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The Business of Being a Woman: Skills for Home, Office, and Beyond · Closing Sales in Nigeria - Sales For The Nigerian Business Person: The Sales and Marketing Blueprint

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  This month, March of 2028, sorry, I said 2028, this March
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  of twenty 26th, that was the 8th of March.
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  Yeah, 8th of March, 2020, sixth. I think it's 8th of March every
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  single year. That was International Women's
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  Day. And so of course, you know, I
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  made an episode to commemorate that much earlier.
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  Then let's see what else apart from that, you know, I've been
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  invited to speak, you know, a couple of things so that you
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  know, people can get my own opinion from a sales and
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  business development perspective about what we can do to move
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  womenfolk forward. Now, one of such speaking
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  engagements was the Elevate Women's International Conference
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  which held at the Pope John Paul the Second Catholic Centre in
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  Abuja. And of course, the theme was
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  Elevate for our rights, Justice and actions.
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  And the event held yesterday, I think 2 days ago.
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  No, yesterday, yeah. So yesterday, that was Wednesday
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  the 25th of March 2025. S Your boy was one of the guys.
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  When I say your boy, of course you know what I mean.
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  Me, I was one of the people who was up for a panel discussion.
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  Now, unfortunately, I was only asked one question and funny
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  enough, discussing with my wife, I, you know, was one thing I
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  said I wasn't going to say. But The thing is the person who
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  was the moderator of the panel asked me the question.
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  And so this was my response because I was the only man on
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  the panel, you know, at these things, usually it's mostly on
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  all female panels. So I was the only man on the
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  panel. And so the lady after the
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  moderator, after speaking to the other two people, the first lady
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  on the panel was she's in the tech space.
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  So I know in the tech space, the manufacturing space, the
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  manufacture of solar panels and the manufacture solar panels
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  locally. And I thought, man, that is
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  really impressive. Really, really impressive.
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  I didn't know that we have the manufacturing capacity for solar
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  panels in Niger. So it was impressive to see a
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  Nigerian woman LED startup. Should we say startup?
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  No, not startup. Well, there's some startup
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  elements, you know, to our business, which are the
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  manufacture of solar panels and I think they get their raw
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  materials from Ogun State. Is it Ogun State or Oshun State?
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  I can't remember, but one of those States and I thought was
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  really, really impressive. Then another lady in the panel
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  was from the non, the non governmental sector and I can't
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  remember which parts of advocacy that they worked on.
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  So I was the only sales guy didn't put it that way sales guy
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  on the panel. So after the panelists asked the
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  first speaker and the last speaker their own questions,
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  they now you know because they put me in the middle of both
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  women and of course that usual joke of blessed is here amongst
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  women. So anyway they put me in the
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  midst of both women. They asked question, one person
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  answered then jaunt and they asked question 3.
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  The other person answered because they wanted me to answer
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  last. And then the lady said, it is
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  good that I am here because when these sorts of events happen,
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  they don't usually have menfolk. So it is nice that there's
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  menfolk in the audience. And then the lady asked me A2
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  power question number one, what are women doing wrong?
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  It would be nice to hear from the menfolk.
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  And then #2 she asked that how can women get get, I can't
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  remember, get respect, you know, when they're in the room or, or
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  something like that. So, so excuse me recovering from
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  me from the sore throat. Now, of course, you know that in
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  Niger, these situations can get very dicey when you have a
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  symposium, you know, and it's about families, agenda, women's
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  rights, you know, that kind of thing.
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  And then there happens to be a member of the enemy in their
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  midst, a member of the patriarchy.
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  Then you ask them these kinds of questions.
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  So is it nice issue, but is what I did to take the edge off.
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  First of all, I leaned into the fact when I grabbed the
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  microphone, I told him, OK, you know what?
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  Granted I'm on this stage, I'm the enemy.
