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The Minister of Mindfulness - Parts Therapy Hypnosis to be More Mindful · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Adam here, and you're about to listen to a hypnosis session all
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  about mindfulness. I was working with a client that
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  was a very, very high achiever, very high standards, and was
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  meticulous in their planning. They would constantly be
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  thinking about what they needed to do, when they needed to do
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  it, to the extent that even when they were doing the things that
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  they were planning, they were then thinking about the very
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  next thing that they needed to do.
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  And what that meant is that they were always focused on the
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  future and never really feeling present and enjoying the fruits
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  of the labor that they'd worked very hard to achieve.
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  And what this does is it goes back, it uses regression to a
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  time when they were a gymnast to tap into, a time when they did
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  have that ability to feel really mindful and connected to their
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  body and present in the moment. There's various metaphors and
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  analogies used to highlight the futility of constantly focusing
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  on the future and never actually being present.
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  Some of those metaphors might resonate with you, but what's
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  really powerful about this is parts therapy.
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  And it came up because the client used a particular phrase
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  and she was using we to describe her as an individual, which let
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  me knew that there was almost a committee of different
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  subconscious parts working together.
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  And a good therapist has sensory acuity to pay attention to the
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  details that a lot of therapists would miss that we was crucial
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  because that committee of subconscious parts was obsessed
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  with constantly planning, constantly achieving, constantly
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  moving forward and mitigating risk.
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  But it didn't have a part within that committee that was present
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  and enjoying the moment and celebratory.
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  So the parts there are pretty element of that in creates what
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  I call a minister of mindfulness, a responsibility.
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  And the reason I called it a minister is that some people
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  believe these parts are ego States and they are ego driven.
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  They're driven by a desire to be important, responsible,
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  meaningful. So the minister of mindfulness
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  introduced that part. It's got one job and that is in
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  certain situations to be fully mindful, fully present and
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  extract all the value it possibly can from that
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  particular moment. And that working with the other
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  parts in terms of parts integration can be a very
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  powerful shift. And the client reported that
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  they did feel immediately different and they could really
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  resonate with some of the attitudes.
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  For example, a lot of animals, particularly dogs, they're
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  clearly mindful. They are fully in the present
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  and you know they're when they're excited, they're excited
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  when they're eating, they're really enjoying their food.
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  So having a bit more of that golden retriever energy in their
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  life would be very, very useful. It was created for an
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  individual. You might not be this obsessive
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  planner and have checklists in your head all the time, but you
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  still might want to be more mindful.
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  Accept the suggestions relevant to you, disregard the ones that
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  aren't. And if you do like the idea of a
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  customized session, have a look in the show notes, the
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  description, or visit my website adamcox.co.uk and you will be
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  able to schedule a completely free consultation call.
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  We'll have a chat, and it could very well be that we end up
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  working together. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, feel a wonderful feeling of release,
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  just releasing any feelings of tension, stress, or worry as
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  your body breathes out. That's it.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe down, give permission to
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  your unconscious mind to do the breathing because you can make
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  yourself breathe, but you breathe when you sleep, and you
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  don't have to think to breathe. So just think of your diaphragm
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  right there near your belly and just allow it to do the
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  breathing for you. Your diaphragm empties your
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  lungs, fills them up with each breath, getting deeper and
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  deeper, relaxed. That's it.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And I wonder if you're able to think of a time running, perhaps
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  on cycle paths surrounded by trees, or maybe a trail that
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  leads into the forest. I want you to think of a time
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  when you found your rhythm where you didn't have to think of 1
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  foot going in front of the other.
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  It just happened unconsciously all by itself.
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  You can breathe unconsciously, your heart can beat faster
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  unconsciously, and you can run unconsciously.
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  And therefore, it's easy in this moment to allow your unconscious
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  to start recalibrating, to keep everything that's good and just
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  add one additional ingredient so that anxiety is reduced and all
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  of the wonderful emotions are enhanced.
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  I want you to imagine that there are two ways that you could
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  enjoy that run. Imagine that your body is
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  physically running, but your mind is thinking of later that
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  day or the following day, going through checklists In your mind.
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  What haven't you done? What could you do?
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  What needs to be done? Even if most of it is just
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  duplicating thoughts you've already had, There will be
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  smells on that run. Certain flowers.
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  The forest itself has a smell. There would be smells that you
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  missed by being lost in your own mind.
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  There would have been a temperature, perhaps of the
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  sunshine on your skin, perhaps the sensation of a breeze if you
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  noticed. You could even hear your heart
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  beating in your chest, or that pulse on your temple.
