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7 things to stop doing to finally heal heal your nervous system · Bye Bye Panic

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[SPEAKER_00]: healing is not about finding the right technique.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We feel like if we just find that right technique that right solution, our symptoms will go away for good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But what if healing our symptoms isn't about doing more?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's actually about doing less.
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[SPEAKER_00]: In this video, I'm going to share with you the seven things I guarantee.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you are doing that's keeping you stuck in this cycle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But how do I know this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I did all seven myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did everything and anything to make these chronic symptoms go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I went to doctors, therapists, alternative medicine, even fasting retreats.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did so many things to make this go away that I went 30K into medical debt just trying to solve my symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Turns out, the very things that I was doing was reinforcing my symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So here are the seven simple things to stop doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Number one, stop fearing your symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The number one reason why people stay stuck in the cycle is that they fear their symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They might be dealing with a racing heart.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They might be feeling de-realization where they feel like nothing is real.
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[SPEAKER_00]: their chest feels tight, they're feeling dizzy, and nobody has explained to them what's happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Every time they go to doctors, their therapists, or some sort of medical practitioner, they don't give them an answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so when they don't know what's happening, fear is the natural response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because you don't know why you're experiencing these symptoms, the brain will automatically think worst case scenario.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But until you understand why you're experiencing the symptoms, you're not really sure what's happening and those things won't be effective.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So in order to stop fearing the symptoms, fundamentally what's happened is that your nervous system has gone into protection mode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system has hit a stress threshold, just meaning that your nervous system can only handle so much stress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Once it hits that certain threshold, it begins to respond with symptoms that feel very bizarre.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We call this nervous system sensitization.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This doesn't mean your nervous system is broken.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's doing exactly what it's supposed to, but what's happening is that it is on protection mode, even when it shouldn't be.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason why your tests are coming back clear is because nervous system sensitization isn't a disease.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a big part of learning this is learning the fight or flight response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: how your nervous system adapts to when it feels like it's in threats.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you understand this, every single symptom makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not that a racing heart is an onset of a heart attack, or the dizziness is the onset of you falling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You recognize that this is just the nervous system.
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[SPEAKER_00]: being on fighter flight mode, and the symptoms you're experiencing is just a consequence of that, not a medical thing that's going on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now you might understand at this point that fearing your symptoms keeps the symptoms alive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But how do you fix it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: This leads me to point number two, which is stop trying to fix your symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Fixing your symptoms is still making the symptoms the enemy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It still makes you come with this doing energy that I need to do something to make the symptoms go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're not taking supplements for your health, you're taking supplements to make the symptoms go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're not doing breathing exercises to relax, you are using breathing exercises to shield yourself from feeling the discomfort.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Fixing
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[SPEAKER_00]: If the issue has only to do with your nervous system being stuck on protection mode, will an inherently you're not broken?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What you need to recognize is that the nervous system has just become hypersensitive to stress.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like a car alarm system that's gotten over sensitive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A car alarm system is designed to protect the car from, you know, burglary or vandalism,
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[SPEAKER_00]: causes the car alarm to go off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happens when a leaf just falls?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, then at that point, the car alarm becomes a nuisance.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And not every single time the car alarm goes off means that there's danger.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the answer isn't to just buy a new car.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's to just recalibrate the alarm system.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But when you're trying to always do things to prevent the car alarm system from going off, well, then the car alarm system never gets a chance to recalibrate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What you need to do is retrain it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's show it when is it appropriate and when it's not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But whenever you're going with this fix it energy, like I need to fix it from the outside, your car alarm system, your nervous system never gets that chance to learn.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I do want to say that it doesn't mean that you can't take these supplements or these breathing exercises or do anything that you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can do those things, but you're not doing it to make this symptoms go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're doing it for your own personal lifestyle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're doing it for yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, something interesting that I find is that many people will stop trying to fix this, like fix this externally, but deep down, they're still trying to beat this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the next thing to stop doing is stop fighting your symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Fiting your symptoms and fixing your symptoms are two different things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can technically be not fixing your symptoms but still fighting them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And what I found like helping people around the world is that many people look at healing their nervous system overcoming their symptoms like a battle, what's happening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: is that they are still whitenuckling their symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're still fighting it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Even though they're not trying to fix it, they're still an element of resisting it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to let you know that the resistance makes total sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The symptoms are incredibly uncomfortable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, you feeling like you have a little bit of resistance to the symptom because of the discomfort is totally natural.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the answer here isn't to try to not feel the symptom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Instead of trying to fight this, I want you to try to surrender to this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let the symptoms come.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't resist the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is a practice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to have moments where you're going to want to resist when you notice that resistance consciously, relax into it, let the symptoms come.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and continue living your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a good framework to look at this is not like, hey, I went to the mall and my symptoms weren't there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the win.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not the win.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The win is, hey, I went to the mall and no matter how I felt, I was going to go to the mall.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The symptoms came or it didn't, it didn't matter.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The fact is, I went to the mall, that's the win.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's what happens if the symptom comes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you continue living your life?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you living your life while having a silent battle with this or are you living your life and letting this be their side by side?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Letting it hop off whenever it wants.
