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Reclaiming Your Feminine Power: The Transformative Art of Pussyology with Sierra Sullivan · Libido Lounge

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  Welcome to the libido lounge where we focus on all things love, lust, and libido.
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  We believe that fabulous sex is important to health as exercise and good food.
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  Alright, everybody.
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  Welcome back to another episode of the libido lounge.
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  I'm your host, doctor Diane, and I am so excited for this conversation today.
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  This is a very dear friend and couple's relationship and physiology expert.
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  We're gonna talk about what that means today.
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  So Sierra Sullivan has such a rich background.
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  We're gonna get into that.
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  But first of all, welcome.
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  So happy to be here with you, Sierra.
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  Oh, thank you for having me.
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  I'm super excited for our call or our connect today,
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  our chat, or whatever we're gonna do.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  Well, let's dive right in.
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  So I already said this word, this word pussy, that I know some people are still a lot of
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  people actually are still having a lot of negative reaction around this word.
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  So when we talk about the science of physiology, and we're gonna get into what this
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  means and how it's connected to healing from genital shame and helping us love our body and
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  helping us have fuller expression as women in this world.
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  But let's break that down.
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  I think it start with some of the shame behind this word.
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  And I just wanted to open this up before we get into, like, the depths of what this is and why
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  it's so helpful for healing from shame and genital image.
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  So can you kinda break down the word pussy and how you started a different relationship with
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  that word?
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  That's a great question.
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  And, yes, that word still absolutely hits people in a spot that can be super
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  uncomfortable, especially if you're not in circles where it's being used a lot.
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  Like, I have had the pleasure and the and the yeah.
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  It's been it it hit me weird the first time too several however many years ago, and I feel it's
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  because it's been used as a slang.
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  It's been used as a slur.
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  It's been used in porn.
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  So until we re reclaimed it fully, and I have to give credit where credit's due in many ways.
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  There is a book by the name of Pussy, a reclamation written by Legit.
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  Right?
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  Regina Thomas Schauer.
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  She put pussy, that word back on the map.
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  It happened to coincide at the same time that the pussy hat the pussy hat women's march was
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  marching on Washington.
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  The same time a former president who was running at the time got in sort of trouble for
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  using the word pussy.
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  So it all coalesced.
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  So it felt like to me that word had a heyday in media in a way that we've never seen before,
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  and that allowed people to have righteousness around it, have reclamation around it, and
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  really have a shift around that word.
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  And it started to get through spam filters and be used more because it was news.
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  It was newsworthy between the book and then that news segment and everything else.
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  So whether you like the word or not, being able to feel and notice what's going on in your body
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  when that word is said gives a litmus task for where you might have some work to do or some
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  opening to do around how you might feel even about your own pussy.
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  That's so helpful.
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  I think you're giving me chills.
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  I did not realize the the timing of all of those things coming together was like, that
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  feels just so divine, right, of this this reclamation, really, as the book title says.
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  Yep.
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  So is that like, can you tell us then about how this work, this work around the art of
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  pysiology?
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  Like, how was that born?
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  Can you let our listeners know?
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  I think, like, let's start with what is it.
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  And then just for everybody that is listening, as we talk through some of this, you know, make
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  sure you hang on because we're going somewhere here.
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  We're gonna talk about how this amazing art form that at Sierra does and offers to the
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  world is something that can actually help really help heal from things like shame.
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  And it's amazing how much shame I find that we have lodged in our system, hijacking our
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  amygdala, keeping us out of our pleasure centers, and this is one amazing way into
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  healing from that shame.
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  So just stay with me as we're getting to kind of the background here.
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  And can you can you walk us through some of the background of of the sciences, art, and how it
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  was born?
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  Yeah.
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  It has more of a mystical than a scientific, but it was born out of, me okay.
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  So I'll I'll do my best to do the cliff notes because it is quite a story.
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  And Okay.
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  A story worth telling, but for the time we have today, I'm gonna do my best to guide the the
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  significant points.
