouts?
- 24:16Cori Lefkowith: Are you adding more somewhere?
- 24:17Cori Lefkowith: But we'll find the little ways of measuring progress that are key to them and how they want to feel in everyday life and use those as those checkpoints throughout.
- 24:26Cori Lefkowith: Because we don't do well with forever.
- 24:29Cori Lefkowith: We we need some sort of end date in our head.
- 24:32Cori Lefkowith: And so by even saying, hey, I'm gonna check in with myself every few weeks on these other things and do a more deep dive reflection, we give ourselves that point at which we're assessing our lifestyle to make tweaks because it's fun to adjust.
- 24:44Cori Lefkowith: We should always be growing.
- 24:46Cori Lefkowith: And creating a lifestyle doesn't mean you're doing one thing.
- 24:48Cori Lefkowith: So I do like to set those things forever because I think we all need those little boundaries or buffers.
- 24:53Cori Lefkowith: Otherwise, we get those 1% deviations that just completely pull us off course.
- 24:58Philip Pape: So the tension here that I feel, and I've seen this in my own clients, is the ones that then start adopting this mindset and doing the tracking and learning from it.
- 25:06Philip Pape: And then they get all the wins and they start to progress.
- 25:09Philip Pape: And then six months or year down, they've they've really made a big improvement.
- 25:12Philip Pape: And now they hit this other wall that I've noticed, right?
- 25:15Philip Pape: Which is a little bit of a new tracking fatigue wall where you're almost like bored because things are going well and you're tracking the same things over and over again and you're looking for a little bit of something different.
- 25:25Philip Pape: So it's almost like this longer-term tracking fatigue.
- 25:27Philip Pape: Have you seen that phenomenon?
- 25:29Cori Lefkowith: Yeah, and that's where you want to almost proactively assess and address that.
- 25:33Cori Lefkowith: So like I know it during the holidays, I get tracking fatigue in the way that I do it in January.
- 25:39Cori Lefkowith: I will not do it.
- 25:39Cori Lefkowith: And so I started to recognize, like, hey, I can't force the same habits.
- 25:43Cori Lefkowith: So proactively now going into the holidays, I come up with a different game plan.
- 25:47Cori Lefkowith: So when a client starts to say, like, oh, this doesn't feel worth it, or well, I deserve just one, you know, like this is just like a bite, lick a nibble, it doesn't matter, right?
- 25:57Cori Lefkowith: And you start to see that excuse creep like creep in, you got to recognize that is self-sabotage starting to happen.
- 26:04Cori Lefkowith: And so at this point, while we struggle to do less, it is a time to do less to ultimately move forward more consistently.
- 26:12Cori Lefkowith: So as you feel that sort of pain pushback, that fatigue with the habits you're doing, uh a desire to do something new, do something new.
- 26:21Cori Lefkowith: Just do it with strategy and intention.
- 26:23Cori Lefkowith: Because if you're controlling it in that way, you're not going to end up doing something that's going to derail you, right?
- 26:29Cori Lefkowith: If tracking full macrocycles like protein, carbs, and fats is feeling like too much, why not just track protein?
- 26:35Cori Lefkowith: Or why not say, hey, I'm feeling fatigued with my meals and this full tracking because there's other things I want.
- 26:41Cori Lefkowith: How can I work this in?
- 26:42Cori Lefkowith: Like I love to say, like, how can I get away with more stuff, right?
- 26:46Cori Lefkowith: Can I work out a little bit less because right now I just don't feel energized to go six days a week and get away with that, so to speak?
- 26:51Cori Lefkowith: Can I include more foods that I love?
- 26:53Cori Lefkowith: Can I go out to eat more?
- 26:54Cori Lefkowith: Or can I adjust the way I'm doing some of the habits that really match what I need now?
- 26:58Cori Lefkowith: But proactively like evolving and adapting the habits is so key because we do get bored and that's why we search for something new.
- 27:07Cori Lefkowith: We just want to make sure that that doesn't make us jump ship on something that's working.