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  Granted, I'm a member of the patriarchy, granted, but I told
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  him that look, as I'm here on this stage now normally I for no
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  one talk. But The thing is you guys ask me
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  this question. So this is how we're going to
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  take it. Just assume that as I'm on this
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  stage, just assume that I am your son and I am your brother,
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  all of you here. You are my mommies, you are my
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  aunties, you are my sisters. So as I'm on this stage now, as
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  I don't climb this stage now, so now would they view me Now,
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  brother, be that, now, son, be that.
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  That's, I suppose, view me. That's why I told them and I
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  reminded her that normally on a family level, sometimes you
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  know, your son will Miss Yan. All right, your younger brother
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  Gumisian is only a normal something.
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  But now, so family they be, you know, your brother will try and
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  say something. You know, you Misian and Una, go
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  quarrel. We're in the midst of that.
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  The truth will come out. So that's how I told them.
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  I leaned in. I said, look, I'm the enemy.
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  But today, just take me as your son.
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  Take me as your brother. They laugh.
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  I said, OK, no problem. We're making progress.
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  So. And I told them that, look, one
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  problem that our sisters are making at these events is
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  whenever people come right, it becomes a complaining 1st and
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  they complain. And I admitted women have reason
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  to complain because the injustices that have been levied
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  against women in the past are still continuing today.
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  And given the trajectory, it'd be like, say the thing was to
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  continue for tomorrow and beyond.
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  So they have legitimate reasons to be angry.
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  Every woman get legitimate reason to be angry.
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  But so one mistake is that when we come for these events, we sit
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  down, we complain, but then we don't make any resolutions about
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  how we're going to move forward, about how we're going to fix
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  this problem. And I told them that one mistake
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  that they don't make is that resource people day from other
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  fields like me that can show up by these kind of things to say
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  this is the way forward. We want to advance this agenda.
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  OK, no problem. We're going to need selling
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  skills. We're going to need negotiation
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  skills. We're going to need what else,
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  You know, alliance building skills, stakeholder management
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  skills, you know, all kind of skills, conflict resolution
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  skills, let you name. But when people host these
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  events, when I recall resource people to come and talk on these
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  sorts of things, so people show up and the focus is aluta
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  continua, Victoria assata. And I said no problem.
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  We suppose they shout, we suppose they sing for whatever
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  back whatever. Aluta continua down with the
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  patriarchy, yes, we suppose they sing.
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  But The thing is, you also call resource people so that it's not
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  just a matter of when we get on stage, we do, we go to complain
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  and then there's no way forward. And then I said that, look,
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  because time don't pass because the first speaker spoke for
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  maybe 20 minutes. The second speaker spoke for
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  maybe 10 minutes. So if two people already don't
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  carry like 20-30 minutes, you know, you know, how much time
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  will I have? So I said look, because time
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  don't go. The only thing I would say is
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  every woman with dad is audience not supposed to get side hustle,
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  not supposed to get business. Not just because of the
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  independence and the money. We will enter your pocket.
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  You understand, all right. And not just because of the, you
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  know, there's a way that when you earn your own money, you
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  just, it's where you go, you know, you go raise, you go carry
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  shoulder and nobody can tell you nothing.
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  Like for those of you who listen to the podcast, you remember
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  that my sister-in-law was one time she was dating one guy.
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  You know, I wasn't too happy about, you know, some stuff.
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  But you know, that's how love is now.
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  But then, yeah, happened. And then, you know, they broke
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  up and everything. And the guy was acting funny.
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  And, you know, that whole thing of, oh, I paid for this, I paid
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  for this. And so that's how the thing now
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  became. So after the whole thing settled
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  now I noticed that any small thing my sister-in-law would say
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  I pay my own bills. As you say we have full chest
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  and I was like yes correct. Finally she gets it.
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  I pay my own bills. If I'm paying my own bills, you
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  can't come and tell me nothing. You can't come and tell me
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  nothing. When you met me I was not
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  suffering. If you leave me I will not
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  suffer. You can't come and tell me
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  nothing, I'll pay my own bills. I said yes, we're done.
