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Why Love Wins 5/7: Because Love Will Carry You When You Can’t Carry Yourself. #FinishStrongFriday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Greetings, beautiful soul, greetings.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Welcome to Finish Strong Friday.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: You did it, you made it.
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: You made it all the way to Friday here with me.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the sweet spot.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: And this is Dr Derek Sweet, your journeyman, your partner, your board-certified psychiatrist, who loves discussing things like Be Love, which is our theme for the entire week.
• 0:32
  Speaker 1: Right, be Love, wow, yeah, so we've been taking on love and we've been getting all these lessons from love, and it's both a weapon and a shield, we learned.
• 0:44
  Speaker 1: We also learned that love is a bit of a quiet gangster.
• 0:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so look, on Monday we learned that even if the ground is shaky, love will steady it just enough for you to move.
• 0:59
  Speaker 1: Wow, how about that, love being the guide through the shakiness?
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: So, even if you have a problem, you have an issue, you have something that can't be solved.
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  Speaker 1: What we have learned is that you can choose love, an incredibly powerful force that will help you face down fear.
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  Speaker 1: It will walk with you through grief.
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  Speaker 1: It will spark you when you're depressed.
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  Speaker 1: It will offer you love when you feel that there is no love.
• 1:42
  Speaker 1: Love is a quiet gangster that fears nothing.
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  Speaker 1: It will help you rise above all those anxieties you're feeling.
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  Speaker 1: It will help you live with a deeper divine understanding.
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  Speaker 1: Remember that scripture we talked about on I think it was Making Moves Monday.
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  Speaker 1: We said let all that you do be done in love.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, my friends.
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  Speaker 1: And that brings us to the end of this week, this walk we've been taking through love.
• 2:22
  Speaker 1: To finish strong Friday how do we pull it all together?
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  Speaker 1: How do we take love with us across the finish line?
• 2:33
  Speaker 1: And, better yet, how will love get us across the finish line?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, take a breath, relax and ask yourself did I say I love you to me today?
• 2:57
  Speaker 1: Did I look in the mirror and say, hey, I love you.
• 3:03
  Speaker 1: Because it starts right there, beautiful soul.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: It starts right there with loving yourself.
• 3:11
  Speaker 1: We learned that.
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: We learned that on Trust Yourself Thursday, yesterday.
• 3:16
  Speaker 1: We learned that it's so important to love ourselves, Absolutely important.
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: Love fuels our inner voice, our intuition, it guides us, it gives us wisdom.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: We say you can't be lonely if you love the one you're with.
• 3:37
  Speaker 1: And today, on Finish Strong Friday, we're bringing it all together.
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: How do we conclude our week?
• 3:45
  Speaker 1: How do we finish our projects?
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  Speaker 1: How do we get to the last line of our challenge?
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  Speaker 1: How do we close out with power?
• 3:55
  Speaker 1: How do we finish strong, not just in terms of achievement, but in terms of grace.
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: Achievement, but in terms of grace, of fulfillment and a heart that remains open and loving.
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  Speaker 1: How do we finish that way?
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  Speaker 1: Because you see, my friend, finishing strong isn't just about crossing the finish line.
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: It's about how you cross it.
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  Speaker 1: Do you stumble, exhausted and depleted, or do you strive through with your head held high, knowing you gave it your all, fueled by love and connected by something, or connected to something larger than yourself?
• 4:41
  Speaker 1: That's the kind of finish we aim for here on Finish Strong Friday.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: We want you to think about those moments when you're close to the end of a long, challenging project and you want to rush through, you want to cut corners or just get it over with.
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  Speaker 1: I know I've been there, just wanted to get it done, but that's not the way love does it.
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  Speaker 1: When you choose love, you finish with the same attention, dedication, integrity that you started with, because when you really love something, think about something you really, really love, you take care of it.
• 5:31
  Speaker 1: You don't just throw it left or throw it right, you don't step on it, you cherish it, you honor it, and that's what we have to do with everything that's in our life that we want to finish.
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: It's always great to start, but you've got to end with the same love.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: You honor the journey, the effort and the people involved.
• 5:54
  Speaker 1: You honor everything, but you always finish with love.
• 5:57
  Speaker 1: You always finish with grace, and this applies to relationships.
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: It applies to everything.
• 6:02
  Speaker 1: Sometimes real talk, things come to an end.
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  Speaker 1: I shared with you this week that I lost my dad in 2020.
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: And that relationship, the physical part of it, came to an end.
• 6:18
  Speaker 1: But even in those endings, even in that ending, I had a choice.
• 6:23
  Speaker 1: Do I finish with bitterness?
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  Speaker 1: But even in those endings, even in that ending, I had a choice.
• 6:26
  Speaker 1: Do I finish with bitterness?
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  Speaker 1: Do I finish with resentment or anger that he's not here?
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  Speaker 1: What do I do?
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  Speaker 1: Eventually, I had to choose love.
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: I had to choose love because that is what helped me finish strong.
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: When we finish strong in love, it allows us to heal.
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  Speaker 1: It gives us the possibility of a new beginning, even if it's not the one we initially envisioned.
• 6:58
  Speaker 1: It gives us a way forward.
• 7:00
  Speaker 1: It takes the obstacle that's in the way and it makes it the way.
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  Speaker 1: That's kind of powerful.