- 27:10Philip Pape: When I hear someone say, hey, I'm going on a trip in a month, what do I do?
- 27:14Philip Pape: I'm like, yes, like you're that's step one is saying, like, I need to have a structure or plan.
- 27:18Philip Pape: Even if the plan is I'm not gonna track, but I'm gonna have certain guidelines or thoughts or whatever around the trip so that I enjoy it.
- 27:25Philip Pape: I also thought of the idea that, you know, you can always exchange within that budget you talked about if working out six days a week and you're like, well, I'm gonna go down to three, I can get some more sleep now on those other days, right?
- 27:36Philip Pape: So there's always these wonderful trade-offs that you can get.
- 27:39Philip Pape: So that kind of addresses the, I guess, a little bit of a fatigue, which is probably more of a novelty and a seasonal thing that humans deal with all the time, right?
- 27:46Philip Pape: And just kind of keeping it different.
- 27:48Philip Pape: What about when you're actually trying to then nail in on a root cause or a bottleneck for someone?
- 27:54Philip Pape: But you also said you don't want to try to do everything at once.
- 27:57Philip Pape: So, how do you narrow that down?
- 27:59Philip Pape: What is a good system to do that when you have all this data coming in?
- 28:03Cori Lefkowith: Data can overwhelm us.
- 28:04Cori Lefkowith: And I say that as I have like a tracker on my wrist, but you have to understand what the data is telling you and you have to come back to who and what you are.
- 28:13Cori Lefkowith: So, with all the different habits, with all the different metrics, you have to then say, what does my lifestyle actually look like right now?
- 28:20Cori Lefkowith: And the reason I come back to that is because what feels doable for you right now.
- 28:25Cori Lefkowith: And that's where we sort of started.
- 28:26Cori Lefkowith: And when you get those wins stacking, all of a sudden you want to do more.
- 28:30Cori Lefkowith: And it's going back to even the the working out six days a week, because I think this is a great example of it.
- 28:35Cori Lefkowith: If you have six workouts on your schedule for the week and you do three, generally you kind of feel bad.
- 28:42Cori Lefkowith: Like you could say, well, I still did three, but generally we're like, oh, I only did three.
- 28:47Cori Lefkowith: Versus if you only had three workouts on your schedule for the week and you did three or four, all of a sudden you're like, I'm a rock star.
- 28:54Cori Lefkowith: It's the same three.
- 28:56Cori Lefkowith: Yes, maybe you design the workout slightly differently.
- 28:58Cori Lefkowith: So you optimize the three days a little bit better, but it's still the same time technically, and both would still count, but it's the momentum and mindset you create.
- 29:07Cori Lefkowith: So I think when we're trying to address bottlenecks, so much of it isn't just a tool or tactic that we're looking for.
- 29:13Cori Lefkowith: It's the mindsets and lifestyle that we need to address underlying it.
- 29:17Cori Lefkowith: Because a perfect plan, if something it's not something we can do consistently, it really doesn't matter versus imperfect changes done consistently are going to add up far faster.
- 29:27Philip Pape: For sure.
- 29:28Philip Pape: The compounding effect.
- 29:29Philip Pape: I mean, even a fat loss phase that that you plan out from day one, you don't know if by day two or the next week something interrupts your life or something changes.
- 29:38Philip Pape: So always be ready to pivot and kind of squish it, expand it, go up and down.
- 29:42Philip Pape: Like it doesn't matter.
- 29:43Philip Pape: As long as you're in control of that, you'll be fine.
- 29:46Philip Pape: Even if it's even day-to-day, like that, that's what I've seen.
- 29:48Philip Pape: So thank you for for kind of validating that for people.
- 29:51Philip Pape: This is not a fixed thing.
- 29:52Philip Pape: You don't just have a plan on day one and just, you know, run with it.
- 29:55Philip Pape: So then if you expand that out longer term to a decade, let's say, and or two decades, and now you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, right?
