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E 333: The Hidden Cost of Staying Quiet: Guest Barbara McAfee · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:47
  Well,
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  welcome
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  everybody
• 0:48
  back
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  to
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  another
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  edition
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  of
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  Adult
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  Child
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  of
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  Dysfunction.
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  I
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  am
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  super
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  excited
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  to
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  have
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  Barbara
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  McAfee
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  with
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  us
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  today.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  voice
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  coach,
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  an
• 0:57
  author,
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  a
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  speaker,
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  and
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  a
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  performer
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  with
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  over
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  30
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  years
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  of
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  experience
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  helping
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  people
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  unlock
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  their
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  full
• 1:03
  voice,
• 1:03
  blending
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  practical
• 1:04
  vocal
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  techniques
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  with
• 1:06
  powerful
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  tools
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  for
• 1:07
  authentic,
• 1:07
  flexible,
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  and
• 1:08
  unforgettable,
• 1:09
  forgettable
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  self
• 1:10
  expression.
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  Welcome,
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  Barbara.
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  Thank
• 1:13
  you
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  so
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  much.
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  It's
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  a
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  joy
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  to
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  be
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  here.
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  Tammy.
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  Yeah,
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  I
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  actually
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  love
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  this
• 1:16
  conversation
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  because
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  I
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  think
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  we.
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  I
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  actually
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  do
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  an
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  inner
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  voice
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  scan
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  with
• 1:21
  people
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  that
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  analyzes
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  like
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  171,000
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  different
• 1:24
  frequencies
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  of
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  your
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  voice.
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  And
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  it's
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  super
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  fun.
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  And
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  people
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  go,
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  well,
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  it's
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  just
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  your
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  voice.
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  And
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  I'm
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  like,
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  oh,
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  no.
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  Your
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  voice
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  is
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  literally
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  a
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  culmination
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  of
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  every
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  single
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  vibration
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  of
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  every
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  trillion
• 1:36
  millions
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  of
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  cells
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  in
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  your
• 1:38
  body.
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  It's.
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  It's
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  everything.
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  Your
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  voice
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  is
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  absolutely
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  everything.
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  But
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  tell
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  me
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  how
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  you
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  got
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  into
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  voice
• 1:44
  work.
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  Oh,
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  well,
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  like
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  most
• 1:47
  healers,
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  including
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  yourself,
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  I
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  found
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  my
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  own
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  voice
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  through
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  not
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  having
• 1:52
  it.
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  In.
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  In
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  some
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  ways.
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  In
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  some
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  ways
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  I
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  did.
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  And
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  in
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  really
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  crucial
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  ways,
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  I
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  didn't.
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  I
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  was
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  the
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  secret
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  keeper
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  for
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  my
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  family,
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  as
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  us
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  are.
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  And
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  I
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  thought
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  it
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  was
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  so
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  unique.
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  And
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  now,
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  after
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  all
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  these
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  years,
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  it's
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  like
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  there
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  is
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  a
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  cost
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  for
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  keeping
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  secrets.
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  The
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  truth
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  lives
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  in
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  our
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  guts
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  and.
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  And
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  it
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  rises
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  up,
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  and
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  if
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  we
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  can't
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  speak
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  it,
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  it
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  gets
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  stuck
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  here.
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  And
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  I.
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  scar
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  to
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  prove
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  it.
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  I've
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  had
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  two
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  big
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  surgeries
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  in
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  my
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  youth,
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  and
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  one
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  was
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  my
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  tonsils
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  coming
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  out.
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  They
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  were
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  chronically
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  inflamed
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  and
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  infected
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  because
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  that's
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  where
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  the
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  truth
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  got
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  stuck.
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  And
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  then
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  they
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  took
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  them
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  out.
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  My
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  20s,
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  I
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  started
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  singing
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  in
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  public
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  a
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  couple
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  minutes
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  later.
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  And
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  then
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  I
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  stopped
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  singing
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  for
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  a
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  boyfriend.
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  I
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  don't
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  even
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  know
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  who
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  that.
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  Who
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  made
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  that
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  decision.
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  And
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  then
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  it
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  got
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  stuck
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  again.
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  And
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  I
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  grew
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  a
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  nodule
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  on
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  my
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  thyroid,
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  not
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  cancerous.
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  And
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  they
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  cut
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  my
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  throat
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  and
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  they
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  took
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  out
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  half
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  my
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  thyroid.
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  The
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  other
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  half
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  is
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  chugging
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  along.
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  I
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  have
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  no
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  medication.
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  And
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  so
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  for
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  me,
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  the
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  connection
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  between
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  really
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  speaking
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  my
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  truth,
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  I
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  did.
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  Call.
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  Everybody
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  in
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  and
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  say,
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  I'm
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  not
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  doing
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  this
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  anymore.
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  And
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  in
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  my
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  mid-20s
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  and
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  found
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  some
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  teachers
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  who
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  helped
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  me
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  really
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  open
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  up
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  all
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  my
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  sound,
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  not
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  just
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  the
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  socially
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  sanctioned
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  kind.
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  And
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  that's
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  the
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  journey
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  I've
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  been
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  on
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  ever
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  since.
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  And
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  so
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  for
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  me,
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  the
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  voice
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  has
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  been
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  my
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  primary
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  mechanism
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  for
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  healing.
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  And
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  not
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  just
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  healing
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  you.
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  And
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  with
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  driving.
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  Oh,
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  I
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  bet.
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  I
• 3:29
  mean,
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  I.
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  I
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  think
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  back
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  to
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  just
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  my
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  voice,
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  and
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  sometimes
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  I
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  still
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  feel
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  like
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  I'm
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  not
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  as
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  apt
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  to
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  use
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  my
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  voice
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  like
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  I
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  should
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  because
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  it's
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  dangerous.
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  A
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  lot
• 3:39
  of,
• 3:39
  you
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  know,
• 3:40
  a
• 3:40
  lot
• 3:40
  of
• 3:40
  our
• 3:40
  listeners
• 3:41
  grew
• 3:41
  up
• 3:41
  where
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  wasn't
• 3:42
  safe
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  speak
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  up
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  at
• 3:43
  all.
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  Right,
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  so
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  how
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  does
• 3:45
  that
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  actually.
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  Does
• 3:46
  that
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  actually.
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  Well,
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  you
• 3:48
  said
• 3:48
  it.
• 3:48
  Your
• 3:49
  voice
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  is
• 3:49
  caught
• 3:49
  in
• 3:49
  your
• 3:50
  throat.
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  And
• 3:51
  I
• 3:51
  picture.
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  picture
• 3:52
  a
• 3:53
  lot
• 3:53
  of
• 3:53
  people
• 3:53
  that
• 3:53
  have,
• 3:53
  like,
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  tonsilitis.
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  And
• 3:55
  do
• 3:55
  you
• 3:55
  think
• 3:55
  that
• 3:55
  physically
• 3:56
  manifested
• 3:57
  there
• 3:57
  and
• 3:57
  that's
• 3:57
  why
• 3:57
  you
• 3:58
  had
• 3:58
  the
• 3:58
  chronic
• 3:59
  swelling
• 4:00
  and
• 4:00
  inflammation
• 4:01
  in
• 4:01
  your
• 4:01
  throat?
• 4:02
  That's
• 4:02
  my
• 4:02
  story.
• 4:03
  As
• 4:04
  my
• 4:04
  friend
• 4:04
  Peter
• 4:04
  says.
• 4:04
  I
• 4:05
  don't
• 4:05
  know
• 4:05
  if
• 4:05
  it's
• 4:05
  true,
• 4:05
  but
• 4:05
  it's
• 4:06
  useful
• 4:07
  to
• 4:08
  consider,
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  know.
• 4:09
  Yeah,
• 4:09
  I
• 4:10
  think.
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  do
• 4:10
  think
• 4:11
  that
• 4:11
  the,
• 4:11
  you
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  know,
• 4:12
  and
• 4:12
  I,
• 4:14
  until,
• 4:14
  you
• 4:14
  know,
• 4:15
  in
• 4:15
  the
• 4:15
  last
• 4:15
  couple
• 4:16
  of
• 4:16
  years,
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  had
• 4:16
  some
• 4:17
  eye
• 4:17
  surgery
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  broke
• 4:18
  my
• 4:19
  wrist
• 4:19
  and
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  had
• 4:19
  that
• 4:20
  fixed.
• 4:20
  But
• 4:20
  up
• 4:21
  until
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  point,
• 4:21
  that
• 4:22
  was
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  only
• 4:22
  surgery
• 4:23
  I
• 4:23
  had
• 4:23
  in
• 4:23
  my
• 4:23
  life.
• 4:24
  Wow.
• 4:25
  So
• 4:25
  like
• 4:26
  many
• 4:26
  of
• 4:26
  us,
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  gifts
• 4:27
  and
• 4:27
  the
• 4:27
  wounds
• 4:28
  are
• 4:28
  all
• 4:28
  snuggled
• 4:29
  up
• 4:29
  close
• 4:29
  together.
• 4:30
  Yeah.
• 4:31
  So.
• 4:32
  And
• 4:33
  I
• 4:33
  have
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  say,
• 4:33
  I've
• 4:34
  worked
• 4:34
  with
• 4:34
  people
• 4:34
  who've
• 4:35
  had
• 4:35
  horrible
• 4:35
  trauma.
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  mean,
• 4:37
  just
• 4:37
  awful.
• 4:38
  And
• 4:38
  there
• 4:38
  is
• 4:39
  something
• 4:39
  particularly
• 4:40
  lovely
• 4:42
  about
• 4:42
  hearing
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  voice
• 4:43
  that
• 4:43
  has
• 4:43
  been
• 4:44
  confined,
• 4:45
  run
• 4:45
  free.
• 4:46
  The
• 4:47
  people
• 4:47
  who
• 4:47
  have
• 4:47
  just
• 4:47
  had
• 4:48
  it
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  whole
• 4:49
  time,
• 4:50
  it's
• 4:50
  still
• 4:50
  nice,
• 4:51
  but
• 4:51
  it
• 4:51
  doesn't
• 4:51
  really
• 4:52
  cost
• 4:52
  them
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  same.
• 4:53
  And
• 4:53
  I
• 4:54
  can
• 4:54
  still
• 4:54
  hear
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  sound
• 4:55
  of
• 4:55
  this
• 4:56
  one
• 4:56
  woman.
• 4:56
  I
• 4:56
  don't
• 4:57
  even
• 4:57
  know
• 4:57
  what
• 4:57
  happened
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  her.
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  didn't
• 4:58
  need
• 4:58
  to
• 4:58
  know,
• 4:59
  but
• 4:59
  she
• 4:59
  had
• 5:00
  gone
• 5:00
  mute
• 5:00
  as
• 5:01
  a
• 5:01
  child
• 5:01
  from
• 5:02
  what
• 5:02
  was
• 5:02
  happening
• 5:02
  to
• 5:03
  her,
• 5:03
  literally.
• 5:04
  And
• 5:04
  so
• 5:04
  she,
• 5:04
  like,
• 5:05
  wisely
• 5:05
  had
• 5:05
  a
• 5:06
  job
• 5:06
  at
• 5:06
  the
• 5:07
  post
• 5:07
  office
• 5:07
  in
• 5:07
  the
• 5:07
  back
• 5:08
  room,
• 5:08
  so
• 5:08
  she
• 5:08
  didn't
• 5:08
  have
• 5:09
  to
• 5:09
  talk,
• 5:10
  but
• 5:10
  she
• 5:10
  was
• 5:11
  determined
• 5:11
  to
• 5:12
  reinhabit
• 5:12
  her
• 5:12
  body.
• 5:13
  And
• 5:13
  her
• 5:13
  voice
• 5:14
  was
• 5:15
  super
• 5:15
  brave.
• 5:15
  And
• 5:16
  there
• 5:16
  was
• 5:16
  this
• 5:16
  one
• 5:17
  day
• 5:18
  we
• 5:18
  worked
• 5:19
  in
• 5:19
  person
• 5:19
  at
• 5:20
  that
• 5:20
  time,
• 5:21
  and
• 5:21
  she
• 5:22
  threw
• 5:22
  back
• 5:22
  her
• 5:22
  head
• 5:23
  and
• 5:23
  this
• 5:23
  big
• 5:24
  sound
• 5:24
  came
• 5:24
  out,
• 5:24
  and
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  thought
• 5:25
  it
• 5:25
  would
• 5:25
  never
• 5:26
  end.
• 5:26
  It
• 5:26
  just
• 5:27
  went
• 5:27
  on
• 5:28
  and
• 5:28
  on
• 5:29
  and
• 5:29
  on,
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  it
• 5:30
  was
• 5:31
  like,
• 5:31
  oh.
• 5:32
  And
• 5:32
  then
• 5:33
  she
• 5:34
  got
• 5:34
  done
• 5:34
  and
• 5:35
  her
• 5:35
  eyes
• 5:35
  were
• 5:35
  just,
• 5:36
  like,
• 5:36
  huge,
• 5:38
  and
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  burst
• 5:38
  into
• 5:38
  tears,
• 5:39
  and
• 5:39
  she
• 5:39
  burst
• 5:39
  into
• 5:40
  tears,
• 5:40
  and
• 5:41
  it
• 5:41
  was
• 5:41
  one
• 5:41
  of
• 5:41
  the
• 5:41
  most
• 5:41
  beautiful
• 5:42
  sounds
• 5:42
  I've
• 5:42
  ever
• 5:43
  heard.
• 5:43
  Oh,
• 5:43
  my
• 5:43
  gosh.
• 5:43
  That's
• 5:44
  going
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  make
• 5:44
  me
• 5:44
  cry.
• 5:44
  No,
• 5:45
  it's
• 5:45
  going
• 5:45
  to
• 5:45
  make
• 5:45
  me
• 5:45
  cry.
• 5:45
  Sitting
• 5:46
  here
• 5:46
  right
• 5:46
  now.
• 5:46
  I
• 5:46
  can't
• 5:47
  even
• 5:47
  imagine
• 5:48
  just
• 5:49
  to
• 5:49
  imagine
• 5:49
  the
• 5:50
  trauma
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  is
• 5:50
  so
• 5:51
  bad
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  it
• 5:51
  literally
• 5:53
  shuts.
• 5:54
  Cuts
• 5:55
  your
• 5:55
  voice
• 5:55
  off.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  mean,
• 5:56
  literally
• 5:56
  will
• 5:57
  not.
• 5:57
  I
• 5:57
  mean,
• 5:57
  talk
• 5:57
  a
• 5:58
  little
• 5:58
  bit
• 5:58
  more
• 5:58
  about
• 5:58
  that.
• 5:59
  Like,
• 5:59
  what
• 5:59
  do
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  think
• 5:59
  goes
• 6:00
  on
• 6:00
  in
• 6:00
  the
• 6:00
  body
• 6:00
  that
• 6:02
  she
• 6:03
  just
• 6:03
  completely
• 6:03
  became
• 6:04
  a
• 6:04
  mute?
• 6:05
  Well,
• 6:06
  I've
• 6:06
  seen
• 6:07
  this
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  lot.
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  mean,
• 6:07
  the
• 6:08
  classic
• 6:08
  example
• 6:09
  is,
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  believe,
• 6:11
  Maya
• 6:11
  Angelou,
• 6:12
  who
• 6:13
  was
• 6:14
  abused
• 6:14
  and
• 6:14
  then
• 6:14
  her
• 6:14
  abuser
• 6:15
  was
• 6:15
  killed,
• 6:15
  and
• 6:15
  she
• 6:15
  thought
• 6:16
  she
• 6:16
  was
• 6:16
  responsible,
• 6:17
  and
• 6:17
  she
• 6:17
  didn't
• 6:17
  talk
• 6:18
  for
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  long,
• 6:18
  long
• 6:18
  time
• 6:19
  as
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  young
• 6:20
  girl.
• 6:21
  And
• 6:21
  so
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  think
• 6:22
  it's
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  very
• 6:22
  common
• 6:25
  strategy
• 6:25
  for
• 6:26
  survival.
• 6:27
  Right.
• 6:28
  Like
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  said,
• 6:28
  it's
• 6:28
  not
• 6:29
  safe
• 6:29
  to
• 6:29
  make
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  noise,
• 6:30
  so
• 6:30
  shut
• 6:31
  up.
• 6:31
  And
• 6:32
  what
• 6:32
  I
• 6:32
  love
• 6:32
  about
• 6:33
  the
• 6:33
  voice
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  that
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:34
  so
• 6:34
  faithful.
• 6:35
  It
• 6:35
  waits.
• 6:36
  And
• 6:37
  considering
• 6:38
  Maya
• 6:38
  Angelou's
• 6:39
  voice
• 6:39
  in
• 6:39
  the
• 6:40
  world,
• 6:40
  she's
• 6:40
  one
• 6:40
  of
• 6:40
  my
• 6:41
  great
• 6:41
  heroes
• 6:42
  as
• 6:42
  a.
• 6:42
  As
• 6:42
  a
• 6:43
  person,
• 6:44
  you
• 6:44
  know,
• 6:44
  elegant.
• 6:45
  And
• 6:45
  I'm
• 6:45
  also
• 6:45
  very
• 6:46
  tall
• 6:46
  as
• 6:46
  she.
• 6:47
  I'm
• 6:47
  six
• 6:47
  two.
• 6:48
  And
• 6:49
  when
• 6:49
  I
• 6:49
  first
• 6:49
  I
• 6:49
  got
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  see
• 6:50
  her
• 6:50
  in
• 6:50
  person
• 6:50
  many
• 6:51
  years
• 6:51
  ago,
• 6:51
  and
• 6:51
  she
• 6:51
  came
• 6:51
  walking
• 6:52
  out,
• 6:52
  it
• 6:52
  was
• 6:52
  like,
• 6:53
  oh,
• 6:53
  I
• 6:54
  didn't
• 6:54
  even
• 6:54
  know
• 6:54
  that
• 6:54
  was
• 6:54
  possible
• 6:55
  to
• 6:56
  like,
• 6:56
  have
• 6:56
  that
• 6:57
  kind
• 6:57
  of
• 6:58
  gorgeousness
• 6:59
  and
• 6:59
  gravitas
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  warmth
• 7:02
  and
• 7:02
  dignity.
• 7:04
  And
• 7:04
  so
• 7:05
  there's
• 7:05
  a
• 7:05
  way
• 7:05
  that
• 7:05
  I
• 7:05
  feel
• 7:06
  like
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  love
• 7:06
  my
• 7:07
  voice
• 7:07
  more
• 7:07
  because
• 7:07
  I
• 7:08
  didn't
• 7:08
  have
• 7:08
  it.
• 7:08
  I
• 7:09
  cherish
• 7:09
  it.
• 7:10
  And
• 7:10
  that's
• 7:10
  just
• 7:11
  human.
• 7:11
  You
• 7:11
  know,
• 7:11
  a
• 7:12
  lot
• 7:12
  of
• 7:12
  people
• 7:12
  who
• 7:12
  face
• 7:13
  a
• 7:13
  health
• 7:13
  crisis
• 7:14
  and
• 7:14
  then
• 7:14
  they
• 7:14
  get
• 7:15
  another
• 7:15
  go
• 7:16
  at
• 7:16
  life.
• 7:16
  You
• 7:16
  know,
• 7:17
  it's
• 7:17
  that
• 7:17
  thing
• 7:17
  that
• 7:17
  you
• 7:17
  think
• 7:18
  is
• 7:18
  it
• 7:19
  becomes
• 7:19
  more
• 7:19
  precious
• 7:20
  when
• 7:20
  it's
• 7:20
  been
• 7:22
  sidelined
• 7:22
  and
• 7:22
  then
• 7:23
  you
• 7:23
  get
• 7:23
  it
• 7:23
  back.
• 7:24
  Absolutely.
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  remember
• 7:25
  when
• 7:25
  my
• 7:25
  mother
• 7:25
  in
• 7:25
  law
• 7:26
  had
• 7:26
  her
• 7:26
  thyroid
• 7:26
  out
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  they
• 7:27
  told
• 7:27
  her
• 7:27
  she
• 7:27
  couldn't
• 7:28
  talk
• 7:28
  for
• 7:28
  like
• 7:28
  six
• 7:28
  weeks
• 7:30
  or
• 7:30
  whatever
• 7:30
  it
• 7:30
  was,
• 7:30
  and
• 7:31
  we
• 7:31
  were
• 7:31
  like.
• 7:31
  And
• 7:31
  she
• 7:32
  had
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  like
• 7:32
  literally
• 7:32
  muffle
• 7:33
  herself
• 7:33
  and
• 7:34
  couldn't
• 7:34
  talk.
• 7:35
  And
• 7:35
  I
• 7:36
  remember
• 7:36
  it
• 7:36
  was
• 7:36
  kind
• 7:36
  of
• 7:36
  like
• 7:37
  the
• 7:37
  joke
• 7:37
  in
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  family.
• 7:38
  Like,
• 7:38
  my
• 7:38
  father
• 7:38
  in
• 7:39
  law
• 7:39
  was
• 7:39
  like,
• 7:39
  wow,
• 7:39
  this
• 7:40
  is
• 7:40
  amazing.
• 7:40
  And
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  was
• 7:41
  like,
• 7:41
  no,
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  can't
• 7:42
  even
• 7:42
  imagine.
• 7:43
  But
• 7:44
  that's
• 7:44
  how
• 7:44
  some
• 7:44
  people
• 7:45
  feel
• 7:45
  all
• 7:45
  the
• 7:45
  time.