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[SPEAKER_00]: See, your nervous system doesn't know what's a real threat or what's not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But when you surrender to the feeling, your nervous system recognizes that nothing bad happens.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That all this firing, all this fighter flight energy, well, it's not really leading anywhere.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sean's fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's healthy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like he's safe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so part of the surrender allows your nervous system to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So so far, we have fearing, we have fixing, we have fighting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the next two I'm about to mention are the ones people overlook the most, and it's one of the most common ways people keep their nervous system stuck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So the next one that you need to stop doing is focusing on your symptom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I want you to understand that focusing makes logical sense, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Think about any problem you have in life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have a problem, well, you focus on it, you focus on what's causing the problem, what's the root cause, and then you resolve it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That makes total sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And in fact, that's a great quality to have.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the mistake that happens is that people use that same energy with anxiety, with their symptoms, with their chronic symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They focus on their symptoms, because they think if I can focus on this, well, I can identify what's causing it, and I can fix this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This can happen by you constantly checking in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is this symptom there?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is that not?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, you make every decision based on how you feel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the way to look at focus is really focus is like a magnifying glass.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like an amplifier.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Whatever you focus on, grows.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, when you focus on a symptom for long enough, you naturally develop a habit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You might even notice you might wake up first thing in the morning and your mind automatically races to is the symptom there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What happened in the symptom?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you might be thinking, what's going on?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, because you've been so focused on the symptom, thinking, hey, if I focus on it, I can fix it, which makes sense, well, you've inadvertently basically,
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[SPEAKER_00]: created a habit around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what I want you to do is to stop focusing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's recognizing first that the habit you've created by focusing on your symptom didn't happen overnight.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All you did was that you focused on the symptom this very moment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Habit just was created as a consequence of you doing that repeatedly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So breaking that focus.
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[SPEAKER_00]: is going to take time as well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to be a new habit learned.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you notice, you are focusing on a symptom or you become focused on it, acknowledge it, recognize it, and just refocus to whatever you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And as you refocus, you're instilling a new habit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to do anything to stop focusing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All you need to do is just refocus and a new habit will form on its own.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All you need to do is refocus in this very moment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I want you to realize that you can stop doing all these things up to this point.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can stop fighting, stop fixing, stop fearing, stop focusing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But at some point in your healing journey, you're going to experience the next thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the next thing is getting frustrated by your symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Frustration just means that what your expectation was and what reality is are two different things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when it comes to nervous system healing, when it comes to overcoming the symptoms, these sensations, healing is not linear.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And because it's not linear, it's a very easy to get frustrated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It feels like you're going three steps forward to steps back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and the mistake people make is that if they are measuring their progress based on their symptoms, they will always be frustrated because they can be doing everything right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But one day, one week, the symptoms come back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now that doesn't mean they're doing something wrong, that's actually how the healing journey should look like.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But what happens is that people bring frustration in there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, I want you to acknowledge something here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And this might sound kind of confronting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Frustration has nothing to do with the anxiety.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It has nothing to do with the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Frustration is added energy that you're bringing in to this journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have a certain expectation of recovery, and reality didn't match your expectation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, there's resistance.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, there's frustration.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But what if I was to tell you that this is how the recovery journey looks like?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And instead of trying to prepare or expect what's going to come next, you just surrender to it and say whatever's happening, it's happening for the best for me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't control the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't control the feeling of frustration.