- 30:04Philip Pape: I'm sure you get the question like, my body doesn't work like it used to, my hormones are different, my recovery's not there, my joints hurt, and you know, whatever system you've put in place doesn't work either.
- 30:16Philip Pape: And and I I say that with a caveat, because if they work with you, you already helped them put in a resilient system, right?
- 30:21Philip Pape: But how does like say the women and the men in their 40s and 50s listening to this handle that?
- 30:28Cori Lefkowith: Well, I'm of the suck it up buttercup mindset.
- 30:31Cori Lefkowith: And I say this not from the no pain, no gain, push-through pain type attitude, but more the give yourself agency to control what you can control.
- 30:39Cori Lefkowith: And I bring this up because guess what?
- 30:41Cori Lefkowith: As we get older, our body does change.
- 30:44Cori Lefkowith: We don't have the optimal hormone levels we once did.
- 30:47Cori Lefkowith: We aren't as efficient at a lot of processes, that's aging.
- 30:51Cori Lefkowith: But we also have to own that a lot of the things we did before that, when we thought we were a superhero and could just push through the pain and, you know, diet and eat whatever we wanted, created a lot of the situation we're in right now.
- 31:03Cori Lefkowith: And so if we created a lot of it, we can also reverse a lot of it.
- 31:06Cori Lefkowith: So life is constant evolution.
- 31:08Cori Lefkowith: And the more we own that and give ourselves back the power of choice and give ourselves the ability to really assess what we need now to move forward, the better off we're gonna be.
- 31:16Cori Lefkowith: So as we enter, you know, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, I have a client who just at 79, going into her 80th year, has seen amazing recon, built muscle.
- 31:25Cori Lefkowith: And it was because she decided, hey, I'm gonna train in a way that fits what I need right now.
- 31:29Cori Lefkowith: And when we truly own what we need right now and don't think about a number of years that we've been on this planet, but more, hey, do my joints feel achy?
- 31:38Cori Lefkowith: How am I fueling?
- 31:39Cori Lefkowith: What's going on with my lifestyle?
- 31:40Cori Lefkowith: Then we can start to assess and adjust because there's so much from how we fuel and even our hydration, because we don't recognize how much our hydration has an impact on our joint health, but even to our training that can really help us move forward better, but it means optimizing for our body now.
- 31:57Philip Pape: When you think of some of the most persistent myths that people come to you with in that category of age-related body change, because I I do like the idea of like, let's not use excuses, let's have this stoic attitude toward things, like control what you can control.
- 32:12Philip Pape: What are like the top two strategies in general for dealing with those kinds of challenges?
- 32:18Philip Pape: So let's pick one.
- 32:19Philip Pape: Let's pick perimenopause and weight loss resistance.
- 32:23Cori Lefkowith: So perimenopause and the hormone shifts, it does change how you need to fuel and train.
- 32:27Cori Lefkowith: And you're gonna see a lot more variability that you have to address.
- 32:30Cori Lefkowith: But again, and I don't say like the agency, the choice as like a push through pain or just willpower your way into it because you can't.
- 32:37Cori Lefkowith: But it's more taking ownership of what you're actually seeing going on and recognizing you always have a choice.
- 32:42Cori Lefkowith: And like part of that choice is the perspective you have on what you're dealing with, right?
- 32:46Cori Lefkowith: You can see those hormone changes as you're doomed.
- 32:49Cori Lefkowith: This is just too hard, you can't handle it.
- 32:51Cori Lefkowith: Or you can choose to see the hormone changes as okay, my body is telling me these signals.
- 32:55Cori Lefkowith: How can I address them to feel most fabulous?
- 32:57Cori Lefkowith: Because if I control what I can control, it is the cycle of if you start to adjust your nutrition, you see changes in some of that hormone balance, which then impacts your sleep positively, which then allows you to make more changes, right?
- 33:07Cori Lefkowith: So it's you can get caught in that cycle.
- 33:10Cori Lefkowith: But I would tell them, like, hey, you need to really look at what changes you're seeing.