• 7:46
  Yes.
• 7:46
  I.
• 7:47
  I
• 7:47
  deal
• 7:48
  with
• 7:48
  so
• 7:48
  many
• 7:48
  people
• 7:48
  who
• 7:49
  go
• 7:49
  to
• 7:49
  say
• 7:49
  something
• 7:49
  and
• 7:50
  it's
• 7:50
  like
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  see
• 7:50
  it
• 7:50
  catch
• 7:51
  and
• 7:51
  they're
• 7:51
  like,
• 7:51
  oh,
• 7:52
  can't.
• 7:52
  And
• 7:53
  I
• 7:53
  just,
• 7:54
  you
• 7:54
  know,
• 7:54
  that
• 7:54
  just
• 7:55
  stores
• 7:55
  there.
• 7:56
  Like
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  said
• 7:56
  it
• 7:56
  could
• 7:56
  store
• 7:57
  tonsillitis,
• 7:57
  it
• 7:57
  could
• 7:57
  store
• 7:58
  in
• 7:58
  your
• 7:58
  thyroid,
• 7:59
  anything
• 7:59
  that
• 7:59
  is
• 7:59
  in
• 7:59
  that
• 8:00
  throat
• 8:00
  chakra
• 8:01
  area.
• 8:01
  Really?
• 8:02
  Yes,
• 8:03
  yes.
• 8:05
  So
• 8:05
  what
• 8:05
  do
• 8:05
  you
• 8:05
  think?
• 8:05
  Talk
• 8:06
  about
• 8:06
  what
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  think
• 8:06
  happens
• 8:07
  in
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  person's
• 8:08
  body
• 8:08
  when
• 8:08
  all
• 8:09
  of
• 8:09
  a
• 8:09
  sudden
• 8:09
  they
• 8:09
  start
• 8:10
  speaking
• 8:10
  up,
• 8:10
  like,
• 8:11
  does
• 8:11
  it
• 8:11
  change
• 8:11
  their
• 8:12
  voice?
• 8:12
  Can
• 8:12
  you
• 8:12
  change
• 8:13
  their
• 8:13
  voice?
• 8:13
  Or
• 8:13
  can
• 8:14
  you
• 8:14
  change
• 8:14
  your
• 8:14
  own
• 8:14
  voice?
• 8:15
  Oh,
• 8:16
  my
• 8:16
  goodness.
• 8:16
  Yes,
• 8:16
  yes,
• 8:17
  yes,
• 8:17
  yes,
• 8:17
  yes,
• 8:17
  yes.
• 8:18
  A
• 8:18
  lot
• 8:18
  of
• 8:18
  questions.
• 8:20
  Okay,
• 8:20
  where
• 8:20
  do
• 8:20
  I
• 8:21
  start?
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  know.
• 8:22
  Well,
• 8:22
  let
• 8:23
  me
• 8:23
  start
• 8:23
  with
• 8:23
  how
• 8:24
  I
• 8:24
  think
• 8:24
  about
• 8:25
  voice.
• 8:25
  Okay.
• 8:26
  Most
• 8:26
  people
• 8:26
  talk
• 8:27
  about
• 8:27
  voice
• 8:27
  as
• 8:28
  being
• 8:28
  like
• 8:28
  your
• 8:28
  speaking
• 8:28
  voice
• 8:29
  or
• 8:29
  your
• 8:29
  singing
• 8:29
  voice.
• 8:30
  I
• 8:30
  start
• 8:31
  with
• 8:31
  sound
• 8:32
  because
• 8:32
  that's
• 8:32
  what
• 8:32
  set
• 8:33
  me
• 8:33
  free.
• 8:34
  I
• 8:34
  was
• 8:34
  always
• 8:34
  trying
• 8:35
  to
• 8:36
  find
• 8:36
  the
• 8:37
  right
• 8:37
  words
• 8:37
  or
• 8:38
  sing
• 8:38
  pretty
• 8:38
  in
• 8:38
  the
• 8:39
  choir
• 8:39
  or
• 8:40
  be
• 8:40
  seen
• 8:40
  but
• 8:41
  not
• 8:41
  heard.
• 8:41
  Quiet
• 8:42
  was
• 8:42
  very
• 8:42
  valued
• 8:43
  in
• 8:43
  my.
• 8:43
  In
• 8:44
  my
• 8:44
  family.
• 8:44
  I
• 8:44
  realize
• 8:45
  now
• 8:45
  that
• 8:45
  my
• 8:45
  father,
• 8:46
  he
• 8:46
  was
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  war
• 8:46
  veteran
• 8:47
  and
• 8:48
  a
• 8:48
  damaged
• 8:48
  guy,
• 8:48
  bless
• 8:49
  his
• 8:49
  heart.
• 8:50
  We're
• 8:50
  good
• 8:50
  now.
• 8:51
  He's
• 8:51
  dead.
• 8:51
  And
• 8:51
  we
• 8:52
  had
• 8:52
  a
• 8:52
  good.
• 8:52
  He
• 8:52
  had
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  hospice
• 8:53
  makeover.
• 8:53
  That's
• 8:54
  what
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  call
• 8:54
  it.
• 8:55
  Really
• 8:55
  sweet.
• 8:56
  At
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  end
• 8:56
  of
• 8:56
  his
• 8:56
  life.
• 8:57
  And
• 8:57
  did
• 8:57
  a
• 8:57
  lot
• 8:57
  of.
• 8:57
  He
• 8:58
  did
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  lot
• 8:58
  of
• 8:58
  healing
• 8:58
  in
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  last
• 8:59
  couple
• 8:59
  months,
• 9:00
  but.
• 9:01
  But
• 9:01
  he's
• 9:01
  very
• 9:02
  sound
• 9:02
  sensitive.
• 9:03
  And
• 9:03
  I
• 9:03
  realize
• 9:03
  it
• 9:04
  runs
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  family.
• 9:04
  I
• 9:05
  have
• 9:05
  a
• 9:05
  little
• 9:05
  of
• 9:05
  that,
• 9:06
  but
• 9:06
  my
• 9:06
  brother
• 9:06
  and
• 9:07
  my
• 9:07
  nephew,
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  know,
• 9:08
  you,
• 9:08
  like,
• 9:08
  come
• 9:09
  in
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  room
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  they,
• 9:09
  like,
• 9:10
  jump
• 9:10
  out
• 9:10
  of
• 9:11
  their
• 9:11
  skin,
• 9:11
  you
• 9:11
  know,
• 9:12
  And
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  realize
• 9:13
  that
• 9:13
  my
• 9:14
  father
• 9:14
  had
• 9:14
  that,
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  so
• 9:17
  he
• 9:17
  was
• 9:17
  very
• 9:18
  irritable.
• 9:21
  So
• 9:22
  to
• 9:23
  have
• 9:23
  my
• 9:23
  sounds
• 9:24
  all
• 9:25
  invited
• 9:26
  and
• 9:26
  set
• 9:26
  free
• 9:27
  by
• 9:27
  these
• 9:27
  teachers
• 9:27
  that
• 9:28
  came
• 9:28
  from
• 9:28
  the
• 9:28
  south
• 9:28
  of
• 9:28
  France.
• 9:29
  They
• 9:29
  came
• 9:29
  to
• 9:29
  Minneapolis
• 9:30
  from
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  Roy
• 9:31
  Hart
• 9:31
  center,
• 9:32
  and
• 9:32
  they
• 9:32
  work
• 9:32
  with
• 9:32
  the
• 9:33
  extended
• 9:33
  range
• 9:34
  of
• 9:34
  the
• 9:34
  voice.
• 9:35
  And
• 9:35
  it
• 9:35
  blew
• 9:36
  my
• 9:36
  mind.
• 9:37
  No
• 9:37
  one
• 9:37
  had
• 9:37
  ever
• 9:38
  asked
• 9:38
  for
• 9:38
  all
• 9:38
  the
• 9:39
  sound
• 9:39
  I
• 9:39
  had,
• 9:40
  and
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  had
• 9:40
  a
• 9:40
  lot.
• 9:41
  So
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  was,
• 9:41
  like
• 9:42
  really
• 9:42
  low,
• 9:43
  really
• 9:43
  high,
• 9:44
  screamy,
• 9:44
  you
• 9:45
  know,
• 9:45
  very
• 9:45
  primal,
• 9:46
  shadowy,
• 9:48
  not
• 9:49
  okay
• 9:50
  sounds.
• 9:50
  And
• 9:51
  I
• 9:51
  loved
• 9:51
  it.
• 9:52
  And
• 9:52
  with
• 9:53
  each
• 9:53
  sound,
• 9:54
  a
• 9:55
  part
• 9:55
  of
• 9:55
  me
• 9:55
  came
• 9:56
  back
• 9:56
  again,
• 9:58
  which
• 9:59
  was.
• 9:59
  It
• 9:59
  was
• 9:59
  a
• 10:00
  great
• 10:00
  way
• 10:00
  to
• 10:00
  reclaim
• 10:01
  all
• 10:02
  these,
• 10:02
  like,
• 10:02
  aspects
• 10:03
  of
• 10:03
  myself
• 10:04
  that
• 10:04
  had
• 10:04
  gotten
• 10:05
  sort
• 10:05
  of
• 10:05
  sidelined.
• 10:07
  So
• 10:07
  I
• 10:07
  took
• 10:07
  that
• 10:07
  work
• 10:08
  and
• 10:09
  combined
• 10:09
  it
• 10:09
  with
• 10:09
  the
• 10:10
  chakra
• 10:10
  system
• 10:10
  from
• 10:11
  yoga,
• 10:11
  which
• 10:11
  I
• 10:12
  was
• 10:12
  doing
• 10:12
  a
• 10:12
  bunch
• 10:12
  of
• 10:12
  at
• 10:12
  the
• 10:13
  time.
• 10:13
  Jungian
• 10:14
  psychology
• 10:15
  around
• 10:16
  archetypes
• 10:16
  and
• 10:17
  the
• 10:17
  collective
• 10:17
  unconscious
• 10:18
  and
• 10:18
  the
• 10:18
  shadow
• 10:19
  and
• 10:20
  leadership
• 10:20
  development.
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  was
• 10:21
  a
• 10:22
  consultant
• 10:23
  for
• 10:23
  a
• 10:23
  number
• 10:23
  of
• 10:24
  years
• 10:24
  with
• 10:24
  organizations
• 10:25
  around
• 10:25
  building
• 10:26
  leadership
• 10:26
  and
• 10:26
  teams
• 10:27
  and
• 10:27
  things
• 10:27
  like
• 10:27
  that.
• 10:28
  And
• 10:28
  I
• 10:28
  just
• 10:28
  kind
• 10:28
  of
• 10:29
  mushed
• 10:29
  it
• 10:29
  all
• 10:29
  together
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  made
• 10:30
  this
• 10:31
  five
• 10:31
  elements
• 10:32
  framework
• 10:33
  which
• 10:34
  kind
• 10:34
  of
• 10:35
  opens
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  voice
• 10:35
  into
• 10:36
  five
• 10:36
  distinct
• 10:37
  sounds
• 10:37
  using
• 10:38
  the
• 10:38
  elements
• 10:38
  of
• 10:39
  earth,
• 10:41
  fire,
• 10:42
  water,
• 10:43
  metal,
• 10:45
  and
• 10:45
  air.
• 10:46
  Wait,
• 10:47
  what's
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  metal?
• 10:47
  Do
• 10:47
  the
• 10:48
  metal
• 10:48
  again.
• 10:49
  Metal.
• 10:50
  Okay,
• 10:51
  yeah.
• 10:51
  You
• 10:52
  know,
• 10:52
  and
• 10:52
  I'm
• 10:53
  exaggerating
• 10:53
  these,
• 10:54
  right?
• 10:55
  And
• 10:55
  each
• 10:55
  correlates
• 10:56
  with
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  part
• 10:56
  of
• 10:57
  the
• 10:57
  body,
• 10:57
  and
• 10:58
  each
• 10:58
  correlates
• 10:58
  with
• 10:59
  certain
• 10:59
  human
• 10:59
  qualities.
• 11:00
  Like,
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  know,
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  earth
• 11:02
  is
• 11:02
  great
• 11:02
  for
• 11:03
  gravitas
• 11:04
  and
• 11:04
  projecting
• 11:05
  authority.
• 11:05
  And
• 11:06
  fire
• 11:06
  is
• 11:07
  great
• 11:07
  for
• 11:07
  passion
• 11:08
  and
• 11:08
  taking
• 11:08
  up
• 11:08
  space.
• 11:09
  And
• 11:09
  water
• 11:10
  is
• 11:10
  wonderful
• 11:11
  for
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  heart.
• 11:12
  You
• 11:12
  know,
• 11:12
  saying
• 11:12
  your
• 11:13
  song,
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  understand?
• 11:15
  Metal
• 11:15
  is
• 11:16
  great
• 11:16
  for
• 11:16
  getting
• 11:16
  loud
• 11:17
  without
• 11:17
  any
• 11:17
  strain
• 11:19
  cutting
• 11:19
  through.
• 11:20
  And
• 11:20
  air
• 11:21
  is
• 11:21
  great
• 11:21
  for
• 11:21
  waking
• 11:22
  up
• 11:22
  the
• 11:22
  imagination.
• 11:24
  Storytelling.
• 11:25
  I
• 11:25
  have
• 11:25
  an
• 11:26
  idea,
• 11:28
  Connecting
• 11:28
  to
• 11:29
  spirit.
• 11:30
  So
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  cooked
• 11:33
  this
• 11:33
  up,
• 11:33
  and
• 11:34
  that's
• 11:34
  how
• 11:35
  I
• 11:35
  work
• 11:35
  with
• 11:35
  people's
• 11:36
  voices.
• 11:36
  I
• 11:37
  start
• 11:37
  with
• 11:37
  Sound
• 11:38
  and
• 11:39
  just
• 11:39
  see
• 11:40
  if
• 11:40
  we
• 11:40
  can
• 11:40
  welcome
• 11:41
  all
• 11:41
  of
• 11:41
  these
• 11:42
  qualities
• 11:43
  home.
• 11:43
  Because
• 11:43
  you
• 11:44
  can't
• 11:44
  change
• 11:44
  your
• 11:45
  voice
• 11:46
  without
• 11:46
  your
• 11:46
  life
• 11:46
  coming
• 11:47
  along.
• 11:47
  You
• 11:47
  can't
• 11:47
  get
• 11:48
  more
• 11:48
  grounded
• 11:49
  in
• 11:49
  your
• 11:49
  Earth
• 11:49
  voice
• 11:50
  without
• 11:50
  getting
• 11:50
  more
• 11:50
  ground
• 11:50
  grounded
• 11:51
  in
• 11:51
  your
• 11:51
  body
• 11:52
  and
• 11:52
  your
• 11:52
  life.
• 11:53
  It's.
• 11:53
  That's.
• 11:54
  I'm
• 11:54
  just
• 11:54
  flashing
• 11:55
  back
• 11:55
  and
• 11:55
  I'm
• 11:55
  just
• 11:56
  thinking
• 11:56
  about.
• 11:57
  I
• 11:57
  always
• 11:57
  was
• 11:58
  so
• 11:58
  in
• 11:58
  envy
• 11:59
  and
• 11:59
  so
• 12:00
  in
• 12:00
  awe
• 12:01
  of
• 12:01
  people
• 12:01
  that
• 12:02
  could
• 12:02
  get
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  high
• 12:03
  pitched
• 12:03
  scream
• 12:04
  like
• 12:04
  in
• 12:04
  a
• 12:04
  horror
• 12:05
  movie
• 12:05
  because
• 12:06
  I
• 12:06
  couldn't
• 12:06
  do
• 12:06
  it.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  I
• 12:07
  can
• 12:07
  remember
• 12:07
  the
• 12:08
  times
• 12:08
  in
• 12:08
  my
• 12:08
  life
• 12:08
  when
• 12:09
  I
• 12:09
  was
• 12:09
  the
• 12:09
  most
• 12:10
  scared.
• 12:12
  And
• 12:12
  even
• 12:12
  after,
• 12:13
  like,
• 12:13
  even
• 12:13
  when
• 12:13
  it
• 12:13
  wasn't
• 12:14
  an
• 12:14
  abuse
• 12:14
  situation,
• 12:15
  even
• 12:15
  when
• 12:15
  it
• 12:16
  was
• 12:16
  at
• 12:16
  a
• 12:16
  horror
• 12:17
  film
• 12:17
  or
• 12:18
  and
• 12:18
  everybody
• 12:18
  else
• 12:18
  got
• 12:19
  this
• 12:19
  like
• 12:20
  this
• 12:20
  high
• 12:20
  pitched
• 12:20
  scream
• 12:21
  and
• 12:21
  all
• 12:21
  I
• 12:21
  could
• 12:21
  do
• 12:22
  was
• 12:22
  like,
• 12:23
  I
• 12:23
  couldn't,
• 12:24
  like
• 12:24
  I
• 12:24
  couldn't
• 12:25
  produce
• 12:25
  that
• 12:25
  sound.
• 12:26
  And
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  remember
• 12:26
  always
• 12:26
  thinking
• 12:27
  and
• 12:27
  I
• 12:27
  still
• 12:28
  can't.
• 12:28
  Like
• 12:29
  people
• 12:29
  like,
• 12:29
  wow,
• 12:30
  when
• 12:30
  you
• 12:30
  scream,
• 12:30
  like,
• 12:30
  you
• 12:31
  don't
• 12:31
  really
• 12:31
  scream.
• 12:31
  You'd
• 12:31
  be
• 12:31
  horrible
• 12:32
  in
• 12:32
  a
• 12:32
  horror
• 12:32
  movie.
• 12:33
  And
• 12:33
  I'm
• 12:33
  like,
• 12:33
  I
• 12:34
  can't
• 12:35
  get
• 12:35
  that.
• 12:36
  But
• 12:36
  I
• 12:37
  know,
• 12:37
  I
• 12:37
  think
• 12:38
  I'm.
• 12:38
  Now
• 12:38
  that
• 12:38
  I'm
• 12:38
  thinking
• 12:39
  back
• 12:39
  about
• 12:39
  it,
• 12:39
  it's
• 12:39
  probably
• 12:40
  because
• 12:40
  there
• 12:40
  were
• 12:40
  times
• 12:40
  where
• 12:41
  I
• 12:41
  needed
• 12:42
  that
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  couldn't
• 12:43
  muster
• 12:43
  it
• 12:43
  up.
• 12:44
  Like,
• 12:45
  could
• 12:45
  not.
• 12:47
  So.
• 12:48
  Yeah.
• 12:49
  And
• 12:49
  I
• 12:49
  didn't
• 12:49
  have
• 12:49
  that,
• 12:50
  that
• 12:50
  high
• 12:50
  part
• 12:51
  of
• 12:51
  my
• 12:51
  voice
• 12:51
  either.
• 12:52
  I
• 12:52
  mean,
• 12:52
  I
• 12:52
  come
• 12:53
  from
• 12:53
  tall,
• 12:53
  low
• 12:53
  voice
• 12:54
  people.
• 12:54
  I
• 12:54
  mean,
• 12:54
  this
• 12:55
  is,
• 12:55
  this
• 12:56
  is
• 12:56
  kind
• 12:56
  of
• 12:56
  how
• 12:56
  I'm
• 12:56
  wired
• 12:57
  biologically.
• 12:58
  And
• 12:58
  that's
• 12:58
  a
• 12:58
  part
• 12:58
  of
• 12:58
  it.
• 12:59
  Physiology
• 12:59
  is
• 13:00
  a
• 13:00
  piece
• 13:00
  of
• 13:00
  it.
• 13:00
  But
• 13:00
  it's
• 13:01
  a
• 13:01
  tiny
• 13:02
  slice.
• 13:03
  But
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  had
• 13:04
  a
• 13:04
  hard,
• 13:05
  hard
• 13:05
  stop
• 13:06
  right
• 13:06
  around
• 13:06
  here.
• 13:07
  And
• 13:08
  what
• 13:08
  was
• 13:08
  beyond
• 13:08
  that
• 13:09
  was
• 13:09
  silent.
• 13:10
  I
• 13:11
  couldn't.
• 13:11
  Yeah.
• 13:12
  Sound.
• 13:13
  And
• 13:13
  in
• 13:13
  my
• 13:13
  first
• 13:15
  weekend
• 13:15
  with
• 13:16
  these
• 13:16
  teachers,
• 13:17
  I
• 13:17
  went
• 13:17
  almost
• 13:18
  to
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  top
• 13:18
  of
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  piano.
• 13:19
  Wow.
• 13:20
  And
• 13:20
  it
• 13:21
  looks
• 13:21
  like
• 13:22
  my
• 13:23
  story
• 13:23
  about
• 13:23
  myself
• 13:24
  just
• 13:24
  fell
• 13:24
  apart.
• 13:25
  You
• 13:25
  know,
• 13:25
  it's
• 13:25
  like
• 13:26
  I'm
• 13:27
  wrong
• 13:27
  about
• 13:27
  me.
• 13:27
  How
• 13:28
  else
• 13:28
  am
• 13:28
  I
• 13:28
  wrong
• 13:28
  about
• 13:29
  me?
• 13:29
  And
• 13:29
  that
• 13:30
  question
• 13:30
  has
• 13:31
  been
• 13:31
  carrying
• 13:31
  me
• 13:32
  along.