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  So that's the reason why my own opinion everyone must suppose
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  get our own business. So then you wish we you will
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  stand on your own 2 legs. I say I pay my own bills.
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  What's come to worst you go value yourself, you go rate
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  yourself, you understand. So that's one of the reasons.
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  But then I also said that another reason why every single
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  woman should have our own business.
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  It's not just because, excuse me, the confidence we will get
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  to say I pay my own bills, but it's also because you will learn
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  some kind skills that will help you in other endeavors.
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  So like my sister-in-law now you know, these are baking business
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  and these are tutoring business and you know, everything you go
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  learn some skills that will come in handy in the family.
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  It will come in handy in politics, will come in handy.
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  If my sister-in-law decides she should go into ministry, she
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  won't become, you know, Pastor Apostle, you will come in handy.
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  You understand, selling, negotiating, building alliances,
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  relationship building, building rapport, effective proposals,
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  effective presentations, conflict resolution.
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  Sorry, another call was coming in, but you understand, you
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  hope, you feel me. I hope you see where I'm coming
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  from. So by virtue of the fact that
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  any woman went inside the business space and would learn
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  one or two teachable skills, your life would better for real.
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  Your life will be better any which way.
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  Even if the business crash, just because you take that step
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  forward, you understand you're moving to the unknown uncharted
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  terrain. You understand you go learn one
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  or two things. Your life go better because you
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  don't learn some transferable skills that will follow you
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  every single day of your life. I don't know the reasons why I
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  think everyone should do this because see, especially for it's
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  unfortunate, but the women like my own Momsey.
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  You know, life starts off nice, but unfortunately things happen
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  and Momsey was left with five kids.
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  I was the first of five, actually.
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  Biological, true. Then the first of two, but the
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  one with my Mama, you know, You know this part of the world.
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  Now you adopt some kids. So shall we have 5 now when you
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  have 5 kids looking up to you, you can't be a Princess no more.
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  You understand you also life gets hard, you graft, you grind.
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  So how did I ever enter these talks off?
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  Sorry, forgive me when I talk about these things.
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  You know my my brain just goes in a million places.
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  But Sharon, I'm just trying to say we need learn some skills
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  that will come in handy. You know your areas of life.
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  And that's why I think every woman should have a business or
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  a young woman should start a business at some point, whether
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  the thing succeeds or whether the thing fails.
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  So from there, that's just how I ended that part.
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  And you know, I didn't mention the part about, you know, mumsy
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  and then the five of us and that's how they gave me small
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  clap and I was happy because I told my wife that look, if I go
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  for this thing and I talk my mind that don't go beat me for
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  that hole. Severe brushing.
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  My wife was laughing and I said look so because of that when I
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  go for this event, the team we do for my chest.
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  I know we'll talk him. I'll just keep quiet.
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  If they give me a question I'll just answer and nothing more.
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  So what like I told them is because when I don't open the
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  floor you would ask. I said let me answer honestly,
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  but please, I'm speaking as a song.
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  So if there's any woman, you know, any babe, any auntie, any
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  mom, see any grandma, any whatever, who's listening to
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  this podcast and the teens where the yarn they vex you severe
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  vexing everything. They really, really vex you.
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  I beg just understand that this thing where the yarn I'm coming
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  to you as a son, I'm coming to you as a brother.
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  That's how I'm coming to you because not just me, but also my
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  classmates we plenty. So for me it was, you know,
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  marital discord their mom sees on her own.
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  There's one of my classmates him not call his name, but one of my
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  video guys is only because popsy die, you know, but there are a
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  couple of us men who have had to grow and we have been raised
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  entirely by women. So sometimes people like us, I
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  think when I recall us allies, people like us allies.
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  It's just that, you know, we're men.
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  So you say our patriarchy enemy. No, no talk.
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  Sometimes we allies. You know, we're coming from a
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  good place. I have been that boy that a
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  woman has five children. She's trying to raise the same
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  thing. We've this my video guy, The
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  mumsy 2. OK, No, these are mumsy 7 kids.