- 33:14Cori Lefkowith: Has your sleep shifted?
- 33:15Cori Lefkowith: Are you seeing more inflammation?
- 33:17Cori Lefkowith: Are you not recovering as fast?
- 33:18Cori Lefkowith: Do your joints hurt?
- 33:19Cori Lefkowith: Are you having night sweats?
- 33:21Cori Lefkowith: Like, what's going on for you?
- 33:22Cori Lefkowith: And then from there, we start to look at, well, what's the smallest change we can make that addresses the most of these things?
- 33:29Cori Lefkowith: And really, that all starts with tracking what you're currently doing because we don't recognize how much our food is not only contributing to making some of the symptoms worse, but we're not optimizing our nutrition to make some of the symptoms better.
- 33:40Cori Lefkowith: And then from there, we go into the diet and workouts.
- 33:44Cori Lefkowith: With perimenopause, we see a rise in stress, so to speak, on your body.
- 33:48Cori Lefkowith: And so because your body is more stressed and your mind might even feel more stressed, especially with other lifestyle things, you can't add more stressors on top of that, no matter how positive the stressors technically are, because working out is a stressor.
- 34:01Cori Lefkowith: Trying to adjust your diet is gonna take some mental strain.
- 34:05Cori Lefkowith: So you need to really assess those things and recognize that if you're in extreme calorie deficit, that is a stress on your body.
- 34:11Cori Lefkowith: So, how can you reduce the stress through how you're fueling and training to match what you need?
- 34:16Philip Pape: I love it.
- 34:17Philip Pape: So there's a reframe, there's the tracking to see what your biggest ROI levers are gonna be.
- 34:22Philip Pape: And then, of course, you want to fuel and train to be successful.
- 34:25Philip Pape: And look, anybody who says, Well, I'm not lifting weights, and you suggest it to them and they still say they're not lifting weights, I'm sorry.
- 34:30Philip Pape: You got to start lifting too as part of this process at some point, right?
- 34:34Cori Lefkowith: Yeah, but even that, like it's not even okay, well, why don't you want to lift?
- 34:38Philip Pape: Yeah, of course.
- 34:39Cori Lefkowith: And then how can we do strength work that maybe meets you where you are right now?
- 34:42Cori Lefkowith: Can that be bodyweight training?
- 34:43Cori Lefkowith: Can it be bands?
- 34:44Cori Lefkowith: Like, where is your resistance to this?
- 34:45Cori Lefkowith: So I want you to go research all the reasons why someone might promote this.
- 34:49Cori Lefkowith: And then I want you to give all the arguments you have against doing it and then really research why they're valid or why they're not valid.
- 34:55Cori Lefkowith: And then I want you to assess how they might be a mismatch for what you need right now.
- 35:00Cori Lefkowith: And through that, we then get to the point of okay, so what are you willing to do?
- 35:04Cori Lefkowith: And what are you willing to say is worth it for that goal, even?
- 35:08Philip Pape: If you could only track calories or macros, what would you track?
- 35:12Cori Lefkowith: Macros.
- 35:13Philip Pape: What's a food rule that you used to follow that you now think is nonsense?
- 35:17Cori Lefkowith: Carbs are bad.
- 35:18Philip Pape: What's the hardest habit for your clients to build?
- 35:20Cori Lefkowith: That's a good one.
- 35:21Cori Lefkowith: You know what?
- 35:22Cori Lefkowith: And maybe this is personal bias too, but drinking enough water.
- 35:26Philip Pape: Okay.
- 35:26Cori Lefkowith: I would say that's the hardest habit because it's so simple seeming, but it's so important.
- 35:31Cori Lefkowith: And when we think we're getting enough, we're not getting enough.
- 35:33Cori Lefkowith: The second one I was gonna go with is protein, and increasing protein is often hard.
- 35:37Philip Pape: Yeah, it's interesting because walking comes on the list for me too.