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  In 02/2016, I had been up in three years or so three or four years leading up to 02/2016, been
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  running a massive event called fun, fabulous, and feminine for women to reconnect with our
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  pleasure and our power and our femininity and our magic and really leaning into that side of
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  our essence to create from, especially in our businesses versus the masculine side that is so
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  good at structures and getting things done.
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  So that was my body of work for many, many years.
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  But what I found was that the very thing that I was teaching, there was a maybe 20%
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  incongruence for me in the model I was using to get that message out and get those teachings
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  out.
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  And it was you know, when the universe sends you signs and sends you signs, and if you don't
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  listen, you know, you we hear off now.
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  You get hit in the head with a two by four.
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  Right?
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  It's like I wasn't really listening.
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  I was so char I was in this, like, I'm gonna charge ahead and make this thing work.
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  Well, the universe sent me multiple signs, like, really, like, a lot of signs.
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  And I was so in my masculine at the time that I I I could see the signs.
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  I was acknowledging the signs, but I was not listening or taking action on the signs.
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  So long and the short of it is in February 2016, I had a big I had my big event, and it
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  was a big flop because all of these things converge to show me that I was off my path
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  truly.
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  So I blew up my business.
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  I blew up that brand.
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  I said I'm not going to do that.
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  And then I decided to become a nobody and a nothing for a while.
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  Like, not try to be build a personality brand, not try to be somebody in the world, not try to
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  be in the spotlight, but to actually listen to my inner knowing.
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  While that inner knowing is really what I like to refer to is our you know, it's like our
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  pussy knowing.
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  It's our feminine knowing.
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  It's the the guiding force when you're really tapped into feminine intuition.
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  You can't leave pussy out, but we'll come back to that.
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  So I didn't realize that I was following my pussy truly at the time, but I took, like, four
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  months to just become nobody and see what would happen.
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  Like, if I was like, could I do an experiment and be be me more without trying to be me as a
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  thing in the world?
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  And could I then let that be something that could serve and and support me?
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  It was definitely a grand experiment.
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  But I got quiet enough and and I was still enough and listening enough because I took away
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  all that static and all that noise of trying to build and grow and and market and all the
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  things so that pussy could really show me.
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  And the long and the short of the story is, many magical things started to show up for me
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  that started pointing me towards what is now physiology, what I would now consider
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  physiology.
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  Took me a while to figure out what was being shown to me ultimately.
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  But one night in October no.
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  September of twenty sixteen, so four months later, for how many months that is, I was shown
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  very clearly this, ritual that is become the physiology ritual.
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  And I was given literally a download from spirit from an amalgamation of things that if I
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  if a woman's not feeling great about her pussy, I would take her through this ritual.
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  I would sit her down.
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  I would sit in front of her pussy.
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  I would share what I saw, and then and that's what happened.
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  This one night, I had this guidance, and I did this with this woman, and it became very clear
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  that what was happening was transforming her shame.
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  She had physical scar tissue that I'd never seen before.
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  I'd not even seen a lot of pussies up until then up close and personal.
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  It was just one of the I mean, I'd taken a couple of Regina's courses, and I was on the
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  path.
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  But that ritual, that magic that kinda showed up and led me to do that with that woman really
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  helped me see that if you simply give that part of a woman's anatomy attention with love and
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  adoration and no need to touch anything, give pleasure, take pleasure, nothing.
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  Like, just complete neutral, loving, holding space much like we give to each other when
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  we're in women's circles.
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  Right?
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  There's something magic about what happens when you're in a women's circle just by getting
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  witness and held and supported.
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  Right?
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  Not trying to fix or do anything.
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  Same thing.
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  Pussy is very much the same.
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  And I was shown very clearly there is a story that your pussy has to offer.
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  So that was the beginning of that journey.
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  And then I was like, that the way that that transformed that woman so much in a heartbeat.
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  Like, it was like instantaneous self love that she felt for herself.
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  And she'd been working on her self love and her body image for a long time, long time.
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  So I was like, okay.
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  I'm on to something here.
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  What but what is that something?
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  And and how what do I call it?
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  And how does this help people?