• 13:32
  But
• 13:33
  there
• 13:33
  was
• 13:33
  a
• 13:33
  ton
• 13:33
  of
• 13:34
  stuff
• 13:34
  sitting
• 13:34
  on
• 13:34
  that
• 13:35
  high,
• 13:35
  soft
• 13:35
  voice
• 13:36
  a
• 13:36
  lot
• 13:36
  of
• 13:37
  us
• 13:37
  can't
• 13:37
  find.
• 13:38
  You
• 13:38
  know,
• 13:38
  it's
• 13:38
  not
• 13:39
  the
• 13:39
  high
• 13:39
  scream.
• 13:40
  Although
• 13:40
  I
• 13:40
  did
• 13:41
  get
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  a
• 13:41
  high
• 13:41
  scream
• 13:42
  when
• 13:42
  I
• 13:42
  was
• 13:42
  up
• 13:43
  here.
• 13:43
  Sounded
• 13:43
  like
• 13:44
  a
• 13:44
  bird.
• 13:46
  But
• 13:46
  a
• 13:47
  lot
• 13:47
  of
• 13:47
  us
• 13:47
  don't
• 13:47
  want
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  go
• 13:48
  into
• 13:48
  that
• 13:48
  light,
• 13:49
  soft
• 13:49
  voice
• 13:50
  because
• 13:50
  that's
• 13:51
  how
• 13:51
  we
• 13:51
  sound
• 13:51
  when
• 13:51
  we're,
• 13:52
  when
• 13:52
  we're
• 13:52
  little.
• 13:55
  Everybody
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  know
• 13:56
  got
• 13:56
  the
• 13:56
  hell
• 13:56
  out
• 13:57
  of
• 13:57
  childhood
• 13:57
  as
• 13:58
  quickly
• 13:58
  as
• 13:58
  possible.
• 13:59
  Right.
• 14:00
  But
• 14:00
  I
• 14:00
  feel
• 14:01
  like
• 14:01
  that's
• 14:01
  where
• 14:01
  we
• 14:01
  all
• 14:02
  need
• 14:02
  to
• 14:02
  go
• 14:02
  back.
• 14:02
  It's.
• 14:03
  That's
• 14:04
  what
• 14:04
  softens
• 14:04
  you
• 14:05
  when
• 14:05
  you
• 14:05
  can.
• 14:06
  You
• 14:06
  Know,
• 14:06
  I
• 14:06
  noticed
• 14:07
  even
• 14:07
  when
• 14:07
  I'm
• 14:08
  just
• 14:08
  doing,
• 14:08
  like,
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  solo
• 14:09
  episode
• 14:09
  of
• 14:10
  a
• 14:10
  podcast,
• 14:10
  and
• 14:10
  when
• 14:11
  I
• 14:11
  get
• 14:11
  to
• 14:11
  that.
• 14:12
  That
• 14:12
  moment,
• 14:13
  it's.
• 14:14
  You
• 14:14
  feel
• 14:14
  it.
• 14:15
  You
• 14:15
  feel
• 14:15
  it
• 14:15
  when
• 14:15
  your
• 14:16
  voice
• 14:16
  shifts
• 14:16
  and
• 14:17
  you.
• 14:18
  All
• 14:18
  of
• 14:18
  a
• 14:18
  sudden,
• 14:18
  it's
• 14:19
  like,
• 14:19
  wow.
• 14:19
  It's
• 14:20
  that.
• 14:20
  That
• 14:20
  pause
• 14:21
  and
• 14:21
  that
• 14:22
  quiet,
• 14:22
  and
• 14:23
  you.
• 14:23
  You
• 14:23
  feel
• 14:23
  the
• 14:24
  whole
• 14:24
  shift,
• 14:25
  right?
• 14:26
  It's.
• 14:26
  And
• 14:27
  it
• 14:27
  doesn't
• 14:27
  have
• 14:27
  any
• 14:27
  muscle.
• 14:28
  This
• 14:28
  voice
• 14:29
  is
• 14:30
  light
• 14:30
  and
• 14:31
  sweet,
• 14:31
  and
• 14:32
  this
• 14:32
  was
• 14:32
  like,
• 14:33
  usually
• 14:33
  the
• 14:34
  voice
• 14:34
  that's
• 14:34
  the
• 14:35
  hardest
• 14:35
  or
• 14:35
  that
• 14:35
  you
• 14:36
  like
• 14:36
  the
• 14:36
  least
• 14:37
  has
• 14:37
  the
• 14:37
  greatest
• 14:37
  gifts
• 14:38
  for
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  because
• 14:38
  it
• 14:39
  represents
• 14:39
  part
• 14:40
  of
• 14:40
  you
• 14:40
  that's
• 14:40
  been
• 14:40
  exiled
• 14:41
  or
• 14:42
  shut
• 14:42
  down
• 14:42
  somehow.
• 14:43
  It's
• 14:43
  still
• 14:43
  waiting.
• 14:44
  That's
• 14:44
  the
• 14:45
  beauty
• 14:45
  of
• 14:45
  it,
• 14:46
  the
• 14:46
  generosity
• 14:47
  of
• 14:47
  it.
• 14:47
  But,
• 14:48
  boy,
• 14:48
  did
• 14:48
  I
• 14:49
  cry
• 14:49
  a
• 14:49
  lot
• 14:49
  of
• 14:49
  tears
• 14:50
  to
• 14:50
  welcome
• 14:50
  this.
• 14:51
  I
• 14:51
  didn't
• 14:52
  think
• 14:52
  this
• 14:52
  was
• 14:52
  my
• 14:52
  birthright,
• 14:53
  being
• 14:54
  who
• 14:54
  I
• 14:54
  am.
• 14:55
  And,
• 14:56
  you
• 14:56
  know,
• 14:57
  I'll
• 14:57
  never
• 14:57
  be
• 14:57
  like,
• 14:57
  hello,
• 14:58
  girl,
• 14:58
  you
• 14:59
  know,
• 15:01
  but,
• 15:01
  oh,
• 15:01
  my
• 15:02
  goodness.
• 15:02
  Now,
• 15:03
  I
• 15:03
  love
• 15:03
  this
• 15:03
  part
• 15:04
  of
• 15:04
  my
• 15:04
  voice,
• 15:04
  and
• 15:04
  I
• 15:04
  sing
• 15:05
  with
• 15:05
  it
• 15:05
  a
• 15:05
  lot.
• 15:06
  It
• 15:06
  has
• 15:06
  really.
• 15:07
  It
• 15:07
  can
• 15:08
  be
• 15:08
  sensual,
• 15:08
  it
• 15:08
  can
• 15:09
  be
• 15:09
  sweet,
• 15:09
  it
• 15:10
  can
• 15:10
  be
• 15:10
  dreamy,
• 15:11
  it
• 15:11
  can
• 15:11
  be
• 15:12
  innocent,
• 15:13
  vulnerable.
• 15:14
  And
• 15:14
  that's
• 15:15
  the
• 15:15
  air
• 15:15
  part
• 15:15
  of
• 15:15
  your
• 15:15
  voice.
• 15:16
  So
• 15:16
  you.
• 15:17
  So
• 15:17
  you
• 15:18
  take
• 15:18
  people
• 15:18
  when
• 15:18
  you
• 15:18
  first
• 15:19
  see
• 15:19
  if
• 15:19
  they
• 15:19
  can
• 15:19
  just
• 15:20
  kind
• 15:20
  of
• 15:20
  embrace
• 15:21
  each
• 15:21
  one
• 15:22
  of
• 15:22
  these
• 15:22
  voices,
• 15:23
  right?
• 15:24
  Using
• 15:24
  characters.
• 15:25
  Because
• 15:25
  your
• 15:26
  ego
• 15:26
  and
• 15:26
  mine
• 15:27
  has
• 15:28
  us
• 15:28
  on
• 15:28
  a
• 15:28
  really
• 15:28
  short
• 15:29
  leash,
• 15:29
  right.
• 15:30
  Just
• 15:30
  trying
• 15:30
  to
• 15:31
  protect
• 15:31
  us.
• 15:31
  You
• 15:31
  know,
• 15:31
  it's
• 15:32
  like,
• 15:32
  this
• 15:32
  is
• 15:32
  who
• 15:32
  we
• 15:32
  are
• 15:33
  and
• 15:33
  this
• 15:33
  is
• 15:33
  who
• 15:33
  we're
• 15:34
  not.
• 15:34
  And
• 15:35
  for
• 15:35
  me,
• 15:35
  you
• 15:35
  know,
• 15:36
  mine
• 15:36
  was
• 15:36
  like,
• 15:36
  I'm
• 15:37
  a
• 15:37
  tall,
• 15:39
  strong
• 15:40
  Midwesterner,
• 15:42
  no
• 15:42
  nonsense,
• 15:43
  German,
• 15:43
  Scots,
• 15:44
  Irish,
• 15:44
  parents.
• 15:45
  You
• 15:45
  know,
• 15:45
  it's
• 15:45
  like
• 15:46
  teachers,
• 15:46
  you
• 15:46
  know,
• 15:47
  a
• 15:47
  lot
• 15:47
  of
• 15:47
  control
• 15:49
  and
• 15:49
  a
• 15:49
  deep
• 15:49
  voice.
• 15:50
  And
• 15:50
  so
• 15:50
  there
• 15:51
  was
• 15:51
  whole
• 15:51
  aspects
• 15:51
  of
• 15:52
  me
• 15:52
  that
• 15:52
  I
• 15:52
  just
• 15:52
  felt
• 15:52
  like,
• 15:53
  oh,
• 15:53
  that's
• 15:53
  just
• 15:53
  not
• 15:54
  me.
• 15:54
  Well,
• 15:54
  guess
• 15:54
  what?
• 15:55
  That
• 15:55
  story
• 15:56
  is
• 15:56
  too
• 15:56
  small
• 15:56
  for
• 15:57
  all
• 15:57
  of
• 15:57
  us.
• 15:57
  And
• 15:58
  so
• 15:58
  using
• 15:59
  an
• 15:59
  archetype
• 16:00
  or
• 16:00
  a
• 16:00
  character,
• 16:02
  you
• 16:02
  might
• 16:03
  not
• 16:03
  be
• 16:03
  able
• 16:03
  to
• 16:04
  make
• 16:04
  a
• 16:04
  sound
• 16:05
  in
• 16:05
  quotes,
• 16:06
  but
• 16:06
  the
• 16:06
  character
• 16:07
  might
• 16:08
  like,
• 16:09
  I
• 16:09
  couldn't
• 16:10
  make
• 16:10
  sound
• 16:10
  way
• 16:10
  up
• 16:10
  there,
• 16:10
  but
• 16:11
  that
• 16:11
  bird
• 16:11
  that
• 16:12
  was
• 16:12
  filling
• 16:12
  me
• 16:13
  up,
• 16:13
  and
• 16:14
  I
• 16:14
  could
• 16:14
  feel
• 16:14
  it.
• 16:15
  I
• 16:15
  could
• 16:15
  feel
• 16:15
  this
• 16:16
  fierce,
• 16:17
  ah,
• 16:18
  you
• 16:18
  know,
• 16:19
  rap,
• 16:19
  right?
• 16:21
  And,
• 16:22
  you
• 16:23
  know,
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  might
• 16:24
  not
• 16:24
  be
• 16:25
  able
• 16:25
  to
• 16:25
  make
• 16:26
  sound
• 16:26
  down
• 16:26
  here,
• 16:27
  but
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  big,
• 16:28
  you
• 16:28
  know,
• 16:29
  stupid
• 16:30
  cave
• 16:30
  person
• 16:31
  can.
• 16:32
  Oh,
• 16:32
  yeah.
• 16:32
  Or
• 16:32
  big
• 16:33
  pooh
• 16:33
  bear,
• 16:33
  Teddy
• 16:34
  bear,
• 16:34
  whatever
• 16:34
  it
• 16:34
  is.
• 16:35
  Yeah,
• 16:35
  whatever
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  have
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  picture.
• 16:36
  Yeah.
• 16:37
  So
• 16:37
  we
• 16:37
  use
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  characters
• 16:38
  to
• 16:38
  kind
• 16:39
  of
• 16:39
  sneak
• 16:39
  by
• 16:40
  the
• 16:40
  ego,
• 16:41
  but
• 16:41
  also
• 16:41
  it'll
• 16:42
  help
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  remember
• 16:42
  it
• 16:43
  later
• 16:43
  because
• 16:43
  the
• 16:43
  ego
• 16:44
  kind
• 16:44
  of
• 16:44
  has
• 16:45
  antibodies.
• 16:46
  It's
• 16:46
  like,
• 16:46
  oh,
• 16:46
  anything
• 16:47
  that's
• 16:47
  not
• 16:47
  us
• 16:48
  gets
• 16:48
  killed.
• 16:49
  And
• 16:49
  so
• 16:50
  it
• 16:50
  helps
• 16:50
  you
• 16:51
  sort
• 16:51
  of
• 16:52
  find
• 16:52
  Your
• 16:52
  way
• 16:52
  back
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  that
• 16:53
  part
• 16:53
  of
• 16:53
  your
• 16:54
  voice
• 16:54
  and
• 16:54
  thus
• 16:55
  that
• 16:55
  part
• 16:55
  of
• 16:56
  you.
• 16:56
  Your
• 16:57
  personality.
• 16:57
  Right.
• 16:58
  Can
• 16:59
  you
• 16:59
  talk
• 16:59
  a
• 16:59
  little
• 16:59
  bit?
• 17:00
  And
• 17:00
  I
• 17:00
  know
• 17:01
  this
• 17:01
  is.
• 17:03
  Like
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  said,
• 17:03
  I
• 17:03
  do
• 17:03
  this
• 17:03
  voice
• 17:04
  scan,
• 17:04
  and
• 17:04
  it
• 17:05
  analyzes
• 17:05
  the
• 17:06
  top
• 17:06
  three
• 17:06
  notes
• 17:07
  and
• 17:07
  then
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  suppressed
• 17:08
  emotion.
• 17:08
  So
• 17:08
  it's
• 17:09
  like
• 17:09
  your
• 17:09
  top
• 17:09
  three
• 17:09
  notes
• 17:10
  and
• 17:10
  then
• 17:10
  your
• 17:10
  lowest
• 17:10
  note.
• 17:11
  And
• 17:11
  the
• 17:12
  way
• 17:12
  it
• 17:12
  was
• 17:12
  described
• 17:13
  to
• 17:13
  me
• 17:14
  was
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  top
• 17:14
  three
• 17:15
  notes
• 17:15
  are
• 17:16
  kind
• 17:16
  of
• 17:16
  usually
• 17:17
  things
• 17:17
  you're
• 17:17
  overcompensating
• 17:19
  for.
• 17:21
  What
• 17:22
  does
• 17:22
  that
• 17:22
  hit
• 17:23
  with
• 17:23
  you
• 17:23
  at
• 17:23
  all?
• 17:23
  Does
• 17:23
  that
• 17:24
  mean
• 17:24
  anything
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  you,
• 17:25
  or.
• 17:26
  I
• 17:26
  don't.
• 17:26
  I
• 17:26
  don't.
• 17:27
  I
• 17:27
  don't
• 17:27
  understand
• 17:27
  the
• 17:28
  system
• 17:28
  you're
• 17:28
  working.
• 17:29
  Okay.
• 17:29
  But
• 17:30
  I
• 17:30
  do
• 17:30
  know
• 17:31
  that
• 17:31
  how
• 17:31
  we
• 17:31
  do
• 17:31
  anything
• 17:32
  is
• 17:32
  pretty
• 17:32
  much
• 17:32
  how
• 17:32
  we
• 17:33
  do
• 17:33
  everything.
• 17:33
  Everything.
• 17:34
  Yep.
• 17:34
  So
• 17:35
  the
• 17:35
  people
• 17:35
  who
• 17:36
  just
• 17:37
  don't
• 17:38
  kind
• 17:38
  of
• 17:39
  invest
• 17:39
  a
• 17:39
  lot
• 17:39
  of
• 17:39
  energy,
• 17:40
  you
• 17:40
  know,
• 17:40
  that
• 17:41
  kind
• 17:41
  of
• 17:41
  lay
• 17:41
  back
• 17:42
  that
• 17:43
  is
• 17:43
  usually
• 17:43
  evident
• 17:44
  in
• 17:44
  how
• 17:44
  they
• 17:44
  use
• 17:45
  their
• 17:45
  voice,
• 17:45
  how
• 17:46
  they
• 17:46
  speak,
• 17:46
  how
• 17:46
  they
• 17:46
  move,
• 17:47
  and.
• 17:48
  And
• 17:48
  then
• 17:48
  there
• 17:48
  are
• 17:48
  those
• 17:49
  of
• 17:49
  us
• 17:49
  that
• 17:49
  try
• 17:49
  too
• 17:50
  hard.
• 17:50
  I
• 17:50
  mean,
• 17:50
  I'm
• 17:50
  going
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  be
• 17:51
  working
• 17:51
  with
• 17:51
  trying
• 17:51
  too
• 17:52
  hard
• 17:52
  till
• 17:52
  I'm
• 17:53
  dead.
• 17:54
  Right,
• 17:54
  right.
• 17:54
  Because,
• 17:55
  you
• 17:55
  know,
• 17:55
  we
• 17:56
  just.
• 17:56
  I
• 17:57
  have
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  lot
• 17:57
  of
• 17:57
  energy,
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  sometimes
• 17:59
  I
• 17:59
  don't
• 17:59
  need
• 18:00
  that
• 18:00
  much.
• 18:01
  And
• 18:02
  for
• 18:02
  me,
• 18:03
  the
• 18:03
  voice.
• 18:03
  And
• 18:04
  I
• 18:04
  am
• 18:04
  a
• 18:04
  singer.
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  write
• 18:05
  songs.
• 18:06
  That
• 18:06
  is
• 18:06
  one
• 18:07
  of
• 18:07
  the
• 18:07
  constant
• 18:07
  things
• 18:08
  when
• 18:08
  I'm
• 18:08
  getting
• 18:09
  ready
• 18:09
  for
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  concert
• 18:10
  here
• 18:10
  in
• 18:10
  a
• 18:10
  couple
• 18:10
  weeks
• 18:11
  in
• 18:11
  my
• 18:11
  little
• 18:11
  town,
• 18:12
  and
• 18:13
  as
• 18:13
  I'm
• 18:14
  practicing,
• 18:14
  I'm
• 18:15
  like,
• 18:16
  you
• 18:16
  know,
• 18:17
  less
• 18:17
  is,
• 18:18
  you
• 18:18
  don't
• 18:18
  need
• 18:18
  all
• 18:18
  that.
• 18:19
  You
• 18:19
  don't.
• 18:19
  You're
• 18:20
  wasting
• 18:20
  it.
• 18:20
  You're
• 18:20
  pushing.
• 18:21
  And
• 18:22
  so
• 18:23
  I
• 18:23
  don't
• 18:23
  understand
• 18:23
  the
• 18:24
  system.
• 18:24
  It's
• 18:24
  fascinating
• 18:25
  to
• 18:25
  me.
• 18:25
  I've
• 18:25
  never
• 18:25
  heard
• 18:26
  of
• 18:26
  it.
• 18:26
  It
• 18:26
  really
• 18:27
  is.
• 18:27
  It's
• 18:27
  basically
• 18:27
  taking
• 18:28
  all
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  the
• 18:28
  frequencies.
• 18:29
  So
• 18:29
  it's
• 18:29
  not
• 18:30
  just
• 18:30
  looking
• 18:30
  at
• 18:30
  your
• 18:30
  voice.
• 18:31
  It's
• 18:31
  the
• 18:31
  same
• 18:32
  basic.
• 18:32
  Basic
• 18:33
  technology
• 18:33
  is
• 18:33
  a
• 18:33
  lie
• 18:34
  detector
• 18:34
  test.
• 18:35
  Oh,
• 18:35
  wow,
• 18:35
  cool.
• 18:36
  So.
• 18:36
  But
• 18:36
  it.
• 18:37
  It's
• 18:37
  gone
• 18:37
  a
• 18:37
  lot
• 18:37
  farther
• 18:38
  than
• 18:38
  that.
• 18:38
  And
• 18:38
  it
• 18:39
  takes
• 18:39
  171,000
• 18:41
  different
• 18:41
  frequencies.
• 18:42
  So
• 18:42
  it
• 18:42
  goes
• 18:42
  through
• 18:42
  your
• 18:42
  chakras
• 18:43
  and
• 18:43
  your
• 18:43
  meridians
• 18:44
  and
• 18:44
  your
• 18:44
  left
• 18:44
  knee
• 18:45
  because
• 18:45
  it
• 18:45
  knows
• 18:45
  that
• 18:46
  every
• 18:46
  single
• 18:46
  cell
• 18:46
  in
• 18:47
  your
• 18:47
  body
• 18:47
  has
• 18:47
  a
• 18:47
  certain
• 18:48
  frequency,
• 18:48
  and
• 18:49
  it
• 18:49
  kind
• 18:49
  of
• 18:49
  analyzes
• 18:50
  those
• 18:50
  for
• 18:50
  imbalances.
• 18:51
  So
• 18:51
  it
• 18:51
  does
• 18:52
  make
• 18:52
  sense
• 18:52
  in
• 18:52
  that
• 18:54
  if
• 18:54
  you're
• 18:54
  taking
• 18:55
  a
• 18:55
  lie
• 18:55
  detector
• 18:55
  test
• 18:56
  and
• 18:56
  you
• 18:57
  know
• 18:57
  it's
• 18:57
  all
• 18:57
  subconscious.