• 7:13
  Speaker 1: That's kind of powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, love has a way of just creating a new way, just creating a new way for us.
• 7:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and Jeffrey Osborne, one of my favorite singers.
• 7:29
  Speaker 1: He did a song with George Benson called On the Wings of Love.
• 7:33
  Speaker 1: I share it because there's a line in it that I like.
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  Speaker 1: It says on the wings of love, up and above the clouds, the only way to fly On the wings of love, it's that feeling of being elevated that love gives you.
• 7:57
  Speaker 1: Even as you're trying to finish something or you're trying to get through something, you're on the wings of love.
• 8:08
  Speaker 1: You have the support and you have a kind of freedom that elevates you above the situation and that, my friend, is a revelation.
• 8:19
  Speaker 1: That's a hidden power of love.
• 8:24
  Speaker 1: To help you finish strong, to help you get through, yeah, to lift you up.
• 8:33
  Speaker 1: Love is what gives you that graceful lift, even when you're in a difficult place and you don't think you can finish.
• 8:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm in a song mood.
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: Sade sings another song, man, that I love.
• 8:52
  Speaker 1: I love this song.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: I think it's Only Love Will Get you Through, and it's a crazy lyrics.
• 8:59
  Speaker 1: It says that in each rugged road you have come down, you had every reason, but you didn't get undone.
• 9:10
  Speaker 1: Somehow you made it to the other side.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't suffer in vain.
• 9:16
  Speaker 1: You forgive those who have trespassed against you.
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  Speaker 1: That's in the song and you know that tenderness comes from pain.
• 9:26
  Speaker 1: It's amazing how you love and love is kind and love can give and love needs no gain.
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: It's only love that gets you through.
• 9:42
  Speaker 1: I want you to go find that song and listen to it.
• 9:45
  Speaker 1: It's deep, it's deep, yeah.
• 9:49
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, we're talking about finishing strong and, yeah, we can pull from anything we want.
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: We can pull from songs, we can pull from literature.
• 9:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, we can pull from sports.
• 9:59
  Speaker 1: How many times in sports, the fourth quarter, the last quarter, has us glued to our seats to see who's going to win this game and how it closes out?
• 10:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the ending is very important and when you end things, you want to end them with love.
• 10:21
  Speaker 1: You want to end them with love.
• 10:24
  Speaker 1: My friend, you don't want to not be a finisher today.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: You don't want to not be a finisher today, and you don't have to feel strong to finish strong.
• 10:34
  Speaker 1: That's another thing.
• 10:35
  Speaker 1: You just have to love enough to keep going.
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: That make sense.
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't finish on fumes, finish on fire.
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: Let love light you up.
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: Find it, and let it light you up.
• 10:57
  Speaker 1: Let it remind you of who you are, who you fight for and what you're carrying, whether you need to do one more rep in the gym or you need to go write the email that you've been putting off.
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: Maybe you need to go to the store and finally buy that thing you want to buy.
• 11:14
  Speaker 1: Maybe you need to clean up your room.
• 11:16
  Speaker 1: Maybe there's somebody you haven't called that you've been putting off.
• 11:20
  Speaker 1: Maybe it's about taking care of yourself in a way, going to the doctor and getting that checkup.
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: What is it that you have to do?
• 11:28
  Speaker 1: What do you have to finish?
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: Let love help you find a way.
• 11:35
  Speaker 1: Love will help you.
• 11:39
  Speaker 1: The work is love made visible.
• 11:43
  Speaker 1: That's what you have to do.
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: That's all you have to do.
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: Love will keep your hands steady when everything around you shakes.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: It will help you show up when quitting feels easy to do.
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: It will remind you that you're built for more.
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: You're more powerful than this and you're bigger than this.
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: And remember, love involves sacrifice.
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  Speaker 1: Anything you love, you're going to have to sacrifice for and we close on that what are you willing to sacrifice for today, my friend?
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: The ancient wisdom puts it this way, and we said it earlier For God so loved the world.
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: What did he do?
• 12:31
  Speaker 1: He was willing to sacrifice, to give up his only son.
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: Sometimes to finish, sometimes to show love, you've got to show the sacrifice.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but that's important for me to tell you, because if you don't know that, the time will come where you will have to sacrifice and you'll say to yourself, well, why am I doing it?
• 13:03
  Speaker 1: Answer should be easy because I love this person, because I love this job, because I love myself, whatever it is, love and sacrifice are together and I want to applaud you because I know you've made many sacrifices to get where you are right now and I acknowledge you for those sacrifices and I thank you for it.
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: Keep doing it, keep going, keep being loved, my friend, all right now.
• 13:49
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to the Sweet Spot Tomorrow.
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: Tomorrow is self-care Saturday, oh my goodness.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: And as Stevie Wonder puts it, sometimes love's in need of love.
• 14:01
  Speaker 1: You ever hear that song Love's in need of love.
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: Today, we're going to dive in.
• 14:05
  Speaker 1: Tomorrow, on self-care Saturday, and we're going to break it up All right now.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: Take care, love and blessings.
• 14:12
  Speaker 1: If you know someone who needs to hear this message on love and finishing strong, don't be afraid to share it with them.
• 14:20
  Speaker 1: Make that your act of love today and I'll see you tomorrow for Self-Care Saturday Don't be late.