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  And I felt very protective and very, reverent of what had just been shown to me.
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  But without going into too much detail for the sake of, you know, this this space today, what
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  I found ultimately was that by looking at pussy with loving eyes, there is a divine design,
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  unique divine design that each of us has between our legs that absolutely gives
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  messages, codes, symbols, archetypes, and a storyline if you sit and look long enough.
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  It's kind of in a way like tea leaf reading where you can decipher things and pull on
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  intuition and see images that or looking at clouds almost.
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  Right?
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  But what's unique is that these images and messages and archetypes and codes and things
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  that come through always relate back to that woman's story.
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  There's things that there's symbols that have been meaningful to her her whole life that all
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  of a sudden, I'll say, your pussy's showing me this.
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  And she'll be like, oh my gosh.
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  That's been a thing for me my entire life.
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  Or your pussy shows me and I'm like, are you a Taurus by chance?
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  Because I'm getting, you know, kind of like a Taurus bull.
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  Oh, yeah.
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  I'm a Taurus.
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  Right?
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  It doesn't always line up that perfectly, but pussy has been in the dark literally.
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  Vulva flowers.
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  We like to call sacred portal.
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  I like to call it sacred portal, but there's a lot of words.
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  But she, it, they, whatever, has been in the dark.
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  We haven't looked.
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  We're not looking a whole lot as women.
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  For whatever reason, we're shameful.
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  We're squeamish.
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  We it's hard to do without a mirror or a, you know, now a phone.
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  These are very helpful.
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  And can you imagine, you know, it's the it's the OG Stargate.
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  All human life has come through this portal by design, and we're not giving this part of our
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  body a voice, whether it be listening to her, listening to what she has to say, or me because
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  I'm visual, looking to see what she has to say.
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  Yeah.
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  So yeah.
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  I'll pause there.
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  I can feel thank you so much.
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  I can feel I'm getting, like, waves of of chills, and I imagine other people are too
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  because as you describe it, it's so easy for me to, like, connect around this area of the
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  female body that is, like you said, like, for many people never even been looked at or maybe
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  looked at once and for almost everybody only seeing their own unless they're typically with
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  other women.
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  Yeah.
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  And in that scenario, to all of a sudden actually be blessed with, hey.
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  This area actually is connected to this code of who you are and then see it as, wow.
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  That's a that's a message, and that message is beautiful.
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  So that must mean, oh, my pussy is beautiful.
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  Right?
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  And it is really sad.
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  Like, I don't know if I told you a story of this.
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  Like, every once in a while when I'm, like, going back and reviewing female anatomy just
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  for my own work, I get, like, so turned on just by even looking at, like, anatomy pictures
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  online.
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  Like, not even real women, like, anatomy pictures.
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  And I've had times where I get so turned on that I have to go masturbate, like, right then
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  and there.
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  And so I can imagine, right, the the the change that happens for the individual when they can
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  be bestowed this beautiful message.
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  And all of a sudden, there there is this body shame.
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  See see that that shift.
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  I mean, I could see how that could happen instantaneously.
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  So Mhmm.
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  Who is this really like, in people that are listening and, like, wow.
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  This is interesting.
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  Right?
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  Like like, I think there's a lot of people that are probably, like, listening and think this is
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  interesting.
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  Who would you say, like, this art form is for?
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  What I would say is it's for either I mean, it's for anyone really who wants to get to know
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  and have a deeper relationship with that part of themselves, period, or shift the storyline.
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  But it's great for women who are super curious, and it's also really great for women that are
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  pussy positive already on the path because they can take their, their knowledge and their
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  strength around this, and they can add the skill set into their repertoire to then, you
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  know, go deeper or bring it to their you know, if they have a retreat or teachings or circles
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  or whatnot.
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  So it's kind of, you know, I think for every I've got something for everyone.
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  What my our main mission is to eradicate shame, hone, you know, hone our intuition, and empower
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  women around the world to change the conversation that we have from a negative
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  perception to not just a positive one, but one where we can see the magnificence of ultimately
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  mother and mother codes and mother energy and divine feminine and value her because she is so
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  mysterious and magical.