• 18:58
  I
• 18:58
  mean,
• 18:58
  you
• 18:58
  can't
• 18:59
  control
• 18:59
  it
• 19:00
  where
• 19:00
  you
• 19:01
  work
• 19:01
  more
• 19:01
  on
• 19:01
  the
• 19:02
  conscious
• 19:02
  level
• 19:02
  of
• 19:03
  being
• 19:03
  able
• 19:03
  to
• 19:03
  put
• 19:03
  yourself
• 19:04
  in
• 19:04
  that
• 19:04
  pattern.
• 19:05
  So
• 19:05
  you're
• 19:05
  like
• 19:06
  one
• 19:06
  step
• 19:06
  above
• 19:07
  where
• 19:07
  this
• 19:08
  thing
• 19:08
  is.
• 19:08
  Literally,
• 19:09
  you
• 19:09
  can't
• 19:10
  do
• 19:10
  anything
• 19:10
  to
• 19:11
  manipulate
• 19:11
  it.
• 19:11
  It
• 19:12
  just
• 19:12
  is
• 19:12
  what
• 19:12
  it
• 19:12
  is.
• 19:13
  Yeah.
• 19:13
  It's
• 19:13
  A
• 19:13
  diagnostic.
• 19:15
  So.
• 19:15
  Yeah.
• 19:16
  And
• 19:16
  it's
• 19:16
  not.
• 19:16
  You
• 19:16
  know,
• 19:16
  we
• 19:17
  don't
• 19:17
  say
• 19:17
  it's
• 19:17
  diagnostic,
• 19:18
  but
• 19:18
  we.
• 19:19
  It
• 19:19
  is.
• 19:19
  It's
• 19:20
  analyzing
• 19:20
  frequency.
• 19:21
  So.
• 19:22
  But
• 19:22
  I
• 19:23
  just
• 19:23
  wondered.
• 19:24
  I.
• 19:24
  Because
• 19:24
  I
• 19:25
  know.
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  mean,
• 19:25
  I
• 19:25
  guess
• 19:25
  if
• 19:25
  I
• 19:26
  think
• 19:26
  through
• 19:26
  it
• 19:26
  logically,
• 19:26
  if
• 19:27
  somebody
• 19:27
  asked
• 19:28
  me,
• 19:28
  how
• 19:28
  you
• 19:28
  doing
• 19:28
  today,
• 19:29
  Tammy?
• 19:29
  And
• 19:29
  I'm
• 19:30
  really
• 19:30
  sad.
• 19:31
  My
• 19:32
  voice
• 19:32
  is
• 19:32
  going
• 19:32
  to
• 19:33
  be
• 19:34
  what
• 19:34
  I
• 19:34
  think
• 19:34
  I
• 19:35
  should
• 19:35
  be,
• 19:35
  so
• 19:36
  I'm
• 19:36
  going
• 19:36
  to
• 19:36
  be
• 19:36
  probably
• 19:37
  putting
• 19:37
  out
• 19:37
  those
• 19:38
  frequencies
• 19:38
  of
• 19:39
  more
• 19:39
  happy
• 19:39
  than
• 19:39
  I
• 19:40
  really
• 19:40
  am
• 19:41
  to.
• 19:42
  To
• 19:42
  fake
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  system,
• 19:43
  I
• 19:43
  guess.
• 19:44
  Well,
• 19:44
  and
• 19:44
  we're
• 19:44
  always
• 19:45
  doing
• 19:45
  that,
• 19:45
  Tammy.
• 19:46
  It's.
• 19:48
  And
• 19:48
  our
• 19:48
  voices
• 19:48
  are
• 19:49
  telling
• 19:50
  so
• 19:50
  much
• 19:50
  information
• 19:51
  about
• 19:51
  us,
• 19:51
  you
• 19:52
  know,
• 19:52
  it's
• 19:52
  like
• 19:53
  our
• 19:54
  physical
• 19:54
  state,
• 19:55
  you
• 19:55
  know?
• 19:56
  You
• 19:56
  know,
• 19:57
  when
• 19:57
  I'm
• 19:57
  tired,
• 19:58
  I
• 19:58
  just
• 19:58
  don't
• 19:58
  have
• 19:58
  a
• 19:59
  lot
• 19:59
  of
• 19:59
  juice,
• 19:59
  you
• 20:00
  know,
• 20:00
  so
• 20:00
  the
• 20:00
  voice
• 20:00
  gets
• 20:01
  kind
• 20:01
  of
• 20:02
  rough
• 20:03
  region,
• 20:05
  accents,
• 20:06
  class
• 20:07
  education,
• 20:08
  trauma,
• 20:10
  mood,
• 20:10
  all
• 20:11
  of
• 20:11
  that.
• 20:11
  I
• 20:11
  was
• 20:12
  a
• 20:12
  caregiver
• 20:12
  for
• 20:12
  my
• 20:13
  sweet
• 20:13
  mom
• 20:13
  for
• 20:13
  about
• 20:14
  15
• 20:14
  years
• 20:14
  before
• 20:15
  she.
• 20:15
  She
• 20:15
  passed.
• 20:16
  And
• 20:17
  I
• 20:18
  could
• 20:18
  tell
• 20:18
  by
• 20:18
  the
• 20:18
  low
• 20:19
  of
• 20:19
  hello
• 20:20
  if
• 20:20
  it
• 20:20
  was
• 20:20
  a
• 20:20
  good
• 20:20
  day
• 20:21
  or
• 20:21
  a
• 20:21
  bad
• 20:21
  day.
• 20:23
  Right.
• 20:24
  Yeah.
• 20:24
  And
• 20:24
  that's
• 20:24
  true
• 20:25
  for
• 20:25
  all
• 20:25
  of
• 20:25
  us
• 20:25
  with
• 20:26
  people
• 20:26
  we
• 20:26
  know
• 20:26
  really
• 20:26
  well.
• 20:27
  And
• 20:27
  so
• 20:28
  we
• 20:29
  think
• 20:29
  we're
• 20:29
  so
• 20:29
  sneaky,
• 20:31
  but
• 20:31
  we're
• 20:31
  really.
• 20:32
  We're
• 20:32
  leaking
• 20:33
  all
• 20:33
  kinds
• 20:34
  of
• 20:34
  information
• 20:35
  about
• 20:35
  us
• 20:37
  to.
• 20:38
  You
• 20:38
  know,
• 20:38
  when
• 20:39
  I
• 20:39
  was
• 20:39
  researching.
• 20:39
  I've
• 20:39
  written
• 20:40
  two
• 20:40
  books
• 20:40
  now,
• 20:41
  and
• 20:41
  when
• 20:42
  I
• 20:42
  was
• 20:42
  researching
• 20:43
  the
• 20:43
  first
• 20:43
  one,
• 20:44
  I
• 20:45
  was
• 20:45
  reading
• 20:45
  a
• 20:45
  bunch
• 20:45
  of
• 20:46
  research
• 20:46
  about
• 20:46
  all
• 20:47
  the
• 20:47
  things
• 20:47
  people
• 20:47
  can
• 20:47
  tell
• 20:48
  by
• 20:48
  hearing
• 20:49
  your
• 20:49
  voice.
• 20:50
  And
• 20:51
  like
• 20:51
  the.
• 20:51
  There
• 20:51
  was
• 20:52
  the
• 20:52
  Exxon
• 20:52
  Valdez
• 20:53
  oil,
• 20:54
  horrible
• 20:54
  oil
• 20:55
  spill
• 20:57
  back
• 20:57
  in
• 20:57
  the
• 20:57
  day,
• 20:58
  and
• 20:58
  they
• 20:59
  analyzed
• 21:00
  the
• 21:00
  captain's
• 21:01
  voice
• 21:01
  and
• 21:01
  could
• 21:01
  tell
• 21:01
  he'd
• 21:02
  been
• 21:02
  drinking.
• 21:03
  Yeah,
• 21:04
  Right.
• 21:04
  And
• 21:05
  doctors
• 21:06
  got
• 21:06
  sued
• 21:07
  more
• 21:07
  often
• 21:07
  if
• 21:07
  they
• 21:08
  talked
• 21:09
  badly
• 21:10
  to
• 21:10
  their
• 21:10
  patients.
• 21:11
  Right.
• 21:12
  Who
• 21:13
  had.
• 21:13
  And
• 21:13
  they
• 21:13
  didn't
• 21:14
  even
• 21:14
  look
• 21:14
  at
• 21:14
  the
• 21:14
  words.
• 21:14
  They
• 21:15
  just
• 21:15
  looked
• 21:15
  at
• 21:15
  the
• 21:15
  tone.
• 21:16
  And.
• 21:16
  And
• 21:16
  I
• 21:16
  think
• 21:17
  that
• 21:17
  tone
• 21:17
  is
• 21:18
  really
• 21:18
  where
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  live
• 21:19
  in
• 21:20
  looking
• 21:20
  at
• 21:20
  the
• 21:21
  voice.
• 21:21
  Because
• 21:22
  we
• 21:22
  spend
• 21:22
  a
• 21:22
  lot
• 21:23
  of
• 21:23
  time
• 21:23
  thinking
• 21:23
  about
• 21:23
  our
• 21:24
  words,
• 21:25
  but
• 21:25
  if
• 21:25
  our
• 21:25
  tone
• 21:26
  and
• 21:26
  our
• 21:26
  words
• 21:26
  are
• 21:27
  at
• 21:27
  odds,
• 21:28
  people
• 21:28
  are
• 21:28
  going
• 21:28
  to
• 21:28
  believe
• 21:28
  the
• 21:29
  tone.
• 21:30
  Well,
• 21:30
  I
• 21:30
  mean,
• 21:30
  how
• 21:30
  many
• 21:31
  times
• 21:31
  do
• 21:31
  you
• 21:31
  hear
• 21:31
  the
• 21:31
  expression,
• 21:32
  it's
• 21:32
  not
• 21:32
  what
• 21:32
  you
• 21:33
  say,
• 21:33
  it's
• 21:33
  how
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  say
• 21:33
  it.
• 21:34
  Exactly.
• 21:35
  And
• 21:35
  we've
• 21:35
  all
• 21:35
  given
• 21:36
  and
• 21:36
  received
• 21:37
  the
• 21:37
  apology.
• 21:38
  That
• 21:38
  sounds
• 21:38
  like,
• 21:39
  I'm
• 21:39
  sorry.
• 21:40
  Yep,
• 21:42
  yep.
• 21:43
  Maybe
• 21:43
  not.
• 21:44
  Yeah,
• 21:44
  yeah,
• 21:44
  yeah.
• 21:45
  You're.
• 21:45
  That's
• 21:46
  an
• 21:46
  extreme.
• 21:46
  But
• 21:47
  we're.
• 21:47
  No,
• 21:47
  no,
• 21:47
  no.
• 21:48
  Having
• 21:48
  our
• 21:49
  words.
• 21:49
  You
• 21:49
  know,
• 21:50
  I'm
• 21:50
  really
• 21:50
  excited
• 21:51
  to
• 21:52
  tell
• 21:52
  you
• 21:52
  about
• 21:52
  this.
• 21:52
  It's
• 21:53
  like,
• 21:53
  no,
• 21:53
  you're
• 21:53
  not.
• 21:53
  You.
• 21:54
  You
• 21:54
  might
• 21:54
  be,
• 21:55
  but
• 21:55
  we
• 21:56
  don't
• 21:56
  know
• 21:56
  it.
• 21:57
  No,
• 21:58
  you
• 21:58
  know,
• 21:58
  that's
• 21:59
  so
• 21:59
  true.
• 21:59
  I
• 21:59
  Mean,
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  can.
• 22:00
  And
• 22:00
  that's
• 22:00
  why
• 22:01
  I
• 22:01
  think
• 22:01
  texting
• 22:02
  is
• 22:02
  so
• 22:03
  dangerous
• 22:03
  sometimes,
• 22:04
  because
• 22:04
  you
• 22:04
  can't
• 22:05
  read
• 22:05
  people's
• 22:06
  tone
• 22:07
  in
• 22:07
  a
• 22:07
  text,
• 22:08
  in
• 22:08
  written
• 22:09
  word.
• 22:10
  So
• 22:10
  it's
• 22:10
  like,
• 22:10
  there's
• 22:10
  so
• 22:11
  many
• 22:11
  misinterpretations,
• 22:12
  and
• 22:12
  it's
• 22:12
  like,
• 22:12
  no,
• 22:12
  I
• 22:12
  didn't
• 22:13
  mean
• 22:13
  it
• 22:13
  like
• 22:13
  that.
• 22:13
  Well,
• 22:13
  that's
• 22:14
  what
• 22:14
  the
• 22:14
  word
• 22:14
  said.
• 22:15
  But
• 22:15
  if
• 22:15
  you
• 22:15
  had
• 22:15
  heard
• 22:16
  me
• 22:16
  say
• 22:16
  it,
• 22:17
  it
• 22:17
  would
• 22:17
  have
• 22:17
  been
• 22:17
  totally
• 22:18
  different.
• 22:18
  Let
• 22:19
  me.
• 22:20
  When
• 22:20
  you.
• 22:20
  You
• 22:20
  said
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  used
• 22:21
  a
• 22:21
  lot
• 22:21
  of
• 22:21
  this
• 22:21
  for
• 22:22
  healing.
• 22:22
  When
• 22:22
  people
• 22:23
  start
• 22:23
  to
• 22:23
  access
• 22:24
  their
• 22:24
  voice
• 22:24
  and
• 22:25
  haven't
• 22:25
  really
• 22:25
  been
• 22:26
  able
• 22:26
  to
• 22:26
  do
• 22:26
  that,
• 22:27
  I'm
• 22:27
  assuming
• 22:28
  this
• 22:28
  can
• 22:28
  bring
• 22:29
  up
• 22:29
  all
• 22:29
  kinds
• 22:30
  of
• 22:30
  emotions
• 22:30
  they
• 22:30
  were
• 22:31
  not
• 22:31
  expecting,
• 22:31
  correct?
• 22:32
  Absolutely.
• 22:33
  Lots
• 22:33
  of
• 22:33
  tears.
• 22:34
  And
• 22:34
  here's
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  thing,
• 22:35
  as
• 22:35
  one
• 22:35
  of
• 22:36
  my
• 22:36
  teachers
• 22:36
  says,
• 22:37
  it's
• 22:37
  not
• 22:37
  therapy,
• 22:38
  but
• 22:38
  it's
• 22:38
  therapy
• 22:38
  therapeutic.
• 22:39
  And
• 22:40
  so
• 22:42
  I
• 22:42
  don't.
• 22:42
  I'm
• 22:42
  not
• 22:43
  a
• 22:43
  therapist.
• 22:43
  I'm
• 22:43
  not
• 22:43
  trained
• 22:44
  in
• 22:44
  that.
• 22:44
  I
• 22:44
  don't
• 22:45
  want
• 22:45
  to
• 22:45
  be.
• 22:46
  And.
• 22:49
  Sometimes
• 22:49
  therapists
• 22:50
  will
• 22:50
  send
• 22:51
  people
• 22:51
  to
• 22:51
  me
• 22:51
  to
• 22:52
  work
• 22:52
  with
• 22:52
  the
• 22:52
  voice,
• 22:52
  sort
• 22:53
  of
• 22:53
  in.
• 22:54
  In.
• 22:55
  In
• 22:55
  conjunction
• 22:56
  with
• 22:56
  the
• 22:57
  work
• 22:57
  they're
• 22:57
  doing,
• 22:57
  you
• 22:57
  know,
• 22:58
  right.
• 22:58
  Patient.
• 23:01
  But
• 23:02
  I
• 23:02
  just
• 23:02
  listen,
• 23:03
  you
• 23:03
  know,
• 23:04
  and.
• 23:04
  And
• 23:04
  I
• 23:05
  think
• 23:05
  sometimes,
• 23:07
  I
• 23:07
  don't
• 23:07
  know.
• 23:07
  I've
• 23:08
  done
• 23:08
  a
• 23:08
  lot
• 23:08
  of
• 23:08
  therapy.
• 23:08
  I'm
• 23:09
  really
• 23:09
  grateful
• 23:09
  for.
• 23:10
  For
• 23:10
  its,
• 23:11
  you
• 23:12
  know,
• 23:12
  impact
• 23:12
  on
• 23:12
  my
• 23:13
  life.
• 23:13
  And
• 23:13
  now
• 23:14
  I'm
• 23:14
  in
• 23:14
  my
• 23:14
  60s,
• 23:15
  and
• 23:15
  I
• 23:16
  don't
• 23:16
  think
• 23:16
  there's
• 23:16
  a
• 23:16
  lot
• 23:16
  of
• 23:17
  new
• 23:17
  material.
• 23:18
  You
• 23:18
  know,
• 23:19
  I
• 23:19
  know
• 23:19
  the
• 23:19
  stories.
• 23:20
  I
• 23:21
  know
• 23:21
  the
• 23:21
  stories,
• 23:21
  and
• 23:22
  I'm
• 23:22
  a
• 23:22
  little
• 23:22
  bored
• 23:23
  with
• 23:23
  my
• 23:23
  own
• 23:23
  stories.
• 23:25
  I'm
• 23:26
  more
• 23:26
  interested
• 23:26
  in
• 23:27
  how
• 23:27
  alive
• 23:28
  can
• 23:28
  I
• 23:28
  be
• 23:28
  before
• 23:28
  I'm
• 23:28
  dead?
• 23:29
  Right.
• 23:30
  So
• 23:31
  I
• 23:31
  will
• 23:31
  hear
• 23:32
  them.
• 23:32
  I
• 23:32
  will
• 23:32
  bear
• 23:33
  witness,
• 23:35
  but
• 23:36
  I
• 23:36
  don't
• 23:37
  need
• 23:37
  to
• 23:37
  know
• 23:37
  all
• 23:37
  the
• 23:38
  details.
• 23:38
  And,
• 23:39
  you
• 23:40
  know,
• 23:40
  mostly
• 23:40
  it's
• 23:40
  just
• 23:41
  whatever
• 23:41
  the
• 23:41
  voice
• 23:42
  has
• 23:42
  to
• 23:42
  say.
• 23:42
  Let's
• 23:42
  let
• 23:43
  it
• 23:43
  say
• 23:43
  it,
• 23:43
  and
• 23:43
  then
• 23:44
  have
• 23:44
  the
• 23:45
  giggles
• 23:45
  or
• 23:45
  the
• 23:46
  tears
• 23:46
  or
• 23:46
  the
• 23:47
  shivers
• 23:47
  or
• 23:47
  whatever
• 23:48
  it
• 23:48
  is
• 23:48
  come
• 23:48
  through.
• 23:49
  Right.
• 23:50
  So
• 23:50
  I'm
• 23:50
  gonna.
• 23:51
  I'm
• 23:51
  gonna
• 23:51
  have
• 23:52
  you
• 23:52
  repeat
• 23:52
  the
• 23:53
  five
• 23:53
  elements
• 23:54
  just
• 23:55
  because
• 23:55
  I
• 23:55
  want
• 23:55
  people
• 23:55
  to
• 23:56
  kind
• 23:56
  of
• 23:56
  sit
• 23:56
  here
• 23:56
  that
• 23:57
  are
• 23:57
  listening.
• 23:57
  Now.
• 23:57
  We.
• 23:58
  We
• 23:58
  went
• 23:58
  by
• 23:58
  them
• 23:58
  so
• 23:59
  quickly,
• 23:59
  and
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  want
• 24:00
  you
• 24:00
  to
• 24:00
  repeat
• 24:00
  them
• 24:00
  again
• 24:01
  so
• 24:01
  that
• 24:01
  people,
• 24:01
  if
• 24:02
  you're
• 24:02
  out
• 24:02
  there
• 24:02
  listening,
• 24:03
  kind
• 24:04
  of
• 24:04
  think
• 24:04
  about
• 24:05
  where
• 24:05
  you
• 24:05
  find
• 24:06
  yourself
• 24:06
  on
• 24:06
  a
• 24:06
  regular
• 24:07
  basis,
• 24:07
  kind
• 24:07
  of
• 24:08
  which
• 24:08
  element
• 24:09
  you
• 24:09
  would
• 24:09
  put
• 24:09
  yourself
• 24:10
  in,
• 24:10
  because
• 24:11
  then
• 24:11
  I'm
• 24:11
  going
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  ask
• 24:11
  you
• 24:11
  a
• 24:11
  question
• 24:12
  about
• 24:12
  it,
• 24:12
  if
• 24:12
  you
• 24:12
  don't
• 24:12
  mind
• 24:13
  going
• 24:13
  through
• 24:13
  them
• 24:13
  again.
• 24:13
  Not
• 24:14
  at
• 24:14
  all.
• 24:14
  Not
• 24:14
  at
• 24:14
  all.
• 24:14
  I
• 24:15
  love
• 24:15
  this
• 24:15
  stuff,
• 24:15
  and
• 24:15
  I've
• 24:16
  been
• 24:16
  doing
• 24:16
  it
• 24:16
  for
• 24:16
  a
• 24:16
  long
• 24:16
  time,
• 24:17
  and
• 24:17
  I'm
• 24:17
  easily
• 24:17
  bored,
• 24:18
  so
• 24:18
  it's
• 24:18
  good
• 24:19
  stuff.