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  The boys 2. Then the babes 5.
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  We have been those kids. Sometimes when we talk with a
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  bold voice like this, I say my sisters now.
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  So I suppose the wrong one or two things.
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  You know, it's not because we are men trying to mansplain.
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  It's because now on one day we be be king children.
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  We are your children and we're seeing a couple of things that
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  are mommy, maybe we can do better or big sis, I beg, maybe
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  we can do better. Anyway, when I got home, I told
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  my wife my wife was like, oh, OK, perhaps it went well and to
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  marvid. OK.
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  Maybe the reason why they don't beat me is because lots of
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  people in the audience were, you know, mature women because the
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  conference was attended mostly by if I had the table that I sat
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  down. Once I sat down there, the woman
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  started talking about her grandchildren.
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  And you know, I like to put my wife on cruise.
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  So I told my wife that look, she better be here.
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  Who now I'm going to a woman seminar like babes go die
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  everywhere, everywhere that will take my peek without tall, short
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  big sling, you know, yellow black that will take my peek.
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  So I like to put my iPhone blast like that makes you know to
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  relax. So as I entered the venue now
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  and I sat down, Luma started talking about her grandchildren.
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  So now I text my wife. I say babe, while I do the only
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  grandma did this place. So no single and correct babe.
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  Everybody did married woman or grandma.
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  So anyway, I was saying, OK, maybe it's because it wasn't
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  much audience. That's why they didn't beat me.
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  So the next time I'm invited to go to this sort of thing, if I
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  gauge the audience and I see that all of them are young,
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  young babes, you know, 203040, I'll keep my mouth shut because
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  I know that if I say what I said again, in that kind of setting,
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  2030 year old, I know how to go beat me again, scratch my eye,
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  come out. So anyway, there were a couple
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  of things I wanted to talk about.
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  Couldn't talk about that because I ran out of time.
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  But I'm making today's episode just to let you know that I was
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  at a women's international conference and I happened to
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  answer one question. Even though I happened, I wanted
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  to talk about a couple of other issues.
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  But please, any woman listening to this thing, please just hear
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  me as your brother and hear me as your son, OK?
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  If there's anything I say that grate your mind, I beg.
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  I'm not trying to mansplain. Please, I'm not trying to
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  mansplain. I was asked and so I answered.
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  Well, of course, always aluta continue Victoria SATA.
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  Because whether it is marriage breakup or whether it is rape or
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  whether it is war or whether it is spousal abuse or whether it
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  is, I mean, whatever it is that is going on, I understand, you
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  know, the woman bears an an unfair part of the brunt, you
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  know, the woman and usually the children.
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  So Victoria aluta continua, Victoria SATA, you know, we're
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  here for you. I guess what I'm just trying to
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  say is I'm just trying to beg that are some of these events we
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  will throw, you know, yes, we are the enemy.
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  You write some of us. Sometimes we have one or three
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  important things you say. But just in case anybody miss
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  young, just remember this person is talking as a son.
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  This person is talking as a brother.
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  That's the reason why you are comfortable to call us ally.
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  And when family members fight, you know what you do is you you
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  treat the air pop accordingly. So if anybody miss Young, you
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  will let them know that look, bro or my son, come sit down.
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  You know now. So you miss Young, you
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  understand. All right.
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  Anyway, so that's just it. In the next podcast episode, I
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  will talk about the issues that I thought we were going to
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  discuss if we had more time. So that's it.
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  And that's all for today. I'll catch you all at the next
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  episode. Oh, by the way, if you want to
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  connect with me, you can call me, send me a text message or a
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  WhatsApp message on 08064662140, just in case you're holding any
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  kind of conference, any kind of seminar, and you would like me
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  to show up and talk to your attendees, talk to your
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  audience, and give my own unique perspective on something,
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  especially from the sales and business development
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  perspective. So that's it and that's all.
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  Thanks for your time and attention.
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  I'll catch you all at some other episode.