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  So Perfect.
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  Yeah.
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  And I I wanna circle back around too to something else you said about sisterhood and
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  about that witnessing.
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  Right?
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  Because it's something I've noticed in dance classes and central dance classes or pool
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  dancing classes I've taken where you just get witnessed in, like, this rawness of emotional
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  or sensual expression, and there's no right or wrong, and you just get witnessed by other
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  women.
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  And it's crazy how profound that witnessing can be.
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  And and so can you talk a little bit about, like, that and what you know like, noticed in
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  your work?
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  Like, where does the circle of sisterhood come in?
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  How does that play in?
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  What have you noticed as far as healing from a standpoint of shame, of creating more of this
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  this body love and this internal love and safety and all those things?
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  Where does the circle of sisterhood play a role in your work?
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  That is such a great question.
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  And I have found that I mean, I've been a big promo proponent and guide in the realms of
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  women's circles.
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  So in and of itself, it's just a magical tool as I mentioned and you just spoke to as well.
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  The one thing that's really healing is having sisters that are able to look upon you with
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  loving eyes and witness this very private part of your body and have them reflect back what
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  they see.
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  And then if you have a group and each woman gets a reading, for example, or a little mini
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  reading, because there's only, you know, a full reading can you could it could be hours of time
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  because there's so much pussy wants to share with us when we give her the space.
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  And she needs the space.
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  She wants the space.
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  She requires the space.
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  Right?
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  The more you look, the more you learn, the more she reveals, the more right?
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  There's there's a lot to do with spaciousness.
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  But the one thing I've noticed when I've done groups where there's a couple of women in a row
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  that will get a reading, either online or in person, women are besides them beside
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  themselves in the best way when they realize every woman's pussy design is unique, as unique
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  as their face, as unique as their fingerprint.
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  No two pussies are alike.
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  Those they might look a little similar, have a little vibe kinda like, oh, you remind me of my
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  cousin.
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  You remind me of my best friend.
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  Right?
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  But they're unique.
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  They're as unique as your fingerprint, and each one is so beautiful and has its profound
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  stories that it wants to share.
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  So when you have a few of them that happen to be, you know, shown in a row, everybody's lit
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  up.
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  Women are, like, up, up in each other.
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  They're, like, they're feeling so connected, so excited.
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  They're breaking through their barriers, their beliefs, their body shame.
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  I mean, it's it's, like, it's magic.
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  It is truly, like, the fastest thing I've ever seen.
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  And I've like I said, I've been leading women's circles for almost nearly twenty years in some
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  form.
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  And when you're sitting together with women talking about or even talking about, but
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  looking at our portals, it bonds them like no other.
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  Right?
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  There's just no more hierarchy.
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  There's everything is just like, oh, what else?
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  Who else?
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  You know?
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  Show me yours.
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  Show me mine.
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  Show me yours.
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  It just becomes this really powerful connector.
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  Yeah.
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  Oh, I feel it too.
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  I feel it too.
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  And I think I think you said it, like, so well.
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  Right?
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  When we see that each one of us is so unique in these ways, instead of comparing, it's like it
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  helps with that celebrating.
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  Right?
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  It's like, oh, we stopped that comparing.
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  We realized we get to celebrate all of our own uniquenesses and and beauty.
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  So I just love it so much.
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  And so if people are, like, hearing us because I I know sometimes hearing the word pussy
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  alone, like we started this episode with, can already be, like, you know, sometimes for
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  people to hear, now we're talking about the messages in the pussy and looking at each
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  other's or, you know, getting pussy readings from you.
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  And so from that standpoint, if somebody wants to take that initial, like, first step around
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  like, wow.
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  This sounds really interesting, but I'm a little scared and I'm a little timid.
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  What is a way into your your portals?
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  What is a way into your work that is kind of that toe dip to just get people just started
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  and acquainted before, you know, going a little bit further?
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  Mhmm.
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  That's great.
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  And we've created this just for that very woman who feels exactly as you describe.