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[SPEAKER_00]: what you can do is continue to move forward anyway.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let the frustration be there, reset your mindset and just keep moving forward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Keep focusing on long-term freedom.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If there's one thing to understand about the healing journey is that it's going to feel like three steps forward two steps back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why you can't make your symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: the indicator of whether you're succeeding or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The measurement of success is really how you're responding to the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the leading indicator.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When we're helping people on the healing journey, that's what we focus on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We don't do anything about the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We know that if people can get their response styled in, their mindset the right way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Focus on long-term freedom, the symptoms disappear on their own.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, even if you get frustration handled, I guarantee you are doing this next thing, which is, you are forcing the healing journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The most common question I get asked is, hey, Sean, how long will this take?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the answer really just depends, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: It depends on what are you doing on the healing journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you doing this by yourself?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you getting help?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you constantly
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is a journey and that you've tried all these other things these quick fixes and they don't work and at this point you're moving forward with whatever it takes but what I found consistently is that the people that try to rush it the people that try to speed this up the people that try to cut corners they always take the longest there's a lot of motivation energy which isn't long term
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then there's a lot of frustration, because recovery will never feel as fast as you want it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Imagine you broke your leg.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, you're on a cast and you're sitting at home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, you can take the casting, yell at your leg and check it and tweak it and do whatever your leg is gonna take as long as it needs.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your job is actually in many ways to step out of its way and just focus on yourself and focus on living your life and just focus on letting it rest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: your nervous system is the same way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system doesn't work on your timeline.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system works on its timeline.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Your job is to jump on your nervous system's timeline and adjust to it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Many people pause their life, get this fixed, and then go back to living.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But here's the truth.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't work that way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They never end up going back living because that's not how this works.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They let this healing process happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: while they continue to live their life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can do all the things you're doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can live a full life while the healing happens side by side.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So enjoy life, live life, don't pause your life and know that no matter what healing is happening in the background.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now the last thing to do is the most important thing of all which is flexing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when I mean flexing, I mean nervous system, healing is more like building a muscle and less about getting over a cold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So many people kind of rew, like, you know, there's symptoms like they would view a cold or like the flu, you know, or even stress, they view it as, okay, I need to sit at home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you have a cold and you notice, you know, the cold is, you know, not, you know, is a little bit more stubborn.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, maybe it's because you haven't been giving yourself enough time to rest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you give yourself time to rest and then the cold disappears.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But with nervous system recovery.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you need to feel the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's part of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the part people get really confused by because you need to feel the symptoms in order to show the nervous system that it's on this false protection mode.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now this doesn't mean go all at once and jump right in, you can take it step by step, but it's recognizing that healing is about building resiliency.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's more like going to the gym.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about learning to lift up the £20 dumbbell and maybe you can't lift the £20 dumbbell, maybe you lift the £5.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But once the five pound gets strong enough, then you move up to 10, then you move up to 15.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you're working where you're way up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But most people will treat their nervous system recovery as, hey, I can't pick up the 20 pound dumbbell.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So let me just sit at home rest and then I'll try again.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so a big part of this journey is learning to build your nervous system like a muscle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We call this building resiliency.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so part of overcoming your symptoms isn't just about the nervous system resting, but it's also the nervous system becoming strong enough to handle stressors.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that is a process.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that in itself is a journey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so these are the seven things that keep people stuck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to know which one of these seven things you've been doing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I did all seven.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want you to let me know in the
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[SPEAKER_00]: in the description box, including having guidance and having me and the team, guide you through the process of this healing journey, helping you with the roadmap, helping you with each step in the journey so that you can overcome these symptoms and go back to loving.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for watching, and I'll see you in the next one.