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  But all of that is invisible. I want you to get a feeling.
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  Then there are some people that exist in a part of the world
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  where they don't get to see trees with green leaves, with
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  the smells of the forest. And yet on that run, it was
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  available to you. Now we need to think about
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  something delicious that you ate.
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  The purpose of food is not merely to extract the nutrients
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  from what you eat. If that was the case, we would
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  not have taste buds on our tongue and a nose very close to
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  our mouth and eyes that see what we're eating.
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  I want you to get a feeling then.
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  How you experience the world is through your senses.
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  It's possible for someone to have a delicious thing to eat
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  and completely forgot they've ever eaten it.
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  But it's also possible for someone to find joy, pleasure, a
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  sense of wonder from eating something as simple as an
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  orange. 200 years ago, oranges were very rare, and only the
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  very wealthy would create big greenhouses in the gardens of
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  their mansions to create orange trees, to grow orange trees,
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  just for the pleasure of having a few oranges every now and then
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  throughout the year. Just imagine what it would be
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  like to go back in time to one of those orange trees to see an
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  orange. To know that this is rare, that
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  99% of the people around you would never ever experience such
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  a thing. And imagine how counterintuitive
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  it would be to peel that orange and not smell that citrus smell,
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  to bite into an orange and not be aware of the juice or the
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  flavours or the texture. Imagine spending a year to grow
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  an orange, and at the point while you're eating the orange,
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  you're thinking of that other thing that needs to be done
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  tomorrow. If your unconscious agrees that
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  actually it makes no sense to spend all of that time and
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  energy meticulously planning if you never truly enjoy the very
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  thing that you're planning, just let me know by nodding your
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  head. And if that's true for a wealthy
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  aristocrat 200 years ago, it is equally true for you now.
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  And I want you to imagine that you're drifting back in time and
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  watching yourself as a child doing gymnastics.
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  Don't go back into that childlike version of you imagine
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  yourself at your current age seeing that child and knowing
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  that they prepared and trained hard.
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  But imagine them doing a performance, a routine.
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  Maybe you can recall the music they did it to, the moves.
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  And I want you to get a sense of real connection and pride, but
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  most of all curiosity. That young version of you knew
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  intuitively how to get the balance right.
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  They prepared their routine, they trained, they practised,
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  they attended classes. But when it came down to the
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  thing they were preparing for, in that moment, they were
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  mindful, fully present in their body, connected to the feeling
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  of the centre of gravity, the weight on the balls of their
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  feet, the music, everything. And no one taught that younger
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  version of you how to be fully present.
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  You just knew. What's the point in preparing,
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  planning and practising if you're going to be vacant at the
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  very point where you get to the place you were intending to be?
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  I want you to observe the clues of that version of you mindful,
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  see how attentive they are, how connected to their own body they
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  are. I want you to get a sense that
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  mindfulness is not complicated. It's simply being present,
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  accepting whatever happens in the moment, paying attention to
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  whatever your senses are telling you, what you hear, what you
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  see, what you feel. Your senses are the gateway to
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  your experience. I want you to imagine floating
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  into that younger version of you and feeling how it would feel to
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  be mindful like that. Perhaps you can remember that
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  routine, how it started, how the music went, a certain move or a
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  sequence that you did, and just notice how easy it was to be
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  focused, to be aware. Just allow all of those neural
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  pathways that know how to get the balance right to reawaken.
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  And then imagine that routine is finished.
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  And just imagine that feeling of pride, accomplishment.
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  Maybe you can remember yourself smiling.
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  All of it is evidence of being fully connected to the.
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  Now imagine floating back to that current version of you.
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  But take that mindfulness with you, and then imagine there in
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  that forest, it's like a table. Maybe a boardroom table, maybe a
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  round table. And I want you to imagine
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  inviting all the parts that represent we.
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  When you say to yourself, we've got to get on top of this.
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  We can't rest on our laurels. All the people that are included
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  in we, those parts of your subconscious mind, invite them
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  to attend the table. Maybe there's parts that
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  represent discipline, vigilance, preparation, mitigation of risk.
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  Invite them all. Whoever is we, they need to be
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  there. And you might imagine them as
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  people or characters or just energy.
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  But when all the parts responsible for we are there,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  And I want you to start because you're chairing this meeting by
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  thanking them. Thank all the parts and say you
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  would not have accomplished what you have accomplished were it
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  not for their meticulous planning, preparation,
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  vigilance, and dedication. Everything you have
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  accomplished, you can give credit to them.
