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The Warning Always Comes Before the Wake-Up Call · The Sharon Francisco Show

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Sharon Francisco show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I'm going to talk about the warnings that always come first before the catastrophe.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's a concept called the road of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I've called it the road of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I tried to Google what the real name is, and I apparently there's not a real name.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I call it the road of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So picture walking down the road of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as you're cruising down, so picture relationships, picture your health, picture your business, your work.
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  SPEAKER_00: This covers everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're walking down the road of life and something happens in any situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might be small, it might be barely noticeable.
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  SPEAKER_00: We call that a little tap.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once we get a little tap, we veer across to the other side of the road.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we ignore that little tap, we veer across the other side of the road and we get the 4v2 over the top of the head.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now we've had the tap and we ignored it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We veered across the other side of the road and we got the 4v2 over the top of the head.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you ignore the 4v2 over the top of the head, because that hurts a little bit more, doesn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: It sort of escalates whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we ignore the 4v2, we veer across the other side of the road, and guess what happens?
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  SPEAKER_00: The Mac truck, the Mac truck comes and runs you over.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this happens with everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's a pattern that never fails.
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  SPEAKER_00: Change almost never arrives suddenly or straight up.
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  SPEAKER_00: It starts quietly, like a little whisper.
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  SPEAKER_00: It taps, like I talked about.
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  SPEAKER_00: A little nudge, a signal, a feeling that something might be a little bit off.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can still cope, you can still function, you can still tell yourself, you know what, it's fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a tap.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll give you a little example of a health example.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many, many years ago, thankfully, I was a smoker.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was also, I ran for many years from about the age of 19 to just last year.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was a runner.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so in those earlier years, I would smoke.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'd play touch football and I'd smoke halfway at the half time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many people used to do that back in the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it wasn't healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: When I ran, I used to have a little bit of trouble breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I had holes in my lungs probably from smoking, and I ignored that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I did not take notice of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I thought, yeah, it's not good.
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  SPEAKER_00: And people used to say me, Sean, it's not good to smoke, and my mum used to say you shouldn't be smoking.
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  SPEAKER_00: I go, I know, I know, I'm addicted, it's awful.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, and I tried, I tried to give up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I seriously tried to give up about three times, and I just couldn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: I kept going back to it anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: So at this stage, I um I had given up, and um, I went out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just got back from a trip uh over to New York for a it was a work trip.
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  SPEAKER_00: I came home, we invited my family around for dinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was a whole bunch of people, and I was at the back, there were a few people out the back having cigarettes and having some wine, and I was at the back, I thought I'd sneak a few cigarettes, so I snuck a few cigarettes.
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  SPEAKER_00: At the time, my husband at the time had had just had a back operation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Went to bed that night, woke up in the middle of the night coughing up blood.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't know it was blood at the time, I was coughing, coughing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I thought, oh, that's tastes strange.
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  SPEAKER_00: Turned on the light, and there was a whole bunch of blood in my hand.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was freaked me out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got up and I'll never forget because my husband couldn't drive because he was just had the back operation.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were arranging for my parents to come and pick me up.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the middle of the night.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as we were doing that, my little boy came out of the bedroom, he was about 11 at the time, and he said, Daddy, is mummy going to die?
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  SPEAKER_00: And oh, that just hit me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Oh gosh, you never want to hear that come out of your children's mouths.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mum and dad took me into the hospital, they ran a whole bunch of tests, they put things down my throat to try and figure out what was going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Funnily enough, they couldn't find anything, they couldn't find anything wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have not touched a cigarette since.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I got the little tap.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was the tap was the not breathing, not being able to breathe properly when I ran.
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  SPEAKER_00: I should have taken notice of that tap.
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  SPEAKER_00: I veered across the other side of the road and I got the 4v2, and I sort of consider that to be the 4v2.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you've ever been to hospital and you're out the front, and people have got their little trolley things with their blood fusions or whatever they are out there having cigarettes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we know that there would have been a lead up to where they got to hospital and they were out the front smoking cigarettes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we get the signs, we know that there's a little signal to begin with, then we get the 4v2, then the Mac truck comes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know for a fact, for me, I knew that if I didn't stop smoking, the Mac truck was coming for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I took that, and that's a health example, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if the tap's ignored, life doesn't stop communicating like it didn't for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It escalates, the tap becomes the 4v2.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things feel a bit harder, feel feel a bit heavier, and more uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you think about this from a business perspective, this is what it looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pricing that no longer works, clients that you dread, cash that feels tight, resentment starts creeping in, and exhaustion you just explain away.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's still survivable, it's still ignorable until the Mac truck arrives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what's the Mac truck in business?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's burnout, client leaving unexpectedly, a health scare, a moment where somebody you love reflects your life back to you and you can't unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's when most people finally change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because they suddenly found discipline or motivation, but because the warning is no longer optional.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like in my case, the warning was no longer optional for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I knew if I was coughing up blood and they didn't know why I was coughing up blood, I'm like, you know what, whatever this is, smoking's probably not helping it, so I stopped.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because warning the warning is no longer optional.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I said, here's the truth: life always warns us before it forces us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Always.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first tap, then it gets louder, and if it still doesn't, and if we still don't listen, it makes the decision for us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not punishment, it's feedback.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this pattern shows up everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I said, business, relationships, health, money.
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  SPEAKER_00: The tap in relationships is imbalance.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're always the one chasing, fixing, smoothing things over.
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  SPEAKER_00: The 4v2 is the resentment or the emotional fatigue, and the Mac truck is usually distance, breakdown, or walking away from the relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: In health, and I gave you my health example: the tap the tap is low energy, tight clothes, ignoring small signs.
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  SPEAKER_00: The 4B2 is the discomfort or the avoidance, and the Mac truck is then illness or injury that forces us to stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: The difference between people who change early and the people who change late is not intelligence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not even willpower.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's whether they listen to when the message is still quiet, still the whisper.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's my question: I'm going to leave you with.
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  SPEAKER_00: The warning always, it always comes first.
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  SPEAKER_00: The choice is whether you listen or not, or you wait to be forced.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this has been helpful.
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  SPEAKER_00: I absolutely love this concept because it puts a lot of meaning behind the things that are happening in our life in all areas.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope it's been helpful, and until next time, talk to you soon.