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The Made-Up Barriers Holding You Back & How to Finally Start · LIFE Podcast with Dr. C

• 0:05
  DrC: Hey, have you ever had an idea on your heart?
• 0:08
  DrC: A dream that feels so right, so perfect for you, but it stays locked away because of a tiny, nagging voice of doubt.
• 0:18
  DrC: You tell yourself you're not ready, it's not the time, it's not the right time, and most common one of all, who am I to do that?
• 0:26
  DrC: Well, today I'm gonna share the very personal origin story of this podcast.
• 0:30
  DrC: A journey that started with years of insecurity and one powerful moment that finally pushed me to press record.
• 0:36
  DrC: We're gonna explore those made-up barriers we all create and how to find the courage to finally take the next step.
• 0:44
  DrC: The other day I had the immense honor of attending the YWCA of Rochester and Monroe County Annual Luncheon.
• 0:55
  DrC: And the keynote speaker was the one and only MC Lite.
• 0:58
  DrC: Yes, the one and only MC Light.
• 1:01
  DrC: Now, if you know me, you know that I've always said that music saved my life.
• 1:07
  DrC: I have a very special place in my heart for female MCs as well.
• 1:11
  DrC: But what truly struck me wasn't just her presence, it was her story of growth.
• 1:16
  DrC: You see, she said that throughout every part of her career, she invested in her own development.
• 1:22
  DrC: She took classes, acting classes, for two years before she even started acting.
• 1:27
  DrC: And every time she evolved, she researched and she invested in herself and developed the skills she needed to pursue whatever she wanted.
• 1:36
  DrC: And it made me think, how often do we stop at the desire?
• 1:40
  DrC: We say, Oh, I'd love to do that, but we don't take the next step of researching what we need to be successful.
• 1:47
  DrC: It brought me right back to 2019 when I started my doctoral program and learning all about wellness and workplace burnout.
• 1:56
  DrC: The World Health Organization had just classified burnout as an occupational phenomenon.
• 2:01
  DrC: And I was thinking, who knows this stuff?
• 2:04
  DrC: Like, wow, how do I get this information out there?
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  DrC: The idea of the podcast was born, but so was doubt.
• 2:13
  DrC: And here's the transparent vulnerable moment.
• 2:17
  DrC: Because of my own insecurities, I put that idea on the shelf.
• 2:21
  DrC: I kept doing presentations and consulted with leaders, but I knew I wasn't reaching everyone I could.
• 2:27
  DrC: So the thought of the podcast kept coming back, and it kept coming back, and it was always followed by a wave of self-negative talk.
• 2:36
  DrC: Who's gonna listen to me?
• 2:39
  DrC: My voice sounds horrible.
• 2:41
  DrC: All these obstacles, these barriers, and I now realize they were completely made up.
• 2:46
  DrC: They were excuses my fear was creating to keep me comfortable in my insecurity.
• 2:52
  DrC: I'm gonna repeat that.
• 2:54
  DrC: My emotional wellness was suffering, and I felt like a failure because I had this critical information to share, but my inner critic wouldn't let me.
• 3:14
  DrC: It was a heavy internal struggle.
• 3:17
  DrC: We'll dive into the moment that changed everything right after this short break.
• 3:24
  DrC: Stay with us.
• 3:25
  DrC: It was immense.
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  DrC: Then in July, that thought came rushing back to me and it wouldn't go away.
• 3:52
  DrC: And about two weeks later, one morning, around 5 a.m., you know, that time when you're in a light sleep, just before waking up, I heard my dad, who passed away three years ago, whisper in my ear.
• 4:07
  DrC: I heard him clearly say, You got this, kid.
• 4:11
  DrC: Let's go.
• 4:12
  DrC: And I even felt his breath against my ear.
• 4:16
  DrC: I immediately jumped out of bed and said, I'm starting the podcast.