• 24:20
  And
• 24:21
  I'm
• 24:21
  going
• 24:21
  to
• 24:21
  Demonstrate
• 24:22
  them
• 24:22
  this
• 24:22
  time
• 24:23
  by
• 24:23
  laughing.
• 24:24
  Okay,
• 24:24
  perfect.
• 24:25
  The
• 24:25
  earth
• 24:26
  is
• 24:26
  sourced
• 24:26
  in
• 24:26
  your
• 24:27
  feet,
• 24:27
  legs,
• 24:27
  hips,
• 24:28
  butt
• 24:29
  parts.
• 24:30
  And.
• 24:31
  And
• 24:31
  it
• 24:32
  sounds
• 24:32
  in
• 24:32
  a
• 24:32
  laugh.
• 24:33
  It
• 24:33
  sounds
• 24:33
  in
• 24:34
  an
• 24:34
  exaggerated
• 24:34
  version.
• 24:35
  I
• 24:35
  always
• 24:35
  start
• 24:35
  with
• 24:35
  the
• 24:36
  exaggerated
• 24:36
  version
• 24:37
  because
• 24:37
  a
• 24:37
  little
• 24:38
  change
• 24:38
  is
• 24:38
  sometimes
• 24:39
  harder
• 24:39
  than
• 24:39
  a
• 24:39
  big
• 24:39
  one.
• 24:40
  So
• 24:40
  the
• 24:41
  earth
• 24:41
  voice
• 24:41
  laughing
• 24:42
  goes
• 24:42
  like.
• 24:45
  Can
• 24:45
  be
• 24:46
  Santa.
• 24:47
  Oh.
• 24:51
  And
• 24:52
  if
• 24:52
  I
• 24:52
  just
• 24:52
  use
• 24:53
  that
• 24:53
  in
• 24:53
  my
• 24:53
  regular
• 24:53
  speaking
• 24:54
  voice,
• 24:54
  this
• 24:54
  is
• 24:55
  my
• 24:55
  Earth
• 24:56
  voice,
• 24:57
  and
• 24:57
  it's
• 24:57
  good
• 24:57
  for
• 24:57
  projecting
• 24:58
  authority,
• 24:59
  getting
• 25:00
  grounded
• 25:00
  and
• 25:01
  reconnecting
• 25:01
  to
• 25:02
  your
• 25:02
  gut
• 25:02
  instinct
• 25:03
  or
• 25:03
  your
• 25:03
  animal
• 25:04
  intelligence.
• 25:05
  It
• 25:05
  takes
• 25:06
  us
• 25:06
  deep
• 25:07
  into
• 25:07
  that
• 25:07
  other
• 25:08
  brain
• 25:08
  we
• 25:08
  have
• 25:09
  in
• 25:09
  our
• 25:09
  guts.
• 25:10
  So
• 25:10
  that's
• 25:11
  Earth.
• 25:13
  Next
• 25:13
  we
• 25:13
  have
• 25:14
  fire,
• 25:14
  which
• 25:14
  is
• 25:15
  sourced
• 25:15
  in
• 25:15
  the
• 25:15
  belly
• 25:16
  and
• 25:16
  the
• 25:16
  solar
• 25:16
  plexus.
• 25:17
  You've
• 25:17
  heard
• 25:18
  that
• 25:18
  expression,
• 25:19
  fire
• 25:19
  in
• 25:19
  the
• 25:19
  belly.
• 25:21
  That's
• 25:21
  what
• 25:21
  this
• 25:21
  is
• 25:21
  all
• 25:21
  about.
• 25:23
  And
• 25:23
  so
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  laugh
• 25:24
  like
• 25:24
  this,
• 25:24
  I
• 25:25
  think
• 25:25
  we're
• 25:25
  going
• 25:25
  to
• 25:25
  be
• 25:25
  sort
• 25:26
  of
• 25:26
  like
• 25:26
  an
• 25:26
  obnoxious
• 25:27
  comic.
• 25:30
  Remember
• 25:30
  Phyllis
• 25:31
  Diller?
• 25:37
  Anyway,
• 25:37
  there's
• 25:38
  the
• 25:38
  fire.
• 25:39
  And
• 25:39
  if
• 25:39
  I
• 25:39
  just
• 25:39
  bring
• 25:40
  fire
• 25:40
  into
• 25:40
  my
• 25:41
  speaking
• 25:41
  voice,
• 25:41
  this
• 25:41
  is
• 25:42
  it.
• 25:42
  And
• 25:42
  it
• 25:43
  sounds
• 25:43
  familiar
• 25:43
  because
• 25:44
  this
• 25:44
  is
• 25:44
  mostly
• 25:45
  where
• 25:45
  I
• 25:45
  talk,
• 25:46
  especially
• 25:46
  in
• 25:46
  an
• 25:46
  interview
• 25:47
  or
• 25:47
  teaching
• 25:48
  or
• 25:48
  something
• 25:48
  like
• 25:48
  that,
• 25:49
  or
• 25:49
  speaking.
• 25:50
  Fire
• 25:51
  is
• 25:51
  good
• 25:51
  for
• 25:52
  expressing
• 25:53
  passion,
• 25:54
  taking
• 25:55
  up
• 25:55
  space,
• 25:56
  being
• 25:56
  seen
• 25:56
  and
• 25:57
  heard,
• 25:57
  and
• 25:58
  for
• 25:58
  waking
• 25:59
  up
• 25:59
  your
• 25:59
  physical
• 25:59
  vitality.
• 26:00
  It's
• 26:00
  the
• 26:01
  kya
• 26:01
  in
• 26:01
  martial
• 26:02
  arts.
• 26:02
  It's
• 26:02
  that
• 26:03
  kind
• 26:03
  of,
• 26:03
  whoa,
• 26:04
  I'm
• 26:05
  awake.
• 26:05
  I'm
• 26:05
  alive.
• 26:07
  Next
• 26:07
  is
• 26:08
  water,
• 26:08
  which
• 26:08
  is
• 26:08
  sourced
• 26:09
  in
• 26:09
  your
• 26:09
  heart
• 26:09
  and
• 26:10
  throat
• 26:10
  areas,
• 26:12
  and
• 26:12
  to
• 26:13
  isolate
• 26:13
  and
• 26:13
  exaggerate
• 26:14
  that
• 26:14
  sound
• 26:14
  with
• 26:15
  a
• 26:15
  laugh.
• 26:15
  We're
• 26:16
  going
• 26:16
  to
• 26:16
  be
• 26:16
  Julia
• 26:16
  Child
• 26:20
  or
• 26:21
  British
• 26:21
  lady.
• 26:26
  And
• 26:27
  if
• 26:27
  I
• 26:27
  bring
• 26:27
  that
• 26:28
  voice
• 26:28
  down
• 26:28
  into
• 26:29
  how
• 26:29
  I
• 26:29
  might
• 26:29
  normally
• 26:30
  talk,
• 26:30
  this
• 26:31
  is
• 26:31
  my
• 26:31
  water
• 26:31
  voice.
• 26:32
  And
• 26:33
  you
• 26:33
  can
• 26:33
  hear
• 26:33
  it's
• 26:34
  more
• 26:34
  flowing,
• 26:34
  a
• 26:35
  little
• 26:35
  higher,
• 26:36
  softer,
• 26:37
  warmer.
• 26:38
  And
• 26:38
  it's
• 26:38
  good
• 26:38
  for
• 26:39
  anything
• 26:39
  your
• 26:39
  heart
• 26:40
  has
• 26:40
  to
• 26:40
  say,
• 26:41
  like,
• 26:42
  I'm
• 26:42
  sorry,
• 26:43
  that
• 26:43
  sounds
• 26:44
  hard.
• 26:46
  I'm
• 26:47
  with
• 26:47
  you.
• 26:47
  In
• 26:48
  fact,
• 26:48
  I've
• 26:48
  noticed
• 26:49
  when
• 26:49
  people
• 26:49
  hear
• 26:50
  hard
• 26:50
  news,
• 26:51
  very
• 26:51
  often,
• 26:52
  they
• 26:52
  cover
• 26:52
  their
• 26:53
  heart
• 26:53
  and
• 26:53
  they
• 26:53
  make
• 26:54
  the
• 26:54
  sound.
• 26:55
  Oh.
• 26:56
  Oh,
• 26:57
  no,
• 26:57
  that's.
• 26:58
  There's
• 26:59
  your
• 26:59
  water.
• 27:00
  It's
• 27:00
  also
• 27:00
  the
• 27:00
  sound
• 27:01
  of
• 27:01
  crying.
• 27:02
  If
• 27:02
  we
• 27:02
  make
• 27:03
  sound
• 27:03
  with
• 27:03
  when
• 27:03
  we
• 27:04
  cry,
• 27:04
  and
• 27:04
  most
• 27:04
  of
• 27:04
  us
• 27:04
  got
• 27:05
  trained
• 27:05
  out
• 27:05
  of
• 27:05
  that,
• 27:05
  like,
• 27:06
  really,
• 27:07
  really
• 27:07
  quick.
• 27:08
  Yeah.
• 27:08
  And
• 27:08
  this
• 27:09
  is
• 27:09
  the
• 27:09
  sound
• 27:09
  of
• 27:10
  crying.
• 27:10
  And
• 27:10
  it's
• 27:10
  also
• 27:11
  the
• 27:11
  sound
• 27:11
  of
• 27:11
  comfort.
• 27:12
  So
• 27:13
  anything
• 27:13
  your
• 27:13
  heart
• 27:14
  has
• 27:14
  to
• 27:14
  say,
• 27:14
  welcome,
• 27:15
  affirmation,
• 27:16
  empathy,
• 27:16
  all
• 27:17
  that.
• 27:18
  Okay,
• 27:18
  two
• 27:19
  to
• 27:19
  go.
• 27:20
  Metal
• 27:21
  is
• 27:21
  sourced
• 27:22
  in
• 27:22
  the
• 27:23
  mask,
• 27:23
  in
• 27:23
  the
• 27:23
  face.
• 27:25
  And
• 27:26
  to
• 27:26
  isolate
• 27:27
  and
• 27:27
  exaggerate
• 27:27
  that,
• 27:28
  we're
• 27:28
  going
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  be
• 27:28
  witches.
• 27:31
  That's
• 27:32
  good
• 27:32
  to
• 27:32
  me.
• 27:32
  Bad.
• 27:33
  I'll
• 27:33
  fix
• 27:34
  you,
• 27:34
  my
• 27:34
  pretty
• 27:35
  and
• 27:35
  your
• 27:35
  little
• 27:36
  dog
• 27:36
  too.
• 27:36
  Yeah,
• 27:37
  so.
• 27:38
  So
• 27:38
  it's
• 27:38
  very,
• 27:39
  very
• 27:39
  bright
• 27:39
  and
• 27:40
  pointy.
• 27:40
  That's
• 27:41
  it's
• 27:41
  like
• 27:41
  sharp,
• 27:42
  like
• 27:42
  metal.
• 27:42
  Right.
• 27:43
  And
• 27:44
  so
• 27:44
  if
• 27:44
  I
• 27:45
  take
• 27:45
  the
• 27:45
  witch
• 27:45
  and
• 27:45
  I
• 27:46
  bring
• 27:46
  it
• 27:46
  more
• 27:46
  into
• 27:46
  how
• 27:47
  I
• 27:47
  would
• 27:47
  normally
• 27:47
  talk.
• 27:48
  This
• 27:49
  is
• 27:49
  my
• 27:49
  metal
• 27:49
  voice.
• 27:51
  So
• 27:51
  I
• 27:52
  used
• 27:52
  to
• 27:52
  use
• 27:52
  this
• 27:52
  with
• 27:53
  my
• 27:53
  mother
• 27:53
  when
• 27:53
  she
• 27:53
  would
• 27:54
  lose
• 27:54
  a
• 27:54
  hearing
• 27:54
  aid
• 27:56
  in
• 27:56
  a
• 27:56
  loud,
• 27:56
  crowded
• 27:57
  place.
• 27:58
  I
• 27:59
  lead
• 27:59
  a
• 27:59
  lot
• 27:59
  of
• 27:59
  groups
• 28:00
  in
• 28:00
  singing,
• 28:00
  and
• 28:00
  if
• 28:00
  we're
• 28:01
  outside,
• 28:01
  I
• 28:01
  can
• 28:02
  do
• 28:02
  this.
• 28:02
  You
• 28:02
  know,
• 28:02
  a
• 28:02
  lot
• 28:03
  of
• 28:03
  sports
• 28:03
  coaches
• 28:04
  have
• 28:04
  this,
• 28:06
  and
• 28:07
  a
• 28:07
  lot
• 28:07
  of
• 28:07
  singers
• 28:08
  from
• 28:08
  the
• 28:08
  Appalachians
• 28:09
  have
• 28:09
  this.
• 28:10
  I
• 28:10
  am
• 28:10
  a
• 28:11
  poor
• 28:11
  wayfaring
• 28:13
  stranger.
• 28:14
  So
• 28:14
  it's
• 28:14
  very
• 28:14
  nasal.
• 28:15
  So
• 28:16
  mostly
• 28:16
  it's
• 28:16
  just
• 28:16
  good
• 28:17
  for
• 28:17
  getting
• 28:17
  loud.
• 28:18
  And
• 28:18
  then
• 28:18
  finally
• 28:19
  we
• 28:20
  have
• 28:20
  air,
• 28:21
  which
• 28:22
  is
• 28:22
  sourced
• 28:22
  in
• 28:23
  the
• 28:23
  crown
• 28:23
  of
• 28:23
  the
• 28:23
  head
• 28:23
  and
• 28:24
  above.
• 28:25
  And
• 28:26
  to
• 28:27
  isolate
• 28:27
  and
• 28:27
  exaggerate
• 28:28
  that
• 28:28
  sound,
• 28:28
  we're
• 28:28
  gonna
• 28:29
  laugh
• 28:30
  like
• 28:30
  babies.
• 28:37
  A
• 28:37
  lot
• 28:38
  of
• 28:38
  us
• 28:38
  talk
• 28:38
  to
• 28:38
  our
• 28:38
  pets
• 28:39
  and
• 28:39
  babies
• 28:40
  like
• 28:40
  this.
• 28:40
  Who's
• 28:41
  a
• 28:41
  good
• 28:41
  boy?
• 28:42
  Who's
• 28:42
  a
• 28:43
  good
• 28:43
  girl?
• 28:43
  Oh,
• 28:44
  you
• 28:44
  know,
• 28:44
  so
• 28:45
  it's
• 28:46
  that
• 28:46
  whole
• 28:47
  exaggerated.
• 28:49
  And
• 28:49
  if
• 28:49
  I
• 28:50
  just
• 28:50
  bring
• 28:50
  it
• 28:50
  into
• 28:51
  how
• 28:51
  I
• 28:51
  would
• 28:51
  normally
• 28:52
  talk.
• 28:52
  This
• 28:53
  is
• 28:53
  my
• 28:53
  air
• 28:54
  voice,
• 28:54
  and
• 28:55
  it's
• 28:55
  good
• 28:55
  for
• 28:55
  storytelling.
• 28:57
  Let
• 28:57
  me
• 28:57
  tell
• 28:57
  you
• 28:58
  a
• 28:58
  story
• 28:58
  about
• 28:58
  that
• 28:59
  or
• 29:00
  about,
• 29:01
  you
• 29:01
  know,
• 29:02
  waking
• 29:02
  up
• 29:02
  the
• 29:02
  imagination
• 29:03
  about
• 29:03
  a
• 29:04
  new
• 29:04
  idea.
• 29:04
  I
• 29:05
  have
• 29:05
  an
• 29:05
  idea.
• 29:06
  And
• 29:07
  it
• 29:07
  also
• 29:08
  reconnects
• 29:08
  us
• 29:09
  to
• 29:09
  spirit
• 29:10
  like
• 29:10
  the
• 29:10
  earth,
• 29:11
  connects
• 29:11
  us
• 29:11
  to
• 29:11
  the
• 29:11
  ground.
• 29:12
  This
• 29:13
  connects
• 29:13
  us
• 29:14
  to
• 29:14
  the
• 29:14
  angelic,
• 29:15
  the
• 29:16
  dream,
• 29:17
  the
• 29:18
  all,
• 29:19
  the
• 29:19
  infinite.
• 29:20
  Ah,
• 29:20
  all
• 29:21
  that.
• 29:22
  So
• 29:22
  that's
• 29:22
  the
• 29:22
  five
• 29:22
  elements.
• 29:23
  I
• 29:24
  love
• 29:24
  it.
• 29:24
  And
• 29:25
  if
• 29:25
  you're
• 29:25
  out
• 29:25
  there
• 29:25
  listening,
• 29:26
  see
• 29:26
  where
• 29:26
  you
• 29:26
  think
• 29:27
  you
• 29:27
  might
• 29:27
  fit
• 29:27
  yourself
• 29:28
  into
• 29:28
  or
• 29:29
  at
• 29:29
  different
• 29:29
  times,
• 29:29
  because
• 29:30
  depending
• 29:30
  on
• 29:30
  your
• 29:30
  mood
• 29:31
  and
• 29:31
  depending
• 29:31
  on
• 29:31
  the
• 29:31
  conversation,
• 29:32
  you're
• 29:32
  going
• 29:32
  to
• 29:32
  be
• 29:34
  in
• 29:34
  one
• 29:34
  of
• 29:34
  those
• 29:35
  more
• 29:35
  element
• 29:36
  type
• 29:36
  voices.
• 29:37
  But
• 29:37
  obviously
• 29:38
  you
• 29:39
  probably
• 29:39
  have.
• 29:40
  I
• 29:40
  guess
• 29:40
  that's
• 29:41
  where
• 29:41
  I
• 29:41
  was
• 29:41
  going
• 29:41
  with
• 29:41
  this
• 29:42
  is
• 29:42
  when
• 29:42
  you
• 29:42
  grew
• 29:42
  up
• 29:42
  in
• 29:43
  that
• 29:43
  kind
• 29:43
  of
• 29:43
  dysfunction
• 29:44
  and
• 29:44
  chaos
• 29:44
  and
• 29:45
  abuse
• 29:46
  and
• 29:46
  neglect,
• 29:47
  is
• 29:47
  there
• 29:47
  one
• 29:47
  of
• 29:47
  those
• 29:48
  elements
• 29:48
  that
• 29:48
  you
• 29:49
  see
• 29:49
  more
• 29:50
  people
• 29:50
  kind
• 29:50
  of
• 29:51
  gravitate
• 29:51
  to?
• 29:52
  Oh,
• 29:53
  so
• 29:53
  much
• 29:53
  depends
• 29:53
  on
• 29:54
  what
• 29:54
  helped
• 29:54
  them
• 29:54
  survive,
• 29:55
  really.
• 29:55
  Okay.
• 29:58
  People
• 29:58
  can
• 29:59
  go
• 29:59
  different
• 29:59
  places,
• 30:00
  but
• 30:00
  I
• 30:01
  do
• 30:01
  know
• 30:01
  it
• 30:01
  just
• 30:01
  narrows
• 30:02
  the
• 30:02
  choices
• 30:03
  hugely.
• 30:04
  You
• 30:04
  just
• 30:05
  try
• 30:05
  to
• 30:05
  slot
• 30:05
  yourself
• 30:06
  into
• 30:06
  the
• 30:06
  smallest
• 30:07
  survivable
• 30:07
  place.
• 30:10
  However,
• 30:12
  your
• 30:12
  voice
• 30:12
  can
• 30:12
  also
• 30:13
  be
• 30:13
  a
• 30:14
  kind
• 30:14
  of
• 30:14
  a
• 30:14
  tell
• 30:15
  about
• 30:15
  your
• 30:15
  gifts.
• 30:17
  So
• 30:17
  the
• 30:17
  person
• 30:18
  who.
• 30:18
  You
• 30:18
  know,
• 30:19
  sometimes
• 30:19
  a
• 30:19
  lot
• 30:19
  of
• 30:19
  us
• 30:20
  learn
• 30:20
  to
• 30:20
  fly
• 30:20
  under
• 30:21
  the
• 30:21
  radar
• 30:21
  by
• 30:21
  just
• 30:22
  getting
• 30:22
  kind
• 30:22
  of
• 30:22
  dead.
• 30:26
  But
• 30:28
  sometimes
• 30:28
  the
• 30:28
  people,
• 30:29
  before
• 30:29
  we
• 30:29
  get
• 30:29
  busy,
• 30:30
  like
• 30:30
  adding
• 30:30
  to
• 30:31
  that
• 30:31
  or
• 30:31
  changing
• 30:31
  it,
• 30:32
  I
• 30:32
  can
• 30:33
  often
• 30:33
  ask
• 30:33
  the
• 30:33
  question,
• 30:34
  are
• 30:35
  you
• 30:35
  the
• 30:35
  person
• 30:37
  in
• 30:37
  the
• 30:37
  room
• 30:37
  who
• 30:37
  stays
• 30:38
  calm
• 30:38
  when
• 30:38
  everyone
• 30:38
  else
• 30:39
  is
• 30:39
  going
• 30:40
  and
• 30:41
  they're
• 30:41
  like
• 30:42
  most
• 30:42
  of
• 30:42
  the
• 30:42
  time?
• 30:44
  Yep.
• 30:45
  And
• 30:46
  the
• 30:46
  people
• 30:46
  who
• 30:46
  are
• 30:47
  kind
• 30:47
  of
• 30:47
  up
• 30:47
  here
• 30:47
  and
• 30:48
  talking,
• 30:49
  you
• 30:49
  know,
• 30:49
  sometimes
• 30:50
  I
• 30:50
  think
• 30:50
  of
• 30:50
  it
• 30:50
  as
• 30:50
  an
• 30:50
  airhead
• 30:53
  feeling
• 30:54
  it.