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  If they accept that appreciation, let me know by
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  nodding your head. But then I want you to warn them
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  that if something doesn't change, you risk everything you
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  have built. I want you to tell them that the
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  one thing missing is appreciating everything that was
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  the planning was for. I want them to get a sense then,
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  unless the things you plan, you're present for when you get
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  there, You risk losing motivation because there isn't
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  sufficient payoff for all of that hard work that you're
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  doing. What's the point in preparing so
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  hard if you never get to enjoy the very thing that you're
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  building? I want you to imagine someone
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  spending years and years and years building a custom built
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  car and they have all of the people needed.
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  Mechanics, engineers, designers, everyone meticulously builds the
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  car and once it's built, they then focus on building the next
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  car. But they never really enjoy the
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  car they've built. I want you to ask all of those
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  parts around that table, if they understand that if you don't
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  taste the fruits of your labour, you will lose the motivation to
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  grow them for the next harvest. And if all parts agree, let me
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  know by nodding your head. And I want you to tell them by
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  introducing one additional part, you get to be even more
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  accomplished, even healthier, because cortisol and adrenaline
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  suppress the immune system. Whereas all of those feel good
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  biochemicals, the oxytocin, the serotonin, the endorphins and
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  even dopamine, well, they improve your health.
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  They enhance your sympathetic nervous system, they make you
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  sleep better, and they charge your batteries faster to take on
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  the next thing. And all that's needed to do all
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  of that is to have one part, one part, which is the minister of
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  mindfulness. Their job, Their job is to pay
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  attention to things in the moment, to be present, to feel
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  accomplished, and to make evaluations as to how well
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  you've done after all of that preparation.
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  And I want you to imagine calling forward whichever part
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  in your subconscious mind would be most useful and appropriate
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  for this responsibility. Someone that seems present, they
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  don't need to be concerned with the planning and the preparation
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  and the mitigation of risk. All the other parts have got
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  that under control. This part, this part pays
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  attention, is fully present, perhaps as the energy of a
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  golden retriever dog, attentive, enthusiastic in the moment.
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  And when this part comes forward, offer them a seat at
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  the table and let me know by nodding your head.
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  And just think of how this part appears, their energy, how they
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  seem, and ask them, are they willing to take this
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  responsibility to enjoy being more in the moment?
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  And if they say yes, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And there is a condition, not for this mindful part, but for
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  all the other parts, that when the minister of Mindfulness is
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  being mindful, all other parts must wait.
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  They are not allowed to plan, worry, mitigate risk while the
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  Minister of Mindfulness is being mindful.
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  When the mindfulness and the moment has passed, then those
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  other parts, well then they get back to doing what they do best.
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  Your unconscious mind will accept the suggestion.
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  The more mindful you are, the more you enjoy what you've
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  accomplished. The more mindful you are, the
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  more your whole nervous system calms down as you realise your
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  own evaluation of your identity wasn't quite right.
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  For years, you thought that you had the identity of an anxious
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  person, and you never did. You have the identity of a
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  prepared person with high standards.
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  Those high standards meant that you didn't want to become
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  complacent. You're not anxious, you are
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  outstanding. And put that to a vote to all of
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  those parts. If they agree to reject the
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  identity of anxiety and embrace the identity of being mindfully
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  outstanding, ask them to raise their hands and if they all
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  agree, let me know by nodding your head and you will notice
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  subtle differences in the next days and weeks that follow.
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  Moments of evaluation of anxiety become preparedness, future
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  planning. But you will allow yourself to
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  hold the same standard of an expert tailor.
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  Measure twice, cut once, not measure 8 times and think of
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  something else while you're cutting.
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  And if all parts agree to this new standard, then don't be
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  surprised if overthinking goes down and present mindful
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  thinking increases without any reduction in your standards.
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  In fact, your standards will increase if all parts agree to
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  this new dynamic. A dynamic where all parts of you
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  work in harmony to accomplish, to experience, but also to
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  enjoy. Let me know by nodding your
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  head. Thank all the parts again for
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  this new dynamic harmonious relationship and see a new level
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  of enthusiasm in all of them. Some of those parts were getting
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  jaded like a greyhound, always chasing the rabbit but never
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  catching it. And now they get to enjoy the
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  journey and the destination and imagine yourself floating all
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  the way back to the present, taking all of these wonderful
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  changes with you. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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