• 4:20
  DrC: And my husband, God bless his soul, just looked at me, half sleep and said, Okay, okay, let's go.
• 4:25
  DrC: Come on.
• 4:26
  DrC: He never gave me a reason why I shouldn't, only supported why I should.
• 4:31
  DrC: That was the moment my mindset began to flourish.
• 4:35
  DrC: The fear was still there, but the purpose was finally louder.
• 4:40
  DrC: From that morning on, I evolved.
• 4:42
  DrC: I dove deep into researching everything, how to start, what a podcast even is, how to upload, how to market.
• 4:48
  DrC: I took MC Light's example and I invested in my own development.
• 4:52
  DrC: So you might be listening to this and thinking, that's great for you, Dr.
• 4:56
  DrC: C, but I'm overwhelmed.
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  DrC: How do I actually start?
• 4:59
  DrC: Well, let's make it real simple.
• 5:00
  DrC: Here are three practical ways you can take today for any project, big and small.
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  DrC: First, name it.
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  DrC: Get really clear on what you want to do.
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  DrC: Write it down in one simple sentence.
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  DrC: Take it out of your head and put it on paper because then it makes it real.
• 5:20
  DrC: Second, shrink it.
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  DrC: The big dream can be intimidating.
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  DrC: So, what is the smallest, tiniest first step you can take?
• 5:29
  DrC: Not launch the business, but Google domain names for 15 minutes.
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  DrC: Not write a book, but maybe write a sentence, a paragraph.
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  DrC: This is about creating forward motion, not no matter how small.
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  DrC: And third, share it.
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  DrC: Tell one person you trust about your idea.
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  DrC: The moment you say it out loud, you create accountability and you also invite support.
• 5:54
  DrC: Remember how my husband reacted?
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  DrC: Find your cheerleader.
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  DrC: Naming it, shrinking it, and sharing it.
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  DrC: That's it.
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  DrC: That's how you begin.
• 6:04
  DrC: And on September 3rd, after taking my own first steps, I realize I released my first episode.
• 6:11
  DrC: And in just under a month, tomorrow it'll be a month that the Life Podcast was launched.
• 6:19
  DrC: In just under a month, we have reached listeners in seven countries and 72 cities.
• 6:26
  DrC: I've received messages from people about how an episode has helped them through a challenge, and that has brought so much joy to my heart because, after all, that was always the go.
• 6:37
  DrC: So imagine if I had continued to listen to my fears.
• 6:41
  DrC: So I want to ask you, what made a barrier are you holding on to?
• 6:46
  DrC: Are your obstacles real or are they a story you're telling yourself?
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  DrC: If it's a story, it's time to reframe it.
• 6:52
  DrC: Your project, your gift is waiting for you.
• 6:55
  DrC: And I promise you, someone in this universe is waiting to receive your gift.
• 7:01
  DrC: Don't let perfection get in the way.
• 7:03
  DrC: My first episodes have volume issues and tones all over the place, but people aren't listening to that.
• 7:10
  DrC: They're not listening to the mistakes, they're listening to the message.
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  DrC: So do it.
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  DrC: Just start.
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  DrC: So as we wrap up, my hope for you is this: take the first brave step this week.
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  DrC: Give yourself a dream.
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  DrC: Give it a name.
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  DrC: Make it real.
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  DrC: Break it down into small steps.
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  DrC: So small you can't say no.
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  DrC: And share it.
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  DrC: Share it with someone who will cheer you on and support you and talk to you about resources that may be available that you don't know about.
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  DrC: That's it.
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  DrC: That's the start.
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  DrC: You don't need a perfect plan, you just need progress.
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  DrC: Your gift is way worth sharing.
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  DrC: And someone out there is waiting to receive it.
• 7:58
  DrC: Until next time, keep on learning, stay inspired, continue to flourish, never stop evolving.
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  DrC: I'm your host, Dr.
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  DrC: C, and this is the Life Podcast.