• 30:54
  I
• 30:54
  say,
• 30:54
  I
• 30:54
  have
• 30:54
  a
• 30:54
  little
• 30:55
  judgment
• 30:55
  still.
• 30:56
  You
• 30:56
  know,
• 30:56
  I'll
• 30:57
  ask
• 30:57
  that
• 30:57
  person,
• 30:58
  so
• 30:58
  are
• 30:58
  you
• 30:58
  the
• 30:58
  person
• 30:58
  who
• 30:59
  sees
• 30:59
  the
• 30:59
  future
• 31:00
  before
• 31:00
  everyone
• 31:00
  else?
• 31:02
  And
• 31:02
  I
• 31:02
  asked
• 31:02
  this
• 31:02
  young
• 31:03
  woman
• 31:03
  who
• 31:03
  was
• 31:03
  in
• 31:03
  a
• 31:04
  corporate
• 31:04
  job
• 31:05
  who
• 31:05
  kept
• 31:05
  getting,
• 31:06
  you
• 31:06
  know,
• 31:06
  interrupted
• 31:07
  by
• 31:07
  men,
• 31:07
  which
• 31:08
  happens
• 31:08
  all
• 31:08
  the
• 31:09
  time,
• 31:09
  no
• 31:09
  matter
• 31:09
  what
• 31:09
  your
• 31:09
  voice
• 31:10
  is.
• 31:10
  Let's
• 31:10
  just
• 31:11
  name
• 31:11
  that.
• 31:12
  But
• 31:12
  I
• 31:12
  said,
• 31:12
  you
• 31:12
  know,
• 31:13
  ask
• 31:13
  that
• 31:13
  question
• 31:13
  about
• 31:14
  seeing
• 31:14
  the
• 31:14
  future.
• 31:14
  And
• 31:14
  she's
• 31:15
  like,
• 31:15
  well,
• 31:15
  yeah,
• 31:15
  my
• 31:16
  boss
• 31:16
  says
• 31:16
  that
• 31:16
  all
• 31:16
  the
• 31:17
  time
• 31:17
  because
• 31:18
  she's
• 31:18
  out
• 31:18
  here
• 31:18
  in
• 31:19
  the.
• 31:19
  But
• 31:19
  she's
• 31:19
  dreamy.
• 31:20
  She's
• 31:20
  in
• 31:20
  that
• 31:21
  spirit.
• 31:21
  She's
• 31:22
  in
• 31:22
  that
• 31:23
  spiritual.
• 31:24
  Right.
• 31:25
  And
• 31:25
  so
• 31:25
  I
• 31:25
  said,
• 31:26
  don't
• 31:26
  lose
• 31:26
  what
• 31:27
  you've
• 31:27
  got.
• 31:27
  You
• 31:28
  know,
• 31:28
  you
• 31:28
  get
• 31:28
  to
• 31:28
  keep
• 31:28
  all
• 31:29
  of
• 31:29
  it.
• 31:30
  And
• 31:30
  the
• 31:31
  difference
• 31:31
  is
• 31:31
  that
• 31:31
  you
• 31:32
  can
• 31:32
  maybe
• 31:32
  if
• 31:33
  you
• 31:33
  keep
• 31:33
  playing
• 31:34
  with
• 31:34
  these
• 31:34
  five.
• 31:35
  And
• 31:35
  there's
• 31:35
  a
• 31:35
  TED
• 31:35
  Talk
• 31:36
  that
• 31:36
  goes
• 31:36
  through
• 31:36
  all
• 31:36
  five
• 31:37
  again,
• 31:38
  that's
• 31:39
  in
• 31:39
  the
• 31:39
  show
• 31:39
  notes.
• 31:41
  But
• 31:41
  if
• 31:41
  you
• 31:41
  just
• 31:42
  get
• 31:42
  used
• 31:42
  to,
• 31:43
  like,
• 31:43
  being
• 31:43
  able
• 31:44
  to
• 31:44
  shift,
• 31:44
  you
• 31:45
  know,
• 31:45
  where.
• 31:45
  Where
• 31:46
  you
• 31:46
  need
• 31:46
  to
• 31:46
  go
• 31:47
  and
• 31:47
  welcome
• 31:48
  all
• 31:48
  those
• 31:49
  sounds
• 31:49
  home
• 31:49
  as
• 31:50
  part
• 31:50
  of
• 31:50
  you
• 31:51
  as
• 31:51
  a
• 31:51
  human
• 31:51
  being,
• 31:52
  then
• 31:53
  you
• 31:53
  might
• 31:53
  have
• 31:53
  the
• 31:54
  secret
• 31:54
  decoder
• 31:55
  ring
• 31:55
  for
• 31:55
  your
• 31:55
  voice.
• 31:56
  Right?
• 31:57
  Yeah.
• 31:58
  Generally,
• 31:59
  you're
• 31:59
  right.
• 31:59
  We
• 32:00
  shift
• 32:00
  depending
• 32:00
  on
• 32:01
  mood
• 32:01
  and
• 32:01
  situation
• 32:02
  and
• 32:02
  who
• 32:02
  we're
• 32:03
  talking
• 32:03
  to.
• 32:04
  Mostly
• 32:05
  it's
• 32:05
  unconscious.
• 32:06
  Right.
• 32:07
  So
• 32:07
  a
• 32:07
  lot
• 32:07
  of
• 32:08
  times
• 32:08
  we
• 32:09
  have
• 32:09
  one
• 32:10
  or
• 32:10
  two
• 32:10
  that
• 32:10
  are
• 32:10
  dominant,
• 32:11
  you
• 32:11
  know,
• 32:12
  or
• 32:12
  a
• 32:12
  mix.
• 32:13
  It's
• 32:13
  like,
• 32:14
  very
• 32:14
  rarely
• 32:14
  are
• 32:15
  we
• 32:15
  kind
• 32:15
  of
• 32:16
  pure
• 32:16
  in
• 32:16
  any
• 32:17
  of
• 32:17
  them.
• 32:18
  But
• 32:19
  to
• 32:19
  be
• 32:19
  able
• 32:19
  to
• 32:20
  see,
• 32:20
  it's
• 32:20
  not
• 32:21
  working.
• 32:21
  You
• 32:21
  know,
• 32:22
  if
• 32:22
  you
• 32:22
  see
• 32:22
  that
• 32:22
  person,
• 32:23
  like,
• 32:23
  lean
• 32:23
  back
• 32:24
  and
• 32:24
  cross
• 32:24
  their
• 32:25
  arms
• 32:25
  and
• 32:25
  kind
• 32:25
  of
• 32:26
  look
• 32:26
  at
• 32:26
  you
• 32:26
  funny.
• 32:27
  Most
• 32:27
  of
• 32:27
  the
• 32:28
  time,
• 32:28
  we
• 32:28
  persist
• 32:28
  in
• 32:28
  what's
• 32:29
  not
• 32:29
  working.
• 32:30
  Right,
• 32:31
  Right.
• 32:31
  If
• 32:32
  fire
• 32:32
  is
• 32:32
  a
• 32:32
  little
• 32:33
  too
• 32:33
  much
• 32:33
  and
• 32:33
  they're
• 32:33
  kind
• 32:33
  of
• 32:34
  backing
• 32:34
  off,
• 32:34
  you
• 32:34
  might
• 32:34
  just
• 32:35
  shift
• 32:35
  into
• 32:35
  water.
• 32:36
  And
• 32:37
  what
• 32:37
  we're
• 32:37
  looking
• 32:37
  for
• 32:37
  is
• 32:38
  that
• 32:38
  connection.
• 32:38
  It's
• 32:39
  like,
• 32:39
  oh,
• 32:40
  we
• 32:40
  got.
• 32:40
  We
• 32:40
  got
• 32:41
  a
• 32:41
  little
• 32:41
  sparkle
• 32:41
  in
• 32:41
  the
• 32:41
  eyes.
• 32:42
  Now
• 32:42
  something
• 32:43
  can
• 32:43
  happen
• 32:43
  between
• 32:44
  us.
• 32:45
  Right?
• 32:45
  Because,
• 32:45
  I
• 32:46
  mean,
• 32:47
  going
• 32:47
  back
• 32:48
  to
• 32:48
  your
• 32:48
  voice
• 32:48
  is
• 32:48
  still.
• 32:49
  It's
• 32:49
  energy.
• 32:49
  And
• 32:50
  you're
• 32:50
  going
• 32:50
  to
• 32:50
  attract
• 32:51
  that
• 32:51
  energy.
• 32:52
  So
• 32:53
  you
• 32:53
  can.
• 32:54
  I
• 32:54
  mean,
• 32:54
  tone
• 32:55
  is.
• 32:56
  It's
• 32:56
  unbelievable.
• 32:56
  Then
• 32:57
  people
• 32:57
  take
• 32:57
  for
• 32:57
  granted,
• 32:58
  and
• 32:58
  they
• 32:58
  go,
• 32:58
  well,
• 32:58
  my.
• 32:59
  I
• 33:00
  mean,
• 33:00
  and
• 33:00
  I
• 33:00
  love
• 33:00
  my
• 33:00
  husband
• 33:01
  to
• 33:01
  death,
• 33:01
  but
• 33:01
  he's
• 33:01
  the
• 33:02
  worst.
• 33:02
  He'll
• 33:03
  be
• 33:03
  like,
• 33:03
  but
• 33:03
  I
• 33:03
  didn't
• 33:03
  say
• 33:04
  it
• 33:04
  like
• 33:04
  that.
• 33:04
  But
• 33:05
  that's
• 33:05
  how
• 33:05
  we
• 33:05
  perceived
• 33:06
  it,
• 33:06
  and
• 33:06
  our
• 33:06
  perception
• 33:07
  is
• 33:07
  our
• 33:07
  reality.
• 33:08
  So
• 33:08
  maybe
• 33:09
  you
• 33:09
  should
• 33:09
  try
• 33:10
  changing
• 33:10
  your
• 33:10
  tone
• 33:11
  when
• 33:11
  you
• 33:11
  talk
• 33:11
  to
• 33:11
  people.
• 33:12
  If
• 33:12
  they're
• 33:12
  thinking
• 33:12
  you're
• 33:13
  condescending
• 33:14
  and
• 33:14
  because
• 33:14
  it's
• 33:15
  more
• 33:15
  of
• 33:15
  that
• 33:15
  metal
• 33:16
  kind
• 33:16
  of
• 33:16
  like.
• 33:17
  Like
• 33:17
  you
• 33:17
  feel
• 33:18
  like
• 33:18
  You're.
• 33:18
  Yeah.
• 33:19
  You
• 33:19
  feel
• 33:19
  like
• 33:19
  you're
• 33:19
  being
• 33:19
  bossed,
• 33:20
  even
• 33:20
  though
• 33:20
  it's
• 33:21
  just
• 33:21
  a
• 33:21
  regular
• 33:21
  conversation.
• 33:22
  So
• 33:23
  maybe
• 33:23
  like.
• 33:23
  I
• 33:24
  mean,
• 33:24
  that's.
• 33:24
  Oh,
• 33:25
  my
• 33:25
  God,
• 33:25
  I
• 33:25
  must
• 33:25
  have
• 33:25
  heard
• 33:25
  the
• 33:25
  expression
• 33:26
  7
• 33:27
  million
• 33:27
  times
• 33:27
  in
• 33:28
  my
• 33:28
  life.
• 33:28
  Tone
• 33:28
  it
• 33:28
  down.
• 33:29
  Tone
• 33:29
  it
• 33:30
  down.
• 33:30
  Yes.
• 33:31
  I
• 33:31
  mean,
• 33:31
  you
• 33:31
  hear
• 33:31
  that
• 33:32
  and
• 33:32
  it
• 33:32
  makes
• 33:32
  sense,
• 33:33
  though.
• 33:33
  It's.
• 33:33
  People
• 33:34
  feel
• 33:34
  that
• 33:34
  energy
• 33:35
  and.
• 33:36
  Yeah.
• 33:36
  The
• 33:36
  sum
• 33:37
  is
• 33:37
  flowing
• 33:37
  and
• 33:37
  soft
• 33:38
  and
• 33:38
  some
• 33:38
  is
• 33:39
  pretty
• 33:39
  metallic
• 33:40
  and
• 33:40
  sharp
• 33:40
  and
• 33:41
  rough
• 33:41
  and
• 33:42
  unbendable.
• 33:43
  Yes.
• 33:45
  And
• 33:46
  gender
• 33:46
  plays
• 33:47
  a
• 33:47
  huge
• 33:47
  role
• 33:47
  because
• 33:47
  as
• 33:48
  women,
• 33:48
  we're
• 33:49
  just
• 33:49
  supposed
• 33:49
  to
• 33:49
  be,
• 33:49
  like,
• 33:49
  really
• 33:50
  nice
• 33:50
  and
• 33:51
  warm
• 33:51
  and,
• 33:52
  you
• 33:52
  know,
• 33:52
  endless
• 33:54
  care.
• 33:54
  And
• 33:54
  it's
• 33:55
  like,
• 33:55
  that's
• 33:57
  part
• 33:58
  of
• 33:58
  us.
• 33:59
  But
• 33:59
  there's
• 33:59
  also,
• 34:01
  you
• 34:02
  know,
• 34:02
  a
• 34:02
  lot
• 34:02
  of.
• 34:02
  I
• 34:03
  worked
• 34:03
  with
• 34:03
  women
• 34:03
  who
• 34:04
  are
• 34:04
  getting
• 34:04
  ready
• 34:04
  to
• 34:04
  give
• 34:04
  birth
• 34:05
  and
• 34:05
  we
• 34:06
  get
• 34:06
  them
• 34:06
  in
• 34:06
  a
• 34:06
  squat
• 34:07
  and,
• 34:08
  you
• 34:09
  know,
• 34:09
  help
• 34:09
  them
• 34:09
  open
• 34:10
  the
• 34:10
  lower
• 34:11
  part
• 34:11
  of
• 34:11
  their
• 34:11
  body.
• 34:13
  And
• 34:13
  for
• 34:14
  men,
• 34:14
  the
• 34:14
  dominant
• 34:16
  culture
• 34:17
  is
• 34:17
  to
• 34:18
  be
• 34:18
  a
• 34:18
  good
• 34:18
  man
• 34:18
  is
• 34:18
  to
• 34:18
  be
• 34:19
  dead.
• 34:20
  You
• 34:21
  can't
• 34:21
  move,
• 34:21
  you
• 34:21
  can't
• 34:22
  feel,
• 34:23
  you
• 34:23
  can't
• 34:23
  wear
• 34:24
  color.
• 34:25
  You
• 34:25
  can't
• 34:26
  be
• 34:26
  joyful
• 34:27
  or
• 34:27
  playful
• 34:28
  or
• 34:28
  childlike.
• 34:30
  So
• 34:30
  I
• 34:30
  think,
• 34:30
  you
• 34:31
  know,
• 34:31
  and
• 34:31
  women,
• 34:32
  if
• 34:32
  you.
• 34:32
  You
• 34:32
  either
• 34:33
  get
• 34:33
  to
• 34:33
  be
• 34:33
  a
• 34:33
  bit.
• 34:34
  Or
• 34:34
  a
• 34:35
  wimp.
• 34:35
  Pick.
• 34:36
  Right.
• 34:37
  Or
• 34:37
  a.
• 34:37
  A
• 34:38
  good
• 34:38
  girl
• 34:38
  or
• 34:38
  a
• 34:39
  pick.
• 34:40
  Yeah.
• 34:41
  There's
• 34:41
  no.
• 34:41
  There's
• 34:41
  no
• 34:42
  middle
• 34:42
  ground.
• 34:43
  No.
• 34:43
  And
• 34:43
  so
• 34:44
  it.
• 34:44
  It.
• 34:44
  The
• 34:44
  whole
• 34:45
  system
• 34:45
  doesn't
• 34:45
  work
• 34:46
  well
• 34:46
  for
• 34:46
  any
• 34:47
  of
• 34:47
  us,
• 34:47
  and
• 34:47
  we're
• 34:47
  all
• 34:48
  just
• 34:48
  trying
• 34:48
  to
• 34:48
  be
• 34:48
  human
• 34:48
  beings
• 34:49
  and
• 34:49
  in
• 34:49
  the
• 34:50
  middle
• 34:50
  of
• 34:50
  it
• 34:50
  all.
• 34:51
  But
• 34:51
  I
• 34:51
  feel
• 34:51
  like
• 34:52
  sometimes
• 34:52
  we
• 34:52
  take
• 34:52
  it
• 34:53
  personally.
• 34:53
  Like
• 34:54
  somehow
• 34:55
  it's
• 34:56
  just
• 34:56
  us,
• 34:56
  and
• 34:56
  it's
• 34:57
  like.
• 34:57
  No,
• 34:57
  actually,
• 34:58
  it's
• 34:58
  designed
• 34:59
  this
• 34:59
  way,
• 34:59
  so.
• 35:00
  So
• 35:00
  we
• 35:00
  feel
• 35:00
  horrible
• 35:01
  about
• 35:01
  ourselves,
• 35:01
  so
• 35:01
  we'll
• 35:02
  buy
• 35:02
  more
• 35:02
  stuff
• 35:03
  and,
• 35:04
  you
• 35:04
  know,
• 35:04
  get.
• 35:04
  Put
• 35:05
  product
• 35:05
  on
• 35:06
  our
• 35:06
  face
• 35:06
  or
• 35:07
  get,
• 35:07
  you
• 35:07
  know,
• 35:08
  surgery
• 35:08
  or
• 35:10
  whatever
• 35:10
  it
• 35:11
  is,
• 35:11
  and.
• 35:12
  And
• 35:12
  we're
• 35:12
  fine.
• 35:13
  Yeah.
• 35:14
  We're
• 35:14
  gorgeous.
• 35:15
  We're
• 35:16
  beautifully
• 35:17
  flawed,
• 35:18
  human,
• 35:19
  messy,
• 35:20
  glorious
• 35:21
  people.
• 35:22
  Absolutely.
• 35:23
  Absolutely.
• 35:24
  I
• 35:24
  love
• 35:24
  that.
• 35:25
  I
• 35:26
  have.
• 35:26
  I
• 35:26
  mean,
• 35:26
  I
• 35:26
  had.
• 35:26
  I
• 35:27
  literally
• 35:27
  wrote
• 35:27
  down
• 35:28
  like,
• 35:28
  20
• 35:28
  questions
• 35:29
  for
• 35:29
  you,
• 35:29
  but
• 35:29
  I'm
• 35:29
  not
• 35:29
  going
• 35:29
  to
• 35:29
  obviously
• 35:30
  have
• 35:30
  time
• 35:30
  to
• 35:31
  get
• 35:31
  into
• 35:31
  all
• 35:31
  of.
• 35:32
  But
• 35:33
  when
• 35:33
  you
• 35:33
  grow
• 35:34
  up,
• 35:34
  and
• 35:34
  I'm
• 35:34
  going.
• 35:34
  I
• 35:35
  keep
• 35:35
  going
• 35:35
  back
• 35:35
  to
• 35:36
  the
• 35:36
  people
• 35:36
  that
• 35:36
  grew
• 35:36
  up
• 35:36
  in
• 35:37
  that
• 35:37
  severe
• 35:37
  dysfunction
• 35:38
  because
• 35:38
  they
• 35:38
  were
• 35:39
  the
• 35:39
  ones
• 35:39
  that
• 35:39
  were
• 35:39
  not
• 35:40
  allowed
• 35:40
  to
• 35:41
  use
• 35:41
  their
• 35:41
  voice
• 35:41
  or
• 35:41
  were
• 35:42
  scared
• 35:42
  to
• 35:42
  use
• 35:42
  their
• 35:42
  voice.
• 35:43
  And
• 35:44
  I
• 35:44
  know
• 35:44
  you
• 35:44
  said
• 35:44
  a
• 35:44
  lot
• 35:45
  of
• 35:45
  times
• 35:45
  a
• 35:45
  lot
• 35:45
  of
• 35:45
  emotions
• 35:46
  come
• 35:46
  up.
• 35:46
  I
• 35:46
  mean,
• 35:46
  you're
• 35:47
  starting
• 35:47
  to
• 35:48
  pull
• 35:49
  stuff
• 35:49
  up
• 35:49
  and
• 35:50
  you're
• 35:50
  starting
• 35:50
  to
• 35:50
  bring
• 35:51
  that
• 35:51
  unconscious
• 35:52
  to
• 35:52
  the
• 35:52
  conscious
• 35:52
  and
• 35:53
  thinking
• 35:53
  about
• 35:53
  those
• 35:54
  things.
• 35:55
  When
• 35:55
  you.
• 35:55
  Let's
• 35:56
  say
• 35:56
  you
• 35:57
  were
• 35:57
  doing
• 35:57
  the
• 35:57
  work
• 35:57
  and
• 35:57
  you're
• 35:58
  doing
• 35:58
  the
• 35:58
  inner
• 35:58
  child
• 35:58
  work.
• 35:59
  Or
• 35:59
  whatever
• 35:59
  you're
• 35:59
  doing,
• 36:00
  and
• 36:00
  you
• 36:01
  really
• 36:01
  start
• 36:01
  maybe
• 36:02
  getting
• 36:02
  some
• 36:03
  self
• 36:03
  worth.