- 35:41Philip Pape: But hydration is a good one.
- 35:42Cori Lefkowith: They're almost the things we take for granted.
- 35:44Philip Pape: If you if you're listening to this, it's a thing that you're not doing.
- 35:46Philip Pape: All right.
- 35:47Philip Pape: So when we think of tracking apps, how long before someone should maybe try not using an app?
- 35:54Philip Pape: And I'm talking about apps specifically, not necessarily tracking in general, but most of the time people are using apps.
- 35:59Cori Lefkowith: I say, why go in with the mentality that you're ever gonna stop using it?
- 36:03Philip Pape: Okay, good one, good one.
- 36:04Philip Pape: And then um, let's say you are coaching yourself when you were 25.
- 36:08Cori Lefkowith: Do less.
- 36:09Philip Pape: Can you elaborate?
- 36:10Cori Lefkowith: Yeah, so I would say do less because I decided that I was gonna try and out extra my diet and I ended up injured.
- 36:16Cori Lefkowith: I would also say train intentionally off of that because I would push through and not be paying attention to what I felt working, which led to a lot of injuries and my now love of prehab.
- 36:25Cori Lefkowith: So often we waste a lot of effort trying to outwork time and it's just not gonna happen.
- 36:30Cori Lefkowith: And that's also what leaves us really frustrated, feeling like the effort hasn't been worth the outcome we get.
- 36:35Cori Lefkowith: But if we do less, we're gonna create more sustainability and consistency long term, and we're probably actually gonna see results faster.
- 36:42Philip Pape: All right.
- 36:42Philip Pape: So to wrap it up, I often ask this question is there anything you wished I had asked?
- 36:46Philip Pape: And what is your answer?
- 36:48Cori Lefkowith: I would just add, with all of that we've talked about today, there is no right time to start.
- 36:54Cori Lefkowith: And when it feels really wrong to start, that's actually the right time because so often we do only try and make changes when we've deemed it the right time or the perfect time.
- 37:03Cori Lefkowith: And that's why we keep making changes and habit changes that don't stick.
- 37:06Cori Lefkowith: So I would say if now feels like the wrong time, if everything in your life is just fighting against you wanting to make changes, make one small change because if you can do minimums at the worst of times, you're gonna be able to do so much more when times are really good.
- 37:19Cori Lefkowith: And that's how we sort of level up so that we see progress over the weeks, the months, the years.
- 37:24Cori Lefkowith: It's not the best times and optimizing them.
- 37:26Cori Lefkowith: It's the 1% improvements at the worst of worst times.
- 37:30Philip Pape: There's no right time to start.
- 37:31Philip Pape: That's so good.
- 37:32Philip Pape: What's the biggest excuse when is it people say they don't have enough time or this thing has come up, or like what's the biggest one they use to say it's not the right time?
- 37:41Cori Lefkowith: Oh, there's so many specific ones, but let's let's face it, it's always life.
- 37:45Cori Lefkowith: Life is always our excuse, but life is always going to be there, right?
- 37:49Philip Pape: All right.
- 37:49Philip Pape: So this is good stuff.
- 37:50Philip Pape: A lot of psychology in here, a lot of counterintuitive things that people may not have heard about why tracking could be so powerful in anything in your life.
- 37:57Philip Pape: Anything, guys, not just food, not just training, but everything, finances, everything else in your life, tracking be helpful.
- 38:02Philip Pape: Where can people look you up, Corey?
- 38:03Philip Pape: Where can they connect with you?
- 38:04Philip Pape: And we'll throw those in the show notes.
- 38:06Cori Lefkowith: I am Redefining Strength on every platform and redefiningstrength.com.
- 38:10Cori Lefkowith: So you can find me on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, all that jazz.
- 38:13Philip Pape: And you guys can check Corey out.
- 38:15Philip Pape: She's awesome.
- 38:16Philip Pape: And you know, it's been a pleasure talking to you today on Wits and Weights.
- 38:20Philip Pape: Well, thanks for having me.