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  We have a free mini course, which is self guided, and it's called the Love Your Yoni mini
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  course.
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  And that allows you to, take three different modules of education and, exercises that we
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  invite you to participate in.
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  The first one is getting to watch this incredible movie called this eight minute film
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  called the secrets of the universe where that film alone is an alchemical transmission.
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  So if you're anyone that feels squeamish particularly about the or feels judgment about
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  how pussy looks, if you've been conditioned in that way or have had experiences that have had
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  you feel that way, that film alone will have you literally see the divine design of pussy in
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  a completely different way.
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  Like, I don't even have to say anything.
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  That film transmutes things.
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  So you'll get a chance to watch that, and then you'll be guided, along the next two modules
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  to, go out and do some nature yoni safaris, which will make sense when you see the the film
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  and do some journaling and, get connected with your own pussy.
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  I don't wanna give too much away, but it's a perfect place because you don't have to show up
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  you with other women.
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  It just gets delivered to your inbox, and you can take it at your own pace.
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  And then there is a, a Facebook group that you could come and be a part of if you wanna share
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  what you're learning and discover and meet some of the other women along the way.
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  Amazing.
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  And so you guys will have the all of that in the show notes from today.
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  Definitely make sure you read over Sierra's bio too because there's so many things she offers.
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  Like, in addition to the physiology and various types of of women's empowerment work in
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  circles, she She also is a cofounder of Eden World, which is a is work with couples and
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  helping couples have more loving and deeper relationships.
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  I've done some work with her in that program, and it's just absolutely amazing.
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  You get, like, 5,000, you know, bazillion stars and reviews from me.
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  So Oh, okay.
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  Definitely go check that out, you guys too.
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  That is in there as well.
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  And before we wrap up today, do you have any, like, final words of wisdom you wanna leave
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  with us?
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  You know, we live in a time where while women have come so far in so many ways, we still
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  haven't really fully realized our fullest expression.
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  And I believe that that is because that part of our bodies is still not getting its due
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  attention or its due listening.
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  And I and I see where we, the way we treat our planet as a whole, the way we treat our mothers
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  as a whole, the way we devalue, you know, stay at home moms because of the get out there and
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  make money ladies and all of that for better or for worse, for good or for whatever.
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  However, I truly believe that when we develop a right relationship to our bodies for sure as a
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  whole, but inclusive of and very particularly our pussies, and the more women that claim and
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  understand the divinity that is between our legs, the more we will see an outward shift in
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  how the whole of humanity gets treated and treats our planet.
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  It's such a pivotal piece, and I used to think we could be separate from pussy, and that was a
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  thing.
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  It was more about all the whole body and the whole thing.
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  I'm like, but we gotta have her you can I've met a lot of women who are empowered in their
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  body, but don't have an empowerment around their pussy, and you can see the distinction.
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  So we owe it to ourselves to get in right relationship.
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  And when that happens, the world will change for the better guaranteed.
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  I can see it already happening in small pockets.
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  So I wanna leave everybody with that invitation.
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  Yeah.
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  I couldn't agree more, but a great way of leaving this.
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  And with that, that's a perfect lead in to reminding everybody that this year, we're
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  inviting whoever gets, like, the best the most shares, the most downloads.
• 23:27
  We're inviting them back at the end of the year for a super deep dive on all of the favorite
• 23:32
  topics.
• 23:32
  So make sure you share this episode with your friends and download it and all that because
• 23:37
  we'd really like to have you back here and talk, like, so much deeper.
• 23:40
  I know there's so many different ways we can go with this conversation and and help a lot of
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  people around this mission of of really reclaiming ourselves and really reclaiming our
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  feminine.
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  So thank you
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  so much for being here today.
• 23:53
  Aw.
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  Thanks for having me.
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  Yay.
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  Welcome.
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  And, everybody, we'll see you next time.
• 23:58
  Thank you again for your attention today.
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  It's doctor Diane, your libido doc, reminding you to always stay classy, always stay sexy,
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  and always be a little badass y.
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  We'll
• 24:07
  see you next time.