• 36:04
  Like
• 36:04
  you
• 36:04
  start
• 36:04
  truly
• 36:05
  believing
• 36:05
  that
• 36:05
  you
• 36:06
  might
• 36:06
  actually
• 36:06
  be
• 36:06
  worthy
• 36:07
  to
• 36:07
  do
• 36:07
  something
• 36:07
  bigger
• 36:08
  and
• 36:08
  better.
• 36:09
  What
• 36:09
  might
• 36:09
  be
• 36:09
  an
• 36:09
  example
• 36:10
  of
• 36:10
  your
• 36:10
  voice
• 36:11
  shift?
• 36:12
  Does
• 36:12
  that
• 36:12
  make
• 36:12
  sense?
• 36:13
  Yeah.
• 36:14
  There's
• 36:14
  so
• 36:14
  many
• 36:15
  possibilities
• 36:18
  about
• 36:18
  how
• 36:18
  that
• 36:19
  would
• 36:19
  shift
• 36:19
  depending
• 36:19
  on
• 36:20
  how
• 36:20
  you
• 36:20
  were
• 36:20
  hurt,
• 36:20
  how
• 36:21
  you
• 36:21
  compensated,
• 36:23
  what
• 36:23
  was
• 36:23
  rewarded,
• 36:24
  what
• 36:25
  was
• 36:25
  punished.
• 36:26
  But
• 36:26
  I'd
• 36:27
  say
• 36:27
  the
• 36:27
  biggest
• 36:28
  thing
• 36:28
  I
• 36:28
  notice
• 36:28
  is
• 36:29
  a
• 36:30
  more
• 36:30
  choice
• 36:30
  and
• 36:31
  flexibility.
• 36:32
  Okay.
• 36:32
  You
• 36:33
  know
• 36:33
  that
• 36:33
  there's
• 36:34
  a
• 36:34
  bigger
• 36:35
  menu
• 36:35
  to
• 36:35
  choose
• 36:35
  from
• 36:37
  and
• 36:37
  just
• 36:37
  more
• 36:38
  vitality
• 36:39
  in
• 36:39
  the
• 36:39
  voice
• 36:40
  and
• 36:40
  the
• 36:40
  body
• 36:40
  and
• 36:40
  the
• 36:40
  face.
• 36:41
  I
• 36:41
  know.
• 36:43
  You
• 36:43
  know,
• 36:43
  the
• 36:43
  dead
• 36:44
  face
• 36:44
  was
• 36:44
  one
• 36:45
  of
• 36:45
  the
• 36:45
  things.
• 36:45
  I
• 36:46
  mean,
• 36:46
  I'm
• 36:46
  also.
• 36:48
  It
• 36:48
  was
• 36:48
  a
• 36:48
  compensation
• 36:49
  for
• 36:50
  trying
• 36:50
  to
• 36:50
  fly
• 36:50
  under
• 36:51
  the
• 36:51
  radar,
• 36:52
  but
• 36:52
  also
• 36:53
  it
• 36:53
  was.
• 36:55
  I'm
• 36:55
  in.
• 36:56
  I'm
• 36:56
  right
• 36:56
  at
• 36:56
  the
• 36:57
  intersection
• 36:58
  of
• 36:58
  introvert
• 36:59
  and
• 36:59
  extrovert.
• 36:59
  That
• 37:00
  means
• 37:00
  I'm
• 37:00
  a
• 37:00
  lot
• 37:00
  of
• 37:01
  both.
• 37:01
  And
• 37:01
  I
• 37:02
  have
• 37:02
  a
• 37:02
  super
• 37:02
  rich
• 37:03
  inner
• 37:03
  world.
• 37:04
  And
• 37:04
  one
• 37:04
  of
• 37:05
  my
• 37:05
  first
• 37:05
  voice
• 37:05
  teachers
• 37:06
  who
• 37:06
  just.
• 37:06
  I
• 37:06
  mostly
• 37:07
  cried
• 37:07
  when
• 37:07
  I
• 37:08
  went
• 37:08
  to
• 37:08
  go
• 37:08
  work
• 37:08
  with
• 37:09
  her.
• 37:09
  I
• 37:09
  just
• 37:09
  start
• 37:09
  to
• 37:09
  sing.
• 37:10
  It
• 37:10
  was
• 37:10
  like.
• 37:11
  And
• 37:12
  I
• 37:12
  grew
• 37:12
  up
• 37:12
  singing.
• 37:12
  I
• 37:13
  grew
• 37:13
  up
• 37:13
  singing
• 37:14
  in
• 37:14
  great
• 37:14
  choirs
• 37:15
  in
• 37:15
  school
• 37:15
  and
• 37:16
  church,
• 37:16
  and
• 37:16
  I
• 37:16
  was
• 37:17
  really
• 37:17
  lucky
• 37:18
  in
• 37:18
  that
• 37:18
  way.
• 37:19
  But
• 37:19
  singing
• 37:20
  by
• 37:20
  myself
• 37:20
  was
• 37:21
  just.
• 37:22
  Just
• 37:22
  terrifying.
• 37:24
  It's
• 37:24
  amazing
• 37:24
  that
• 37:25
  I
• 37:25
  do
• 37:25
  it
• 37:25
  now
• 37:26
  and
• 37:26
  love
• 37:26
  it
• 37:27
  and
• 37:27
  I
• 37:27
  have
• 37:27
  no
• 37:27
  fear
• 37:28
  and
• 37:28
  make
• 37:28
  mistakes
• 37:29
  and
• 37:29
  survive.
• 37:30
  Right.
• 37:30
  And
• 37:30
  if
• 37:30
  you're
• 37:30
  out
• 37:31
  there
• 37:31
  listening,
• 37:31
  singing
• 37:32
  is
• 37:32
  so
• 37:33
  incredibly
• 37:35
  therapeutic
• 37:36
  and
• 37:36
  healing.
• 37:37
  And
• 37:37
  it
• 37:37
  doesn't
• 37:37
  matter
• 37:38
  if
• 37:38
  you
• 37:38
  can
• 37:38
  carry
• 37:38
  a
• 37:39
  tune.
• 37:39
  It
• 37:39
  does.
• 37:39
  None
• 37:40
  of
• 37:40
  that
• 37:40
  matters.
• 37:40
  Just
• 37:41
  ding.
• 37:42
  I
• 37:42
  mean,
• 37:42
  you're
• 37:42
  stimulating
• 37:43
  your
• 37:43
  vagus
• 37:44
  nerve,
• 37:44
  which
• 37:44
  is
• 37:45
  all
• 37:45
  of
• 37:45
  the
• 37:45
  happy
• 37:45
  nerves
• 37:46
  through
• 37:46
  your
• 37:46
  whole,
• 37:46
  like,
• 37:46
  going
• 37:47
  through
• 37:47
  your
• 37:47
  whole
• 37:48
  body.
• 37:49
  You're
• 37:49
  just
• 37:50
  vibrating
• 37:50
  your
• 37:50
  whole
• 37:51
  body
• 37:51
  and
• 37:51
  bringing
• 37:51
  that
• 37:52
  vibrational
• 37:54
  frequency
• 37:54
  up.
• 37:54
  I'm
• 37:55
  horrible.
• 37:55
  I
• 37:55
  remember
• 37:56
  I
• 37:56
  tell
• 37:56
  this
• 37:56
  story
• 37:57
  all
• 37:57
  the
• 37:57
  time,
• 37:57
  but
• 37:57
  when
• 37:57
  my
• 37:58
  daughter
• 37:58
  was
• 37:58
  like
• 37:58
  three
• 37:59
  years
• 37:59
  old
• 37:59
  or
• 38:00
  four
• 38:00
  years
• 38:00
  old,
• 38:00
  we
• 38:00
  were
• 38:00
  in
• 38:01
  church
• 38:01
  and
• 38:01
  I
• 38:01
  went
• 38:01
  to
• 38:01
  Catholics,
• 38:02
  you
• 38:02
  know,
• 38:02
  Catholic
• 38:03
  church.
• 38:03
  And
• 38:04
  of
• 38:04
  course
• 38:04
  we're
• 38:04
  singing.
• 38:05
  And
• 38:05
  my
• 38:05
  daughter
• 38:06
  looked
• 38:06
  over
• 38:06
  at
• 38:06
  me
• 38:06
  and
• 38:06
  she
• 38:07
  said,
• 38:07
  shh,
• 38:07
  Mommy.
• 38:08
  And
• 38:08
  I
• 38:08
  said,
• 38:09
  what?
• 38:09
  She
• 38:09
  goes,
• 38:10
  don't
• 38:10
  sing.
• 38:10
  And
• 38:11
  I
• 38:11
  said,
• 38:11
  why?
• 38:12
  I
• 38:12
  was
• 38:12
  like,
• 38:13
  I
• 38:13
  love
• 38:13
  to
• 38:13
  sing.
• 38:13
  And
• 38:13
  she
• 38:13
  said,
• 38:14
  because
• 38:14
  if
• 38:14
  Jesus
• 38:14
  covers
• 38:15
  his
• 38:15
  ears
• 38:15
  so
• 38:15
  he
• 38:15
  can't
• 38:16
  hear
• 38:16
  you
• 38:16
  sing,
• 38:17
  he's
• 38:17
  not
• 38:17
  going
• 38:17
  to
• 38:17
  hear
• 38:17
  all
• 38:17
  these
• 38:18
  people's
• 38:18
  prayers.
• 38:19
  And
• 38:19
  I'm
• 38:20
  like,
• 38:20
  girl,
• 38:21
  but
• 38:23
  out
• 38:23
  of.
• 38:23
  The
• 38:23
  mouths
• 38:24
  of
• 38:24
  babes,
• 38:24
  I
• 38:24
  guess,
• 38:24
  right?
• 38:25
  And
• 38:25
  I
• 38:25
  mean
• 38:25
  it,
• 38:26
  like.
• 38:26
  But
• 38:26
  I
• 38:26
  was
• 38:26
  like,
• 38:27
  oh,
• 38:27
  my
• 38:27
  gosh.
• 38:27
  And
• 38:27
  for
• 38:28
  a
• 38:28
  long
• 38:28
  time,
• 38:28
  I
• 38:28
  didn't
• 38:29
  sing
• 38:29
  around
• 38:29
  her.
• 38:29
  I
• 38:30
  didn't
• 38:30
  sing
• 38:30
  around
• 38:30
  because
• 38:30
  I
• 38:30
  was
• 38:31
  like,
• 38:31
  man.
• 38:31
  But
• 38:32
  now
• 38:32
  I'm
• 38:32
  like,
• 38:32
  you
• 38:32
  know
• 38:32
  what?
• 38:32
  We
• 38:33
  get
• 38:33
  in
• 38:33
  the
• 38:33
  car
• 38:33
  and
• 38:33
  we
• 38:34
  belt
• 38:34
  it
• 38:34
  out,
• 38:34
  and
• 38:35
  I'm
• 38:35
  like,
• 38:35
  I
• 38:35
  don't
• 38:35
  care.
• 38:35
  I
• 38:36
  mean,
• 38:36
  I'm
• 38:36
  sure
• 38:36
  three
• 38:37
  lanes
• 38:37
  down,
• 38:37
  they're
• 38:38
  like,
• 38:38
  what
• 38:38
  is
• 38:38
  that
• 38:38
  noise?
• 38:39
  But
• 38:40
  it's
• 38:40
  joy.
• 38:40
  It's.
• 38:41
  It
• 38:41
  is.
• 38:41
  It's.
• 38:42
  It's
• 38:42
  self
• 38:42
  expression.
• 38:43
  And
• 38:43
  that
• 38:44
  is
• 38:44
  what
• 38:45
  people
• 38:45
  miss.
• 38:46
  They.
• 38:46
  They
• 38:47
  just
• 38:47
  miss
• 38:47
  that.
• 38:49
  You
• 38:49
  know,
• 38:49
  it's.
• 38:50
  Oh,
• 38:50
  yeah.
• 38:51
  I
• 38:51
  tell
• 38:51
  people,
• 38:51
  I
• 38:51
  don't
• 38:51
  care
• 38:51
  how
• 38:52
  bad
• 38:52
  you
• 38:52
  are.
• 38:52
  I
• 38:53
  sing
• 38:53
  at
• 38:53
  work
• 38:53
  all
• 38:53
  the
• 38:53
  time
• 38:53
  and
• 38:54
  they
• 38:54
  always.
• 38:54
  People
• 38:54
  always
• 38:54
  look
• 38:55
  at
• 38:55
  me
• 38:55
  and
• 38:55
  they're
• 38:55
  like,
• 38:55
  where
• 38:55
  do
• 38:56
  you
• 38:56
  even
• 38:56
  come
• 38:56
  up
• 38:56
  with
• 38:56
  the
• 38:56
  words?
• 38:57
  I'm
• 38:57
  like,
• 38:57
  I
• 38:57
  don't
• 38:57
  know.
• 38:57
  I
• 38:58
  just
• 38:58
  make
• 38:58
  them
• 38:58
  up
• 38:58
  as
• 38:58
  I
• 38:58
  go
• 38:59
  along.
• 38:59
  But
• 38:59
  it's
• 38:59
  just.
• 39:00
  It's
• 39:00
  like
• 39:00
  humming,
• 39:00
  you
• 39:00
  know,
• 39:01
  Humming
• 39:01
  is
• 39:01
  so
• 39:01
  good
• 39:01
  for
• 39:02
  you
• 39:02
  too.
• 39:02
  But
• 39:04
  practical
• 39:05
  tips
• 39:06
  now,
• 39:06
  if
• 39:06
  someone
• 39:06
  is
• 39:07
  listening
• 39:07
  here
• 39:07
  and
• 39:08
  they're
• 39:08
  out
• 39:08
  here
• 39:08
  right
• 39:08
  now,
• 39:10
  and
• 39:10
  they
• 39:10
  have
• 39:10
  been
• 39:10
  quiet
• 39:11
  all
• 39:11
  of
• 39:11
  their
• 39:11
  life
• 39:13
  because
• 39:13
  they
• 39:13
  just
• 39:13
  didn't
• 39:14
  feel
• 39:14
  like
• 39:14
  they
• 39:14
  had
• 39:14
  a
• 39:14
  voice,
• 39:15
  could
• 39:15
  have
• 39:15
  a
• 39:15
  voice.
• 39:15
  It
• 39:16
  was
• 39:16
  stifled,
• 39:16
  it
• 39:16
  was
• 39:17
  beret,
• 39:18
  whatever
• 39:18
  it
• 39:18
  is.
• 39:19
  What
• 39:19
  is
• 39:20
  like
• 39:20
  one
• 39:20
  or
• 39:21
  two
• 39:21
  small
• 39:21
  tips
• 39:22
  that
• 39:23
  they
• 39:23
  can
• 39:23
  start
• 39:24
  right
• 39:24
  now
• 39:24
  to
• 39:25
  learn
• 39:25
  to
• 39:25
  kind
• 39:25
  of
• 39:25
  reconnect
• 39:26
  with
• 39:26
  their
• 39:26
  voice.
• 39:27
  Oh,
• 39:28
  well,
• 39:29
  one
• 39:29
  of
• 39:29
  the
• 39:29
  things
• 39:29
  I
• 39:30
  like
• 39:30
  to
• 39:31
  suggest
• 39:31
  is
• 39:32
  a
• 39:32
  lot
• 39:32
  of
• 39:32
  us
• 39:32
  get
• 39:33
  disconnected
• 39:33
  from
• 39:33
  the
• 39:34
  deep
• 39:34
  part
• 39:35
  of
• 39:35
  our
• 39:35
  body.
• 39:36
  So
• 39:37
  to
• 39:37
  voice
• 39:37
  your
• 39:37
  yawn
• 39:38
  dawns.
• 39:40
  Yeah,
• 39:42
  I'm
• 39:42
  gonna
• 39:42
  do
• 39:42
  it
• 39:42
  now.
• 39:45
  It's
• 39:46
  infectious
• 39:46
  because
• 39:46
  our
• 39:46
  bodies
• 39:47
  love
• 39:47
  it.
• 39:47
  And
• 39:47
  it
• 39:48
  also
• 39:48
  kind
• 39:48
  of
• 39:48
  opens
• 39:49
  the
• 39:49
  whole
• 39:49
  gate
• 39:50
  between
• 39:51
  the.
• 39:51
  The
• 39:51
  truth
• 39:52
  telling
• 39:52
  body
• 39:53
  and
• 39:53
  the
• 39:54
  manager
• 39:55
  here.
• 39:58
  It
• 39:58
  wakes
• 39:59
  up
• 39:59
  the
• 39:59
  earth
• 39:59
  voice.
• 40:00
  So
• 40:00
  I
• 40:00
  love
• 40:00
  the.
• 40:01
  And
• 40:02
  helps
• 40:02
  us
• 40:02
  open
• 40:03
  our
• 40:03
  mouths,
• 40:03
  which
• 40:04
  again,
• 40:05
  all
• 40:05
  that,
• 40:05
  all
• 40:05
  that
• 40:06
  not
• 40:06
  speaking
• 40:06
  has
• 40:07
  to,
• 40:07
  you
• 40:07
  know,
• 40:07
  lives
• 40:08
  in
• 40:08
  the
• 40:08
  tension
• 40:08
  here.
• 40:09
  So
• 40:09
  voicing
• 40:09
  your
• 40:09
  yawns
• 40:10
  is
• 40:10
  a
• 40:10
  great
• 40:10
  one.
• 40:10
  And
• 40:11
  I
• 40:11
  think
• 40:11
  you
• 40:11
  alluded
• 40:12
  to
• 40:12
  it
• 40:12
  just
• 40:12
  now
• 40:13
  is
• 40:13
  to
• 40:13
  make
• 40:14
  an
• 40:14
  irresistible
• 40:15
  playlist
• 40:17
  and
• 40:17
  have
• 40:17
  it
• 40:18
  in
• 40:18
  your
• 40:18
  life.
• 40:18
  You
• 40:18
  know,
• 40:18
  chop
• 40:19
  onions
• 40:19
  to
• 40:19
  it,
• 40:20
  clean
• 40:20
  your
• 40:20
  house
• 40:20
  to
• 40:20
  it,
• 40:21
  drive
• 40:21
  your
• 40:21
  commute.
• 40:23
  And
• 40:23
  if
• 40:24
  it
• 40:24
  even
• 40:24
  is
• 40:25
  like
• 40:25
  a
• 40:25
  variety
• 40:26
  pack,
• 40:26
  you
• 40:27
  know,
• 40:27
  so
• 40:27
  you
• 40:27
  have
• 40:28
  like
• 40:28
  something
• 40:29
  floaty
• 40:29
  like
• 40:30
  enyard
• 40:31
  those,
• 40:31
  like
• 40:31
  dreamy
• 40:32
  Irish
• 40:32
  people
• 40:33
  or,
• 40:34
  you
• 40:35
  know,
• 40:35
  Johnny
• 40:35
  Cash
• 40:36
  or
• 40:37
  Bette
• 40:37
  Midler
• 40:38
  or
• 40:38
  Barbara
• 40:38
  Streisand
• 40:39
  or,
• 40:39
  you
• 40:39
  know,
• 40:40
  and
• 40:40
  some
• 40:40
  of
• 40:40
  these
• 40:40
  are
• 40:40
  athletes
• 40:41
  that
• 40:41
  they're
• 40:41
  hard
• 40:42
  to.
• 40:42
  It's
• 40:42
  hard
• 40:43
  to
• 40:43
  sing
• 40:43
  along
• 40:43
  with
• 40:43
  Barbra
• 40:44
  Streisand
• 40:44
  because
• 40:44
  she's
• 40:44
  right.
• 40:45
  Wow.
• 40:46
  But
• 40:46
  to
• 40:47
  make
• 40:47
  a
• 40:47
  variety
• 40:48
  pack
• 40:49
  that
• 40:49
  will
• 40:49
  entice
• 40:50
  you
• 40:50
  to
• 40:50
  go
• 40:50
  to
• 40:50
  different
• 40:51
  places
• 40:51
  in
• 40:51
  your
• 40:51
  voice
• 40:53
  that
• 40:54
  you
• 40:54
  love
• 40:54
  and
• 40:55
  just
• 40:55
  sing
• 40:55
  more.
• 40:58
  Because
• 40:58
  I
• 40:58
  always.
• 40:58
  I
• 40:59
  mean,
• 40:59
  I
• 40:59
  start
• 40:59
  people
• 41:00
  with
• 41:00
  that
• 41:00
  wild
• 41:01
  sound
• 41:01
  that
• 41:01
  we
• 41:02
  played
• 41:02
  with,
• 41:02
  with
• 41:03
  the
• 41:03
  five
• 41:03
  elements.
• 41:03
  But
• 41:04
  one
• 41:05
  step
• 41:05
  Closer
• 41:06
  to
• 41:06
  everyday
• 41:06
  speech
• 41:07
  is
• 41:07
  singing.
• 41:08
  Right.
• 41:09
  So
• 41:09
  just
• 41:09
  to
• 41:10
  get
• 41:10
  used
• 41:10
  to
• 41:10
  taking
• 41:11
  up
• 41:11
  more
• 41:11
  space
• 41:13
  with
• 41:13
  your
• 41:13
  voice
• 41:14
  in
• 41:14
  your
• 41:14
  body,
• 41:15
  and
• 41:16
  sometimes
• 41:16
  it's
• 41:16
  easier
• 41:17
  to
• 41:17
  sort
• 41:17
  of
• 41:18
  ride
• 41:18
  along
• 41:18
  with
• 41:18
  someone
• 41:19
  else,
• 41:20
  another
• 41:21
  singer,
• 41:21
  another
• 41:22
  person.
• 41:22
  So
• 41:23
  those
• 41:23
  are
• 41:23
  a
• 41:23
  couple
• 41:24
  tips.
• 41:24
  Yeah,
• 41:25
  they're
• 41:25
  very,
• 41:26
  very
• 41:26
  helpful
• 41:26
  because.
• 41:27
  Yeah.
• 41:28
  And
• 41:28
  the
• 41:28
  biggest
• 41:28
  thing,
• 41:28
  I
• 41:29
  think,
• 41:29
  is
• 41:29
  just
• 41:29
  to
• 41:29
  notice.
• 41:30
  Start
• 41:30
  by
• 41:30
  noticing,
• 41:31
  like,
• 41:32
  just
• 41:32
  pay
• 41:33
  attention.
• 41:33
  Just
• 41:33
  like.
• 41:34
  Like,
• 41:35
  I'm
• 41:35
  gonna
• 41:35
  see
• 41:35
  my
• 41:36
  friend
• 41:36
  Cher
• 41:36
  later.
• 41:36
  And
• 41:37
  she.
• 41:37
  She
• 41:38
  is
• 41:38
  the
• 41:38
  only
• 41:38
  person
• 41:38
  in
• 41:39
  my
• 41:39
  life
• 41:39
  that.
• 41:39
  We
• 41:40
  laugh
• 41:40
  like
• 41:40
  witches
• 41:40
  when
• 41:41
  we're
• 41:41
  together.
• 41:41
  We
• 41:42
  have
• 41:42
  a.
• 41:42
  There's
• 41:42
  a
• 41:42
  particular
• 41:43
  sound.
• 41:43
  We
• 41:44
  find
• 41:44
  each
• 41:44
  other
• 41:44
  hilarious.
• 41:45
  And
• 41:45
  we
• 41:45
  will
• 41:46
  be
• 41:46
  at
• 41:46
  an
• 41:46
  Indian
• 41:46
  restaurant
• 41:47
  in
• 41:47
  Minneapolis
• 41:48
  in
• 41:48
  a
• 41:48
  couple
• 41:48
  hours,
• 41:49
  and
• 41:49
  you
• 41:49
  will
• 41:49
  hear.
• 41:53
  I
• 41:54
  don't
• 41:54
  laugh
• 41:54
  like
• 41:54
  that
• 41:54
  with
• 41:55
  anybody
• 41:55
  else.
• 41:56
  So,
• 41:56
  like,
• 41:57
  how
• 41:57
  do
• 41:57
  you
• 41:57
  talk
• 41:57
  to
• 41:57
  your
• 41:58
  pets
• 41:58
  or
• 41:58
  that
• 41:58
  person
• 41:59
  that
• 41:59
  you're
• 41:59
  not
• 41:59
  sure
• 42:00
  you
• 42:00
  trust
• 42:00
  or.
• 42:02
  Or
• 42:02
  when
• 42:02
  you're
• 42:03
  sad,
• 42:03
  you
• 42:03
  know,
• 42:03
  not
• 42:04
  just
• 42:04
  your
• 42:04
  own
• 42:04
  moods,
• 42:05
  but
• 42:05
  also,
• 42:05
  how
• 42:05
  does
• 42:06
  your
• 42:06
  voice
• 42:06
  shift?
• 42:07
  That's
• 42:07
  a
• 42:07
  big,
• 42:07
  big
• 42:08
  piece.
• 42:08
  So
• 42:08
  those
• 42:08
  are
• 42:09
  the
• 42:09
  three
• 42:09
  things.
• 42:10
  I
• 42:10
  love
• 42:10
  it.
• 42:10
  I
• 42:11
  absolutely
• 42:11
  love
• 42:11
  it.
• 42:11
  If
• 42:11
  you're
• 42:12
  out
• 42:12
  there
• 42:12
  listening,
• 42:12
  guys,
• 42:13
  take
• 42:13
  note
• 42:13
  of
• 42:13
  that,
• 42:13
  because
• 42:14
  it's
• 42:14
  just
• 42:15
  so
• 42:15
  much
• 42:15
  joy
• 42:15
  into.
• 42:16
  I
• 42:16
  mean,
• 42:16
  I
• 42:16
  just
• 42:16
  did
• 42:16
  a
• 42:16
  podcast,
• 42:17
  a
• 42:17
  little
• 42:18
  flip
• 42:18
  this
• 42:18
  morning
• 42:19
  about
• 42:19
  just
• 42:19
  laughter
• 42:20
  in
• 42:20
  general,
• 42:20
  and
• 42:20
  that's
• 42:21
  what
• 42:21
  made
• 42:21
  me.
• 42:22
  Just
• 42:22
  made
• 42:22
  me
• 42:23
  think
• 42:23
  of
• 42:23
  that,
• 42:23
  because
• 42:23
  it's
• 42:23
  true.
• 42:24
  And
• 42:24
  you
• 42:24
  can't
• 42:25
  be.
• 42:26
  Just
• 42:26
  like,
• 42:26
  you
• 42:26
  can't
• 42:27
  be
• 42:27
  singing
• 42:27
  and
• 42:28
  joyful.
• 42:28
  That
• 42:28
  brings
• 42:29
  out
• 42:29
  the
• 42:29
  joyfulness
• 42:30
  in
• 42:30
  you.
• 42:30
  It's
• 42:30
  very
• 42:30
  hard
• 42:30
  to
• 42:31
  be
• 42:31
  singing
• 42:31
  and
• 42:32
  be
• 42:32
  anxious
• 42:33
  or
• 42:33
  be
• 42:34
  singing
• 42:34
  and
• 42:34
  be
• 42:34
  depressed
• 42:35
  and
• 42:35
  be.
• 42:36
  It's.
• 42:36
  It's
• 42:37
  kind
• 42:37
  of
• 42:37
  like.
• 42:37
  It's
• 42:37
  very
• 42:37
  hard
• 42:38
  to
• 42:38
  be
• 42:38
  happy
• 42:38
  and
• 42:38
  sad
• 42:39
  at
• 42:39
  the
• 42:39
  same
• 42:39
  time.
• 42:40
  So
• 42:40
  if
• 42:41
  you
• 42:41
  do
• 42:41
  those
• 42:42
  things
• 42:42
  that
• 42:42
  are
• 42:43
  good
• 42:43
  for
• 42:43
  dropping
• 42:44
  your
• 42:44
  cortisol
• 42:45
  and
• 42:45
  raising
• 42:45
  your
• 42:46
  dopamine,
• 42:46
  I
• 42:47
  mean,
• 42:47
  that's
• 42:47
  what
• 42:47
  it's
• 42:47
  about.
• 42:48
  So.
• 42:48
  Oh,
• 42:49
  this
• 42:49
  has
• 42:49
  been
• 42:49
  a
• 42:49
  great
• 42:49
  conversation.
• 42:51
  If
• 42:52
  you
• 42:52
  had
• 42:52
  to
• 42:52
  give
• 42:52
  the
• 42:53
  listeners
• 42:54
  one
• 42:54
  big
• 42:55
  picture
• 42:56
  piece
• 42:57
  of
• 42:57
  advice
• 42:58
  about
• 42:58
  your
• 42:58
  voice
• 42:59
  and
• 43:00
  what
• 43:00
  you
• 43:00
  can
• 43:00
  do
• 43:00
  with
• 43:01
  it
• 43:01
  or
• 43:01
  anything,
• 43:02
  what
• 43:02
  would
• 43:02
  be
• 43:02
  your
• 43:03
  biggest
• 43:03
  message?
• 43:05
  Well,
• 43:05
  here's
• 43:06
  the
• 43:06
  thing,
• 43:07
  and
• 43:07
  I
• 43:07
  will
• 43:08
  send
• 43:08
  you
• 43:08
  this
• 43:08
  to
• 43:08
  put
• 43:08
  in
• 43:09
  the
• 43:09
  show
• 43:09
  notes.
• 43:10
  I
• 43:11
  made
• 43:11
  a
• 43:11
  song
• 43:11
  out
• 43:11
  of
• 43:12
  a
• 43:12
  quote
• 43:12
  by
• 43:13
  the
• 43:13
  great
• 43:13
  Sufi
• 43:14
  mystic
• 43:14
  Hafiz,
• 43:15
  and
• 43:15
  it
• 43:15
  was
• 43:15
  in
• 43:16
  my
• 43:16
  office
• 43:16
  for
• 43:16
  many
• 43:16
  years.
• 43:18
  And
• 43:18
  my
• 43:18
  nephew,
• 43:19
  who
• 43:19
  I
• 43:20
  love
• 43:20
  like
• 43:20
  mad,
• 43:21
  was
• 43:22
  going
• 43:22
  through
• 43:22
  a
• 43:22
  really
• 43:22
  hard,
• 43:23
  hard
• 43:23
  time
• 43:24
  in
• 43:24
  another
• 43:24
  state
• 43:25
  far
• 43:25
  away.
• 43:26
  And
• 43:27
  so
• 43:27
  I
• 43:27
  took
• 43:28
  that
• 43:28
  quote
• 43:28
  and
• 43:28
  I
• 43:28
  made
• 43:29
  it
• 43:29
  into
• 43:29
  a
• 43:29
  little
• 43:29
  song.
• 43:30
  And
• 43:30
  I
• 43:30
  don't
• 43:30
  know
• 43:30
  if
• 43:30
  I
• 43:31
  have.
• 43:31
  You
• 43:31
  know,
• 43:31
  I
• 43:31
  don't
• 43:31
  think
• 43:31
  our
• 43:32
  settings
• 43:32
  are
• 43:32
  right
• 43:32
  for
• 43:32
  me
• 43:33
  to
• 43:33
  sing
• 43:33
  it
• 43:33
  and
• 43:34
  have
• 43:34
  it.
• 43:34
  Sure.
• 43:34
  Why
• 43:35
  go
• 43:35
  Ahead.
• 43:36
  Okay,
• 43:37
  so
• 43:37
  it
• 43:37
  goes
• 43:37
  like
• 43:37
  this.
• 43:39
  I
• 43:40
  wish
• 43:40
  that
• 43:41
  I
• 43:41
  could
• 43:41
  show
• 43:42
  you.
• 43:43
  I
• 43:43
  wish
• 43:44
  that
• 43:44
  I
• 43:44
  could
• 43:45
  show
• 43:45
  you.
• 43:46
  Whenever
• 43:47
  you
• 43:48
  are
• 43:48
  lonely,
• 43:49
  you're
• 43:50
  walking
• 43:51
  in
• 43:51
  the
• 43:51
  dark.
• 43:53
  I
• 43:53
  wish
• 43:54
  that
• 43:54
  I
• 43:54
  could
• 43:55
  show
• 43:55
  you.
• 43:56
  I
• 43:57
  wish
• 43:57
  that
• 43:58
  I
• 43:58
  could
• 43:58
  show
• 43:59
  you
• 43:59
  the
• 44:00
  astonishing,
• 44:02
  the
• 44:02
  light
• 44:03
  of
• 44:03
  your
• 44:04
  being.
• 44:08
  Oh,
• 44:10
  that's
• 44:11
  sweet.
• 44:12
  See,
• 44:13
  it's
• 44:13
  so
• 44:13
  obvious
• 44:14
  to
• 44:15
  so
• 44:16
  many
• 44:16
  of
• 44:16
  us
• 44:16
  how
• 44:17
  astonishing
• 44:18
  the
• 44:18
  light
• 44:19
  is
• 44:19
  in
• 44:20
  each
• 44:20
  person.
• 44:22
  And
• 44:22
  sometimes
• 44:23
  we're
• 44:23
  the
• 44:23
  last
• 44:23
  to
• 44:24
  know,
• 44:24
  which
• 44:24
  is
• 44:24
  why
• 44:24
  we.
• 44:25
  Why
• 44:25
  we
• 44:25
  need
• 44:25
  each
• 44:26
  other.
• 44:27
  Amen.
• 44:28
  I
• 44:28
  absolutely
• 44:29
  love
• 44:29
  that
• 44:29
  as
• 44:30
  our
• 44:30
  lights,
• 44:30
  so
• 44:31
  many
• 44:31
  of
• 44:31
  ours,
• 44:32
  our
• 44:32
  lights
• 44:32
  were
• 44:32
  blown
• 44:33
  out,
• 44:33
  but
• 44:34
  there's
• 44:34
  always
• 44:34
  that
• 44:35
  little
• 44:35
  flicker
• 44:35
  inside,
• 44:36
  and
• 44:36
  you
• 44:36
  just
• 44:36
  got
• 44:37
  to
• 44:37
  reach
• 44:37
  in
• 44:37
  there
• 44:37
  and
• 44:38
  I
• 44:38
  don't
• 44:38
  know
• 44:39
  what
• 44:39
  you
• 44:39
  have
• 44:39
  to
• 44:39
  do.
• 44:40
  Like
• 44:40
  all
• 44:40
  of
• 44:40
  these
• 44:40
  things.
• 44:41
  That's
• 44:41
  why
• 44:41
  this
• 44:41
  podcast
• 44:42
  exists,
• 44:42
  to
• 44:43
  get
• 44:43
  that
• 44:44
  light
• 44:45
  burning
• 44:45
  again.
• 44:45
  It's
• 44:46
  in
• 44:46
  there.
• 44:46
  It's
• 44:46
  in
• 44:47
  all
• 44:47
  of
• 44:47
  us.
• 44:47
  And
• 44:48
  we
• 44:48
  are
• 44:48
  all
• 44:48
  beautiful.
• 44:49
  Like
• 44:49
  you
• 44:49
  said
• 44:49
  before,
• 44:50
  beautiful
• 44:50
  and
• 44:50
  perfect
• 44:51
  just
• 44:51
  the
• 44:51
  way
• 44:51
  you
• 44:51
  are
• 44:52
  right
• 44:52
  here,
• 44:52
  right
• 44:52
  now.
• 44:54
  So
• 44:54
  go
• 44:54
  out
• 44:55
  and
• 44:55
  sing
• 44:55
  and
• 44:56
  do
• 44:56
  whatever
• 44:56
  you
• 44:56
  have
• 44:56
  to
• 44:57
  do.
• 44:58
  Barbara,
• 44:59
  this
• 44:59
  has
• 44:59
  been
• 44:59
  absolutely
• 44:59
  amazing.
• 45:00
  If
• 45:00
  all
• 45:01
  of
• 45:01
  everything
• 45:01
  you
• 45:02
  gave
• 45:02
  me,
• 45:02
  all
• 45:02
  the
• 45:02
  links,
• 45:03
  everything
• 45:03
  will
• 45:03
  be
• 45:03
  in
• 45:04
  the
• 45:04
  show
• 45:04
  notes,
• 45:04
  right?
• 45:05
  But
• 45:05
  what
• 45:06
  is
• 45:06
  the
• 45:06
  best
• 45:06
  place
• 45:06
  if
• 45:07
  people
• 45:07
  want
• 45:07
  to
• 45:07
  work
• 45:07
  with
• 45:07
  you?
• 45:08
  How
• 45:08
  does,
• 45:08
  how
• 45:09
  do
• 45:09
  they
• 45:09
  get
• 45:09
  hold
• 45:09
  of
• 45:09
  you?
• 45:10
  The
• 45:11
  easiest
• 45:11
  way
• 45:11
  is
• 45:11
  to
• 45:12
  just
• 45:12
  reach
• 45:12
  out
• 45:12
  through
• 45:12
  my
• 45:13
  website,
• 45:13
  Barbara
• 45:14
  McAfee.com.
• 45:15
  There's
• 45:16
  a
• 45:16
  ton
• 45:17
  of,
• 45:17
  I
• 45:17
  mean,
• 45:18
  I
• 45:18
  have
• 45:18
  individual
• 45:19
  coursework,
• 45:20
  small
• 45:20
  group
• 45:21
  classes.
• 45:21
  I'm
• 45:21
  making
• 45:22
  a
• 45:22
  self
• 45:22
  directed
• 45:23
  class
• 45:23
  around
• 45:23
  the
• 45:23
  five
• 45:24
  elements
• 45:24
  that'll
• 45:24
  be
• 45:25
  up
• 45:25
  in
• 45:25
  a
• 45:25
  couple
• 45:25
  months.
• 45:26
  There's
• 45:27
  also
• 45:27
  a
• 45:27
  lot
• 45:27
  of
• 45:28
  really
• 45:28
  fun
• 45:28
  music
• 45:29
  videos
• 45:29
  there,
• 45:29
  two
• 45:30
  TED
• 45:30
  Talks.
• 45:32
  There's
• 45:32
  just
• 45:32
  a
• 45:33
  wealth
• 45:33
  of
• 45:33
  things
• 45:34
  and
• 45:34
  I
• 45:34
  would
• 45:35
  really
• 45:35
  welcome
• 45:35
  people's
• 45:36
  stories,
• 45:37
  questions,
• 45:38
  comments,
• 45:38
  anything
• 45:39
  like
• 45:39
  that.
• 45:39
  I'm
• 45:39
  always
• 45:39
  happy
• 45:40
  to
• 45:40
  hear
• 45:40
  from
• 45:40
  people.
• 45:41
  So
• 45:41
  that's
• 45:41
  an
• 45:41
  easy
• 45:42
  way
• 45:42
  to
• 45:42
  get
• 45:42
  me,
• 45:42
  Get
• 45:42
  a
• 45:43
  hold
• 45:43
  of
• 45:43
  me.
• 45:43
  Perfect.
• 45:43
  So
• 45:44
  just
• 45:44
  go
• 45:44
  to
• 45:44
  her
• 45:45
  website,
• 45:45
  Barbara
• 45:45
  McAfee,
• 45:46
  and
• 45:46
  like
• 45:46
  I
• 45:46
  said,
• 45:46
  all
• 45:47
  of
• 45:47
  those
• 45:47
  links
• 45:47
  will
• 45:47
  be
• 45:48
  in
• 45:48
  the
• 45:48
  show
• 45:48
  notes
• 45:48
  because
• 45:48
  you
• 45:49
  have
• 45:49
  such
• 45:49
  a
• 45:49
  amazing
• 45:51
  information.
• 45:51
  I
• 45:52
  know
• 45:52
  you
• 45:52
  do.
• 45:52
  I've
• 45:52
  already
• 45:53
  checked
• 45:53
  out
• 45:53
  some
• 45:53
  of
• 45:53
  it.
• 45:53
  But
• 45:54
  go
• 45:55
  visit
• 45:55
  her.
• 45:56
  And
• 45:56
  thank
• 45:57
  you
• 45:57
  so
• 45:57
  much
• 45:57
  for
• 45:57
  coming
• 45:58
  on.
• 45:58
  That's
• 45:59
  my
• 45:59
  great
• 45:59
  joy.
• 45:59
  Thank
• 46:00
  you
• 46:00
  so
• 46:00
  much.
• 46:00
  Damien,
• 46:01
  good,
• 46:01
  good
• 46:02
  on
• 46:02
  you
• 46:02
  for
• 46:02
  all
• 46:02
  the
• 46:03
  great
• 46:03
  work
• 46:03
  you're
• 46:03
  doing.
• 46:03
  Yes,
• 46:04
  thank
• 46:04
  you
• 46:04
  very
• 46:04
  much.
• 46:05
  And
• 46:05
  for
• 46:05
  everybody
• 46:05
  else
• 46:05
  out
• 46:06
  there,
• 46:06
  you
• 46:06
  list
• 46:06
  you
• 46:07
  heard
• 46:07
  it.
• 46:07
  Go
• 46:08
  get
• 46:08
  in
• 46:09
  nature,
• 46:09
  hug
• 46:09
  a
• 46:09
  tree,
• 46:10
  sing
• 46:10
  to
• 46:10
  the,
• 46:11
  to
• 46:11
  the
• 46:11
  clouds,
• 46:12
  whatever
• 46:12
  you
• 46:12
  need
• 46:12
  to
• 46:12
  do,
• 46:13
  just
• 46:13
  go
• 46:13
  out
• 46:14
  and
• 46:14
  use
• 46:15
  your
• 46:15
  voice.
• 46:15
  God
• 46:16
  gave
• 46:16
  you
• 46:16
  a
• 46:17
  voice
• 46:17
  for
• 46:17
  a
• 46:17
  reason.
• 46:18
  It's
• 46:18
  to
• 46:18
  use
• 46:19
  it.
• 46:19
  It's
• 46:19
  not
• 46:19
  to
• 46:19
  be
• 46:19
  stifled.
• 46:21
  It's
• 46:21
  to
• 46:21
  protect
• 46:21
  and
• 46:22
  love
• 46:22
  and
• 46:22
  do
• 46:23
  the
• 46:23
  best
• 46:23
  things
• 46:23
  you
• 46:24
  can
• 46:24
  do
• 46:24
  with
• 46:24
  it.
• 46:24
  So
• 46:25
  enjoy
• 46:26
  it
• 46:26
  and
• 46:26
  embrace
• 46:26
  it.
• 46:27
  So
• 46:27
  thank
• 46:28
  you,
• 46:28
  and
• 46:28
  you
• 46:28
  all
• 46:28
  have
• 46:28
  a
• 46:29
  blessed
• 46:29
  day.
• 46:34
  Oh.